• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Mon;34839096]if she sends as many mixed messages as this girl did at least i'll know she isn't worth my time[/QUOTE] Yea... ok. Bro, you're over-thinking. yea, a message could be mixed, but it's irrelevant unless she's saying she aint interested in you with your dick in her hand... now thats a mixed message. Anyway, remember mon, think of this relationship shit like a game, like Garry's Mod, except this relationship game needs a pokerface. you can't let the chick know you're into her so you can work her field, you need to SPARK INTEREST! are you an interesting person mon?
[QUOTE=YugiReggie;34839082]ya, but what happens when the next chick rolls along? your probably gonna do something awkward again. why not figure out something that would work[/QUOTE] it wasn't a "no" because he was awkward, it was awkward [i]after[/i] because she said "no" it sucks that she wasn't interested, but it's much better that he attempted to ask her out and got rejected than if he had just waited and waited and done nothing
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;34839257]it wasn't a "no" because he was awkward, it was awkward [i]after[/i] because she said "no" it sucks that she wasn't interested, but it's much better that he attempted to ask her out and got rejected than if he had just waited and waited and done nothing[/QUOTE] Yea, I understood that. I just imagined the whole situation he described to be awkward in general. And im sure mon is interesting enough in his own way to get the hoe on his dick. [B]What I would have done - I wouldn't think it through as like[/B] - [I]Okay, if i impress this girl enough she can be my girlfriend Yay ^_^ oh boy i hope i dont bore her i hope im not awkward ... [/I] [U][I]I'd like of it like:[/I][/U] Okay, this bitch is pretty cool. But i[I] ain't [/I]gonna let her know I think she's alright, instead, I'm gonna chill with her and her friend and demonstrate sexiness to her FRIEND so SHE understands that I'm a sensual guy, Now the BITCHES' FRIEND is really digging me, but it doesnt matter, im just using her to[U] DISPLAY[/U] that I'M valuable and interesting to the main bitch I wanna fuck! Now I get her alone,[B] i be like,[/B] [I][B]Yea, you'se got a pretty cool friend, but I am more curious what what you be like.[/B][/I] There's only a few things she can say to that, usually i'll have the ladies [B]LAUGHING[/B] and having a [B]good TIME [/B]with me. That's important, it's always extremely great to be funny and make women laugh, I sorta imagine laughter kinda like a few drinks, it makes the ladies feel at home, comfortable, secure, and simple hilarity can often lead to sex in my experiences.
Usually I just use my Jedi mind-tricks to get in their pants, but I suppose your method works too, Yugi. [sp]Definitely not sarcasm[/sp] [sp]Here's a hint: both of those previous statements were sarcastic.[/sp]
Damn, the girl I wanted to ask to prom thinks I like her, which is true, but now she just stopped talking to me and is kind of ignoring me when I see her. Guess she wasn't worth it ? :/
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;34839467]Usually I just use my Jedi mind-tricks to get in their pants, but I suppose your method works too, Yugi. [sp]Definitely not sarcasm[/sp] [sp]Here's a hint: both of those previous statements were sarcastic.[/sp][/QUOTE] Lol, it does sound like I'd use a method of some sorts, but all the best games are natural. Even though it sounds silly and a bit mad, what I'm saying holds purpose, I'm not on this thread to troll - My advice WORKS even how crazy it may sound [editline]23rd February 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=lum1naire;34839523]Damn, the girl I wanted to ask to prom thinks I like her, which is true, but now she just stopped talking to me and is kind of ignoring me when I see her. Guess she wasn't worth it ? :/[/QUOTE] [I]TALK TO HER AND BRING IT UP CASUALLY![/I]
No. Don't talk to her about it. Did she give you a direct answer? If she did, act according to the answer (if yes, prepare; if no, drop it and move on). If she did not, ask her again for an answer, then act accordingly. [QUOTE=darcy010;34830782]probably like your accent.[/QUOTE] That is a weird concept to me. "I have an accent? What are you talking about?"
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;34839773]No. Don't talk to her about it. Did she give you a direct answer? If she did, act according to the answer (if yes, prepare; if no, drop it and move on). If she did not, ask her again for an answer, then act accordingly. That is a weird concept to me. "I have an accent? What are you talking about?"[/QUOTE] What do you mean direct answer? A friend of her told me that she told her that she thinks I like her. This was at a party, and ever since then shes just been acting really distant and shit suddenly, but she's still talking to all my close friends like usual. Obviously she's acting like this because she feels awkward with that thought and is trying to push herself away, no? I wasn't even going to tell her that I like her, I simply wanted to ask her to prom.
Sorry. I had misread, I thought you had already asked her to prom. There is no reason not to ask her. I mean, that is how you understand. You can go about it in many ways, but just initiating the conversation directly will be quickest and clearest. Ask her to prom, go from there. Same thing Mon had, only a little different in behavior. If she says no, she says no. That's all there is.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;34840055]Sorry. I had misread, I thought you had already asked her to prom. There is no reason not to ask her. I mean, that is how you understand. You can go about it in many ways, but just initiating the conversation directly will be quickest and clearest. Ask her to prom, go from there. Same thing Mon had, only a little different in behavior. If she says no, she says no. That's all there is.[/QUOTE] I guess so, my only conflict now is with myself, because I'm telling myself why would I want to ask a girl who immediately started ignoring me after finding out something like that. It just doesn't seem like a great idea to ask her anymore is all.
