The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=gerbile5;35184628]sup thread
so today me and my girlfriend were alone in my house, and things lead sexual. She got what she wanted out of it, so im not worried about that aspect, but well uhm.... I couldn't get a full on like... boner. and it's worrying me. alot. Admittedly, I was very very nervous as it was my first time, and my mom could have walked in my house at any time, plus i am very very fucking tired, but still, it worrys me. What can i do to make sure this doesn't happen again?
I mean like i was able to preform, but like it wasn't like completely hard like it should be! I'm really worried about this! what do?
I mean like i sort of lost it while i was fucking her. I didn't even finish..... I couldn't.... We tried twice too....[/QUOTE]
Get a quiet place, try to chill down. Feel the atmosphere, especially do not think about it. Try not to have an exact plan in your head on how things should proceed, just let it go naturally.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35182999]are you kidding me? i'm not saying you need to be the exact same as everyone else in order to be successful, being unique is certainly important, but at the same time, you can't be so unique in some way that it becomes weird. common sense.[/QUOTE]
You do realize common sense is not something you are born with? So, to say "use common sense" is absurd.
I'll ask you a question, just to understand how much is too weird. Would you consider walking with bunny rabbit's ears everyday something that will harm his success with women and life?
[editline]18th March 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35187241]I know.
I have to be rather careful.
[editline]18th March 2012[/editline]
I am now gonna stay quite low with it and try to wait for the moment where it would seem suitable to tell her how sincere I am about her.[/QUOTE]
This ain't the movies. Even if you told her in the most poetic way you could how much you care for her, you'd still get zilch.
"Keep away" from her for 2-3 days, while engaging other girls. That way, not only she might engage you, but you might even not care and meet other females...
what the fuck did i write
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;35185277]Well, you guys were having fun with my text.
I am weird. Most everyone I know is weird. But it works.
noob is right about it being uncommon, the way I communicate.
However, I have the uncanny ability to not be a social outcast.
I don't know how I do it, but I can squeeze into many different groups.
But when it comes down to it, I speak in three different ways: a lazy mumble when I am tired, a hyper jumble when I am excited, and fine English when I am normal.
You might think it is strange, but I, somehow, do manage to pull it off, and the execution is not as horrible as you think.
Thanks for the feedback, though, guys.[/QUOTE]
Oh don't get me wrong - I don't think people were saying you used fine english. You're using what high school kids would think is fine english. Look at how many commas are in the second to last sentence - it's written to read how you would say it out loud "...think it is strange, but I, somehow, do...", writing and speaking are two different mediums you can't just use them interchangeably, you don't just write something so it reads how you would speak it, like a transcript. The thing is though, that's fine. We're on a forum, people write how they speak because it's informal, everyone's having a conversation. So it makes it more irritating when you try and act (and it does seem like an act) all erudite and well spoken, especially when it's (in my opinion) quite badly. I'm sure you're a nice guy though, it's nothing personal.
[QUOTE=Alan Ninja!]I just want a quiet, decent looking girl. Preferably with an interest in space and classic rock. Where do I find a girl like that?[/QUOTE]
Same! I've got this thing where I really want just like, a nice normal girl, someone who's down to earth and will have a laugh. They seem to all have boyfriends though.
what you want or what you have in common with a person won't always factor into a good relationship.
[QUOTE=thisispain;35188406]what you want or what you have in common with a person won't always factor into a good relationship.[/QUOTE]
And? That "down to earth" way of thinking is what prevents most people from breaking boundaries. "There isn't a girl who's smart and beautiful..." "I'm not good with money" "I can't be an astronaut, I'm afraid of heights"
I say, if something is humanly possible, then by all means you have the right to want it whether it factors for good relationship or not, or a successful career or not. It shouldn't limit you, or even be in your mind.
Just because it doesn't factor for a good relationship doesn't mean he shouldn't strive to have it.
i don't think you even understood what i wrote.
[QUOTE=thisispain;35188529]i don't think you even understood what i wrote.[/QUOTE]
You said what a person wants or has doesn't always factor a good relationship, right? ...
My response is sound; It just doesn't matter if it factors or not. The point is one should strive and try no matter how compatible or slight the odds.
What was the point of your original post, was it not a "down to earth" realization?
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;35184416]Are you not fun to be with? If so who told you that? That's not very nice! I dunno if I could say what makes someone fun to be with, it's not like a goal or something, like having 17 cans of Dr Pepper in a day, that's something you can definitely work up to and accomplish and then tick it off your list. I'll tell you what I don't find fun in people though, it's when people constantly look for something to complain about in everything, or have like a default stance of being cynical about everything. It's like they think all opinions are assumed to have been more considered if they're bad ones. Don't be one of them, they're fun vacuums!
I'll tell you what though, I was seeing this girl a while a go briefly, and she told me about this guy who liked her who I used to know in school. And he'd say really juvenile things like "If I asked you out face-to-face what would you say?", bear in mind this guy was 20, not 14. Anyway so she goes on about how she's not attracted to him at all and she says he doesn't do anything, all their conversations are these small-talk-esque back and forths, and I was like "Yeah, he doesn't really have any stories to tell" and she said I'd hit the nail on the head, he had nothing to say.
