The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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real american
[editline]18th October 2012[/editline]
sheridan crews had serious balls
[QUOTE=OrionChronicles;38093702]Here's a complaint. Every single girl in all of my classes at college is butt-ugly. I have to actually go out and look to find one now.[/QUOTE]
one of my glasses is chock full of attractive ladies and maybe its because theres only 4 guys in there but they just ignore conversation completely and just gossip with their friends which means its boring as shit
my other classes i talk with everyone but if i try to strike up conversation in that one its just "yup. mhmm. ya. okay *goes back to cell phone*"
its like high school all over again
[QUOTE=W0w00t;38096423]real american
[editline]18th October 2012[/editline]
sheridan crews had serious balls[/QUOTE]
Damn right, considering the thing was made out of fucking aluminium and was a prime target for the NVA/VC.
i don't really know how to word this but how do you talk to kids?
i haven't interacted much with people younger than me and i tend to be really awkward with kids. my boyfriend's mom teaches at this russian school and he just told me earlier today that they're hiring people to watch the kids in the late afternoon, i guess like an afterschool program sort of thing. i'm planning to study russian when i move there since his family is russian and i think it'd be a really good opportunity for me, as well as a fun job - i just don't know how well i'd do in that sort of environment.
do you mean toddlers, children, preteens or what?
i think it's elementary school, but i'm not sure. i got the impression they're pretty young though.
edit: apparently they're 1st grade, he said it's a daycare program where they teach russian to kids whose parents are russian.
[QUOTE=Cheesemonkey;38098110]one of my glasses is chock full of attractive ladies[/QUOTE]
there are attractive ladies at the bottom of aLL my glasses!!
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38099577]i think it's elementary school, but i'm not sure. i got the impression they're pretty young though.
edit: apparently they're 1st grade, he said it's a daycare program where they teach russian to kids whose parents are russian.[/QUOTE]
When I was a kid lot's of plastic guns made me happy for hours. I still have plastic AK-47's, M16's, M60's and lots of other stuff in my bedroom closet but nevermind that now.
Well, I know what you mean. I used to be like that too. I felt pretty awkward around kids too but I got used to them pretty quickly.
I don't know about what age are 1st graders there but my aunt used to have lots of sisters and those sisters all got married and had a fuck load of kids. So basically every summer since me and all the family use to hang around in my aunt's farm kids started to go there too.
I kinda remember how I felt so awkward when I was left alone with little kids because honestly, me being a 21 year old and them having like 5 to 10 maximum, was a huge age gap. And all that kids used to do was stare at me for hours, which made me feel even more awkward.
That and I had no idea what to tell them or how to entertain them. It was like I completely forgot how to be a kid, how to have fun as a kid and mostly I felt that kids needed a 100 page instruction manual.
So, bit by bit, I started getting used to them by just spending time with them during the summer. And it's all it takes, getting used to them. That and going through kid's endless questionnaires about EVERYTHING.
I remember this little girl that used to go there too during summer and I don't know why she had this huge fascination about me and followed me everywhere always asking lots and lots of questions like "do you have a girlfriend?" "why do you have long hair? Are you a girl?" - That made me feel pretty awkward but then I just laughed it off and used to answer something randomly funny and she would laugh.
So basically kids are pretty simple to get along with, you just have to know them and most of them they just like to talk, about anything really.
You'll get used to them.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38099542]i don't really know how to word this but how do you talk to kids?
i haven't interacted much with people younger than me and i tend to be really awkward with kids. my boyfriend's mom teaches at this russian school and he just told me earlier today that they're hiring people to watch the kids in the late afternoon, i guess like an afterschool program sort of thing. i'm planning to study russian when i move there since his family is russian and i think it'd be a really good opportunity for me, as well as a fun job - i just don't know how well i'd do in that sort of environment.[/QUOTE]
be very pretentious and condescending.
you can talk to kids ni the same exact way that you talk to other people, you just have to keep your conversation topics a little simpler, and your vocabulary too
otherwise you should be treating them as equals. kids can still have very interesting conversations
Give them to me, I'll handle them. The Seith-like way, as a tribute.
[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38104804]Give them to me, I'll handle them. The Seith-like way, as a tribute.[/QUOTE]
seith and kids
"Hello, Do any of you understand the hyperbolic Communal state of abitrary Relational Abnormality?"
