• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;38069833]I think that the most important part is not whether you guys appreciate my individuality, but whether or not she does. And for the record, everyone forgot on the first week. The next week all of my other friends had their bowties but me and it was actually pretty funny. Either way, today was Tuesday and no one remembered to wear a bowtie but he and one other teacher who's his friend. Also, [B]keep in mind that we're both actors.[/B] We like to do wackier things that most people avoid doing, and we cherish our own individual styles.[/QUOTE] stop using this as an excuse. i didn't know black shirts meant you were emo? weird. a nice fitting one does look sexy.
[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;38069833]I think that the most important part is not whether you guys appreciate my individuality, but whether or not she does. And for the record, everyone forgot on the first week. The next week all of my other friends had their bowties but me and it was actually pretty funny. Either way, today was Tuesday and no one remembered to wear a bowtie but he and one other teacher who's his friend. Also, keep in mind that we're both actors. We like to do wackier things that most people avoid doing, and we cherish our own individual styles.[/QUOTE] Then go fuck her already.
[QUOTE=ShazzyFreak0;38070110]stop using this as an excuse. i didn't know black shirts meant you were emo? weird. a nice fitting one does look sexy.[/QUOTE] they dont but 14 year old me thought they did
[QUOTE=Rhenae;38067286]How many of those people did you actually know? I'm not being a smartass i'm pointing out a social function you have used. One which irks me personally because for many years I was subjected to the negative end of preconceptions and related topics because I wore slightly "gothic" or "emo" clothing. I wore a fair amount of black, wore armwarmers, etc. To be honest my area is a rather homogenous one, especially in middleschool and highschool environments. Not only was there descrimination from the other kids in the school teachers would treat me differently, and often ask me to remove my armwarmers for no good reason, other than that they were arm warmers which are assosiated with cutting so they made me take them off to make sure I wasn't being an emo. Rather ironically the way that happened actually made me into what many would actually describe as an emo. What started as a preference in clothing extended to my personality as I got more quiet, didn't like talking to people any more, stuck more to my own social group, eventually became depressed and did actually cut. And for case in point for the incredibly stupid teachers, I wore long sleeves at times when I would have cuts because i'm not stupid. I eventually got into an argument with an assistant teacher that if they wanted me to take my arm warmers off every day then they should be getting every student to roll up their sleeves. That story just sorta splutter out didn't it? Anyway I guess that treatment makes me a little more defensive of stereotyping of any sort, since I tend to have a different perspective of it.[/QUOTE] Dude, all other things aside, you need to dial down your diction, your reach is exceeding your grasp and it shows.
Talking about different styles I was thinking about cutting my hair shorter then I've ever had it before and then buy myself a pair of round-lens sunglasses. But I've also considered let my hair grow a tad bit longer before I do it.
[QUOTE=TH89;38071107]Dude, all other things aside, you need to dial down your diction, your reach is exceeding your grasp and it shows.[/QUOTE] Explain please? I don' t really pre-edit my posts, I just write whichever word comes to mind at that point in the sentence. Just not sure what your saying here?
[QUOTE=Rhenae;38072846]Explain please? I don' t really pre-edit my posts, I just write whichever word comes to mind at that point in the sentence. Just not sure what your saying here?[/QUOTE] You were verbose and you used bombastic wording for a supposedly simple situation. I understand though, that subject brought some old sensations back.
the guy with the odd hat comes across as trying to hard to be a hipster imo [editline]17th October 2012[/editline] also it's pajama day in my hs, i'm gonna look good as fuck, rockin that ill onesie
[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38073002]You were verbose and you used bombastic wording for a supposedly simple situation. I understand though, that subject brought some old sensations back.[/QUOTE] hi seith
[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38073002]You were verbose and you used bombastic wording for a supposedly simple situation. I understand though, that subject brought some old sensations back.[/QUOTE] At first I thought you were messing with her but then I realised that you're Seith.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38069639]also i did cut too, through all of high school if i remember right. now i have a tattoo over it though so i'm proud to bare my arms. people look at me with intrigue instead of pity now, and ask me questions about my tattoo instead of just judging me based on what i look like[/QUOTE] When I was in Highschool my neighbour used to have lots of cats and they used to hang around in my lawn (the little bastards). Since I loved to mess around with the cats, like picking them up, throwing them into the air and catch them (yeah, silly me, I know), I used to carry lots of scratches and deep cuts from them. So, I dressed in black a lot and my highschool was... a highschool with all the intrigues and shit, plus it used to have lots of anti-social goth kids (and people used to put me in the same bag as them since I was the class "metalhead") and since I used to hang around with lots of cuts and scratches from the cats people used to give me the looks as if I cut myself like the goth kids. I had to explain in a friendly mood it was due to cats. :v:
SO APPARENTLY PEOPLE ARE TALKING ABOUT ME BEHIND MY BACK AND IT IS AWKWARD WEIRD THINGS AND MY FRIEND TOLD ME THAT THEY WERE BUT SHE ISN'T TELLING ME WHAT IT IS BECAUSE IT WOULD BE AWKWARD wat do
[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;38069833] Also, keep in mind that we're both actors. We like to do wackier things that most people avoid doing, and we cherish our own individual styles.[/QUOTE] You are not special for being an actor and you are not different to anyone else for thinking you are an actor
