• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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god just stop over analyzing and just socialize it's not that hard. you don't need some dumb tips you just need ot go out and socialize.
[QUOTE=lotusking;37888750]god just stop over analyzing and just socialize it's not that hard. you don't need some dumb tips you just need ot go out and socialize.[/QUOTE] Honestly it's probably just me making myself believe it's hard. It's actually not.
Here's an interesting [url=http://www.girlschase.com/insights]website[/url] I've found with a ton of social information on it. It's kind of "oh buy my book"-y, but there is still good information in the blog.
Well seems like I'm going to the city later today to celebrate "little-Saturday" with the girl.
[QUOTE=Repulsion;37894521]Here's an interesting [URL="http://www.girlschase.com/insights"]website[/URL] I've found with a ton of social information on it. It's kind of "oh buy my book"-y, but there is still good information in the blog.[/QUOTE] Theres a lot of good information on that sight but it also focuses on indirect approaches (not being direct with your intent) and thats something to ne avoided. [QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;37895787]i read [URL="http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-i-meet-girls-step-step-breakdown-killer-success"]this article[/URL] and it's fucking creepy and weird and all sounds like bullshit written by an author to make money and not actually any kind of real world situation at all[/QUOTE] Also things like this as well as many others.
[QUOTE=Repulsion;37894521]Here's an interesting [url=http://www.girlschase.com/insights]website[/url] I've found with a ton of social information on it. It's kind of "oh buy my book"-y, but there is still good information in the blog.[/QUOTE] i read [URL="http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-i-meet-girls-step-step-breakdown-killer-success"]this article[/URL] and it's fucking creepy and weird and all sounds like bullshit written by an author to make money and not actually any kind of real world situation at all
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What are some really obvious signs a girl is interested in you?
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;37896648]What are some really obvious signs a girl is interested in you?[/QUOTE] do you have to ask if it's really obvious? regardless, the signs vary greatly from person to person and are especially dependant on maturity n stuff. i don't think there's an easy answer to your question
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;37896648]What are some really obvious signs a girl is interested in you?[/QUOTE] If she's looking at you, turning her head away just as you look at her, it's a sign that she's interested in you. If she seeks contact, and especially physical contact, it's a pretty clear sign. Really, it's something you should be able to decode yourself.
[QUOTE=GoDong-DK;37896823]If she's looking at you, turning her head away just as you look at her, it's a sign that she's interested in you. If she seeks contact, and especially physical contact, it's a pretty clear sign. Really, it's something you should be able to decode yourself.[/QUOTE] So what you're saying is that I'll know when/if she is interested.
[QUOTE=GoDong-DK;37896823]If she's looking at you, turning her head away just as you look at her, it's a sign that she's interested in you. If she seeks contact, and especially physical contact, it's a pretty clear sign. Really, it's something you should be able to decode yourself.[/QUOTE] everyone looks away if they notice you staring at them.
[QUOTE=alien_guy;37896844]everyone looks away if they notice you staring at them.[/QUOTE] Like fuck, I stare that fucker down.
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;37895787]i read [URL="http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-i-meet-girls-step-step-breakdown-killer-success"]this article[/URL] and it's fucking creepy and weird and all sounds like bullshit written by an author to make money and not actually any kind of real world situation at all[/QUOTE] I agree. This is exactly what you should NOT BE DOING [editline]3rd October 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;37896648]What are some really obvious signs a girl is interested in you?[/QUOTE] eyes crossing; different types of them, touch, personal questions, hair plays, playing with her accessories (necklace etc), biting her lips, opening her legs, touching specific areas, engaging the conversation, contributing....., proximity to you all i can think about off the top of my head [editline]3rd October 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=HellSoldier;37895598]Theres a lot of good information on that sight but it also focuses on indirect approaches (not being direct with your intent) and thats something to ne avoided. [/QUOTE] Why?
[QUOTE=Seith;37897286]Why?[/QUOTE] Because you're, for the most part, being dishonest. Unless you revealed your intentions later (aka very soon after) then w/e but still it's not cool.
