The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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i bet she just chose to show it to "close friends" or something and youre not on the list
If you guys are just friends and you don't like her (if you do, you need to get over it now). It shouldn't affect you or bother you.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37862959]i bet she just chose to show it to "close friends" or something and youre not on the list[/QUOTE]
One of my friends randomly added her a year ago and it showed for him
don't get your hopes up.
[QUOTE=sirpopsalot_;37863063]One of my friends randomly added her a year ago and it showed for him[/QUOTE]
calm down bruh
don't take it personally, it's not worth getting worked up over
Not mad at all, just confused
Just saw a girl who sat beside me on the second day of classes but I didn't talk to with some guy. God dammit that could have been me if I wasn't socially retarded.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37863395]Just saw a girl who sat beside me on the second day of classes [B]but I didn't talk to with some guy.[/B] God dammit that could have been me if I wasn't socially retarded.[/QUOTE]
wat
[QUOTE=HellSoldier;37863430]wat[/QUOTE]
On the 2nd day of classes a girl sat beside me and I didn't talk to her
Saw her with a guy while I was looking for a quiet study spot
Mad at myself for being socially retarded because I could have been that guy.
[QUOTE=HellSoldier;37863430]wat[/QUOTE]
"Just saw a girl who sat beside me on the second day of classes, but I didn't talk to, with some guy. God dammit that could have been me if I wasn't socially retarded."
Fixed.
A) Next time you sit with a girl you want to speak to, speak to her.
If that fails, then
B) Don't get worked up about it.
You are torturing yourself thinking about the what if's. Either man up and talk to the girls or stop thinking about how it could have been you instead of those other guys.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37863453]On the 2nd day of classes a girl sat beside me and I didn't talk to her
Saw her with a guy while I was looking for a quiet study spot
Mad at myself for being socially retarded because I could have been that guy.[/QUOTE]
Girls aren't wired to talk to one person you know.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37863453]On the 2nd day of classes a girl sat beside me and I didn't talk to her
Saw her with a guy while I was looking for a quiet study spot
Mad at myself for being socially retarded because I could have been that guy.[/QUOTE]
Lol no you couldn't have
He could have been a friend from outside of uni or anyone, you're being an idiot
stop being an idiot
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37863453]On the 2nd day of classes a girl sat beside me and I didn't talk to her
Saw her with a guy while I was looking for a quiet study spot
Mad at myself for being socially retarded because I could have been that guy.[/QUOTE]
dude
what's your question?
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37863453]
Mad at myself for being socially retarded because I could have been that guy.[/QUOTE]
I'm going to go a head and be "that guy" regardless of responses i'll get but.
You need professional psychiatric help.
1:You freak out because you see happy couples around you
2: You have the impulse to hit them/get violent
3: You get angry at yourself because you see a girl who was in a class with you walking with a guy
4: you express this anger in physical forms (IE punching your bed/breaking shit)
5: you're extremely lonely, and you beat yourself up about everything
There's not that much this thread can do for you when contrasted to the help a psychiatric professional can provide.
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;37863923]I'm going to go a head and be "that guy" regardless of responses i'll get but.
You need professional psychiatric help.
1:You freak out because you see happy couples around you
2: You have the impulse to hit them/get violent
3: You get angry at yourself because you see a girl who was in a class with you walking with a guy
4: you express this anger in physical forms (IE punching your bed/breaking shit)
5: you're extremely lonely, and you beat yourself up about everything
There's not that much this thread can do for you when contrasted to the help a psychiatric professional can provide.[/QUOTE]
Except I didn't rage hard this time. I just thought "damn, that could have been me" and then went back to studying for my history midterm.
[editline]30th September 2012[/editline]
There's a different girl I want to go after now anyway so I pretty much forgot about her until today.
You should be more focused on fixing yourself up first before you go chasing girls.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37863952]Except I didn't rage hard this time. I just thought "damn, that could have been me" and then went back to studying for my history midterm.
[editline]30th September 2012[/editline]
There's a different girl I want to go after now anyway so I pretty much forgot about her until today.[/QUOTE]
Stop chasing girls, you won't find one.
Fix yourself before you break someone else.
