• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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I am really depressed not knowing if we are going out or not, because I don't know if I can hold her hand or have ANY FUCKING REAL HUMAN INTERACTION other than talking, I love spending time with her, but I can't go on not knowing, I have a great time but I can't help but feel that I have really fucked up my not holding her hand or shit like that. I just don't know what to do.
Just an update to my situation that some of you may or may not remember. I really want to ask the girl out, but there hasn't really been an opportunity (the two of us haven't been relatively alone). I know trying to catch her after class is an option but I feel it would be easier if I'm talking to her beforehand or something.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;34519709]Imma ask this girl out tomorrow I can't wait. [editline]2nd February 2012[/editline] I'm excited and feel like I'm gonna hurl at the same time.[/QUOTE] Did you get a chance?
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;34535220]maybe ask her out [I]on a date[/I] (in italic)?[/QUOTE] HOW.
[QUOTE=flamehead5;34535642]HOW.[/QUOTE] Say "Hey, we should go on a date." Although, if you're getting worked up over a single girl like this, it might be time to take a step back and re-evaluate the situation a bit. You shouldn't feel the need to kill yourself because someone may or may not be going out with you.
[QUOTE=Evilan;34535694]Say "Hey, we should go on a date." Although, if you're getting worked up over a single girl like this, it might be time to take a step back and re-evaluate the situation a bit. You shouldn't feel the need to kill yourself because someone may or may not be going out with you.[/QUOTE] She is the single most attractive girl I have ever seen and we have more in common than almost anyone else I know and she actually hangs out with me unlike any other girl that just ignored me. People said throughout highschool and even after "There will be some people like will want to go out with you" Well there is no some, there is one, and I won't spend another 17 years alone because I lose her. I have done things to get her attention and talk to her that I have done for nobody else, because there is some connection inside, some spark that drives me to try to be with her, a feeling that has never been felt in my life.
[QUOTE=flamehead5;34536122]She is the single most attractive girl I have ever seen and we have more in common than almost anyone else I know and she actually hangs out with me unlike any other girl that just ignored me. People said throughout highschool and even after "There will be some people like will want to go out with you" Well there is no some, there is one, and I won't spend another 17 years alone because I lose her. I have done things to get her attention and talk to her that I have done for nobody else, because there is some connection inside, some spark that drives me to try to be with her, a feeling that has never been felt in my life.[/QUOTE] Dude, you're so drunk with infatuation you don't even realize it. There is only one way this is going to end for you and that is in more disappointment if you try to pursue her. Dating her is only going to mask your obvious emotional instability and [b]when[/b] she dumps you, you're going to be right back here. Except you won't even have her as a friend, let alone a love interest. You need to take a step back and look to balance your emotions. You're still in high school and you still have your youth. You'll find someone, even if it may not be her.
[QUOTE=Evilan;34536208]Dude, you're so drunk with infatuation you don't even realize it. There is only one way this is going to end for you and that is in more disappointment if you try to pursue her. Dating her is only going to mask your obvious emotional instability and [b]when[/b] she dumps you, you're going to be right back here. Except you won't even have her as a friend, let alone a love interest. You need to take a step back and look to balance your emotions. You're still in high school and you still have your youth. You'll find someone, even if it may not be her.[/QUOTE] So what your saying ultimately is, I will not possibly get her even though I haven't said any of this to her (And I am not in highschool thanks) I just had a talk with a good friend who just simply advised me to be patient because we have a lot in common and we enjoy eachothers company.
[QUOTE=flamehead5;34536241]So what your saying ultimately is, I will not possibly get her even though I haven't said any of this to her (And I am not in highschool thanks) I just had a talk with a good friend who just simply advised me to be patient because we have a lot in common and we enjoy eachothers company.[/QUOTE] You'll probably get her, but it won't be long before she dumps you as you currently are. At least listen to your friend if you won't listen to me. He's right, be patient and work out your issues first (like the obvious infatuation).
[QUOTE=Evilan;34536265]You'll probably get her, but it won't be long before she dumps you as you currently are. At least listen to your friend if you won't listen to me. He's right, be patient and work out your issues first (like the obvious infatuation).[/QUOTE] So she is going to dump me because I am afraid that I can't ask her out....