Ok, let's start this shit. I met a girl a while ago, developed a massive crush, and turned out he felt the same apparently. However, she was the ex of my best friend, so before anything happened, I decided to check how he felt. Said it was all good, we started dating, she told me may have a bit of commitment issues, so we decided to take it slow. Eventually, she decided we were dating, and everything was good. Flash forward to a couple of days ago, and she just randomly drops in conversation "by the way, you know how I said I can have a relationship? Well, I lied, I just wanted to check if I could". I'm all sad, but I figure, hell, she's awesome to talk to, at least I have a friend who is interesting. I get a text today saying that she doesn't want to hear from me in any way in a month, just because she can't. Never mind that I have massive attachment issues that she refused to consider, but I bent over backwards to make her comfortable with commitment shit. And to add to that, all of this seems to only have happened after she stopped being angry at my best friend (literally the day after they stopped talking), which suggests I'm just a passive aggressive jab. Well, at least with shit like this, I don't have anymore feelings for her other than whilst she's an awesome person, she is terrifying in a relationship. Sorry, just need to vent
[quote]"by the way, you know how I said I can have a relationship? Well, I lied, I just wanted to check if I could"[/quote] she's a fucking bastard for doing that. that's just such a stupid thing to say
[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;38069833]Also, keep in mind that we're both actors. We like to do wackier things that most people avoid doing, and we cherish our own individual styles.[/QUOTE] actually rofling
[QUOTE=Echoplex;38081294]Ok, let's start this shit. I met a girl a while ago, developed a massive crush, and turned out he felt the same apparently. However, she was the ex of my best friend, so before anything happened, I decided to check how he felt. Said it was all good, we started dating, she told me may have a bit of commitment issues, so we decided to take it slow. Eventually, she decided we were dating, and everything was good. Flash forward to a couple of days ago, and she just randomly drops in conversation "by the way, you know how I said I can have a relationship? Well, I lied, I just wanted to check if I could". I'm all sad, but I figure, hell, she's awesome to talk to, at least I have a friend who is interesting. I get a text today saying that she doesn't want to hear from me in any way in a month, just because she can't. Never mind that I have massive attachment issues that she refused to consider, but I bent over backwards to make her comfortable with commitment shit. And to add to that, all of this seems to only have happened after she stopped being angry at my best friend (literally the day after they stopped talking), which suggests I'm just a passive aggressive jab. Well, at least with shit like this, I don't have anymore feelings for her other than whilst she's an awesome person, she is terrifying in a relationship. Sorry, just need to vent[/QUOTE] Stop wasting your time.
You know those days where you feel tired and socially frustrated/inferior? Yeah. I can't seem to advance anything, or get anywhere. I know I'm feeling kinda burnt out and probably somewhat biased against myself, but eeeh. I feel I need to be more direct and straight-forward and get phone numbers/be a man.
You can try the best you can You can try the best you can The best you can is good enough
She is breaking up with me because 'we do not spend enough time together and its not fair to me.' We see each other on the bus every day, the last time we hung out was less than a week ago. Most depressed I have felt in over a year. [editline]17th October 2012[/editline] Its all sort of just been adding on today, this is just the icing on the god damned cake.
[QUOTE=thisispain;38081314]she's a fucking bastard for doing that. that's just such a stupid thing to say[/QUOTE] She just casually dropped it over the phone, and I called her out on it, and managed to keep her from breaking up through the phone, so a minor win I guess?
Hugs are really nice.
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[QUOTE=Echoplex;38081294]Flash forward to a couple of days ago, and she just randomly drops in conversation "by the way, you know how I said I can have a relationship? Well, I lied, I just wanted to check if I could".[/QUOTE] Wow what a cunt
Here's a complaint. Every single girl in all of my classes at college is butt-ugly. I have to actually go out and look to find one now.
[QUOTE=OrionChronicles;38093702]Here's a complaint. Every single girl in all of my classes at college is butt-ugly. I have to actually go out and look to find one now.[/QUOTE] What major are you in? I'm in astrophysics - there are 3 +/- 4 girls in my program
Has anyone else ever gotten really far with a girl (very close to sex) but then everything just falls apart when she tells you she doesn't just want to be with you? Recently she and I had gotten pretty close. We had been making out a lot and just barely managed to keep ourselves from having sex twice. Three days ago she told me, verbatim, "I like you but I don't want an exclusive relationship with you." I mean, I do appreciate the honesty, but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. And I'm not even sure exactly what she means by that. Does she not want to see me anymore or does she just want to keep me around while she messes around with other guys? Obviously the relationship for all intents and purposes dead in the water, so I'm putting a stop to it. But still, damn...
i had a situation like that for about half a year. if you have strong feelings for her and want to be exclusive then it's best to save your pride and fuck off while you still can. it's no use hanging around for months hoping that she'll suddenly fall for you and decide she was stupid because it's a waste of your time. you could be finding someone better and/or be living a much simpler, less stressful life trust me i've been there
[QUOTE=thisispain;38081754]You can try the best you can You can try the best you can The best you can is good enough[/QUOTE] How optimistic of you.
Fuck, I just got some horrible news. In September of 2010 my moms father started having severe confusion and seizures. Turned out he had a brain tumor that was cancerous and had metastasized(spread) to his lungs. Started treatment, was looking good until december. Started having worse seizures, progressively went downhill until March 13th, 2011 when he passed away as only a fraction of the man he was(inarticulate, feeding tube, nursing home. All that shit :( ). Now my step grandfather is having the same- confusion and seizures. I am almost tearing up writing this. My whole life, my blood grandfather has been uninvolved. He has been my grandfather- I have never thought of him as a step-grandfather. And I cannot lose him. Not another grandfather, not now. We had plans to go to MVTF one of these weekends(he is an ex-tank crewman, M551 Sheridan commander), and I was going to take him flying when I finished getting my PPL. And we're building a 3D printer right now. Annndd I still have a crapload of AP homework but I can't focus because these feels, these feels are horrible.
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