The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;37916365]I apologize for wasting your time on the thread about friendly advice.[/QUOTE]
You have been wasting your own time.
In all seriousness you actually need to just nut up. In your own re-telling you mention how this guy asks her out in front of you- he's got the right idea.
There's no magic solution to 'taking it up a notch', just man up and tell her how you feel.
If you're going to write such huge posts please proof read them before you post and use more spacing and grammar. It is a fucking mess to read.
Alright, since you guys are mainly just judging the way I wrote -which I'll admit was rushed because I felt rushed by you guys- I'm just gonna snip and call it a day.
I'm sorry I bothered to come here in the first place. Looks like you're only catering to simple questions and not people who have a story to tell that can't be explained in two posts.
stop talking nobody cares
everyone has their own problems and unless your story ends with everyone you know dying or something, it isn't worth writing a novel about
[editline]4th October 2012[/editline]
i'm not reading your posts because of how rambley and inconcise they are but i can guarantee that whatever you've gone through is a lot simpler than you're making it. all you're trying to do is complicate something that probably has a clear solution.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37916709]stop talking nobody cares
everyone has their own problems and unless your story ends with everyone you know dying or something, it isn't worth writing a novel about
[editline]4th October 2012[/editline]
i'm not reading your posts because of how rambley and inconcise they are but i can guarantee that whatever you've gone through is a lot simpler than you're making it. all you're trying to do is complicate something that probably has a clear solution.[/QUOTE]
This thread looks like a thread to help people get their problems solved. I guess I was mistaken.
[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;37916726]This thread looks like a thread to help people get their problems solved. I guess I was mistaken.[/QUOTE]
To put it politely, we understand there's a backstory to your situation, but the thing is.. we all have one, but it's not relevant for anything other than being just a story. All that matters is here and now, and that's the timeframe that you need to make your moves in if you want anything to happen. Good luck, and realize that sometimes, there are things in life which are best done quickly and painlessly, and that includes stepping out of comfort zones when doing something uncomfortable and new to you.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37916709]i'm not reading your posts because of how rambley and inconcise they are but i can guarantee that whatever you've gone through is a lot simpler than you're making it. all you're trying to do is complicate something that probably has a clear solution.[/QUOTE]
Drama student
[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;37916726]This thread looks like a thread to help people get their problems solved. I guess I was mistaken.[/QUOTE]
That's exactly what it is but that doesn't mean you don't have to help us out a bit by simplifying your problem or at the very least putting it in a coherent and well structured timeline.
The gist I got from reading it is you have liked this girl for what appears to be years and spend a lot of time with her. You get really mad when she's with other guys (of which there have been two) and you very clearly want to be with her.
Considering she didn't stop talking to you months ago as I would have there's a pretty good chance she has feelings for you too, or at least did at some point. The fact you haven't made any move in all this time has probably given her the impression you just want to be friends so why not surprise her, tell her exactly how you feel. Actually ask her out like the other guy did, stop moping around because she 'doesn't see you for who you are' and show her yourself.
If I completely missed the point of what you wrote then I apologise, just be clear and simplify what your situation is, that makes it easier to relate to your problem with our real life experiences which will in turn give you a better outcome (probably).
[QUOTE=wizard`;37916877]Drama student
That's exactly what it is but that doesn't mean you don't have to help us out a bit by simplifying your problem or at the very least putting it in a coherent and well structured timeline.
The gist I got from reading it is you have liked this girl for what appears to be years and spend a lot of time with her. You get really mad when she's with other guys (of which there have been two) and you very clearly want to be with her.
Considering she didn't stop talking to you months ago as I would have there's a pretty good chance she has feelings for you too, or at least did at some point. The fact you haven't made any move in all this time has probably given her the impression you just want to be friends so why not surprise her, tell her exactly how you feel. Actually ask her out like the other guy did, stop moping around because she 'doesn't see you for who you are' and show her yourself.
If I completely missed the point of what you wrote then I apologise, just be clear and simplify what your situation is, that makes it easier to relate to your problem with our real life experiences which will in turn give you a better outcome (probably).[/QUOTE]
Whoa there, that's precisely what I had expected when I first posted here.
Alright. You got my gist down, and basically most of what's holding me back is the fact that I don't want it to end up going badly and have to keep seeing her afterward, being in the same shows and all. I kind of don't want to go away from where I stand now, but at the same time I do. It's annoying.
