• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37836693]Actually asking out for tea/coffee is a good idea[/QUOTE] i know, but i reckon she'll just think i'm joking about it cracked some super witty jokes about tea and i am p sure she thinks i'm still being satirical being funny is seriously overrated because everything i say gets handled like a joke or snide remark
[QUOTE=Autumn;37837011] @jg[B]cx[/B]cub, and regardless of your gender it's a strange thing to say, it's not something that needs to be said. people know that hugs are nice, that's why we do them[/QUOTE] True, but I wasn't sure how to put it without it sounding strange. Sorry. All I can say is I'm not creepy in that respect.
[QUOTE=Honesty;37841924]i know, but i reckon she'll just think i'm joking about it cracked some super witty jokes about tea and i am p sure she thinks i'm still being satirical being funny is seriously overrated because everything i say gets handled like a joke or snide remark[/QUOTE] You wouldn't know until you try. I'm sure that if you try and be serious for a second you'll get what you came for.
[QUOTE=Honesty;37841924]i know, but i reckon she'll just think i'm joking about it cracked some super witty jokes about tea and i am p sure she thinks i'm still being satirical being funny is seriously overrated because everything i say gets handled like a joke or snide remark[/QUOTE] "The fact that I have a sense of humour that people I enjoy is just such a BURDEN" just say hey, serious moment a sec, would you care to go get a coffee, or a tea, or a juice, or something with me, this coming saturday
the fact that nobody takes me seriously, ever, is such a burden* and ye i'm trying
[QUOTE=Honesty;37843655]the fact that nobody takes me seriously, ever, is such a burden* and ye i'm trying[/QUOTE] No one is that stupid, either you're making silly excuses or people pretend you're joking because it's a nice way of saying no.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37839814]the problems in this thread are getting more and more pathetic[/QUOTE] Be glad you aren't in the gay chat thread. I used to love it there and then things became a trite shadow of what they once were.
Im 17 and i have never ever felt the need of a girlfirend. I just think there are so many other ways to enjoy life and love. It can be the love of a great friend, or the love of a pet. But the thing is, people find it strange im not interested in meeting a partner. Since when did searching for a partner become the norm? Hell, one might even say i would rather stay single. This is the part where people say i have never had a girlfriend and therefore dont know what im missing. And that might be true. I dont really know what to think.. Can you guys lecture me on the subject? I feel i need more perspectives to form an opinion. (Im speaking more towards older men who has gone through the phase of confused emotional teenager.) Oh yeah, is it okay if i post this in SGAS aswell?
if you're happy being single, then that's great. there's no reason you need to actively search for a girlfriend. just keep in mind that even when you're not looking, you might eventually meet a girl who you want to commit to. (also most of the regulars here frequent both threads)
[QUOTE=pansarkurt;37847880]Im 17 and i have never ever felt the need of a girlfirend. I just think there are so many other ways to enjoy life and love. It can be the love of a great friend, or the love of a pet. But the thing is, people find it strange im not interested in meeting a partner. Since when did searching for a partner become the norm? Hell, one might even say i would rather stay single. This is the part where people say i have never had a girlfriend and therefore dont know what im missing. And that might be true. I dont really know what to think.. Can you guys lecture me on the subject? I feel i need more perspectives to form an opinion. (Im speaking more towards older men who has gone through the phase of confused emotional teenager.) Oh yeah, is it okay if i post this in SGAS aswell?[/QUOTE] No one really cares if you double post, although it is mostly the same members between there and here. I personally am not an older man, but I have been through the confused teenager stage for sure. Having a relationship with someone really is great and comforting, but it isn't necessary to be looking for one all the time. It was sort of a hard learned lesson for myself that I don't need to have a relationship with anyone to be validated, that it isn't necessary. I'll share that story now since it's relevant. I started dating in middleschool, grade 6 or so I ended up in a relationship with a guy I don't even know how. It was really nice, even though I know now our relationship really wasn't that close and was pretty false overall. After a couple years or do, and due to some major lies and mistakes on my part we broke up, and it was all my fault and I took it pretty harsh. For months after we would get back together and he would break up with me again and ask me back and i'd go back until eventually I got tired of the excuses and realized I was screwing myself over. I broke up with him and we were done, but even after that I felt I needed someone. I ended up dating a string of guys, mostly whom I asked out, all of which i can say were I thinking properly I would have dated none of them. They were all short terrible relationships, with various endings. I slowly cooled off after it and stopped grasping at any guy who would look at me thinking they must like me. Then a guy asked me to the Middle school grad dance, and a week later asked me to be his girlfriend. I of course was very happy and we were close, but it was super platonic. It really was more of a friendship as I slowly came to realize after he broke up with me. But when that happened, when I go over the bawling my eyes out and desperately hoping he would come back, I vowed to myself I wouldn't go through a string of self pity relationships this time. I didn't look and I accepted it much faster. I got comfortable with myself