What I'm getting at is do you do anything fun? You're not going to be fun to be with unless you're willing to go and have fun. I don't mean like do stuff that everyone thinks is fun that you don't like, I mean do stuff you find fun, and then... Well that's all I can think of. Sorry I'm so rubbish. Hope this helped in your funning endeavours.[/QUOTE]
Well, I am pretty witty/humorous in that aspect, maybe somewhat too much? Although I'm not the kind of guy that you invite to parties, it's more the group of people I spend time with or some closer friends that get invited and I just come along. Lately I haven't done much apart from going to school.
[QUOTE=phobia-_-;35184660]I think you were just too nervous, next time will be better[/QUOTE]
well i mean of course i was, but now i notice i go to watch like a porn vid, and like it doesn't even get completely there and now im really starting to worry about it. Im probably gonna hit up the doc next week if our next few tries don't go well.
[QUOTE=Seith;35188583]You said what a person wants or has doesn't always factor a good relationship, right? ...
My response is sound; It just doesn't matter if it factors or not. The point is one should strive and try no matter how compatible or slight the odds.
What was the point of your original post, was it not a "down to earth" realization?[/QUOTE]
you really like arguing for the sake of arguing
his advice was actually meant to broaden the guy's possibilities, and you somehow managed to turn it into some stupid philosophical question about how he should try whatever he wants, which was really irrelevant and unnecessary
[QUOTE=JohanGS;35189403]Well, I am pretty witty/humorous in that aspect, maybe somewhat too much? Although I'm not the kind of guy that you invite to parties, it's more the group of people I spend time with or some closer friends that get invited and I just come along. Lately I haven't done much apart from going to school.[/QUOTE]
If you fear the melty man he will come :(
I didn't mean to quote that post. Not even a little bit. Think I left my brain somewhere else.
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;35189775]If you fear the melty man he will come :([/QUOTE]
and you won't
[editline]18th March 2012[/editline]
:v: i'm here all week
[QUOTE=DrBreen;35187926]what the fuck did i write[/QUOTE]
nice coverup dude
[QUOTE=thisispain;35188406]what you want or what you have in common with a person won't always factor into a good relationship.[/QUOTE]
People tend to like other persons that are similiar to one self and share the same interests. But there also those who are excited because their partner has completely different traits.
Although research has shown that relationship with partners that are the opposite in terms of traits and character will experience more relationship problems later on when both are in a relationship since a long time.
Gonna ask this one girl I who went in the same junior-high as I did if she would be interested in going out for a cup of coffee some day after school next week.
[editline]18th March 2012[/editline]
There is nothing to loose, love is an ocean where you are a sail-boat.
That last sentence was really soppy and you should feel bad.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35190362]love is an ocean[/QUOTE]
butt pirates
So I got together with this girl that I know for while now and I realized that she is very reminiscent of my ex-girlfriend in many ways, especially how she kisses and talks to me. Even when she looks at me with her eyes, it reminds me so much of my ex-girlfriend. I feel kind of weird.
Some of her sentences are exactly the same. Although both are from different cultures and speak completely different. Did that happen to anyone else?
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35189761]you really like arguing for the sake of arguing
his advice was actually meant to broaden the guy's possibilities, and you somehow managed to turn it into some stupid philosophical question about how he should try whatever he wants, which was really irrelevant and unnecessary[/QUOTE]
How does this broaden his possibilities???, when you purposely mention a relationship might statistically, fail, when a person relies on his imagination - as in - how his women should look like ???
In my eyes, that was uncalled for. It's not a philosophy, it's real life. When you limit yourself using "realistic" expectation, you are bound to become a "realistic humanbeing".
Fuck the factors, that was a useless comment. I am "arguing" right now because THAT IS irrelevant and unnecessary, what you mentioned to him. That didn't expand any views what so ever.
i'm lost...
[QUOTE=Seith;35195160]How does this broaden his possibilities???, when you purposely mention a relationship might statistically, fail, when a person relies on his imagination - as in - how his women should look like ???
In my eyes, that was uncalled for. It's not a philosophy, it's real life. When you limit yourself using "realistic" expectation, you are bound to become a "realistic humanbeing".
Fuck the factors, that was a useless comment. I am "arguing" right now because THAT IS irrelevant and unnecessary, what you mentioned to him. That didn't expand any views what so ever.[/QUOTE]
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[QUOTE=Seith;35195160]How does this broaden his possibilities???, when you purposely mention a relationship might statistically, fail, when a person relies on his imagination - as in - how his women should look like ???
In my eyes, that was uncalled for. It's not a philosophy, it's real life. When you limit yourself using "realistic" expectation, you are bound to become a "realistic humanbeing".
Fuck the factors, that was a useless comment. I am "arguing" right now because THAT IS irrelevant and unnecessary, what you mentioned to him. That didn't expand any views what so ever.[/QUOTE]
thisispain basically told him that he could be successful in any relationship, not just one that includes space and classic rock
somehow you took that as limiting. it's not. shut up.
ok
[QUOTE=DrBreen;35187926]what the fuck did i write[/QUOTE]
i guess backpedaling is always an option, no matter how many posts you made!
I don't know what we're even discussing at this point.
so, any tips on like, connecting to classmates
I mean i've got a significant other and shit but now that my class' retards have failed the year I kinda think I want to "bond" with my classmates or whatever
Problem is they like racing and sports and going to clubs and such and I'm not into any of that, at all
Also how do I either stop being mildly depressed all the time or how do I fake not being mildly depressed all the time
find something you both enjoy?
you could even talk about homework or breathing.
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