"no"
ugh, i need some break-up advice guys
this girl im dating is just, we aren't compatible, yknow? like, she doesn't get my jokes (she is kinda slow...) and she talks so goddamn much, and it's not like i can change her personality to where she gets my jokes or change the huge factor about her which is: she likes to talk oh so very much. like, if it were entertaining speech, or interesting stuff, it wouldn't be as bad, but she just goes off on this random story nobody cares about, and that may seem mean, but, fucks sake it's getting to the point to where i dont even want to be around here. the relationship started out pretty strong but the talking man...just too much fucking talking, and i think some people might take this as being selflish or not tolerating the other one in the relationship but for fucks sake, everyone she knows says the same thing
i just need some breakup advice because this girl has done nothing to deserve anything mean but it's just, we aren't compatible to date, i'm going out to dinner with her parents tommo and im thinking of putting it off until i make up my mind about this. it's just, if i don't even want to be around her, what does that say about the relationship? fyi this is my first girlfriend but dont think im like socially inept or anything
im thinking about just flat out saying "we need to talk" and then talking to her after school and telling her that "you aren't my type" but in like a nicer way, and telling her we could still be friends. and then use the bus i have to catch as an excuse to leave
[QUOTE=Eeshton;38105600]ugh, i need some break-up advice guys
this girl im dating is just, we aren't compatible, yknow? like, she doesn't get my jokes (she is kinda slow...) and she talks so goddamn much, and it's not like i can change her personality to where she gets my jokes or change the huge factor about her which is: she likes to talk oh so very much. like, if it were entertaining speech, or interesting stuff, it wouldn't be as bad, but she just goes off on this random story nobody cares about, and that may seem mean, but, fucks sake it's getting to the point to where i dont even want to be around here. the relationship started out pretty strong but the talking man...just too much fucking talking, and i think some people might take this as being selflish or not tolerating the other one in the relationship but for fucks sake, everyone she knows says the same thing
i just need some breakup advice because this girl has done nothing to deserve anything mean but it's just, we aren't compatible to date, i'm going out to dinner with her parents tommo and im thinking of putting it off until i make up my mind about this. it's just, if i don't even want to be around her, what does that say about the relationship? fyi this is my first girlfriend but dont think im like socially inept or anything[/QUOTE]
Don't meet her parents and just explain to her you don't find that you are overly compatible. You don't seem to share common interests which is the problem really. So tell her that.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;38103857]you can talk to kids ni the same exact way that you talk to other people, you just have to keep your conversation topics a little simpler, and your vocabulary too
otherwise you should be treating them as equals. [B]kids can still have very interesting conversations[/B][/QUOTE]
This is so true. It's funny how they can even impress you at some points. I guess their innocence and lack of restraint in the words is what makes them be so spot-on sincere, and that's just adorable!
Also, kids love wrestling, so it's alright to pretend you're a monster and let them kick the crap out of you :v:
[editline]19th October 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Eeshton;38105600]ugh, i need some break-up advice guys
this girl im dating is just, we aren't compatible, yknow? like, she doesn't get my jokes (she is kinda slow...) and she talks so goddamn much, and it's not like i can change her personality to where she gets my jokes or change the huge factor about her which is: she likes to talk oh so very much. like, if it were entertaining speech, or interesting stuff, it wouldn't be as bad, but she just goes off on this random story nobody cares about, and that may seem mean, but, fucks sake it's getting to the point to where i dont even want to be around here. the relationship started out pretty strong but the talking man...just too much fucking talking, and i think some people might take this as being selflish or not tolerating the other one in the relationship but for fucks sake, everyone she knows says the same thing
i just need some breakup advice because this girl has done nothing to deserve anything mean but it's just, we aren't compatible to date, i'm going out to dinner with her parents tommo and im thinking of putting it off until i make up my mind about this. it's just, if i don't even want to be around her, what does that say about the relationship? fyi this is my first girlfriend but dont think im like socially inept or anything
im thinking about just flat out saying "we need to talk" and then talking to her after school and telling her that "you aren't my type" but in like a nicer way, and telling her we could still be friends. and then use the bus i have to catch as an excuse to leave[/QUOTE]
I don't know who's say is this from the top of my head but it goes something like "people who talk the most are the people who hide the most".
