• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37876981]I do still wear band shirts sometimes, just not every day like in high school. And only bands that lots of people know like Megadeth and Slayer, not super obscure shit that you have to be into old school black metal to know about.[/QUOTE] but then you can't make friends when someone goes 'someone knows their death metal' to that super obscure band shirt you weren't wearing
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37876981]I do still wear band shirts sometimes, just not every day like in high school. And only bands that lots of people know like Megadeth and Slayer, not super obscure shit that you have to be into old school black metal to know about.[/QUOTE] i almost wear band shirts everday and have plenty of friends. im wearing one of my megadeth shirts right now as long as you're nice and friendly, who cares
Hey looking in the mirror and forcing myself to smile actually works. Because I look dumb trying to force myself and then I end up laughing at myself and smiling for real.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37877257]Hey looking in the mirror and forcing myself to smile actually works. Because I look dumb trying to force myself and then I end up laughing at myself and smiling for real.[/QUOTE] ok really its cool that youre making progress but please i am begging you just start a blog for this stuff
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37877285]ok really its cool that youre making progress but please i am begging you just start a blog for this stuff[/QUOTE] Ok I'll try to avoid posting unless I actually do something major.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37877335]Ok I'll try to avoid posting unless I actually do something major.[/QUOTE] Taepodong, do this: A) Talk to a girl at uni or B) Talk to the counsellor like you said you were going to. Do both for bonus points. Unless you do one of those options do NOT post again in this thread. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, I'm trying to get yourself to do some stuff. Also do not reply to this message or else you will have already failed.
[QUOTE=Sardonus;37876760]if uhh the girl I fancy grabs my arm in the hall and shoots me a giant smile, then walks off these are good signs right long story short I've got a thing for this girl, and she's... rather physical. We were in a play together last year and whenever I walked out on stage she'd slap my ass, and always be sitting on my lap or clinging to me I can't tell if she's just that kind of person or if I'm fucking DENSE[/QUOTE] im gonna say shes half and half. on one end she sounds like that kind of person, but on the other i feel like she has a thing for you too
[QUOTE=Blueridge;37877519]im gonna say shes half and half. on one end she sounds like that kind of person, but on the other i feel like she has a thing for you too[/QUOTE] Worst I can do is make myself look like an ass am I right?
nvm i'm not resurrecting this
[QUOTE=Sardonus;37877904]Worst I can do is make myself look like an ass am I right?[/QUOTE] touch her butt if she slaps you she doesnt like you if she smiles she likes you simple solution [editline]2nd October 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37877335]Ok I'll try to avoid posting unless I actually do something major.[/QUOTE] just stop being a retard and go out and talk to people dont plan it dont over analyze everything just go out and eventually youll get the hang of it
So I went to school today. I went into class hoping to see 'the girl' but she wasnt there. Everyone was pre-studying so I decided to just sit down and open my book. As I opened my book I decided to step out to the balcony and get fresh air. There she was, standing alone enjoying the morning scenery. Odd because she usually goes into class to hang out with her friends while I'm the only one who stays out alone. Greets her and she greets me with that cheeky smile. So we started talking and friends from the class come and go. I waited for the balcony to be totally empty and I drop it. "There's something I want to tell you actually" "All this time" "I" I stop to catch my breath. "I'm in love with you" I left her speechless for a few seconds. Then she responded with a smile. "Thank You". Help?
HHAHAHAHAHAHAHA OH MY GOD I'm sorry but that way you described is sounded like a scene from New Girl..... And you've basically blown it..... Move on, and next time, don't pour your emotions in hopes of a relationship unless you're absolutely sure she think the same. Next time, strike a conversation first.
[QUOTE=Seith;37879972] Next time, strike a conversation first.[/QUOTE] I did, I just skipped the whole part.
Just having a conversation to "I'm in love with you" is a massssive jump, I don't think that was the right move. if instead you'd replaced that with "I think your pretty cute and cool to hang out with, fancy going out to grab a coffeee later/after class/tomorrow?" would have been much better. You just basically hit the number one scare a girl away phrase.
[QUOTE=metallics;37880247]Just having a conversation to "I'm in love with you" is a massssive jump, I don't think that was the right move. if instead you'd replaced that with "I think your pretty cute and cool to hang out with, fancy going out to grab a coffeee later/after class/tomorrow?" would have been much better. You just basically hit the number one scare a girl away phrase.[/QUOTE] Did that and asked her out last week. Going out to a cafe with her this Thursday actually. And a pasta lunch in two weeks time. It just came by me suddenly today you know. Would have waited at least till Thursday if the setting wasn't great.
Wait, you managed to setup a date on Thursday and then went ahead and decided to pull out the romantic comedy card?
Dont see how you can be jumping to the i love yous before even going on a date. Just dont do it again for a while, continue on dates as normal.
[QUOTE=adam1172;37879935]So I went to school today. I went into class hoping to see 'the girl' but she wasnt there. Everyone was pre-studying so I decided to just sit down and open my book. As I opened my book I decided to step out to the balcony and get fresh air. There she was, standing alone enjoying the morning scenery. Odd because she usually goes into class to hang out with her friends while I'm the only one who stays out alone. Greets her and she greets me with that cheeky smile. So we started talking and friends from the class come and go. I waited for the balcony to be totally empty and I drop it. "There's something I want to tell you actually" "All this time" "I" I stop to catch my breath. "I'm in love with you" I left her speechless for a few seconds. Then she responded with a smile. "Thank You". Help?[/QUOTE] [img]http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-AWjAdwlN2xM/T8FWWNcWsJI/AAAAAAAADCU/eaCM8nTU9l0/s640/super-mario-bros-game-over.png[/img]
To add for the emphasis: [video=youtube;5Wc3kwv0Ddw]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Wc3kwv0Ddw[/video] [editline]2nd October 2012[/editline] Incidentally, I am meeting the girl tomorrow at school. And I'm not intending on fucking up like adam1172 did.
