The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=RopaDope;34902612]You have alot to learn my friend.[/QUOTE]
I don't even
[QUOTE=RopaDope;34902612]
You have alot to learn my friend.[/QUOTE]
The value of pimp friends, for example.
[editline]28th February 2012[/editline]
That's the lesson we're shooting for right?
I never really expected her to say yes anyway. She says she's shy and she told me she doesn't like her friends at school, but when she's with them it doesn't seem like that's the case so she's probably doing something similar to me. Also it was text based because we hardly get a chance to see each other and she's in high school so her standards are already pretty low.
[QUOTE=Hmn30;34901191]I don't think I'm bad looking, so why is it that I tend to get rejected when I ask a girl to dance?
[editline]27th February 2012[/editline]
also, dancing tips? So far I rely on drinking to ignore the fact that I don't really know how to dance (but that doesn't answer the first question, since I ask random girls who haven't seen me dance yet)[/QUOTE]
There are 500 reasons as to why you get rejected. It's how you project yourself.
[QUOTE=Seith;34906168][B]There are 500 reasons as to why you get rejected.[/B] It's how you project yourself.[/QUOTE]
No there isn't.
The girls probably:
1. Didn't want to dance
2. Didn't want to possibly embarrass themselves.
3. Were hanging out with their friends or shy.
Asking a girl to dance is just an awkward approach if you do not know her well because you're basically going to be at a pretty intimate distance while dancing. Dancing isn't the easiest way to get to know the person you are interested in and girls just like guys are conscious about how they dance unless they are in a group of other people doing it. That is why in clubs girls are more likely to dance because they are in a mass of people who are also dancing like idiots and generally the girls who do want to dance are guess what; already dancing! Girls who are sitting at bars and tables at any place that has dancing as a main feature are probably not interested in dancing but talking.
[QUOTE=PIDGINZ;34905005][b]I never really expected her to say yes anyway.[/b] She says she's shy and she told me she doesn't like her friends at school, but when she's with them it doesn't seem like that's the case so she's probably doing something similar to me. Also it was text based because we hardly get a chance to see each other and she's in high school so her standards are already pretty low.[/QUOTE]
Issue.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;34912400]Issue.[/QUOTE]
it doesn't hurt to ask
[QUOTE=1chains1;34908080]No there isn't.
The girls probably:
1. Didn't want to dance
2. Didn't want to possibly embarrass themselves.
3. Were hanging out with their friends or shy.
Asking a girl to dance is just an awkward approach if you do not know her well because you're basically going to be at a pretty intimate distance while dancing. Dancing isn't the easiest way to get to know the person you are interested in and girls just like guys are conscious about how they dance unless they are in a group of other people doing it. That is why in clubs girls are more likely to dance because they are in a mass of people who are also dancing like idiots and generally the girls who do want to dance are guess what; already dancing! Girls who are sitting at bars and tables at any place that has dancing as a main feature are probably not interested in dancing but talking.[/QUOTE]
Then, how should I approach the girls that I don't know at all?
[QUOTE=Hmn30;34914410]Then, how should I approach the girls that I don't know at all?[/QUOTE]
start with a polite greeting
talking about those 200-300 people parties where it's a girl's birthday or something and she sends out invitations and shit (we're around 17, if that matters)
[QUOTE=1chains1;34908080]No there isn't.
The girls probably:
1. Didn't want to dance
2. Didn't want to possibly embarrass themselves.
3. Were hanging out with their friends or shy.
Asking a girl to dance is just an awkward approach if you do not know her well because you're basically going to be at a pretty intimate distance while dancing. Dancing isn't the easiest way to get to know the person you are interested in and girls just like guys are conscious about how they dance unless they are in a group of other people doing it. That is why in clubs girls are more likely to dance because they are in a mass of people who are also dancing like idiots and generally the girls who do want to dance are guess what; already dancing! Girls who are sitting at bars and tables at any place that has dancing as a main feature are probably not interested in dancing but talking.[/QUOTE]
ok
[QUOTE=Seith;34915335]ok[/QUOTE]No unnecessarily big words or incoherent rants?!? You're on the right track
[QUOTE=Glitch360;34915801]No unnecessarily big words or incoherent rants?!? You're on the right track[/QUOTE]
I disagree on incoherent, yet agree on the "right track" part. Changing perceptions is impossible, especially on facepunch.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;34912965]it doesn't hurt to ask[/QUOTE]
But the doubt doesn't help.
