The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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Well clearly if she has not been in a relationship and hangs out a lot with you she will probably have mutual feelings but is maybe to shy or waits for you to make a move. Honestly, this really depends on the girl. You might want to wait how things develop, hang out with her. Besides some indications that help out is the amount of physical contact she has with you. I cannot really describe it but I usually have a feel that the girls to be with me or likes to be touched by me.
With most of my female friends I have a pretty superficially or amical physical contact but usually the girls that I was interested with had a different kind of gesture/movement. I fail to properly describe it due to my lack of english :v:
[QUOTE=junker|154;35050438]Well clearly if she has not been in a relationship and hangs out a lot with you she will probably have mutual feelings but is maybe to shy or waits for you to make a move. Honestly, this really depends on the girl. You might want to wait how things develop, hang out with her. Besides some indications that help out is the amount of physical contact she has with you. I cannot really describe it but I usually have a feel that the girls to be with me or likes to be touched by me.
With most of my female friends I have a pretty superficially or amical physical contact but usually the girls that I was interested with had a different kind of gesture/movement. I fail to properly describe it due to my lack of english :v:[/QUOTE]
I think I get what you mean. We do tend to hug but that is mostly when we are meeting and saying good bye.
The good thing I guess is that she knows that we aren't hanging out as "just friends" since I did make it clear that I was asking her out the very first time we went out.
She also asked me a few weeks ago why I was interested in her and she started to smile as I was explaining why I like to hang out with her. But as I said, I have no idea what I am doing and she is very shy about this kind of stuff. She has been getting more and more talkative recently though.
Not sure how you "make a move" either. Seems like I would mess things up if I were to mention a relationship.
Well, if you already asked her out and she still likes to hang out with you is a real good sign. It seems like you did a good job. Just wait how things will go along because she sounds like a shy person, give it some time. Trust is the best way to get a girl if I may say so.
To make a move, it is really different. I got together with my ex-girlfriend on a bench. We were just sitting there and chilling after a nice day. We talked and gazed at the sun going down. After a while I realized how much I loved this girl. She was staring somewhere at a dog and I just said "hey" to her and she turned around. Then I moved my lips towards hers and we kissed, it took her by surprise. But that moment was so great. After a long kiss she asked me sarcasticly "So, we are a couple now :v:" and yeah that was it. But that move is really up to you, I wish you the best of luck.
[QUOTE=junker|154;35050683]Well, if you already asked her out and she still likes to hang out with you is a real good sign. It seems like you did a good job. Just wait how things will go along because she sounds like a shy person, give it some time. Trust is the best way to get a girl if I may say so.
To make a move, it is really different. I got together with my ex-girlfriend on a bench. We were just sitting there and chilling after a nice day. We talked and gazed at the sun going down. After a while I realized how much I loved this girl. She was staring somewhere at a dog and I just said "hey" to her and she turned around. Then I moved my lips towards hers and we kissed, it took her by surprise. But that moment was so great. After a long kiss she asked me sarcasticly "So, we are a couple now :v:" and yeah that was it. But that move is really up to you, I wish you the best of luck.[/QUOTE]
Thanks. I'll see how things develop since I would rather not rush into things and mess it up.
DAMMIT I saw the server again RIGHT before I left and I totally forgot to ask him
I have such a terrible memory :(
Stop making excuses for yourself and ask him.
[QUOTE=Pascall;35055907]totally forgot to ask him
I have such a terrible memory :([/QUOTE]
bullshit
[QUOTE=CommanderPT;35050318]I'm still debating with myself whether this girl actually likes me or not.
We've been hanging out a lot this past month or so. Spending the majority of the day in school together, going out to play golf (She likes to do that and invited me along several times) and we've gone to cafés and whatnot and she texts me sometimes. This week she and a bunch of others went up to this observatory that belongs to our school and she has been texting me everyday asking me how my day has been and telling me with they did up there.
Even when I say "Nothing interesting happened, it is really boring here." she quickly replies with "There has to be something interesting that you can tell me. :)" and so and so forth.
I don't know, I take it that she is? I am just really bad at figuring this stuff out on my own. Never had a girlfriend and apparently she has never been in a relationship either. So we are both perhaps a bit lost. At least I am.
Thoughts?
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i think she does my friend
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;35056243]Stop making excuses for yourself and ask him.[/QUOTE]
It's hardly an excuse. I got off work two hours after I was supposed to and I forgot that he was getting there at 4 so I was already halfway out the door when I saw him and I just didn't think to ask.
It's not a big deal asking for someone's number, I'm not socially inept. I just forgot.
pascall do you have aspergers its just a phone number
Jesus, Pascall, it's simple stop making excuses.
[sp]I kid, I understand your forgetfulness.[/sp]
Give him the good old "i lost my number, can I have yours?" question. Works everytime.
[editline]8th March 2012[/editline]
So im going out with a girl i have not spoken to in two months tomorrow, and im afraid im going to be an asshole. How do i avoid the art of asshole?
[QUOTE=redBadger;35058161]Give him the good old "i lost my number, can I have yours?" question. Works everytime.