I don't know at which extend that may apply to her but at some point you feel that she's only there for that endless talk and not for you, right. Like her head is on the clouds and not in your needs and in fulfilling what you need from a person who would love you.
It's funny, and not selfish at all, because my first relationship ever was exactly like that. She lived in a town nearby and our "dates" would only consist in walking in the park, listening to her going on about something and making out, and was just dull, you know.
The embarrassing part was that I already met her parents (they caught us kissing near her place, you should see her mom's face when she saw us :v:), and it was 1 extra pressure point in the relationship, so I would advise you to go with what Rhenae said: don't go meet her parents.
Since probably her head's on the clouds and she isn't noticing how unhappy you are, she'll react badly to the breakup because of the shock. I would advise you to be direct and straightforward.
Don't throw in the common cliches in the book like "I'd still like us to be friends" , "it's not you, it's me" even if those cliches are exactly how you feel, use other words, trust me.
So yeah, you should tell her ASAP that you won't be able to go meet her parents and talk to her about it in person.
In my case, she reacted badly to the breakup. Didn't talk to me for months, but after a while she started talking to me again. But still, her mom gives me this scary look every time she see's me. 2spooky.
hey
theres a girl at school that says hi, talks and jokes around me alot. always says hello in the hallways and starts up conversations with me.
shes really fuckin rad but im kind of nervous. could she be interested? or just trying to be friendly? im afraid to talk to her sometimes because i dont want to be a creep, but she's pretty cool.
[QUOTE=rdotelm;38106018]hey
theres a girl at school that says hi, talks and jokes around me alot. always says hello in the hallways and starts up conversations with me.
shes really fuckin rad but im kind of nervous. could she be interested? or just trying to be friendly? im afraid to talk to her sometimes because i dont want to be a creep, but she's pretty cool.[/QUOTE]
if you like her, make a move and find out
otherwise theres no reason to sit there thinking about it
thanks. sorry if that was a stupid question. the last thing i want to do is start shitting up threads
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;38105750]
In my case, she reacted badly to the breakup. Didn't talk to me for months, but after a while she started talking to me again. But still, her mom gives me this scary look every time she see's me. 2spooky.[/QUOTE]
My mom regularly badtalks my ex boyfriends whenever they come up in conversation, or talk about how they missed the best opportunity. It completely drives me up the walls! You were talking about how he was such a great person and now suddenly him breaking up with me for perfectly reasonable and fair explanations and still being on okay terms makes him a dumb and terrible person?
Ugh.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;38105750]This is so true. It's funny how they can even impress you at some points. I guess their innocence and lack of restraint in the words is what makes them be so spot-on sincere, and that's just adorable!
Also, kids love wrestling, so it's alright to pretend you're a monster and let them kick the crap out of you :v:
[editline]19th October 2012[/editline]
I don't know who's say is this from the top of my head but it goes something like "people who talk the most are the people who hide the most".
I don't know at which extend that may apply to her but at some point you feel that she's only there for that endless talk and not for you, right. Like her head is on the clouds and not in your needs and in fulfilling what you need from a person who would love you.
It's funny, and not selfish at all, because my first relationship ever was exactly like that. She lived in a town nearby and our "dates" would only consist in walking in the park, listening to her going on about something and making out, and was just dull, you know.
The embarrassing part was that I already met her parents (they caught us kissing near her place, you should see her mom's face when she saw us :v:), and it was 1 extra pressure point in the relationship, so I would advise you to go with what Rhenae said: don't go meet her parents.
Since probably her head's on the clouds and she isn't noticing how unhappy you are, she'll react badly to the breakup because of the shock. I would advise you to be direct and straightforward.
Don't throw in the common cliches in the book like "I'd still like us to be friends" , "it's not you, it's me" even if those cliches are exactly how you feel, use other words, trust me.
So yeah, you should tell her ASAP that you won't be able to go meet her parents and talk to her about it in person.