[QUOTE=alien_guy;37896844]everyone looks away if they notice you staring at them.[/QUOTE] Maybe I'm just bad at English, but with "just as you look at her" I don't mean that you're staring at the person for hours on end. I'm sure you know what I mean.
So it went that I didn't celebrate little-Saturday with the girl today. And it might have been due to what I said. Luckily not in a bad way as it was so that she has an exam coming up tomorrow and as I called her around six I woke up from her nap. As that point she was still unsure about if she'd be going, so I said to her that maybe it would be good to take it easy for one night. So I went cruising with two of my friends, texting with her ever so often. A while later we went to meet one of the guys girlfriend whom was at a bar with her friends and after downing a pint (the guys didn't) we left. I come home, get on my computer, go to my common places on the internet including FB. And I see that she has been tagged with some guy at some bar in the city. Judging by his name he's that Portuguese guy she told me about last time we were out (she is roommates with that guy and her sister and she has to share a bed with him). And the sensations of fucking up didn't really get relieved by the comments that some of (most likely) his friends posted there. :smith: Can't even express myself by emotes here anymore. [editline]3rd October 2012[/editline] On a positive note I did manage to meet her earlier today. And as stated before: Getting hugged never looses it's good feeling.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37898371](she is roommates with that guy and her sister [U]and she has to share a bed with him[/U])[/QUOTE] sounds legit... [editline]3rd October 2012[/editline] on the other hand, i'm not quite sure what you think you screwed up with? waking her up from a nap?
[QUOTE=Autumn;37898561]sounds legit... [editline]3rd October 2012[/editline] on the other hand, i'm not quite sure what you think you screwed up with? waking her up from a nap?[/QUOTE] I know it "sounds legit". But I can honestly say that when she talked about him last time we went out "he's a chill guy but it sucks that he only speaks Finnish" or "this guy just sent me a text going totally all like duuuuude" that for me it doesn't exactly seem like a romantic relationship to me. Or the fact that she said that she kinda wishes she'd still live at home with her parents like I do. So I feel like I fucked up due to the fact that I could have gone out with her but ended up not going. But my personal verdict is that it seems like she doesn't reject male company but neither does she give herself out like that. Thus I feel that if I keep up the "good work", I might have a chance with her.
[QUOTE=HellSoldier;37897455]Because you're, for the most part, being dishonest. Unless you revealed your intentions later (aka very soon after) then w/e but still it's not cool.[/QUOTE] dishonest? So, let's say a girl came up to you and started asking weird questions, on the street, you played along (nevermind your reasons or hers) then is she being dishonest? No, you both are playing the game and enjoying it. Not all women respond to just asking them out and putting all the cards on the table for a shitload of reasons. I ain't no magician; I don't do voodoo or set tricks on her mind, I'm just talking. Direct, Indirect, whatever you wanna call it, it's all the same.
One thing I'm forward to is going to celebrate my best friend and his girlfriend moving in to their own apartment. And the girl is invited to come with me. [editline]3rd October 2012[/editline] I have to say that I'm happy due to how I feel. I feel like I have developed as a person. Because even though of the situation I mentioned in my previous post I don't feel like "grrrr" I just fee like "meh". If that were to describe anything really :v:
[QUOTE=Seith;37898835]dishonest? So, let's say a girl came up to you and started asking weird questions, on the street, you played along (nevermind your reasons or hers) then is she being dishonest? No, you both are playing the game and enjoying it. Not all women respond to just asking them out and putting all the cards on the table for a shitload of reasons. I ain't no magician; I don't do voodoo or set tricks on her mind, I'm just talking. Direct, Indirect, whatever you wanna call it, it's all the same.[/QUOTE] She's not being dishonest if she wants to get into a relationship with me but doesn't even mention it. If she had, on the other hand, mentioned it then yeah that would be totally cool. The fact that guys go up to girls and play 'games' with them until they ask them out (a question not congruent with their previous questions etc.) and then they reveal that the entire conversation was really just a way to ask them out. Just start with what you brought you there, "Hey, you looked cut so I had to come and talk to you.", and then go from there.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37898831]"he's a chill guy but it sucks that he only speaks Finnish"[/QUOTE] i thought you said he was portuguese? and i'm sorry, but you don't just share beds with a person of the opposite sex that you've recently met because you "have to". and i still don't get what you're beating yourself over? that you suggested she should take it easy, because of her exam the following the morning, instead of pushing her to come out with you? you didn't do anything wrong.