If you are still taken by her, ask her. If only to clear things up. If her ignoring you suddenly bugs you, then forget her (as best you can). Move on. I don't think I can tell you much more than that.
[QUOTE=lum1naire;34840142]I guess so, my only conflict now is with myself, because I'm telling myself why would I want to ask a girl who immediately started ignoring me after finding out something like that. It just doesn't seem like a great idea to ask her anymore is all.[/QUOTE] Be spontaneous about it! "Hey, wanna go to prom with me?" If she aint taken, she'd probably say yes if you came to her that confidently and spontaneous - Out of the blue. Women really appreciate that quality.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;34840167]If you are still taken by her, ask her. If only to clear things up. If her ignoring you suddenly bugs you, then forget her (as best you can). Move on. I don't think I can tell you much more than that.[/QUOTE] Yep, I don't really think there's much I can do but just forget about this and move on, or go for it anyways.
You guys are dicks for banning me, I was 100% serious. I just owned up to it today, and she forgave me and we had make up sex. Jokes on you.
[QUOTE=RopaDope;34840987]You guys are dicks for banning me, I was 100% serious. I just owned up to it today, and she forgave me and we had make up sex. Jokes on you.[/QUOTE] You are so fucking hardcore bragging on the internet so cool wish i could be like you when i grow up because you are obviously the best person in the world bro
[QUOTE=ZZTop;34841188]You are so fucking hardcore bragging on the internet so cool wish i could be like you when i grow up because you are obviously the best person in the world bro[/QUOTE] omg sarcasm. like wow
So this girl asked me a second time to her church, I decided to go and I had an interesting time. I deliberating a nice time to invite her to do something. Probably ask her to hang out with me during a pep band night. (I see what she does, she sees what I do.)
[QUOTE=RopaDope;34840987]Jokes on you.[/QUOTE] Even if your story is true it's really not. [I]Especially[/I] if your story is true.
[QUOTE=YugiReggie;34839283]Yea, I understood that. I just imagined the whole situation he described to be awkward in general. And im sure mon is interesting enough in his own way to get the hoe on his dick. [B]What I would have done - I wouldn't think it through as like[/B] - [I]Okay, if i impress this girl enough she can be my girlfriend Yay ^_^ oh boy i hope i dont bore her i hope im not awkward ... [/I] [U][I]I'd like of it like:[/I][/U] Okay, this bitch is pretty cool. But i[I] ain't [/I]gonna let her know I think she's alright, instead, I'm gonna chill with her and her friend and demonstrate sexiness to her FRIEND so SHE understands that I'm a sensual guy, Now the BITCHES' FRIEND is really digging me, but it doesnt matter, im just using her to[U] DISPLAY[/U] that I'M valuable and interesting to the main bitch I wanna fuck! Now I get her alone,[B] i be like,[/B] [I][B]Yea, you'se got a pretty cool friend, but I am more curious what what you be like.[/B][/I] There's only a few things she can say to that, usually i'll have the ladies [B]LAUGHING[/B] and having a [B]good TIME [/B]with me. That's important, it's always extremely great to be funny and make women laugh, I sorta imagine laughter kinda like a few drinks, it makes the ladies feel at home, comfortable, secure, and simple hilarity can often lead to sex in my experiences.[/QUOTE] I don't know about you, but I think there are better phrases to use than 'get the hoe on a dick'.
yeah uh that guy is [b]FUCKING[/b] [u][i]weird[/i][/u]
[QUOTE=RopaDope;34840987]You guys are dicks for banning me, I was 100% serious. I just owned up to it today, and she forgave me and we had make up sex. Jokes on you.[/QUOTE] Even if you're telling the truth (lol), it doesn't even matter because the opinion will not change in the slightest. - If the story is true then you and your girl friend are dumbasses. - If the story isnt true youre still a dumbass for trying to troll. So I could really give less of a shit.
I suffered a mini heart attack yesterday when I was waiting for the bus with the girl I've been seeing for a while now. She was just keeping me company since she lived nearby. Suddenly she says "I think that is my sister coming towards us". I almost shat my pants and was starting to plan an escape or pretend to be a lost immigrant who doesn't understand the language. She gets up and starts talking to her sister a bit away from the bus stop, then they both approach and I say hello to the sister. The sister then immediately turns towards her and gives a thumbs up and she responds with one as well. I take it that it went well? :v:
why exactly were you so scared of her sister?
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;34845870]why exactly were you so scared of her sister?[/QUOTE] Didn't exactly think that I would be meeting family members anytime soon. Since I doubt they know about me. And I am a bit wary about it since I am middle-eastern (Iranian) so I figured there ought to be some sort of uuuh, I can't really explain it but, she is Swedish and I am not. I know that I would freak out if I found out that my daughter was dating a middle-eastern. :v: "Oh no, Muslim terrorist, I bet he has bombs!" That type of thing really. Then again, I am not Muslim and I have no idea how you make bombs.