[QUOTE=flamehead5;34536318]So she is going to dump me because I am afraid that I can't ask her out....[/QUOTE] What are you talking about? We're past the subject of you asking her out. The answer to that question is don't. The reason you shouldn't ask her out is because of your post in the "Depression Chat Thread." Thinking about killing yourself because you can't ask her out and saying "I won't spend another 17 years alone because I lose her" because you don't have her is not normal thinking. Work on changing your mindset before even considering going further than friends with her.
[QUOTE=Evilan;34536379]What are you talking about? We're past the subject of you asking her out. The answer to that question is don't. The reason you shouldn't ask her out is because of your post in the "Depression Chat Thread." Thinking about killing yourself because you can't ask her out and saying "I won't spend another 17 years alone because I lose her" because you don't have her is not normal thinking. Work on changing your mindset before even considering going further than friends with her.[/QUOTE] Just sick of feeling alone I guess, I was feeling pretty shitty, but I feel quite a bit better now.
Euuuugh. I didn't ask that girl out. I've told myself I didn't really get a decent chance tonight and while that's partially true it might be half rationalization. Regardless, I got home, put my hand on the doorknob and went aaaaaaAAAAAUUUGGHH fuck now I have to wait around like a twat another two days. I think I might die of anticipation. Now if you'll excuse me: [IMG]http://i39.tinypic.com/24g39f6.jpg[/IMG]
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;34536791]Euuuugh. I didn't ask that girl out. I've told myself I didn't really get a decent chance tonight and while that's partially true it might be half rationalization. Regardless, I got home, put my hand on the doorknob and went aaaaaaAAAAAUUUGGHH fuck now I have to wait around like a twat another two days. I think I might die of anticipation. Now if you'll excuse me: [IMG]http://i39.tinypic.com/24g39f6.jpg[/IMG][/QUOTE] [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U6zQ6ZqEqg0[/media]
It's times like these I'd rather people flat-out told me they weren't interested rather than leaving me hanging on my feelings. It hurts when you find out she's interested in another guy when she confides said information with your [I]best friend.[/I]
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;34536791]Euuuugh. I didn't ask that girl out. I've told myself I didn't really get a decent chance tonight and while that's partially true it might be half rationalization. Regardless, I got home, put my hand on the doorknob and went aaaaaaAAAAAUUUGGHH fuck now I have to wait around like a twat another two days. I think I might die of anticipation.[/QUOTE] Call her up. Ask to meet up somewhere. Do shit with her. Say it was fun. Ask if she wants to go out on an actual date next time. You can do it mang.
Hi there, I come seeking advice. So yesterday our college had it's Valentines ball. Skipping out most of the story, a girl who I think was into me and I her snogged in what was probably a moment of drunken ecstasy. The problem is that I've upset her somehow and her friends are giving me shit for it. I plan on talking to her on Monday, but I don't really know what I should say. Any advice there?
[QUOTE=ffffff-;34540060]Hi there, I come seeking advice. So yesterday our college had it's Valentines ball. Skipping out most of the story, a girl who I think was into me and I her snogged in what was probably a moment of drunken ecstasy. The problem is that I've upset her somehow and her friends are giving me shit for it. I plan on talking to her on Monday, but I don't really know what I should say. Any advice there?[/QUOTE] I had a professor who always liked to tell us stories about his divorces and how he salvaged the friendship he shared with those he separated from. My advice to you is to confront the situation directly, just make sure you figure out what's bugging her. Since you're a bit vague on the details as to why she might be a little pissy (possibly crappy kisser), you may be forced to deal with the situation yourself. Just try to be civil about it, and don't raise your voice to her. It's okay to mad with whatever she has to say, just try not to act out on it.
so i've been with the girl from my date yesterday and we were talking we agreed that a relationship would ruin what we have and decided to be just friends with benefits, then we see how it goes from then on. lets see how this goes, kind of relief for me since i was worried she was one of those needy relationship girls
Friends with benefits is a really awesome thing, but usually it ends bad. Either way someone is starting to having feelings or finds another guy. :v: Although I prefer a full relationship.
