• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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really? because [url=http://www.facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1160400&p=38171094&viewfull=1#post38171094]that's not what i got out of this.[/url]
really? because infatuation makes you write things in a really cheesy way [editline]25th October 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38180661]Logic is subjective[/QUOTE] also maybe you can argue about my whole "this is illogical" thing and say its perfectly logical, thats ok and a good argument ...but logic is most definitely not subjective, that's almost the definition of logic
so fucking what "infatuation" usually lasts for up to the first few years of a relationship. i can just about guarantee you've never been in a relationship that passed that phase.
yeah that's true, but so hasn't derp y mail i don't see the point, I also never get so incredibly attached during any of my relationships
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;38182183]i don't see the point, I also never get so incredibly attached during any of my relationships[/QUOTE] I guess we found the issue here then
Jo it turns out, really is a shmo.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;38171094]theyre in lust though theyve essentially known each other for like 4 days no matter how close you get to someone over the internet its nothing like a real live relationship[/QUOTE] when you write shit like this you're essentially saying "even though you've known your boyfriend for two years, and even though he has more impact on your life and vice versa than with anyone else you've ever known, and even though you've seen each other on webcam, talk on the phone regularly, and are there for each other in every way possible, your relationship isn't real because you aren't in physical contact with each other on a regular basis" do you understand how pretentious and ignorant it is to say your real-life relationships are superior to those of people who fell for someone who happens to live far away?
alright you may think its pretentious, i just think that you can't truly connect with someone unless you're with them physically. even skyping 24/7 is nothing like being with someone in person. and no matter how dumb this sounds, there are biological factors too and im not alone in this, google anything about internet relationships and there are tons of people who think on both sides of the argument
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38182385]when you write shit like this you're essentially saying "even though you've known your boyfriend for two years, and even though he has more impact on your life and vice versa than with anyone else you've ever known, and even though you've seen each other on webcam, talk on the phone regularly, and are there for each other in every way possible, your relationship isn't real because you aren't in physical contact with each other on a regular basis" do you understand how pretentious and ignorant it is to say your real-life relationships are superior to those of people who fell for someone who happens to live far away?[/QUOTE] Its pretty obvious hes a reserved kid who hasn't opened up to anybody, thus making him some elite judgmental guy who can express his opinion on whatever he wants because we'er all online so it doesnt even matter like most other things apparently.
[QUOTE=Boss;38182465]Its pretty obvious hes a reserved kid who hasn't opened up to anybody, thus making him some elite judgmental guy who can express his opinion on whatever he wants because we'er all online so it doesnt even matter like most other things apparently.[/QUOTE] um hi i never made any personal attacks here?? why are you doing just that? i have in fact opened up to people, just last night i stayed up until 5:30 talking about pretty personal stuff with someone. in real life. and i do think i am allowed to express my own opinions online because that's what a forum is for: expressing your opinions. are you saying I'm not allowed to share my opinions? [editline]25th October 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38182385]when you write shit like this you're essentially saying "even though you've known your boyfriend for two years,[/QUOTE] also im gonna stop you there, he's known her for 5 months, not 2 years
i'm talking about myself. your statement encompassed all online relationships. i am using myself as an example.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;38182508]just last night i stayed up until 5:30 talking about pretty personal stuff with someone. in real life.[/QUOTE] omg thats what I did just a few days ago and will again 2 months from now WHAT a coincidence You're underestimating something just because it doesn't abide by your own perception of reality. Sometimes there are anomalies, things that might not make sense but they happen anyway. Me and her are both happy, we both have plans for the future. Leaving made both of us cry, because we love eachother. The whole "internet relationship =/= relationship" thing is bullshit. Experience it yourself, and you'll [B]feel [/B] it yourself. It's as real as any other relationship. I'd make a comparison I made a while ago, that internet relationships with occacional meets are no different from a relationship based on an internet dating site. They both root on the internet, only difference is the frequency in meeting. My uncle met his wife through the internet when she lived in the Philippines. They had only known eachother or 2 MONTHS when he flew over to her. He had the same feelings when he had to leave her between their meetings. They now have[B] 2 kids[/B] and have been happily married for [B]11 years.[/B] It might be uncommon, but it's not stupid.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;38182508]um hi i never made any personal attacks here?? why are you doing just that? i have in fact opened up to people, just last night i stayed up until 5:30 talking about pretty personal stuff with someone. in real life. and i do think i am allowed to express my own opinions online because that's what a forum is for: expressing your opinions. are you saying I'm not allowed to share my opinions? [editline]25th October 2012[/editline] also im gonna stop you there, he's known her for 5 months, not 2 years[/QUOTE] I understood what you said about the infatuation phase in recently joined couples, but you kinda make a huge generalization of it. The beginnings of relationship can be filled with cheesy stuff and lots of exagerated feelings towards one another. However I do believe it's during that phase that couples cement their relationships and start improving their partnership. So it's a very natural and healthy phase and should not be discredited as vain just because it was an online relationship. Weather it's gonna work or not, it still remains to be seen.
um is this thread just for girlfriends etc or just general social life?
