The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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I think on Monday when class is over I'm going to go talk to a counselor. It's a free resource for any student to take advantage of so I might as well do it before my loneliness becomes enough of a problem that it makes me fail classes. And talking to someone who's trained not to get mad might be what I need.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37850059]I was thinking about posting about how well my night went.
But I don't feel like it now when there is arguments flying around.[/QUOTE]
Post it anyways
god
i'm mad at this person, and i know that my reason for being mad is stupid - but i just can't make myself unmad
i actually do care about this person, but i really don't know what to do about it
so what do i do?
"Oh wow, look at all these new posts, I bet there's some great-"
Come on, guys.
[QUOTE=Mon;37851882]god
i'm mad at this person, and i know that my reason for being mad is stupid - but i just can't make myself unmad
i actually do care about this person, but i really don't know what to do about it
so what do i do?[/QUOTE]
Stop being mad. What's your reason?
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37850896]I think on Monday when class is over I'm going to go talk to a counselor. It's a free resource for any student to take advantage of so I might as well do it before my loneliness becomes enough of a problem that it makes me fail classes. And talking to someone who's trained not to get mad might be what I need.[/QUOTE]
Good idea dude. Nothing wrong with seeing a counsellor ever
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37848419]It's hard to say; it may just be a phase, lower emotive drive for it, or it may be something long term. It's actually more common than you'd think, [del]although half the time people don't look for one because they/re disillusioned and/or they're already in a relationship with their right hand.[/del] a lot of people I know don't really try (or appear to try) because they're disillusioned
Honestly, for most people relationships are a good thing; they provide you with emotions and happiness that are otherwise difficult to come by.[/QUOTE]
Considering that last sentence I think you should stop giving people advice in this thread
Well not quite but telling a guy that doesn't feel like he needs a relationship that it might actually legitimately be a problem is like, quite wrong
I agree. In fact, it presents a problem with the guy saying it rather than the one saying he doesn't want to have a girlfriend...
Thanks alot guys, apart from the Jgcxcub-shitstorm i accidentally sparked to life, this page has been full
of great advice. I daresay i see things a bit clearer now.
[QUOTE=killerteacup;37853008]Good idea dude. Nothing wrong with seeing a counsellor ever
Considering that last sentence I think you should stop giving people advice in this thread
Well not quite but telling a guy that doesn't feel like he needs a relationship that it might actually legitimately be a problem is like, quite wrong[/QUOTE]
I'm sorry, I really don't see where where I said he had a problem; I was only trying to identify the cause
[editline]30th September 2012[/editline]
Did I need to clarify that it was his choice and that there's nothing wrong with not wanting to? I simply said that relationships tend to make people feel good. Not sure how that implies there's something wrong with him if he doesn't want one
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37854348]I'm sorry, I really don't see where where I said he had a problem; I was only trying to identify the cause
[editline]30th September 2012[/editline]
Did I need to clarify that it was his choice and that there's nothing wrong with not wanting to? I simply said that relationships tend to make people feel good. Not sure how that implies there's something wrong with him if he doesn't want one[/QUOTE]
I'm not sure whether you're completely unaware to what comes out of your mouth, or just playing innocent because people fail to agree with you. Start taking responsibility for what comes out of your mouth or be more open minded when people disagree, it's tiring to see 3 whole pages of people trying to explain something so simple to you.
[QUOTE=Seith;37854670]I'm not sure whether you're completely unaware to what comes out of your mouth, or just playing innocent because people fail to agree with you. Start taking responsibility for what comes out of your mouth or be more open minded when people disagree, it's tiring to see 3 whole pages of people trying to explain something so simple to you.[/QUOTE]
I've scoured what I said and I seriously do not see where I implied that, I'm really trying to see where you're coming from
But okay, I'll stop, not in the thread's best interests
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37848419]It's hard to say; it may just be a phase, lower emotive drive for it, or it may be something long term. It's actually more common than you'd think, [del]although half the time people don't look for one because they/re disillusioned and/or they're already in a relationship with their right hand.[/del] a lot of people I know don't really try (or appear to try) because they're disillusioned
Honestly, for most people relationships are a good thing; they provide you with emotions and happiness that are otherwise difficult to come by.[/QUOTE]
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[quote]Tell me your reasoning for your previous statement, I dare you[/quote]
[quote]Ladies and Gentlemen, the award for the most insane extrapolation of the year[/quote]
[quote]I'm sorry. I'm kinda' used to talking like that, you know, what with facepunch often mixing biting sarcasm and perfectly serious statements in close proximity. Mybad[/quote]
Backing off stuff you've said, playing innocent, blaming other people, complete inconsistency and finally being unnessecrialy sarcastic.
me and a friend were cuddling up in bed no sex or anything, we just slept, and she wook me up at like 7 in the morning yelling and freaking out
Do women not know what morning wood is? second time this happened to me
"I'M A MASSIVE FAGGOT AND LOVE COCK" sounds like someone had the wrong idea before she had decided to cuddle with you....
what?
JgcxCub, a piece of advice, mate:
- THINK before you post.
- Read things through, see if they make sense in your head before posting.
- Evaluate if the things that suddenly pop into your mind are worth posting without proper brain processing.
Because seriously, your speech either go from implications to things that are just wrong.
Whenever someone tries to get your attention to that you just evade and contradict yourself.
We can't guess what you really mean if you don't have a decent coherent piece of text to support your ideas.
Here's my Friendly Social Advice to you.
Man, I'm getting this weird feeling.
I don't fear rejection if she is to say "But I'm not into you".
But for some reason, I fear that she would say "But I'm already dating 'someonesomeone'".
To make it worse, there is this guy in class who has been hittin' on her and in my opinion, he is a total cunt. And I'm trying to be unbiased with jealousy here.