[QUOTE=Autumn;37899097]i thought you said he was portuguese? and i'm sorry, but you don't just share beds with a person of the opposite sex that you've recently met because you "have to". and i still don't get what you're beating yourself over? that you suggested she should take it easy, because of her exam the following the morning, instead of pushing her to come out with you? you didn't do anything wrong.[/QUOTE] The guy's mother is Finnish. It sure is a weird circumstance she is in. Maybe I'll get to hear more specifics about it at some point. But I ain't mad at all, because I'm taking it very slowly with her. And so far so good; I make her laugh, she makes me laugh, we talk almost daily. So from a standpoint this early it still looks promising.
[QUOTE=HellSoldier;37899009]She's not being dishonest if she wants to get into a relationship with me but doesn't even mention it. If she had, on the other hand, mentioned it then yeah that would be totally cool. The fact that guys go up to girls and play 'games' with them until they ask them out (a question not congruent with their previous questions etc.) and then they reveal that the entire conversation was really just a way to ask them out. Just start with what you brought you there, "Hey, you looked cut so I had to come and talk to you.", and then go from there.[/QUOTE] Thanks for tip, I would listen to that wonderful piece of information if you were to even indulge yourself on whether what I am saying could be true or not rather than telling me what you think I should do. Your analysis refuses human dynamics. It's as if we live in a world with no masks and when we want something we just spit it out. 99% are never even 50% honest most of the time; "you should buy that, it looks good on you, say the saleswoman", "you think? oh, yeah I'll buy it".... whoopydoo, people have an agenda sue me I am being dishonest because I don't spue what I really think on the 1st second unlike you, who's working on the whim that he's being "truthful"........
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37899317]So from a standpoint this early it still looks promising.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Autumn;37899097]and i'm sorry, but you don't just share beds with a person of the opposite sex that you've recently met because you "have to".[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Seith;37899389]Thanks for tip, I would listen to that wonderful piece of information if you were to even indulge yourself on whether what I am saying could be true or not rather than telling me what you think I should do. Your analysis refuses human dynamics. It's as if we live in a world with no masks and when we want something we just spit it out. 99% are never even 50% honest most of the time; "you should buy that, it looks good on you, say the saleswoman", "you think? oh, yeah I'll buy it".... whoopydoo, people have an agenda sue me I am being dishonest because I don't spue what I really think on the 1st second unlike you, who's working on the whim that he's being "truthful"........[/QUOTE] Way to be hostile? My analysis doesn't refuse human dynamics at all. It acknowledges it and accepts it could be infinitely better.
Well yeah, true dat. Still ain't giving up hope entirely. BTW, I almost had a situation during spring where I would have had to share beds with someone of the opposite sex. Besides, even if it ends up with us only being friends then I wouldn't mind.
Keep Nit-picking............... ffs, completely irrelevant. The fact I am being hostile bothers you that you had to mention it (even though this is the internet, why would u care) proves my point; you're not listening but feeding your ego. "It acknowledges it and accepts it could be infinitely better." really? sup doctor phill.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37899317]The guy's mother is Finnish. It sure is a weird circumstance she is in. Maybe I'll get to hear more specifics about it at some point. But I ain't mad at all, because I'm taking it very slowly with her. And so far so good; I make her laugh, she makes me laugh, we talk almost daily. So from a standpoint this early it still looks promising.[/QUOTE] I enjoy your positivity regarding the situation, but unfortunately I also have to question these 'sleeping arrangements'. Everybody is different of course, not knowing the person I could be completely wrong. It just doesn't sound right to me, seems as though you may just be trying too make yourself belive it?
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