The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Yahnich;38172085]i have never cried, then again i don't have very strong feelings about anything[/QUOTE]
bullshit. i refuse to believe you've never cried.
[QUOTE=Slowbro;38172101]bullshit. i refuse to believe you've never cried.[/QUOTE]
the only person capable of not crying in this thread is seith.
[QUOTE=lotusking;38172131]the only person capable of not crying in this thread is seith.[/QUOTE]
I never cry.
you guys must be sociopaths or something then
fucking belgium is a boring paradise
oh for fuck's sake
you're all discrediting his emotions just because he and his girlfriend met online? obviously they're happy to be together and they're not doing any harm, why do you need to be so condescending? i'm essentially in the same situation as him, so why discredit his posts but take mine seriously?
i had asked him to tell us how things went and his post about it sounded exactly like what my boyfriend and i went through the last few times we were together.
and if you've been through a relationship where you only get to see each other a few times a year, you'd realize there's nothing melodramatic about his post. going home was probably the most painful experience i've ever gone through.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38172237]oh for fuck's sake
you're all discrediting his emotions just because he and his girlfriend met online? obviously they're happy to be together and they're not doing any harm, why do you need to be so condescending? i'm essentially in the same situation as him, so why discredit his posts but take mine seriously?
i had asked him to tell us how things went and his post about it sounded exactly like what my boyfriend and i went through the last few times we were together.[/QUOTE]
yeah
you're kind of right
sorry
The Emotionless Antisocial Lust Advice Thread
Anyways, I think his post was kind of overly dramatic, but I've never been in that situation so hell what do I know.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;38171094]theyre in lust though
theyve essentially known each other for like 4 days
no matter how close you get to someone over the internet its nothing like a real live relationship[/QUOTE]
when i first met my current boyfriend - his name's andrey, i guess this will make it easier - i was already in a 3 year relationship. i spent almost a year trying to make things work with my ex. andrey and i knew we had feelings for each other but didn't act on them because neither of us were crazy about the idea of a long distance relationship.
in spite of us being "just friends", and in spite of the distance, andrey and i had more impact on each other's lives than my ex and i did. my ex had been incredibly secretive about his life when we talked - he was employed but never told me what he did, and never expressed his plans for the future, whereas andrey and i constantly talked about everything in our lives. i knew more about his life, friends, and family than i did about my ex. we would talk on the phone every day, even though every other person in my life knows i despise talking on the phone. at one point i had a panic attack and he got up at 5am to talk to me on the phone for an hour until i calmed down. not only that, but his family and friends all knew about me and every one of them took him seriously and didn't belittle our relationship, even when he told them that we only knew each other online.
[QUOTE=lotusking;38172131]the only person capable of not crying in this thread is seith.[/QUOTE]
not really fair, it's only because he is physically and mechanically incapable. if he were equipped with artificial tear ducts i'm sure he would use them fairly regularly
There's this girl I've liked for a year now. I don't talk to her much but this friday is her birthday. what should I get her?
buying people gifts is tricky, if you don't talk to her much then buying a nice gift is strange and creates an obligation.
[QUOTE=thisispain;38173616]buying people gifts is tricky, if you don't talk to her much then buying a nice gift is strange and creates an obligation.[/QUOTE]
aww fuck. What do I do then? I think it's too late. I joked around and said that I'd get her a birthday present on FB and she said no..
[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;38173631]aww fuck. What do I do then? I think it's too late. I joked around and said that I'd get her a birthday present on FB and she said no..[/QUOTE]
buy her your dick in her mouth
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[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;38173631]aww fuck. What do I do then? I think it's too late. I joked around and said that I'd get her a birthday present on FB and she said no..[/QUOTE]
if she said no then don't get her a gift.
i may be late but on the whole ldr relationship/online relationship thing, i personally know a couple that has been together for ten years and that was the exact situation they were in, albeit not geographically. Things can be really special to someone and be mediocre for someone else, but an e-relationship boils down to the exact same stuff as any other. i know when my girlfriend and I were in different cities for a bit, she'd cry before i even left and I did too. just be happy they're happy.