[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;37916915]Whoa there, that's precisely what I had expected when I first posted here.
Alright. You got my gist down, and basically most of what's holding me back is the fact that I don't want it to end up going badly and have to keep seeing her afterward, being in the same shows and all. I kind of don't want to go away from where I stand now, but at the same time I do. It's annoying.[/QUOTE]
Sometimes you have to take a risk, it's a part of life. You wouldn't be posting here if you didn't really want her so don't kid yourself about not knowing what to do.
It's a simple as asking her out and telling her how you feel. Everyone fears rejection, some more than others, so It's only natural you don't want to chance losing her but you will never get anywhere, in any relationship, if you don't take that risk.
If she's as good a friend as you have led us to believe then nothing will be weird afterwards unless you make it so. That is speaking from personal experience too by the way.
[QUOTE=wizard`;37917083]Sometimes you have to take a risk, it's a part of life. You wouldn't be posting here if you didn't really want her so don't kid yourself about not knowing what to do.
It's a simple as asking her out and telling her how you feel. Everyone fears rejection, some more than others, so It's only natural you don't want to chance losing her but you will never get anywhere, in any relationship, if you don't take that risk.
If she's as good a friend as you have led us to believe then nothing will be weird afterwards unless you make it so. That is speaking from personal experience too by the way.[/QUOTE]
I guess so. I just guess I'll have to wait until one of those real nice moments I sort of explained in one of my snipped posts... A period of time when we're always chilling and stuff. I dunno, I didn't go into detail. I guess if I did you'd get even more pissed off at me lol
"OH NO A BLOCK OF TEXT IN HASTILY CONSTRUCTED NARRATIVE LANGUAGE I CAN'T READ THIS"
All joking aside, I'll just wait until it seems right. The present moment doesn't seem too right.
[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;37917228]I guess so. I just guess I'll have to wait until one of those real nice moments I sort of explained in one of my snipped posts... A period of time when we're always chilling and stuff. I dunno, I didn't go into detail. I guess if I did you'd get even more pissed off at me lol
"OH NO A BLOCK OF TEXT IN HASTILY CONSTRUCTED NARRATIVE LANGUAGE I CAN'T READ THIS"
All joking aside, I'll just wait until it seems right. The present moment doesn't seem too right.[/QUOTE]
There's never a time that seems "just right".
I know a while back I said that I was talking to that girl that I hadn't talked to in a year. Well I was going to ask her out to homecoming with me, and as I'm about to do so my friend barges into the door, pulls me aside, and the looks at her and goes, "Don't you break his fucking heart." It was obvious that she was freaked out by a random person randomly coming through a random door to randomly say that, because next thing you know she ran out of the same door and hasn't spoken to me for a week. Yay.
that is really, incredibly, horribly unfortunate for you dude. my condolences.
Dude what a retarded friend
so uh
it's generally considered rude to message someone you dated for two months, were never sexually involved with, and haven't talked to in [b]four years[/b] who is also considered "in a relationship" on facebook to imply you want to hook up with them
i thought this would be obvious but apparently it isn't?
[QUOTE=space1;37915956]How do I kiss a girl?[/QUOTE]
[img]http://stuffpoint.com/spongebob-square-pants/image/97255-spongebob-square-pants-spongebob-funny-tongue-action.gif[/img]
Do this in her mouth.
I'm pretty sure you just let the kiss come naturally, that's what I did and she said it was pretty nice.
Well, I say "she said", I just assumed, most pillows don't talk.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37920125]so uh
it's generally considered rude to message someone you dated for two months, were never sexually involved with, and haven't talked to in [b]four years[/b] who is also considered "in a relationship" on facebook to imply you want to hook up with them[/QUOTE]
weird
on this matter, someone i saw on and off for about 6 months, a year ago, wants to go for a drink with me
i was never sexually involved with her beyond pulling her and we were so on and off it was never anything near a relationship. she's been in a relationship for a year and i am very happily in a relationship of about half a year. when we were kind-of-seeing each other it became apparent she's a weird individual with some serious insecurity issues that lead to her being what most people would call a 'bitch' so i'm glad we were never in a relationship, but i did get on well with her as a friend.
with this background info, would it be really wrong or bad of me to go for this drink? my girlfriend is absolutely okay with me seeing other close female friends of mine, even if it's just the two of us, even if it's a close friend of mine who i had sex with just before i got with my girlfriend. weirdly though, she's really hung up on me going for a drink with this girl
If its friendship youre after then whats wrong with that?
that my gf will get pissy about it
please don't reply with "why does that matter" we don't need one of those conversations again
[editline]5th October 2012[/editline]
i'm more asking the question of:
"if you were my gf in this hypothetical situation. would you be pissy about it?"