I don't mean to be blunt but I do.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37863952]
There's a different girl I want to go after now anyway so I pretty much forgot about her until today.[/QUOTE]
sentences like this are weird, your goal shouldn't be to track down certain girls, instead you should just be making a conscious effort to make conversation with whomever you can. Don't over analyze the thousands of way the conversation can go, just have at it and see where it takes you.
Then again your whole perspective on this is just bad and you're getting way ahead of yourself trying to snatch a girlfriend from the get go, just let it happen naturally.
"a girl I want to go after" needs to be replaced with "A girl i'll make an effort to talk with" and your thought process shouldn't really go beyond that unless something develops.
[QUOTE=HellSoldier;37864137]Stop chasing girls, you won't find one.
Fix yourself before you break someone else.
I don't mean to be blunt but I do.[/QUOTE]
Unfortunately if I wait to totally fix myself before even attempting talk to her, she'll probably be gone by then.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37864197]Unfortunately if I wait to totally fix myself before even attempting talk to her, she'll probably be gone by then.[/QUOTE]
Doesn't matter. There'll be other girls. You're only going to fuck yourself up more and take her with you if you try and chase girls while emotionally fucked up. Get help. Then worry about girls.
This is probably the hollywood moment where you won't bother taking the advice, find a girl and think it'll end up like the movies where she'll be so good for you and everything will work out and you'll both star in the sequel to Eat Pray Love but that's not really how it works, if this is how you're doing it, you need help dude
Oh god. So much attention to such small "problems"...
"oh, I'm to much of a pussy to talk to girls"
People like this don't even deserve advice.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37864448]Oh god. So much attention to such small "problems"...
"oh, I'm to much of a pussy to talk to girls"
People like this don't even deserve advice.[/QUOTE]
Everyone starts somewhere (though taepodong has already been told multiple times he needs to fix himself first)
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37864197]Unfortunately if I wait to totally fix myself before even attempting talk to her, she'll probably be gone by then.[/QUOTE]
What, did she offer you some sort of insane offer like unlimited sexy if you tip her $5 or she'll give you a million dollars if you go on a date with her? Oh wait, right, you didn't talk to her yet. Who cares, man, at this point she's not another girl. More importantly, if she is somewhat what you're looking for, you're going to fuck up because she'll be expecting a guy who will be able to normally proceed from chatting with her all the way to the bedroom but I highly doubt you would suffice for any of that. Fix yourself before you break someone else.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37864448]Oh god. So much attention to such small "problems"...
"oh, I'm to much of a pussy to talk to girls"
People like this don't even deserve advice.[/QUOTE]
I'll take that on board if you ever ask for advice
[QUOTE=HellSoldier;37864640]What, did she offer you some sort of insane offer like unlimited sexy if you tip her $5 or she'll give you a million dollars if you go on a date with her? Oh wait, right, you didn't talk to her yet. Who cares, man, at this point she's not another girl. More importantly, if she is somewhat what you're looking for, you're going to fuck up because she'll be expecting a guy who will be able to normally proceed from chatting with her all the way to the bedroom but I highly doubt you would suffice for any of that. Fix yourself before you break someone else.[/QUOTE]
Fuck it, I'm going to talk to her anyway. And the way I act on the internet isn't completely representative of how I act in real life. I can in fact act like a normal person in real life.
[QUOTE=Medevilae;37864798]The hell do I do with a person who always talks to me but can't keep up a conversation[/QUOTE]
ask questions until you have something to say, ie ask them little questions so they can chat about themselves then just make a little comment and things will usually end up flowing fairly smoothly.
So I told the girl to not go shooting with me because of her cheer things later in the day and my god that was the best decision ever.
The gun I was using would have been WAY to big for her
don't ask stupid questions and don't just ignore their answers and let them talk to themselves obviously, if you ask them what their favorite ice cream is you're off to a bad start and forgetting the answer is basically game over
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37865010]Fuck it, I'm going to talk to her anyway. And the way I act on the internet isn't completely representative of how I act in real life. I can in fact act like a normal person in real life.[/QUOTE]
Act with the girls then, problem solved. Also, you keep posting "yeah I'm totally going to talk with that girl tomorrow" all the time like it's a big ass achievement. Chill out man, go talk to a girl and THEN post how it went. Otherwise you'll keep posting the same problem over and over again.
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