It states, essentially, okay, you have no reason to do anything with me, then asks.
If he had just asked, it would have been higher chances of yes.
[editline]28th February 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Seith;34915994]I disagree on incoherent, yet agree on the "right track" part. Changing perceptions is impossible, especially on facepunch.[/QUOTE]
Of course you disagree with "incoherent," you write the damn pieces.
To us English speakers, the way you form your words makes no sense.
I understand what he writes just fine.
So I hardly ever "fall" for anyone. It's kind of annoying, really. I'm pretty confident about myself, I don't think I'm the pinnacle of man or anything but I think I'm a pretty alright guy. I talk to plenty of girls, but I just never really find any that I want to get past being friends with. I got burned really fucking bad the last time I fell for someone, not sure if that counts towards anything or not, it doesn't feel too bad any more so I figure it doesn't, but who knows. Anyone know what the problem might be?
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;34916654]But the doubt doesn't help.
It states, essentially, okay, you have no reason to do anything with me, then asks.
If he had just asked, it would have been higher chances of yes.
[editline]28th February 2012[/editline]
Of course you disagree with "incoherent," you write the damn pieces.
To us English speakers, the way you form your words makes no sense.[/QUOTE]
Makes no sense, yet you are able to comment just fine and in context.
Be more accurate, it would sound less absurd.
[editline]28th February 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=evilweazel;34916960]So I hardly ever "fall" for anyone. It's kind of annoying, really. I'm pretty confident about myself, I don't think I'm the pinnacle of man or anything but I think I'm a pretty alright guy. I talk to plenty of girls, but I just never really find any that I want to get past being friends with. I got burned really fucking bad the last time I fell for someone, not sure if that counts towards anything or not, it doesn't feel too bad any more so I figure it doesn't, but who knows. Anyone know what the problem might be?[/QUOTE]
I need more details. This might be a defense mechanism against getting hurt. But at this point, I'm only assuming.
Describe the feeling. Are you sexually attracted?
[QUOTE=Seith;34916995]
I need more details. This might be a defense mechanism against getting hurt. But at this point, I'm only assuming.
Describe the feeling. Are you sexually attracted?[/QUOTE]
Not sure what feeling you're talking about. And if you're talking about girls, yeah of course. I can still recognize that "Oh yeah she's really cute" or shit like that but it's never anything that'd make me wanna be more than friends. I know it sounds like it would be, but it just doesn't happen.
[QUOTE=evilweazel;34917087]Not sure what feeling you're talking about. And if you're talking about girls, yeah of course. I can still recognize that "Oh yeah she's really cute" or shit like that but it's never anything that'd make me wanna be more than friends. I know it sounds like it would be, but it just doesn't happen.[/QUOTE]
Just doesn't happen? I see. So, you wish for it to happen but it never happens? It sounded like the opposite at first - You talk to girls and always put them in the friendzone.
[QUOTE=Seith;34917220]Just doesn't happen? I see. So, you wish for it to happen but it never happens? It sounded like the opposite at first - You talk to girls and always put them in the friendzone.[/QUOTE]
I suppose that's it for the most part. I still don't get why it happens, it's not like I find little meaningless flaws in people and just let those block me off, it just doesn't happen, like I said. I know it's probably just the way I am but it's still frustrating as all hell.