[QUOTE=DJK;38183326]um is this thread just for girlfriends etc or just general social life?[/QUOTE] anything goes. ask away!
[QUOTE=Derp Y. Mail;38182727]My uncle met his wife through the internet when she lived in the Philippines. They had only known eachother or 2 MONTHS when he flew over to her. He had the same feelings when he had to leave her between their meetings. They now have[B] 2 kids[/B] and have been happily married for [B]11 years.[/B][/QUOTE] Not to be a buzzkill or anything, but isn't that what old people do when they can't get laid in their native country?
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38183358]anything goes. ask away![/QUOTE] well um I dunno It's not a huge problem for me but some of my friends have pointed out that I have like severe trust issues, as in I'm always suspecting people are gonna do something bad. However there have been times when I've trusted people a bit too much and it ended up bad so I just don't know if I'm right to not trust people so easy or if it makes me seem kinda like a dick to everyone else. What are you guys' thoughts?
[QUOTE=DJK;38183388]well um I dunno It's not a huge problem for me but some of my friends have pointed out that I have like severe trust issues, as in I'm always suspecting people are gonna do something bad. However there have been times when I've trusted people a bit too much and it ended up bad so I just don't know if I'm right to not trust people so easy or if it makes me seem kinda like a dick to everyone else. What are you guys' thoughts?[/QUOTE] I wouldnt make a big issue out of the whole trusting people. Your not handing them your pin code for your bank account and if its relationships and people letting you down and you losing trust in them I'd re assess what the other half is looking to get out of the relationship before yourself. You can ignore that shit though as its how ever a big of a deal you make of it and by the sounds of it your friends are giving more of a shit than you. Unless your some cold hearted mother fucker who pumps n dumps in which drinks on you.
[QUOTE=Boss;38183775]I wouldnt make a big issue out of the whole trusting people. Your not handing them your pin code for your bank account and if its relationships and people letting you down and you losing trust in them I'd re assess what the other half is looking to get out of the relationship before yourself. You can ignore that shit though as its how ever a big of a deal you make of it and by the sounds of it your friends are giving more of a shit than you. Unless your some cold hearted mother fucker who pumps n dumps in which drinks on you.[/QUOTE] haha, thanks I guess it isn't that big of a deal about what I confide in people.
[QUOTE=JohanGS;38183385]Not to be a buzzkill or anything, but isn't that what old people do when they can't get laid in their native country?[/QUOTE] He's 33 right now, he was 22 when they met originally. Good old days of email exchange.
Christ almighty you lot are strange sometimes. Derp, congratulations ol' mate-ey-o, I'm happy for you. Reading your recent experience makes me long to enjoy the same connection myself, and I think most of us could only wish such first meetings would go so well. Whether it winds up being a long term thing or not is irrelevant, enjoy what you have now while you can. Sounds like you two are a great match for each other!
SO I ASKED MY FRIEND OUT ON A DATE and she said yes but added just as friends i don't know how to take this i've been friend-zoned but she is still going on a date with me alone should i even still try, is she just shy or coming with me just because she feels bad and i do want her to come with me, it'd be fun even if we just went as friends but still, we were always the third wheel(or third wheels(training wheels?)) during dates i dunno whether this goes in girlfriend advice or social advice probs both
Hey, sup guys! Complicated situation that's hard to chew, any advice? So I'm into this girl, but that girl's into my best friend. My best friend has a girlfriend and he's been a fantastic friend trying to wingman me at the pub with her. Every move I made has been shot down by her in a subtle way though, and she's gone over to my friend to both our irritation. So what I've been doing is I've been trying to charm her to like me. Bought fancy clothes, gotten a haircut, expensive perfume; I've been physical, tried my best to be funny, teasing, energetic and fun but it's not working. In fact on Tuesday I was so fed up I ditched the gang at the pub and went to another one to hook up with random Scots. (Which shouldn't be but was way easier.) But I still don't feel different about her, so... Where the hell do I go from here?
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;38185803]SO I ASKED MY FRIEND OUT ON A DATE and she said yes but added just as friends i don't know how to take this i've been friend-zoned but she is still going on a date with me alone should i even still try, is she just shy or coming with me just because she feels bad and i do want her to come with me, it'd be fun even if we just went as friends but still, we were always the third wheel(or third wheels(training wheels?)) during dates i dunno whether this goes in girlfriend advice or social advice probs both[/QUOTE] No. In my opinion, she's made it pretty clear she didn't want date you. (10,000th post in the thread by the way)
So is it locked now or something?
well hanging out will be fun
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