as I was rather than being attached to finding someone to be my better half. After a year of happily being single a relationship wandered into class and sat beside me, that grew on it's own and has ended up being the most fulfilling relationship, and completely different to what I had before. In a sense my moral for you is that you don't have to look for a partner, it's more important to be comfortable by yourself. A relationship can come to you when your ready. There is no reason to be constantly looking for someone else, be it the norm or not. Do what seems right to you and it will all work out it's own way. Basically, a relationship in no way should be an obligation, you should have one if you want one not cause it's the norm or what others think you should have. Peer pressure sucks like that, and no one even needs to tell you. It can just be you thinking what there perception is. Yeah I'm gonna shut up now that just sorta reminded me of all my terrible things I did in middle school because I was worried about what others thought of me and I'm rambling :v:
[QUOTE=pansarkurt;37847880]Im 17 and i have never ever felt the need of a girlfirend. I just think there are so many other ways to enjoy life and love. It can be the love of a great friend, or the love of a pet. But the thing is, people find it strange im not interested in meeting a partner. Since when did searching for a partner become the norm? Hell, one might even say i would rather stay single. This is the part where people say i have never had a girlfriend and therefore dont know what im missing. And that might be true. I dont really know what to think.. Can you guys lecture me on the subject? I feel i need more perspectives to form an opinion. (Im speaking more towards older men who has gone through the phase of confused emotional teenager.) Oh yeah, is it okay if i post this in SGAS aswell?[/QUOTE] It's hard to say; it may just be a phase, lower emotive drive for it, or it may be something long term. It's actually more common than you'd think, [del]although half the time people don't look for one because they/re disillusioned and/or they're already in a relationship with their right hand.[/del] a lot of people I know don't really try (or appear to try) because they're disillusioned Honestly, for most people relationships are a good thing; they provide you with emotions and happiness that are otherwise difficult to come by.
[QUOTE=pansarkurt;37847880]Im 17 and i have never ever felt the need of a girlfirend. I just think there are so many other ways to enjoy life and love. It can be the love of a great friend, or the love of a pet. But the thing is, people find it strange im not interested in meeting a partner. Since when did searching for a partner become the norm? Hell, one might even say i would rather stay single. This is the part where people say i have never had a girlfriend and therefore dont know what im missing. And that might be true. I dont really know what to think.. Can you guys lecture me on the subject? I feel i need more perspectives to form an opinion. (Im speaking more towards older men who has gone through the phase of confused emotional teenager.) Oh yeah, is it okay if i post this in SGAS aswell?[/QUOTE] Gonna reply with what I wrote in Sex GF's and shit: I don't know what you want us to say to you about it. You're not missing a thing. Well, not necessarily. You're talking about something that will come to you in it's due time. I can only give you my personal input on the subject. I've always been like that before I lost my virginity. I had my first girlfriend when I was 16/17 but we never had sex. Honestly ad that time I was more into the dating and relationship thing just out of curiosity. I found a person that looked suitable at the time and thought "hey, why the fuck not?". It's something you have to see for yourself. After like 2 months I gre tired of it, felt pressured and jumped of the boat. Then I've been in an endless cycle of disastrous relationships untill I ended up stoping to pursue that. Despite them being auful or ending badly, they made me look into myself and being enable to fix some flaws about my behaviour in a relationship. I learned that most things that went bad were due to me being insecure and sometimes that "nice guy" desperate for acceptance for the partner. Some times I even became obcessed. Well this doesn't happen to everyone, of course, but relationships are a great way to learn about yourself too. Having a relationship for me at the time sounded glamorous, and the thought to have the first girl to ever like me romantically was exciting as hell. It will happen to you too at some point. Now after my last relationship I kinda stopped pursuing relationships. I meet people, talk to people enjoy a night out, I flirt but nothing more. Right now I'm comfortable with whatever priorities I've established for myself, and finding a girlfriend now is not one of them. That said, I mean you too will find your balance through experimenting. Just don't over think it. If you're comfortable being single then keep on going. Romance comes wether you're looking for someone or not. Any more questions or things in specific you wanted to know?
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37848419]It's hard to say; it may just be a phase, lower emotive drive for it, or it may be something long term. It's actually more common than you'd think, although half the time people don't look for one because they/re disillusioned and/or they're already in a relationship with their right hand. Honestly, for most people relationships are a good thing; they provide you with emotions and happiness that are otherwise difficult to come by.[/QUOTE] are you seriously trying to imply that there's something wrong with him because he's not fawning after every girl he sees and can't be happy with himself? if you expect someone else to make you happy in a relationship, you first have to believe you can do the same for them. this means being happy and confident with yourself before you pursue someone.
