• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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i noticed whenever i was hanging out with my friends back home, that almost all we would do was talk shit about people behind their backs, even people who we really liked that got me thinking that they were probably talking shit about me too. then over the summer we started hanging out less and less, until i really made no effort to be with them at all, and vice versa. (this was one group of friends, i still had a few other closer friends who werent dicks) i realized at that point that they werent worth being friends with but after that i did sorta go through a period where i felt really paranoid, and every time someone asked me to hang out i felt like it was some weird forced thing where they felt like they had to invite me even though they didnt want me there the only thing that really got me over that was going to uni and realizing not everyone was like that and not everyone even cared enough to make fun of people behind their backs all the time i dont really know how to help you but at least i can relate! [editline]10th October 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Kopimi;37979458][img]http://i.imgur.com/QRB6C.jpg[/img][/QUOTE] every morning when i am in the shower i come up with like 10 openings to always sunny episodes from the first scene to the opening title
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37979413]i lived overseas until 6th grade and then moved to the us and found out people here form cliques and frequently talk shit about each other, so i made friends with the only girl in my school who was actually nice to me and then i met a few other girls who lived near me every friend i had until i dropped out of hs (except for 1 guy who's really nice who i'm still friends with) talked shit about me, blatantly ignored me, and made excuses not to interact with me. i was totally oblivious to it for a few years. at the beginning of 10th grade i decided to stop talking to all of them and see if they'd notice. none of them did i've always been really bad at hiding emotions and never really lie or anything so it made me really paranoid about being part of social circles because that generally means being around people who don't like you but don't want to admit it because they don't want to cause problems. so now i have huge trust issues because i'm usually honest and know that most people i've befriended aren't at the same level of honesty. so now i just get incredibly secretive about everything and reflexively avoid saying anything about myself even when people ask me about myself and most of all i don't like admitting that i have any sort of problems/weaknesses/things i need help with. so i'm being honest for once![/QUOTE] I have been in a similar situation to this. I told my friends a lot of stuff and after a while I realised they would ridicule me through metaphors, call me names and bring them up subtly around me, drive to dark places and talk about killing people while relating it to me etc. This combined with a lot of drugs during the process sent me west. I wasn't a bad person or anything I just think I was quite irritating. I stopped talking to them and they contacted me once so I went to see them, they were friendly and nice at the time but I couldn't take it again. It's now one year later and over that year I've been worried about other peoples intentions and afraid of really bizarre things, thinking people are playing mind games or small jokes were a plan to somehow control me etc, it's difficult to explain. Anyway I went to see a psychologist about three months ago and now somebody comes to my house every week and has been really helping me. I've made friends with somebody new at college and get along with most people well, apologised to people at work for the way I was acting, taken up DJing as a hobby and I'm getting myself back on the right track. Feels good to tell that story.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37979295]do you mean a serious drinking problem? as much as i think drinking like this is dumb, it [i]is[/i] university on a friday night its sorta excusable[/QUOTE] yeah but still if you're going to drink you have to not set yourself up for something terrible which she totally did i'd imagine she probably feels pretty embarassed
a lot of people think that people hate nerds but really i've never seen nerd hate this day and age, other than "nerds" who over react to everything in a crazy ass way a little paper ball hits this kid in the head and then all of sudden in the most squirrely voice he shouts out "WHO THE FUCK DID THAT!?" while anyone else would have just been like whatever or turned around and smiled and he farts really and pretends like it wasn't him sitting alone in the back of the class and it'd be funny if we were in [I]middle school[/I] but it's not or this other huge kid who was standing next to me at homecoming whome i thought was alright, he was weird and awkward(one of those things where you notice right away but don't mind at first) but he didn't do anything weird(well he asked me if i was a senior and i said yes and then he told me "you should be running out there in the field naked, it's your senior year!!!" and i was like what the fuck?), but all of a sudden he shoves his way between this guy and his girl friend and starts to flirt with her or some shit and she's like "what the hell" and the boyfriend asks politely(realizing this guys social problems) "can you please move, she doesn't like it" and then this possibly aspergic guy just retorts the boyfriend who's talking politely, in the most spaghetti thing i've ever heard to this day(and it was hilarious because the aspergers guy still thought he had a chance with her) and after seeing this these freshmen start throwing pop corn(dick move) at this aspergers guy and he just turns around and shout "FUCKING FRESHMEN, YOU'RE JUST FUCKING FRESHMEN" and i was like what and you guys might be thinking these guys are douchebags who play sports but no, the people who play sports are actually nice and try to be nice, even if they get in fights all the time, these 'nerds' are the most NAF people i've ever seen and all they do is play games or talk about games i mean it's like the only thing they've ever heard of highschool or being in highschool is from watching movies from the last generation where it was required you be "manly" so yeah i guess part of being a social nerd and not a nerd people hate is not overreacting to small things or [I]forcing[/I] yourself into social circles with reckless abaddon this is kind of to no one in particular i just wanted to post it somewhere because for some reason people think nerds are looked down upon(even went to the inner cities, they're not even looked down there, gangsters tend to hate each other more and list nerds as "good kids"(unless you are a whiny baby then probably "whiny bitch")) [editline]10th October 2012[/editline] i blame parenting
There are certainly nerds like that, but there was a fair ampunt of nerd hate in my school for average guys or girls who happened to be different any way. Nerd stereotype being kne of them.