[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;38173631]aww fuck. What do I do then? I think it's too late. I joked around and said that I'd get her a birthday present on FB and she said no..[/QUOTE]
You seem to have answered your own question there.
[QUOTE=Starpluck;38173995]You seem to have answered your own question there.[/QUOTE]
Alright I guess I have to now then, what should I get? any suggestions on what to get
[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;38174715]Alright I guess I have to now then, what should I get? any suggestions on what to get[/QUOTE]
How do you get "I need to get her something" from "don't get me something"?
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38172237]oh for fuck's sake
you're all discrediting his emotions just because he and his girlfriend met online? obviously they're happy to be together and they're not doing any harm, why do you need to be so condescending? i'm essentially in the same situation as him, so why discredit his posts but take mine seriously?
i had asked him to tell us how things went and his post about it sounded exactly like what my boyfriend and i went through the last few times we were together.
and if you've been through a relationship where you only get to see each other a few times a year, you'd realize there's nothing melodramatic about his post. going home was probably the most painful experience i've ever gone through.[/QUOTE]
im not discrediting his emotions because he met online (that just added to my point) i was discrediting them because they were both young and having fun together but apparently that caused the most emotion heart-wrenching sadness in him just to see her leave, yeah right bud that's called melodrama
[QUOTE=lotusking;38173642]buy her your dick in her mouth
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"what a shame" - jc denton
but yeah, if she said no then its probably not the best idea to get her a gift since it doesn't seem like shes interested :/ sorry bud
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;38175957]im not discrediting his emotions because he met online (that just added to my point) i was discrediting them because they were both young and having fun together but apparently that caused the most emotion heart-wrenching sadness in him just to see her leave, yeah right bud that's called melodrama[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;38171094]theyre in lust though
theyve essentially known each other for like 4 days
no matter how close you get to someone over the internet its nothing like a real live relationship[/QUOTE]
so are we pretending you didn't say this now, or what?
i don't understand
[editline]25th October 2012[/editline]
you're acting condescending toward someone in a situation you clearly have no understanding of and telling him he's not allowed to feel emotional about it because it's not "real". what's the point? he posted here to tell us how it went (as i requested, even, so it's not like it was unwarranted) and vent a bit, and you just responded to tell him he's overreacting because he's not "really" in love and it's just infatuation. who the fuck cares? let him be happy.
I don't know much about psychology and emotions, but what I do know is that sometimes you really just can't help it. They happen, whether you'd like it or not, and for some people they're harder to suppress. Go with the flow, bro (three rhymes booyah).
Obvious tip: Communication.
Me and my girlfriend live 3 hours away (We used to live in the same town but now go to different colleges). Typically, I can only visit once a month which makes me anxious thinking about when I can next visit her next (But when I do its fantastic and enjoyable).
However before I moved out, we both agreed that we should focus on our studies and agreed on when we should talk.
One good thing I feel is that despite us missing each other, we still make the best of our time while we are away.
humans are irrational beings. if we could just erase our emotions because someone tells us we're wrong to feel them, we wouldn't be progressing as a society.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38178287] who the fuck cares? let him be happy.[/QUOTE]
um well hes not happy, hes incredibly sad, and im saying theres no need for all that emotion because it doesnt make sense
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;38180448]um well hes not happy, hes incredibly sad, and im saying theres no need for all that emotion because it doesnt make sense[/QUOTE]
We understood what u said and its still bullshit no matter how u word it.... What u think theres a need off, your opinion, is completely irrelevant and not absolutely true as he may be actually feeling that way.... Logic is subjective
he's sad because he had to go back home after seeing her, not because of the relationship itself. long distance hurts, but do you think they'd be in a relationship if they didn't think the distance was worth it?
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;38180448]um well hes not happy, hes incredibly sad, and im saying theres no need for all that emotion because it doesnt make sense[/QUOTE]
No, I'm only sad because I had to leave her and won't see her again in person for a while, I'm happy because I got to spend time with her.
Which part of "best 4 days of my life" didn't register?
I think the main point was that the text was really cheesy written.
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