[QUOTE=Bootlord;34837203]I gave you a winner because you asked and that's still a winner in my book.[/QUOTE] My book as well. [editline]24th February 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=lum1naire;34840244]Yep, I don't really think there's much I can do but just forget about this and move on, or go for it anyways.[/QUOTE] The truth would be; [i]I sense a negative vibe towards me, therefore, making me feel awkward, so I won't ask her even though I feel I want to and make up excuses for practicing this behavior[/i] Even though that feeling may be true, it can also be false. It just doesn't matter, this is nothing but a limiting belief ([url]http://www.mynlpresources.com/categories/20070826_8[/url]) The only way to deal, and grow, is to experience things that you may fail with. Who knows, maybe something will come out of it... just because she knows you like her, doesn't mean you have to play by her book so easily...
Guys, I'm having trouble getting over my ex-girlfriend and I'm in need of some advice. We broke up 7 months ago but neither of us really knew why we did. We still chat every day and we're always still there for each other when we need it. Hell I drove to her the other month to sit with her while she had a panic attack and went with her to a job interview because she was really nervous about it. It's safe to say we are still really good friends with each other. Since we broke up I've had the days where I've been thinking "Chris, you don't want to be in a relationship with her anymore you're better off just as friends" and I have the days where I miss her a lot and wish we were still together. Much like many people post break up I would imagine. But there are always these little times where I'll get these ideas in my head that there are still chances for us, like around Christmas time she told a close friend of ours that she didn't know why we broke up and that she would probably want to be with me again after new years. Hearing this of course got my hopes up but since then nothing really happened and we carried on as normal, but I always had that idea in my head that it was going to be. Fast forward to two days ago. We were talking at work and somehow we got onto the topic of dating and she told me about a girl at work that supposedly has a crush on me (I really have no feelings for this girl at all, she is what some people would call "the crazy"). Anyway my Ex asked me if I'd be upset if she had been seeing someone else. I'd convinced myself up until this point that I would be fine with it and just told her that I'd be cool with it. She kinda just said "Ohh" and looked a bit saddened by this and then told me that she had been seeing someone for a short while and he'd taken her out for valentines day, met her family and they are going out several times over the weekend. She keeps on insisting that she doesn't know if this is going to be a relationship despite all of this. And to be honest it's kinda knocked me back a bit, I keep thinking about how they'll be out together and while I don't feel what I'd call sad I don't feel happy either I just have this knotting feeling in my stomach and I get really restless. Not much can really take my mind off of it except from times when I'm with my friends and I only see them like 2 times a week. I know they are out tonight together and it keeps playing on my mind and I hate the fact I can't stop thinking about it. I don't want to be the jealous Ex, I really don't. I've always done what I thought was best for her and I just want her to be happy. But right now I'm just having a hard time accepting it. Any help you guys can offer is really appreciated, and I'm sorry for this massive wall of text I just need to type it out and get it off my chest.
[QUOTE=Boomslang;34848069]I don't want to be the jealous Ex, I really don't. I've always done what I thought was best for her and I just want her to be happy. But right now I'm just having a hard time accepting it. Any help you guys can offer is really appreciated, and I'm sorry for this massive wall of text I just need to type it out and get it off my chest.[/QUOTE] You're totally validated in feeling jealous about your ex-girlfriend. The first break up is hard to get over especially if your partner moves on faster than you did. I can tell you for a fact that you're doing the right thing by not lashing out at her because of your jealousy. The hard part of the break up process is deciding to keep in contact with her (I assume from your story that you work with her). Since it will be hard for you to split from her entirely unless you quit your job, you're going to need to remind yourself that you both broke up with each other because you were not right for each other. Any other thought about your relationship possibly able to be salvaged with her will only be painful and incorrect because she is dating other people. You have to your find your own way to move on from her, because everyone is different in how they cope with a break up. Otherwise, you're doing a good job holding yourself together and working through it especially when you probably see each other close to a daily basis.
Just saying, whenever you break up or get broken up with, cut off all contact with that person. You will both be sore and situations such as this will crop up. You can possibly be friends down the road, but in the begining you need to seperate yourself from that person or else you will just wind up in more pain and drama. It is the healthiest thing and it helps you become independent again without thinking of the other or seeing them doing well without you.
[QUOTE=1chains1;34849318]Just saying, whenever you break up or get broken up with, cut off all contact with that person. You will both be sore and situations such as this will crop up. You can possibly be friends down the road, but in the begining you need to seperate yourself from that person or else you will just wind up in more pain and drama. It is the healthiest thing and it helps you become independent again without thinking of the other or seeing them doing well without you.[/QUOTE] He doesn't exactly have that choice unless he quits working or asks for hours completely devoid of contact with her.
[QUOTE=Evilan;34849459]He doesn't exactly have that choice unless he quits working or asks for hours completely devoid of contact with her.[/QUOTE] A perfect situation then, for him to learn to deal with his emotions, instead of denying them and by thus creating an even stronger resonance within his logical mind, each and every time he decides to "quick fix".
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