You shoot a quick line, pull her up, and take her to dance. There really isn't any asking part to dancing. If she says no, then move on to the next girl (at a distance). Although if you can't dance, well you better learn with your sister or mom. Or hit up middle school/freshman parties or something to save yourself the embarrassment.
[QUOTE=RopaDope;34920158]You shoot a quick line, pull her up, and take her to dance. There really isn't any asking part to dancing. If she says no, then move on to the next girl (at a distance). Although if you can't dance, well you better learn with your sister or mom. Or hit up middle school/freshman parties or something to save yourself the embarrassment.[/QUOTE]
this is also a great way to learn how to have sex
unfortunately most of the girls who are going to want to dance with you are going to be the slutty hot ones who only date football players. however if you're talking about the kind of party i think you're talking about, the football players tend to actually choose to dance with each other. this is not a phenomenon i will endeavor to explain, but ive observed that a lot of times those girls who are going to dance will be impressed enough by your balls to approach them that if you do it with (forgive me) swag they might just pull you in
hope I didn't come off too maverickesque here!
[editline]28th February 2012[/editline]
nothing is a guarantee tho it's just my observation that girls tend to want to dance with a guy who doesn't move like an epilepsy victim and sacks up and goes up to them.
[QUOTE=Seith;34916995]Makes no sense, yet you are able to comment just fine and in context.
Be more accurate, it would sound less absurd.[/QUOTE]
I sound absurd? Whatever.
I don't know how better to explain myself.
True, sometimes you do make sense, but not always, and less oft than not.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;34920527]this is also a great way to learn how to have sex[/QUOTE]
You're actually right minus the ignoring no part/sister mom thing.
So I'm best friends with this girl. But ever since last week she's been ignoring me and stuff. I didn't know the reason till Monday this week, in which my other best friend told me that he told her that I had feelings for her(He is a huge asshole most of the time). Which explains why she's been acting weird around me. And if I just ask her what's wrong she'll just reply with 'nothing'.
So what do FP? I need help. Oh btw I don't have feelings for this girl at all.
Tell her exactly what your telling us.
You don't have feelings for her like your other 'friend' lied about and you want her to stop acting weird so you can continue being besties. That easy.
[QUOTE=Dr. Disciple;34923484]Tell her exactly what your telling us.
You don't have feelings for her like your other 'friend' lied about and you want her to stop acting weird so you can continue being besties. That easy.[/QUOTE]
Aye, I'm going to do it tomorrow now that I found the reason to as why she's acting weird. But what bothers me the most is that this one lie could probably stick and she'll still feel awkward around me or something and end screwing up this friendship.
Well shit. I've been diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes, and I feel pretty fucking low. I know it could be worse, but damn, that sucks...
Anyone got any advice to deal with it? Not getting bogged down by the situation (etc)
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;34920656][b]unfortunately most of the girls who are going to want to dance with you are going to be the slutty hot ones who only date football players.[/b] however if you're talking about the kind of party i think you're talking about, the football players tend to actually choose to dance with each other. this is not a phenomenon i will endeavor to explain, but ive observed that a lot of times those girls who are going to dance will be impressed enough by your balls to approach them that if you do it with (forgive me) swag [b]they might just pull you in[/b]
hope I didn't come off too maverickesque here!
[editline]28th February 2012[/editline]
nothing is a guarantee tho it's just my observation that girls tend to want to dance with a guy who doesn't move like an epilepsy victim and sacks up and goes up to them.[/QUOTE]
O.K. You are not close to being a Maverick. Trust me.
[editline]29th February 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;34922090]I sound absurd? Whatever.
I don't know how better to explain myself.
True, sometimes you do make sense, but not always, and less oft than not.[/QUOTE]
:)
[editline]29th February 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Jacko245;34924563]Well shit. I've been diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes, and I feel pretty fucking low. I know it could be worse, but damn, that sucks...
Anyone got any advice to deal with it? Not getting bogged down by the situation (etc)[/QUOTE]
Welcome to my world, my friend.
PM me with the questions.
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