I think I would go on a rage if she says shes dating him.
Now, I'm going through some mental problems here cause I keep on imagining them making out in front of me, I have no Idea why but its putting me into depression and shit.
And yeah, I AM an idiot for never asking about her availability in the first place.
You call imagining a douchebag kissing a girl you like having mental problems?
And is it really a reason to get into depression?
Grow some balls then. Stop being the idiot you paint yourself as and go talk to the girl.
Creeping around in shadows won't make you any better than the "douchebag" you so much hate.
Well, he may be a cunt, but at least he's present, he's there and he makes himself known to her.
Do you do the same? Is it really the guys fault?
I love when people come here all "baw, I'm such an idiot". I'm not here for patronizing either condescend to you. You just have to think it through, mate.
Its more about I care for her so much I do not want a douche to be with her.
Fuck it,
You know what.
You're right.
I used to be confident about things but I let fear get the best of me.
I think I'm just gonna tell her my feelings for her the next time I have the chance.
[QUOTE=adam1172;37855410]Its more about I care for her so much I do not want a douche to be with her.
Fuck it,
You know what.
You're right.
I used to be confident about things but I let fear get the best of me.
I think I'm just gonna tell her my feelings for her the next time I have the chance.[/QUOTE]
Yeah dude, stop being afraid, just man up and ask her to go out and chill with you sometime.
[QUOTE=adam1172;37855410]
I think I'm just gonna tell her my feelings for her the next time I have the chance.[/QUOTE]
First things first. How do you think she'll respond to that?
Do both of you feel that comfortable for you to take that step or are you just assuming she's into you?
I'm saying this because you said she doesn't pay that much attention to you in the first place. She doesn't notice you as much as you liked, am I right?
If you're going to try to express your feelings at least do so in the right way and not to just get it out of the way.
there are things you must do first. You must be with her, talk to her. Ask her out. Bring her around next time you go out with friends or something.
It's like a marathon, if you want to cross the finish line, you have to sweat first.
Don't just walk over to her and say "Hi, oh, by the way, I like you! Romantically!"
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37855557]Don't just walk over to her and say "Hi, oh, by the way, I like you! Romantically!"[/QUOTE]
Yeah make sure you save that part for later... much later.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37855557]
I'm saying this because you said she doesn't pay that much attention to you in the first place. She doesn't notice you as much as you liked, am I right?
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Not exactly, its more like there are days where she treats me like any other friend, there are days where for some reason she gets close to me and also there are days where she does not acknowledge my existence. Sometimes I find it very frustrating because its very inconsistent that I can't seem to try and "read" her.
But I do recall some days where she acts totally like she's into me but my fear made me totally ignore it.
I'm not going to plot this but I'll make sure it flows and not jump abruptly to "I LIKE YOU".
She did express the intention of going out with me once and so did I. I think whats left is where and when.
But yeah! I feel confident about this.
[QUOTE=adam1172;37855754]Not exactly, its more like there are days where she treats me like any other friend, there are days where for some reason she gets close to me and also there are days where she does not acknowledge my existence. Sometimes I find it very frustrating because its very inconsistent that I can't seem to try and "read" her.
But I do recall some days where she acts totally like she's into me but my fear made me totally ignore it.
I'm not going to plot this but I'll make sure it flows and not jump abruptly to "I LIKE YOU".
She did express the intention of going out with me once and so did I. I think whats left is where and when.
But yeah! I feel confident about this.[/QUOTE]
It may be she has some interest in you but when she gets close you kinda cower a bit and she thinks you're not into her.
Or maybe you're too much attached to her, or seek her all the time and don't realize she has other friends and occupations.
You have to "get her" when she comes to you and when she doesn't nevermind about it.
It may be her personality to be nice to everyone. You just don't know yet cause you haven't got the chance to know her a little better.
Ive been really good friends with this girl for years now (even though we havent hung out in a long time, we still talk all the time) and just recently she got a boyfriend. The thing is, she hasnt mentioned this to me what so ever and went onto facebook so her relationship status didnt show to me specifically (shows shes in a relationship to my friend on his profile, but not to me on mine.) Can you guys think of any reason why she would do that? Maybe she things I wont hang out with her If we cant be more than friends?
[QUOTE=sirpopsalot_;37856584]Ive been really good friends with this girl for years now (even though we havent hung out in a long time, we still talk all the time) and just recently she got a boyfriend. The thing is, she hasnt mentioned this to me what so ever and went onto facebook so her relationship status didnt show to me specifically (shows shes in a relationship to my friend on his profile, but not to me on mine.) Can you guys think of any reason why she would do that? Maybe she things I wont hang out with her If we cant be more than friends?[/QUOTE]
That does seem odd to hide from you, I would probably just suggest asking about it. Maybe your just in different friend groups on facebook and her privacy settings were weird though. Wouldn't be a first.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37857603]That does seem odd to hide from you, I would probably just suggest asking about it. Maybe your just in different friend groups on facebook and her privacy settings were weird though. Wouldn't be a first.[/QUOTE]
Planning on it soon. Could be that. But it seems more likely she singled me out
Maybe she thinks you like her more than just a friend and doesn't want to hurt your feelings? Sounds pretty likely.
[QUOTE=sirpopsalot_;37856584]Ive been really good friends with this girl for years now (even though we havent hung out in a long time, we still talk all the time) and just recently she got a boyfriend. The thing is, she hasnt mentioned this to me what so ever and went onto facebook so her relationship status didnt show to me specifically (shows shes in a relationship to my friend on his profile, but not to me on mine.) Can you guys think of any reason why she would do that? Maybe she things I wont hang out with her If we cant be more than friends?[/QUOTE]
i think you're just being a tad paranoid.
Well I just dont get why shed go out of her way to single me out
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