the 2nd option isn't bad at all, because to begin with you guys declared "friends with benefits"
[QUOTE=junker|154;34541155]Friends with benefits is a really awesome thing, but usually it ends bad. Either way someone is starting to having feelings or finds another guy. :v: Although I prefer a full relationship.[/QUOTE] we decided that if we have stronger feelings for each other over time, and we probably will, then we go for the full thing. We discussed how we should start becoming real friends and then moving on our thing as we go, so being friends with benefits is really great especially since we get to become friends AND have the benefits of a relationship without being in one. All for one day that we do have a relationship it will be less prone to failure. seems like a good plan
Sounds a bit weird though and does not make any sense. Just take things natural. But everyone is different, eh?
So I went to go home (family home) today to get a nice break, but it was snowing and the train was cancelled. And then the next train was delayed. And then cancelled. So I just went back to my house, gonna stay in with a book and a glass of wine. Or a J. Also I've decided to actually try and quit smoking cigarettes! Like properly. I have this snazzy e-cig to help: [URL=http://s1158.photobucket.com/albums/p601/TommyTinkles/?action=view&current=IMG_20120204_153348.jpg][IMG]http://i1158.photobucket.com/albums/p601/TommyTinkles/th_IMG_20120204_153348.jpg[/IMG][/URL]
[QUOTE=Evilan;34539496]Call her up. Ask to meet up somewhere. Do shit with her. Say it was fun. Ask if she wants to go out on an actual date next time. You can do it mang.[/QUOTE] Unfortunately I don't have her number. I'm really bad about that. I have an assortment of my friends' phone numbers without much rhyme or reason. Now that I think about it it was best I didn't do anything last night since I had absolutely no idea what to do with her. We live in a smallish town and neither of us have cars. That limits us slightly for options. [editline]4th February 2012[/editline] I should see her tomorrow so that gives me today to figure something out.
[QUOTE=DrBreen;34540761]so i've been with the girl from my date yesterday and we were talking we agreed that a relationship would ruin what we have and decided to be just friends with benefits, then we see how it goes from then on. lets see how this goes, kind of relief for me since i was worried she was one of those needy relationship girls[/QUOTE] You tell us you have experience last page then youre naive enough to do this shit? She is pretty much saying "Yo I am into you and all, but I am also into this guy and can't make up my mind so I will just have you both." You of course, believe that she is "scared" to ruin the good thing yall have so youre being pranced around like a pony. You think youre cool with it and then youre going to get attached and one day walk in on her humping one of her other "guy friends" and it is going to tear your heart out. Good luck with that.
[QUOTE=flamehead5;34536424]Just sick of feeling alone I guess, I was feeling pretty shitty, but I feel quite a bit better now.[/QUOTE] if you can't find happiness in yourself, by yourself, you'll never get it from someone else. you've got a lot of maturing to do before you're ready for a serious relationship. you're placing all of your happiness in her and you don't even have her; you're setting yourself up for failure. think about where you are now. sure, you don't have her. but you're in good health, you have a computer in front of you, and you have a friend who is willing to talk it out with you. find happiness in those things you have already, and everything else will follow of its own accord. then and only then should you ask her out if you want this relationship to go anywhere.
[QUOTE=1chains1;34542935]You tell us you have experience last page then youre naive enough to do this shit? She is pretty much saying "Yo I am into you and all, but I am also into this guy and can't make up my mind so I will just have you both." You of course, believe that she is "scared" to ruin the good thing yall have so youre being pranced around like a pony. You think youre cool with it and then youre going to get attached and one day walk in on her humping one of her other "guy friends" and it is going to tear your heart out. Good luck with that.[/QUOTE] We've been hanging out for a while, and she, believe it or not asked me out. If it were otherwise, your posts would be my thoughts exactly, however due to the circumstances i think i should give this a try. Anyways, heartbreak isn't so bad, sure it feels terrible but in the end, most of times it shapes you to be a better person. if you know what i mean, i don't know how to explain that in words to be honest
I was talking to her, and she ended up saying we were friends. (I never asked her out or implied that I did want to ask her out) Now what? I know in eventually I am going to get in a shitty depressed mood again whenever something small goes wrong, so I'll just stay away from everyone when it happens.
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