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37848419]It's hard to say; it may just be a phase, lower emotive drive for it, or it may be something long term. It's actually more common than you'd think, although half the time people don't look for one because they/re disillusioned and/or they're already in a relationship with their right hand. Honestly, for most people relationships are a good thing; they provide you with emotions and happiness that are otherwise difficult to come by.[/QUOTE] I dont give advice, heck I contribute fuck all to this thread except bs. Take one thing from this post though, dont read a line from what this guy posts (Quoted bit). I mean everything he posts, hes full of shit.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37848683]are you seriously trying to imply that there's something wrong with him because he's not fawning after every girl he sees and can't be happy with himself?[/QUOTE] No [QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37848683]if you expect someone else to make you happy in a relationship, you first have to believe you can do the same for them. this means being happy and confident with yourself before you pursue someone.[/QUOTE] Nonono, not what I meant I meant that if you are in one, you tend to feel happier. Not that you need someone else to [I]make [/I]you feel happy. [editline]30th September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Boss;37848861]I dont give advice, heck I contribute fuck all to this thread except bs. Take one thing from this post though, dont read a line from what this guy posts (Quoted bit). I mean everything he posts, hes full of shit.[/QUOTE] Example Yeah I've made mistakes before, and I've accepted those and (hopefully) learnt from them, so don't use those
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37849638]I meant that if you are in one, you tend to feel happier. Not that you need someone else to [I]make [/I]you feel happy.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=JgcxCub;37848419]they provide you with emotions and happiness that are otherwise difficult to come by.[/QUOTE] if that seriously isn't what you meant then you need to work on your communication skills..
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37849736]if that seriously isn't what you meant then you need to work on your communication skills..[/QUOTE] They as in "relationships", not the people. Thought that was pretty clear. Then again you do seem to jump to conclusions fairly quickly, so not surprising I guess.
lol WOW [b]get over yourself[/b] [editline]29th September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=JgcxCub;37849756]They as in "relationships", not the people. Thought that was pretty clear. Then again you do seem to jump to conclusions fairly quickly, so not surprising I guess.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37848419]It's hard to say; it may just be a phase, lower emotive drive for it, or it may be something long term. It's actually more common than you'd think, [B]although half the time people don't look for one because they/re disillusioned and/or they're already in a relationship with their right hand.[/B] Honestly, for most people relationships are a good thing; they provide you with emotions and happiness that are otherwise difficult to come by.[/QUOTE] Actually I would say you likely set the tone for that misconception based on this part. It makes it seem like you insinuate he is probably that way.
as soon as anyone calls you out on one of your ass-backward and usually sexist misconceptions ("girls don't have feelings they're just there to make me feel like i'm not a miserable creep") you just insult them for reading it wrong. literally every person we've had in this thread who constantly gives out shitty advice has done the same thing.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37849799]as soon as anyone calls you out on one of your ass-backward and usually sexist misconceptions [B]("girls don't have feelings they're just there to make me feel like i'm not a miserable creep")[/B] you just insult them for reading it wrong. literally every person we've had in this thread who constantly gives out shitty advice has done the same thing.[/QUOTE] Ladies and Gentlemen, the award for the most insane extrapolation of the year
you realize literally nobody in this thread agrees with anything you've said, right? who are you trying to make fun of me to?
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37849790]Actually I would say you likely set the tone for that misconception based on this part. It makes it seem like you insinuate he is probably that way.[/QUOTE] True Unintentional, I meant it in half-serious fashion. Apologies [editline]30th September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37849818]you realize literally nobody in this thread agrees with anything you've said, right? who are you trying to make fun of me to?[/QUOTE] Tell me your reasoning for your previous statement, I dare you
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37849823]True Unintentional, I meant it in half-serious fashion. Apologies [editline]30th September 2012[/editline] Tell me your reasoning for your previous statement, I dare you[/QUOTE] Everyone just has to keep in mind that when your typing it is harder to get your point across effectively because tone of voice and physical language can't be used. So you really have to remember others don't know what your trying to say and be careful with it like that. : )
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37849855]Everyone just has to keep in mind that when your typing it is harder to get your point across effectively because tone of voice and physical language can't be used. So you really have to remember others don't know what your trying to say and be careful with it like that. : )[/QUOTE] I'm sorry. I'm kinda' used to talking like that, you know, what with facepunch often mixing biting sarcasm and perfectly serious statements in close proximity. Mybad
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37849823]True Unintentional, I meant it in half-serious fashion. Apologies [editline]30th September 2012[/editline] Tell me your reasoning for your previous statement, I dare you[/QUOTE] you really are full of shit.
are you fucking serious? you realize this is a forum, right? like where people can't see your expression or hear the inflections in your voice? if you word something in a shitty way it's not EVERYONE ELSE'S fault for all interpreting it in a different way, it's [b]yours[/b] [editline]29th September 2012[/editline] and how are we supposed to know when you're joking when everything you've said in this thread has been completely idiotic
given your posting in here i can totally 100% understand why you have tons of social issues JgcxCub
I was thinking about posting about how well my night went. But I don't feel like it now when there is arguments flying around.
jgcxcub stop making issues where there are none
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