So I subscribe to PrankVsPrank, and recently they did a collab with a channel called SimplePickup. I had never previously heard of them but I watched the video and it was hilarious, so I watched a few videos on their channel. They basically approach girls in the day time and start a conversation with them, and get their number. In their vids they throw in some wierd variety for entertainment value, for example - Using internet meme's - [url]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VAGiQ3AWKqI[/url] Having their trousers (pants) pulled down - [url]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QMS2vSoXRCo[/url] I find it really entertaining to watch, but their greater message is to actually get people to approach girls themselves, and not give a shit about what people think or if you get rejected. Just wondering what you guys think about the general concept of randomly approaching girls.
I think the [i]general[/i] concept is brilliant (i.e approaching random people, facing fears etc) Is it a must to [b]simply[/b] approach and state your intentions i.e hey, you're cute I thought I'd meet you? No, and it should be taken with a grain of salt.
I personally don't like it. Seith and I had a kerfluffle about it a few pages back if you feel like reading it
[QUOTE=DaFreshLemon;37877495]Taepodong, do this: A) Talk to a girl at uni or B) Talk to the counsellor like you said you were going to. Do both for bonus points. Unless you do one of those options do NOT post again in this thread. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, I'm trying to get yourself to do some stuff. Also do not reply to this message or else you will have already failed.[/QUOTE] More like, don't talk to girls. Talk to dudes in your class, it's generally easier to get close with people of your own sex. Having no friends in common with a person, having no interests in common, etc., is pretty much where you'll be if you start talking to a girl right away, and that makes it kuinda hard to keep a conversation going, and you won't have that many chances to meet the person under circumstances that isn't date-like, as you know none of her friends. Talk to people in your class, make some friends (and that's really not as hard as you make it out to be), then get to know new people through them. And start going to the gym or something, and just dress in a decent way. You don't need to have the snazziest clothing, just being decent is more than enough. I'd grow my hair a little longer, comb it, and start wearing shirts if I were you, I don't think it'd look too bad - and it's an inexpensive path.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37876981]I do still wear band shirts sometimes, just not every day like in high school. And only bands that lots of people know like Megadeth and Slayer, not super obscure shit that you have to be into old school black metal to know about.[/QUOTE] Dude, I have like incredibly long hair. Male. Wear band shirts all the fucking time. What's the deal. If you feel comfortable wearing that shit just do so. I have colleagues from my course who are into that obscure black metal shit and death metal and they too get laid and are pretty normal and sociable people. What's the issue here. I fail to grasp it. It's like in every advice we give you find an excuse to still feel miserable. Can you even pinpoint anything in specific that you want to improve or fix or do you just come here to vent your frustrations? Anyway, how old are you?
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37876349][img]http://i.imgur.com/XGtTd.jpg[/img][/QUOTE] Tip: -Smile -Wear some brighter clothes. Brighter colours would fit you quite well. -Grow your hair. Hair styles can break or make the face or some people stand out. -Would be great to go on a workout. Hit the gym. If you're too poor or cheap to use the gym, then do push-ups, sit-ups and many other body weight work-outs. [SP]If you're still QQing, then just get the fuck out[/SP]
You barely know Taepodong-2. You're just basing yourself in what you think first hand by your own standards. That's not fair and it's called prejudice. You're just imposing things on him that you don't even know if they would make him happy of feel more realized. That's just biased BS, if you ask me. Taepodong, man. You're going through a phase of your life. You look young so you have lots of time to experience and go through it. Just try new things and explore as you see fit. Just don't do anything Deathhunter. You have to be comfortable being yourself not what someone thinks you should be based on a photo of you.
Well I was told not to post in this thread until I tried being more social or talking to a counselor. And I'm posting in this thread to say I talked to a girl without going spaghetti. She was the one who talked to me first but I remembered what I was told to do to keep the conversation going. And now I have someone I can feel comfortable talking to if I see them again, and she would probably feel comfortable talking to me again because I wasn't being awkward at all. [editline]2nd October 2012[/editline] Strange thing, this happened literally an hour after I finally decided I was going to stop beating myself up for not talking to girls and not being in a relationship.
congrats dude you talked to a girl!! [editline]2nd October 2012[/editline] please dont call me eclectic like that other guy
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37882784] Anyway, how old are you?[/QUOTE] It seems like this is asked every few pages. I'm 18.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37887824]It seems like this is asked every few pages. I'm 18.[/QUOTE] I didn't catch that up. Dude, the thing is. This is like your first girl to ever talk to you. I know this may turn out to be you crush too since she's now the one girl that pays attention to you. I'm no saying for you to stop talking to her, not at all, just don't start getting all romantic and falling in love in a rush. What I mean is, don't take a step bigger than your foot. Now that you're gaining a little more confidence, try consolidating it a bit further and expanding your comfort zone. It will be kind of a new world for you but you should try being, bit by bit a little more extroverted with other people. I think you should only seek counselings if you really need that extra boost but getting there by yourself will feel better. Establish priorities and keep what you already have. You have a nice girl to talk to, she enjoys your company. Try doing that with more people as you start feeling more comfortable. The rest is really simple, be nice, be polite and be yourself. It's not that hard.
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