I'm kinda late because I'm sleeping when the "action" goes on here, but that crap pulled on Tae's picture was fucking stupid and there's nothing he said that justified such behaviour from you guys. In fact he's right when he sais you're a bunch of nerders. I would put it differently though. You're a bunch of cunts.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37982714]I'm kinda late because I'm sleeping when the "action" goes on here, but that crap pulled on Tae's picture was fucking stupid and there's nothing he said that justified such behaviour from you guys. In fact he's right when he sais you're a bunch of nerders. I would put it differently though. You're a bunch of cunts.[/QUOTE] but his expression is just so goofy
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37982743]alright tough guy post a picture of yourself let's BRAWL[/QUOTE] tbh i probably look like more of a nerd then him
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37982723]two people did that way to generalize[/QUOTE] "You guys" fits for two people. And I'm just referring to the ones who did it. Not everyone.
i just got a string of cryptic texts from the drunk girl's best friend this is confusing and i dont want to be involved, im just gonna act like everything's normal
I have this one complete nerd in school. He's in my year and in every single course I have with him. He's one of the types that really can't hide his emotions either and whatever pesters him to a small bit he gets really annoyed. Every single small thing he does successfully, he shouts a huge yes in class for some reason and if he does shit wrong, he cries. I find this hilarious. I feel like he's got some sort of learning disability because he did his A Levels twice and he's doing them again. He failed his AS last year with like fail grades (Ds, Es and a U, sorry for American curriculum people). Funny thing he's like 21 years old too but "plays" with the 15 year old nerds of the school. He also can't convey any emotions, body language and facial expressions either. I remember walking out of my biology exam having bombed it and he kept on stuffing how well he did and how he found the exam totally easy (got a U (fail grade) though). I have a biology trip to go next week and he's sobbing that no one's rooming up with him a majority of the lesson.
[QUOTE=Deathhunter;37983527]I have this one complete nerd in school. He's in my year and in every single course I have with him. He's one of the types that really can't hide his emotions either and whatever pesters him to a small bit he gets really annoyed. Every single small thing he does successfully, he shouts a huge yes in class for some reason and if he does shit wrong, he cries. I find this hilarious. I feel like he's got some sort of learning disability because he did his A Levels twice and he's doing them again. He failed his AS last year with like fail grades (Ds, Es and a U, sorry for American curriculum people). Funny thing he's like 21 years old too but "plays" with the 15 year old nerds of the school. He also can't convey any emotions, body language and facial expressions either. I remember walking out of my biology exam having bombed it and he kept on stuffing how well he did and how he found the exam totally easy (got a U (fail grade) though). I have a biology trip to go next week and he's sobbing that no one's rooming up with him a majority of the lesson.[/QUOTE] That sounds sad, like he has a real problem. As annoying as he may be, I can see how a person like that would have a hard time.