Sure, I was more after, "why then ask for advice if you don't want to upset her in the first place with meaningless meetings with a girl whom you had sex in your past while you're having supposedly brilliant sex with your current gf, why indulge yourself with that, what are your expectations?" It's actually a bundle-question.
EDIT:
Ok then, simply put, MY girlfriend would not be pissed about.
[QUOTE=Seith;37922435]Sure, I was more after, "why then ask for advice if you don't want to upset her in the first place[/QUOTE]
to confirm whether i actually am in the wrong or not
[quote]with meaningless meetings[/quote]
i wouldn't call meeting up with a friend, 'meaningless'. it might not add much to my life but it's no less meaningful than anything else
[quote]with a girl whom you had sex in your past[/quote]
try to read my post better
[quote]while you're having supposedly brilliant sex with your current gf[/quote]
that's very condescending. where did i imply that
[quote]why indulge yourself with that, what are your expectations?"[/quote]
to have an alright night and a laugh with a mate and nothing more. i just wonder whether that really is the night i should be having or whether there's anything to feel guilty about, because right now my girlfriend has made me feel somewhat guilty about it
i think she naturally feels a bit jealous/insecure because this is a girl that you've previous had ~relations with, regardless of how it worked out in the end
if i was her i probably would feel a bit uneasy about it, but then realise that you really do only see her as a friend (and vice versa) and so there is nothing wrong with going out for a drink with her
okay i guess i'll go for the drink
i understand completely why she's a bit insecure about it but if baffles me because normally she's not at all like that. i mean, as i said, she's perfectly comfortable with me seeing another friend of mine who i actually [I]did[/I] have sex with. it's odd
ah well. thank you
[QUOTE=vizard38;37918180]I know a while back I said that I was talking to that girl that I hadn't talked to in a year. Well I was going to ask her out to homecoming with me, and as I'm about to do so my friend barges into the door, pulls me aside, and the looks at her and goes, "Don't you break his fucking heart." It was obvious that she was freaked out by a random person randomly coming through a random door to randomly say that, because next thing you know she ran out of the same door and hasn't spoken to me for a week. Yay.[/QUOTE]
ahahaha holy shit what
what a fucking goon
Sure, sure, ya bugger. You're not wrong if; it's a person you're about to see, have nothing but fun with, expect nothing but fun (i.e friends fun, not sexual partners fun) thus you should not feel guilty or wrong
you're wrong if; you're expecting something to happen deep inside, you care for her, you're going to do something with her other than friends fun if you think anyone of those things then feeling gulity is legitimate I suppose
[editline]5th October 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;37922613]okay i guess i'll go for the drink
i understand completely why she's a bit insecure about it but if baffles me because normally she's not at all like that. i mean, as i said, she's perfectly comfortable with me seeing another friend of mine who i actually [I]did[/I] have sex with. it's odd
ah well. thank you[/QUOTE]
situation's different. she asked you out of the blue to grab a coffee or something, right? her mind loves to blow things out of proportion and she interprets this more sexually than she should have.
Okay so i know i'm a newcomer and i haven't really read through the entire thread so this probably has been said (because it should be common knowledge) but i'm still gonna say it
Don't ever fucking wear fedoras
not for any reason, should you ever wear fedoras, if you want to get girls or generally not be socially awkward , do NOT wear fedoras. Fedoras are never cool, or classy, or stylish.
Okay that's all the advice i really have for anyone
thanks, i think we are all now considerably more informed!
Hey im just saying, the amount of people who think wearing a fedora makes you look cool is absolutely mind-boggling
[QUOTE=halflambada;37924218]Okay so i know i'm a newcomer and i haven't really read through the entire thread so this probably has been said (because it should be common knowledge) but i'm still gonna say it
Don't ever fucking wear fedoras
not for any reason, should you ever wear fedoras, if you want to get girls or generally not be socially awkward , do NOT wear fedoras. Fedoras are never cool, or classy, or stylish.
Okay that's all the advice i really have for anyone[/QUOTE]
so your saying my $10k fedora collection i bought on ebay is COMPLETELY USELESS?
I wear fedoras. Sue me, I look awesome.
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