• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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Yeah, people will probably call you an asshole. But hey you are making the best out of it, just try to be somewhat honest.
Things appear to be speeding up for me with the girl I've been seeing. Met her four times these past two weeks. So far so good. We both seem to think that we are boring each other even though we are both having fun. Which seems a bit odd and perhaps humorous now that I think about it. We are both immensely bad when it comes to the whole "serious" talk thing. I was trying to say that I like her but me being me, I ended up saying: "As you can tell, I am an awesome person. Just like vampires can tell if somebody else is a vampire, I can tell if somebody is awesome. When I look at you my awesome-sense skyrockets." Really weird thing to say, but she started to laugh and smile as I was saying it. So yet another crazy thing that I managed to pull off. :v:
Girlfriend wants to break up with me because she has exams and we argue too much. She says she can't cope as she has a lot of stress right now. What do I do.
Comfort her, exams will eventually be over and there are times in a relationship where things are stressful. Just try to avoid a few conflicts if possible, give her some hope. Try to make her life a bit easier by helping out. [editline]3rd March 2012[/editline] Oh god I just called my ex-girlfriend in the psychatric hospital. I never felt so confused and messed up for such a long time. What is happening.
How do I flirt. I can't figure it out. All day yesterday I kept making awkward eye contact with a girl I like very much, but I couldn't spit anything out and I probably looked like a retard averting my eyes.
[QUOTE=gerbile5;34973443]gimme some input here guys i have this friend who i do like, and would like to ask out. she has just broken up with her boyfriend about a week ago, so at the moment that is COMPLETELY out of the question, because of course it's not proper, and it's just dumb. [/QUOTE] Can someone clarify for me what the standard is for asking someone out after they break up with someone else? I had heard it's polite to wait like a month, but when I tried following that advice, someone else beat me to the punch. Based on what I've read in this thread, there is no set social convention, so a week is fine depending on the breakup. Is that true?
Depends on how messy the breakup is, if the person is in a vulnerable emotional state, give it a month or so, if it ended without too my fuss a week or so might be enough.
[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;34980149]Depends on how messy the breakup is, if the person is in a vulnerable emotional state, give it a month or so, if it ended without too my fuss a week or so might be enough.[/QUOTE] But then watch as someone else makes a move and gets the girl and you feel like shit for waiting.
oh my the only girl I've ever felt was really really into me and I don't like her as anything more than a close friend
do you mean felt as in felt up? or had feeling for? [editline]4th March 2012[/editline] oh felt was really into me i get it
no I meant felt up [editline]3rd March 2012[/editline] no just kidding [editline]3rd March 2012[/editline] or am I?
My school does this thing called awareness weekend where basically everyone gets together and shares their feelings. I'm naturally cynical about this kind of stuff but I was going to attend this year but couldn't due to conflicts. Anyway now I see all the kids blowing up twitter and Facebook with "#lifechanging" and shit and really the only reason I'm posting this is so I dont go on those sites and say basically that they will all be back to their shitty selves within the month like they were last year. Also I'm sure this posts makes me seem like one of those self important spergs that loathe everyone but it's really only a select few who are really irritating me with this nonsense. Thanks for listening though!
Nah dude, make a status about it. It'll be worth it.
Why must you tempt me? I honestly would but I have some very friends who went and I don't want to ruin it for them.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;34984075]My school does this thing called awareness weekend where basically everyone gets together and shares their feelings. I'm naturally cynical about this kind of stuff but I was going to attend this year but couldn't due to conflicts. Anyway now I see all the kids blowing up twitter and Facebook with "#lifechanging" and shit and really the only reason I'm posting this is so I dont go on those sites and say basically that they will all be back to their shitty selves within the month like they were last year.[/QUOTE] i started a marxist student group when i was a teenager and we basically protested against shit like this. though we weren't just kinda spergy like you because all the shit was heavily biased towards christian indoctrination (UK primary school) and we didn't like that. basically i know how you feel bro
Ah yes this isn't that. I really would have liked to go and I'm a little sad that I wasn't able to, but there are some people who I know have been there multiple times and are posting "#love" and are going to be assholes again in a month at most. And now I wrote to my friends who did go that i wish i could have gone, and they're jumping down my throat because I allegedly "bashed" the whole thing. I bashed how they turn some people away and how they make it into like this exclusive club, not the actual concept. They're just proving my point rn. Fucking fuck.
story of the world. people will donate a little bit to something so they can feel proud and righteous, only to then fuck over people in poverty afterwards.
thisispain u r the nly 1 who ndrstands me <3
i understand everyone. kinda the polar opposite of seith who is understood by no-one.
I wonder what thisispain is like irl. I can't even put a face to him aside from Bjork's so it's weird when I read his posts. [editline]4th March 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=joshdasmif;34976645]Girlfriend wants to break up with me because she has exams and we argue too much. She says she can't cope as she has a lot of stress right now. What do I do.[/QUOTE] Gonna be blunt dude, based on the posts you made when you first started seeing this girl and the type of relationship I imagine it turned into, it's likely she's just coming up with excuses to cut it off. That and the fact that you said she was already seeing/getting close with other guys. Give her space and time, be a supportive boyfriend, tell her you're there if she wants to talk etc etc, but if she's seriously suggesting you split just because she's 'stressed' over exams, there are most likely some more underlying issues which need to be discussed. When her exams are over, talk it through with her and try work things out, just don't be too disappointed or surprised if it doesn't end in your favour. It's all experience.