[QUOTE=Seith;37963065]Baby steps. I could write 3 pages of crap about how you should deal with this differently, but I rather see it coming from you instead of me, and the only way to do it is by you going balls to the wall on this. The best tip I could give you is to let go of all your assumptions and just go along with the fear. The worst that can happen is you get a no, slap on the face or sex. Sounds fun either way.[/QUOTE] Yeah I'm being a little bitch about this. I need to man up. Yesterday after photography finished the two of us stayed in the classroom for an extra hour playing on the Macs. She asked for my number and added me on facebook. She also mentioned that we should go take photos together sometime. I kinda just responded with "definitely". I really just need to man up and start showing some interest. I'm going to text her now.
Alright, so I formally asked her out on a date. Things didn't go so well. She said she was busy for all the days I could be available, and said that it wouldn't work out because she is constantly busy with school. I'm not sure if this was just an excuse, as she is a nice yet honest person, and has a ton of stuff going on at her school (It's a private school with rigorous, mandatory homework and she has different choir or dance activities). Looks like I'll be moving on and attempt to find someone else to share this beautiful autumn with.
I was thinking today, just kind of lost in thought as I had a few hours to kill, and I realized I've been unconsciously comparing every woman I meet with whom I consider my first 'real love' (Hell if I know if I actually loved her, just everything felt all right when she was around). Even just small features, like hair and eyes. I believe myself to have moved on from her a while ago, but sometimes I wonder if I ever actually did, and if not, if it would ever be possible to fully move on. Does anyone else do this? It's not like I'm clearly thinking "Oh this girl has X and this girl has Y", it just... feels like I'm comparing them, and sometimes I think no one is ever really going to stack up to her. Please tell me I'm not the only one who thinks this on occasion.
yeah, my bf and i both did the same thing when we were trying to get over each other and date other people don't really know what to tell you. if nothing's happening with you and your ex (?), it will eventually pass
Help I'm in music class right now and there's a girl like 4 seats to my left and she won't stop staring at me, I stare back and she is staring at me and I frown at her but nothing's happening and all I can see is her face just staring at me like semen in a swimming pool and I can't take it there's like 2 hours left in this class god damn she's not even attractive
[QUOTE=Disseminate;37989504]all I can see is her face just staring at me like semen in a swimming pool[/QUOTE] wat
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37989443]yeah, my bf and i both did the same thing when we were trying to get over each other and date other people don't really know what to tell you. if nothing's happening with you and your ex (?), it will eventually pass[/QUOTE] Ah I'm not heartbroken over it or anything, it's just an odd feeling. To be honest I feel like a bit of a jerk for it.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;37989504]Help I'm in music class right now and there's a girl like 4 seats to my left and she won't stop staring at me, I stare back and she is staring at me and I frown at her but nothing's happening and all I can see is her face just staring at me like semen in a swimming pool and I can't take it there's like 2 hours left in this class god damn she's not even attractive[/QUOTE] what instrument do you play if its wind then fart through the mouthpiece at her she will get the hint eventually
[QUOTE=Disseminate;37989504]Help I'm in music class right now and there's a girl like 4 seats to my left and she won't stop staring at me, I stare back and she is staring at me and I frown at her but nothing's happening and all I can see is her face just staring at me like semen in a swimming pool and I can't take it there's like 2 hours left in this class god damn she's not even attractive[/QUOTE] Ignore it, she will have to stop staring eventually, and for the semen in the swimming pool just walk away.
or just confront her about it after class and tell her she's creeping you out
[QUOTE=Itachi_Crow;37989637]what instrument do you play if its wind then fart through the mouthpiece at her she will get the hint eventually[/QUOTE] it's a lecture and we're doing jimi hendrix and i'll never forget her glare while foxy lady was on
ehh i wouldn't do that, it'd be overly dramatic imo just avoid her and make it clear you're not interested in talking to her if she tries to interact with you
actually yeah reading back on my comment dont do that unless it escalates to something worse
my general rule is only be as direct/obvious as the other person is being
wtf you guys are so fucked up..... Good for you, ur getting chicks to gawk at you without shitting your pants...tfW. Shes just staring whats with the james bond tips thats super weird, just tell her to piss off which i wouldnt and ill go with a tease.... Confronting her is absolutely unnessecary
it's one thing to have someone look you over once or smile at you or something and then leave you alone, that's usually flattering what's not enjoyable is having someone stare at you intently for several hours on end or otherwise pursue you when you haven't given any indication you're interested
Its just staring..... I wouldnt give a fuck
yeah well most normal well adjusted people find being stared at seriously weird
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