The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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Followed OP advice and summoned the nerve to ask this girl out to the movies. She said yes!
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;34901227]your biggest problem is that you have screenshots of this. rule of thumb: never ask for anything of that sort via any kind of textual media. face to face or not at all.[/QUOTE]
He's just asking her if she'd like to go watch a movie with him, not proposing to her. He can ask any way he wants :rolleyes:
[editline]12th March 2012[/editline]
Fuck why did clicking on this thread take me to a week old page...
[QUOTE=RobbL;35113021]He's just asking her if she'd like to go watch a movie with him, not proposing to her. He can ask any way he wants :rolleyes:
[editline]12th March 2012[/editline]
Fuck why did clicking on this thread take me to a week old page...[/QUOTE]
Phone calls or face to face. Asking via text message is bad.
[QUOTE=Protocol7;35100173]If I may vent for a moment.
Today, it is my grandpa's birthday. We went to his house to celebrate, and we all dressed up for the occasion. My cousin, who is pretty good looking, said I looked nice. Since it was a friendly compliment I just say "Haha thanks, you too!"
Now, after returning home, my mom was like "Did you see how your cousin said you looked nice? LIKE REALLY NICE!?" and all I can think is, "what the fuck. why is this important."
I'm still at a loss of what to say. It was just so... random, stupid. My mom keeps trying to tell me that "girls notice how good I look" and, well, I really don't care. After I broke up with my ex I haven't really been searching for another girlfriend and yet everyone thinks I'm a lonely sob with confidence issues.
It's just annoying. I don't ever complain about not having a girlfriend - I don't think I'm unattractive, rather the opposite - I'm probably the most confident person in this household. And then my mom and goes and tries to "reassure" me that girls notice me...Okay? I don't really care. I notice girls, too, but I don't really want a girlfriend right now - I don't even need one. I've been more than satisfied with my life the way it is.
I... just... I don't know. I don't know, but I don't like it.[/QUOTE]
My mum does that too, and I don't really mind tbh. Either she says it to be nice (mums always do stuff like that) or she's just teasing me. Can't see why you should be concerned about it
[QUOTE=RobbL;35113098]My mum does that too, and I don't really mind tbh. Either she says it to be nice (mums always do stuff like that) or she's just teasing me. Can't see why you should be concerned about it[/QUOTE]
She's looking into things that aren't even there. She does it all the time. So she tries making a point out of what is originally a formality. It's pretty annoying.
[QUOTE=Protocol7;35113172]She's looking into things that aren't even there. She does it all the time. So she tries making a point out of what is originally a formality. It's pretty annoying.[/QUOTE]
Actually thinking about it, I see where you're coming from. It can be slightly irritating on occasions. Like i've been with my mum somewhere and when we get back she'll say something like "There were some girls smiling/looking at you earlier" as if a female has never shown interest in me before and it's something completely new to me. And then she'll say "You never notice it though" Yes I do, but why would I let her know? I'm not going to say "OH MOTHER THAT GIRL OVER THERE IS SMILING AT ME!"
Seriously :suicide:
But apart from that it's not that bad haha, it's never bothered me too much
Yeah, its just that using what my [B]cousin[/B] says to me as a basis of saying girls think I'm attractive is kind of... weird.
[QUOTE=Seith;35113080]Phone calls or face to face. Asking via text message is bad.[/QUOTE]
I disagree. Texts are fine as well imo.
it depends on how close you are to the person and if they'd see it as a cop out or not
Whats the best way to apolgize to a girl? Everything i think up in my head sounds so awkward.
well what are you apologizing about?
if its something small and unnecessary then of course it will sound awkward
Finally got myself another girlfriend after almost a year.
She's always busy which sucks but I can't exactly complain about that, can't stop someone else from living their lives how they want to.
yeah.... busy stuffing her mouth with dick!!!!
Jo you're such a realist
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35114303]well what are you apologizing about? if its something small and unnecessary then of course it will sound awkward[/QUOTE]
I feel like that i've obsessed over this girl and wouldn't leave her alone and we're not really friends anymore because of it but we're trying to make up.
[editline]12th March 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35114382]yeah.... busy stuffing her mouth with dick!!!![/QUOTE]
Being busy definitely sucks i guess.
ok yeah dont apologize for that, just stop being obsessive and give her room
apologizing over that will only make you seem more obsessive, like you need her approval before you can move on
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35114435]ok yeah dont apologize for that, just stop being obsessive and give her room apologizing over that will only make you seem more obsessive, like you need her approval before you can move on[/QUOTE]
We have not really had a positive conversation since december and the two months prior to this month ive been ignoring her, if that changes things.
you could start with a simple "hi, lets start over" or something
or a small apology
but dont say some long speech, that's just weird
Write her a sonnet, sneak into her bedroom and read it her while she sleeps
[QUOTE=Seith;35113080]Phone calls or face to face. Asking via text message is bad.[/QUOTE]
this and statistically and physiologically speaking there is about 50% more chance of getting a positive response when you ask in person, and this is true for just about anything
Finally got that server's number along with the number of one of the server's assistants. They both want pictures of where I'm goin' for vacation so that should give me a good excuse to keep in touch.
Yay. Good way to end the night, I think.
[QUOTE=kafurie;35115080]this and statistically and physiologically speaking there is about 50% more chance of getting a positive response when you ask in person, and this is true for just about anything[/QUOTE]
care to cite that study?
Think I might start dating that girl who likes me. Been getting to know her really well and we just seem like too good a fit for me to ignore it. Also I think all of our friends already think we're an item.
[editline]13th March 2012[/editline]
Not that that last fact actually holds any weight in the decision
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;35117006]Think I might start dating that girl who likes me. Been getting to know her really well and we just seem like too good a fit for me to ignore it. Also I think all of our friends already think we're an item.
[editline]13th March 2012[/editline]
Not that that last fact actually holds any weight in the decision[/QUOTE]
What if she turns out to be an Ork in disguise?
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;35117391]What if she turns out to be an Ork in disguise?[/QUOTE]
Then god help us all.
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;35117391]What if she turns out to be an Ork in disguise?[/QUOTE]
Unless she's planning on summoning Gork and Mork by herself I'm pretty sure I can handle a lone Ork.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;35114097]I disagree. Texts are fine as well imo.[/QUOTE]
I won't go into details (or will I?), but phone calls are a minimum. (when asking for a date)
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[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;35116502]care to cite that study?[/QUOTE]
It's anecdotal. No formal studies on the subject. For the most part, I agree with him. But with a regular joe's perspective, taking a girl to a date is basically the equivalent of getting her number; Most set up a date for later in the week, instead of going for a date on the spot, which creates "Buyer's remorse", either due to not building a good base with her, and / or because you took too long. So going for the phone number (and calling her), for most people, is a better choice.
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[QUOTE=kafurie;35115080]this and statistically and physiologically speaking there is about 50% more chance of getting a positive response when you ask in person, and this is true for just about anything[/QUOTE]
Of course, but most people are incapable of doing what you said right. They just blur out "wanna go somewhere?" "wanna check this movie friday night?" and so a phone call is a much better option for them.
seith i don't really feel you are qualified to give us a "regular joe's" perspective
So the girl I've been seeing told me yesterday that she is going to stay home and work on her project. She also added that she would like it if I came over and helped her with the camera and all. Which was surprising. So I visited her and we spent some time together. Her dad eventually came home and I panicked a bit but she introduced me and we shook hands. He was not compelled to kick me out. :v:
I take it that she likes me since I doubt she would've invited me over otherwise and it isn't anything like us just being friends since we both know that we have been dating. Guess it is time to make a move?
um if you're already dating her then sure?
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