[editline]8th March 2012[/editline]
So im going out with a girl i have not spoken to in two months tomorrow, and im afraid im going to be an asshole. How do i avoid the art of asshole?[/QUOTE]
don't be an asshole?
if you must divulge into it, remind yourself of proper manners good hygiene and try not to talk too much of yourself
but it's just simple manners, genuinely pay interest into the conversation and so forth
This girl is so into me I actually feel guilty for not being attracted to her.
Sympathy sex? Perform quite badly but get the job done, she'll find you unattractive and you both get laid. This seems like the ideal route.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;35060812]This girl is so into me I actually feel guilty for not being attracted to her.[/QUOTE]
Some things are best to define immediately. It can get worse, otherwise.
I other news, I have became a grumpy and hateful "old man" due to reasons I am unsure of.
[QUOTE=redBadger;35058161]
So im going out with a girl i have not spoken to in two months tomorrow, and im afraid im going to be an asshole. How do i avoid the art of asshole?[/QUOTE]
uh
are you unaware of when you act like an asshole?
One can be unaware of certain asshole traits.
I am a very opinionated person, and usually go off on impassioned tangents about things I dislike, to which everybody who knows me just sits back and enjoys it. A girl I don't know, though, might not find it quite as endearing.
See what I mean?
[QUOTE=gufu;35061747]Some things are best to define immediately. It can get worse, otherwise.
I other news, I have became a grumpy and hateful "old man" due to reasons I am unsure of.[/QUOTE]
I've made it explicit I don't want to be anything more than friends.
stop talking to her then? seems dickish but it's the only way to go if you've really put the point across in the past
[QUOTE=The Maestro;35064514]One can be unaware of certain asshole traits.
I am a very opinionated person, and usually go off on impassioned tangents about things I dislike, to which everybody who knows me just sits back and enjoys it. A girl I don't know, though, might not find it quite as endearing.
See what I mean?[/QUOTE]
That's less of being an asshole, and more of being arrogant/self-absorbed. Curb it by catching yourself when you go off on a long spheal. Also, just try to be more agreeable. For example if she says she seriously likes Justin Beiber (assuming that's someone you hate) don't laugh it off and quickly shoot her down, try to understand that everyone has different tastes and be glad that she even listens to music. Try to look for the positives in what she says and not worry too much about the specifics.
i was having lunch with this girl and shes part of this program where she helps the kids with disabilities
literally right before i was about to ask her out for saturday night (im not free any other time), the kids all ask her what shes doing over the weekend, and it turns out shes busy on saturday night
so i decided not to ask her out since she obviously couldnt
do you think that was smart or should i have just asked her out for the next weekend instead?
You only delayed it, you could just have asked right away. Not a big deal.
By the way I really like your avatar.
[QUOTE=zerotwelve;35065629]stop talking to her then? seems dickish but it's the only way to go if you've really put the point across in the past[/QUOTE]
No lol that's an awful idea.
We've been friends for quite a while no way I'm gonna not talk to her just because she has feelings for me now I don't share
It was more a comment than a request for advice anyway
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35067544]i was having lunch with this girl and shes part of this program where she helps the kids with disabilities
literally right before i was about to ask her out for saturday night (im not free any other time), the kids all ask her what shes doing over the weekend, and it turns out shes busy on saturday night
so i decided not to ask her out since she obviously couldnt
do you think that was smart or should i have just asked her out for the next weekend instead?[/QUOTE]
You should've asked anyway. Lets her know that you're interested. Still, no harm no foul in this scenario.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35067544]i was having lunch with this girl and shes part of this program where she helps the kids with disabilities
literally right before i was about to ask her out for saturday night (im not free any other time), the kids all ask her what shes doing over the weekend, and it turns out shes busy on saturday night
so i decided not to ask her out since she obviously couldnt
do you think that was smart or should i have just asked her out for the next weekend instead?[/QUOTE]
Asking her would be polite and would show interest from you. I say you ask her when you can.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;35067648]No lol that's an awful idea.
We've been friends for quite a while no way I'm gonna not talk to her just because she has feelings for me now I don't share
It was more a comment than a request for advice anyway[/QUOTE]
oh right, didn't know the background, I thought she was just one of those creepy stalker chicks
First time in this thread, been having this problem for a while.
Me and my boyfriend have been seperated for quite a while (2 years) so we can only text chat on steam.
For the past month or so he's not been messaging me at all. I ask him if something is wrong and he says nothing. I'm lucky to get 1 message a day. I asked him if he still loved me and he does, but wont talk to me because "i'm just a quiet person".
He'll say that or he'll say "theres just nothing worth talking about"
He was never like this before, but i cant get him to say much, he only plays TF2 all day.
What do?
Realize that trying to maintain an Internet relationship is very rarely a good idea and consider telling him how you feel about it.
[QUOTE=~Myst;35069668]First time in this thread, been having this problem for a while.
Me and my boyfriend have been seperated for quite a while (2 years) so we can only text chat on steam.
For the past month or so he's not been messaging me at all. I ask him if something is wrong and he says nothing. I'm lucky to get 1 message a day. I asked him if he still loved me and he does, but wont talk to me because "i'm just a quiet person".
He'll say that or he'll say "theres just nothing worth talking about"
He was never like this before, but i cant get him to say much, he only plays TF2 all day.
What do?[/QUOTE]
The separation seems to have killed the relationship. Also, why dont you guys call or skype? That really helps a lot of long distance relationships work. Fuck, typing on a tablet while on a bumpy road is hard.
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