In my case, she reacted badly to the breakup. Didn't talk to me for months, but after a while she started talking to me again. But still, her mom gives me this scary look every time she see's me. 2spooky.[/QUOTE]
well i wouldn't look that deep into it, we're only like, a month and 3 days into relationship, haven't even said "i love you" yet ( i was taught not to say that until you mean it fyi)
I'm starting to get quite annoyed at the super underfunding of schools happening. (I live in NB)
I want to do something to raise more awareness with students and get people involved in pressuring the government to fix it, but what the heck can I do? I honestly can't think of anything I could do anyone got ideas?
(also posted in Canadian Chat Thread, but it is so inactive. It is social advice asking in a way)
Make people aware with campaigns, provocation. You can do everything you want if You really want to...
With all of that in mind, i wonder, why do u care so much?
[QUOTE=Rhenae;38106615]I'm starting to get quite annoyed at the super underfunding of schools happening. (I live in NB)
I want to do something to raise more awareness with students and get people involved in pressuring the government to fix it, but what the heck can I do? I honestly can't think of anything I could do anyone got ideas?
(also posted in Canadian Chat Thread, but it is so inactive. It is social advice asking in a way)[/QUOTE]
My university, like most along the country, is currently or almost bankrupt. Nobody seems to care or even be aware of what's going on. I don't know if tomorrow I'll arrive there and suddenly the government decided to close it or if tomorrow they'll raise the fees. Everything is a mistery around here lately until they drop the bomb. Same shit happened with the train pass. I used to pay 45€ due to students discount and suddenly we all started paying 100€. Naturally lots of students could no longer afford university and had to drop out in the middle of the degree after so much investing in their careers.
Students keep "disappearing" all of a sudden, as in one day you're making an assignment and the next day he's gone because he can no longer pay the fees. (about 1000€ a year divided in 3 along the semesters) and still the situation is scary.
And on the other hand there are people there spending years and years to finish the degree and all you see them doing is going to parties to get drunk.
I hope awareness in Canada is a constant among people (also my mom lived there for a year and she loved it), cause here it's just sad how empty minded people are.
[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38107014]Make people aware with campaigns, provocation. You can do everything you want if You really want to...
With all of that in mind, i wonder, why do u care so much?[/QUOTE]
I care because the education system can't function without proper funding. The university here which my dad works at, is terminally underfunded and has been for ages because it isn't getting enough students or support from the government to get more students.
The grade schools for as long as I attended them were low on cash and this year it is being cut even further, to the point where it is heavily effecting basic classroom necessities like paper, books, and chemicals for class experiments.
This year the highschool I attended had a large influx of grade nine students, all grade nines get a quarter of the year art class, we have two art teachers. This filled so many of their slots, That along with the standard art classes for the tens there are no grade 12 art classes at all this year. There was simply no room for them. The classes run are grade 9 art (mandatory), grade 10 art (Choice, there are 4 "specialities" music art gym and tech in this year you drop one and do another for half the year instead of a quarter), Grade 11 visual arts, and grade 11 graphic art and design. This royally screws over the students who want to do art as a career and the school can't afford another art teacher.
Well how do you start a campaign or such? I'm one student who recently graduated highschool, I just don't really feel like I can do much...
edit:
I don't understand how some people can not care about the education system collapsing in on it's self actually.
Well, education system collapsing is being a worldwide phenomenon nowadays.
We're in dire need of robotic arms in the labs where I study and basically there's only one functioning out of 10.
If art universities are getting that kind of underfunding I can only imagine how science universities are.
I think you should ask permission to post some posters around the university and try to find parnters to give a speech to the university.
At least that's how things work around here.
Try to e-mail the person in charge exposing the situation and get others to e-mail him too.
Yeah. So. I have a problem. I do not have enough time to have a ladyfriend, now or next year. But I do, so I'm cutting into time I really need to do other important stuff (Stuff that will help me get a proper education next year(Then I'll be on the other side of the country, hundreds of miles away)) to spend time with her, but yet she complains I am not spending enough time with her. I've tried talking with her, but she seems to "forget" after a while, and starts complaining again. Should I wait till she breaks up with me, or should I spare her the pain, and my own, and just end it now?
[editline]20th October 2012[/editline]
That's some pageking.
in your position I'd probably end it myself. waiting around for her to do it just drags it out.
I agree. It's just a relationship, no need to hold on to it because the name is such a promising premise.
Then today shall not be a fun day.
You said it...
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