27/m/sf i have a feminine face and short hair. i'm shorter than 6'. i have a broken nose and no facial hair (do have eyebrows). my friends are either black men or white women. i dress like a hipster who is extremely self-conscious of his hipster tendencies so i dress very modestly. i don't have a father so i look for acknowledgement from the internet. my mum lives across the pond but i still call her every night. *hic*
[QUOTE=thisispain;34984872]story of the world. people will donate a little bit to something so they can feel proud and righteous, only to then fuck over people in poverty afterwards.[/QUOTE] This is pretty much why I suggested you make a status, GoldenGnome. A teenage girl committed suicide in my area some time last year after being cyber-bullied, and literally every second post was some stupid, "omg rip forever in our hearts <33" status. People even started making groups about it (think "change your DP to Dani's face for a week to show your respect" level of retarded), but then as soon as anyone even made the slightest comment which wasn't 'respectful', everyone would jump on them and call them out on being disrespectful and ignorant. It was fucking aggravating because these were people that didn't even know her personally, it literally became a bandwagon of self-righteous cunts thinking they were mature and morally aware just because they could write a RIP status about a girl they didn't even know. And then the exact next day, almost 100 kids were killed in Norway and not a single person even made a mention of it, so I made this status: "> 15 year old kills herself Let's all make stupid Facebook groups about it and change our DP to her face RIP ): <333 > ~100 and counting confirmed dead in Norway, mostly teenagers Nobody gives a shit" Almost 100 comments (and 50 likes) later, I was receiving death threats from the same people who were just previously condemning cyber-bullying and its consequences. It was definitely worth it.
It's just not political. I'm not going to get up on the pulpit over this, because that really won't change anything but earn me the mass hatred of my peers. Call me silly for caring what my school thinks of me, but I look forward to the next couple of months being pleasant before I do finally ship off to college.
Urgh, I've been texting this girl for a few weeks now, she's being VERY flirty (she effectively told me she wants me inside her) but when I asked her out she was busy (friend confirmed) but didn't suggest a different day. Normally I'd take that as a no and move right on, but then she's right back to texting me the next day, being just as (if not more) flirty. I just want to know whether to move on. Should I confront her and ask what's going on? Or should I just tell her to back off? How would I go about doing that?
sounds like she genuinely was busy. so it's posssibly not a case of SHE'S NEVER GOING TO GO OUT (somewhere) WITH YOU BECAUSE ONE TIME SHE SAID SHE WAS BUSY AND DIDN'T SUGGEST AN ALTERNATIVE, so just stick it cool and maybe try again in another couple of days. if she's being this flirty then she probably does want something more, so maybe she's just shy about meeting up with you. or she could be a bit immature and likes the idea of toying around with you, but then as soon as something becomes a real possibility she gets scared and backs off. or she could just be busy...
[QUOTE=Autumn;34987711]sounds like she genuinely was busy. so it's posssibly not a case of SHE'S NEVER GOING TO GO OUT (somewhere) WITH YOU BECAUSE ONE TIME SHE SAID SHE WAS BUSY AND DIDN'T SUGGEST AN ALTERNATIVE, so just stick it cool and maybe try again in another couple of days. if she's being this flirty then she probably does want something more, so maybe she's just shy about meeting up with you. or she could be a bit immature and likes the idea of toying around with you, but then as soon as something becomes a real possibility she gets scared and backs off. or she could just be busy...[/QUOTE] Texting really messes with my head. I try and not text the girl I've been seeing at all. Since she tends to leave her phone in random places. So I just let her start conversations. Sometimes I do text her but most of the time I don't get a response, hence why I refrain from doing it. Then other times she randomly texts me and talks to me all night. I even try and not ask questions to "end" it even if I don't want it to end (Just to see who is carrying the conversation) but then she is right back in the conversation with another topic. So clearly she wants to talk. But then a week might pass with complete silence. Then again, Tele2 (my carrier) made me paranoid. I received a text from her at 5pm which was apparently sent at 10am so she thought I was ignoring her since we went on a date the day before and I didn't have fun or something. Thanks for that one Tele2.
Protip of the day: Play iPhone/Android games. I've had two girls I don't usually speak to start talking to me because we started playing Draw Something together.
is the game actually called draw something? someone was telling me to get it and I thought they just forgot what the name was and they were telling me "its called draw... something" so I never ended up getting it
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;34988858]Protip of the day: Play iPhone/Android games. I've had two girls I don't usually speak to start talking to me because we started playing Draw Something together.[/QUOTE] I played a lot of bowman with the girl I've been seeing. She rarely playes games, even less on cellphones. She always manages to hit my guy in the crotch with several arrows. Seems like a warning sign.. :v:
i'm just curious how old everyone in this thread is, because most of these issues seem to be junior high problems. [editline]4th March 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=CommanderPT;34992103]I played a lot of bowman with the girl I've been seeing. She rarely playes games, even less on cellphones. She always manages to hit my guy in the crotch with several arrows. Seems like a warning sign.. :v:[/QUOTE] example^
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