The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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breathing is a great conversation starter, i have picked up many chicks that way
[QUOTE=latin_geek;35197828]so, any tips on like, connecting to classmates
I mean i've got a significant other and shit but now that my class' retards have failed the year I kinda think I want to "bond" with my classmates or whatever
Problem is they like racing and sports and going to clubs and such and I'm not into any of that, at all
Also how do I either stop being mildly depressed all the time or how do I fake not being mildly depressed all the time[/QUOTE]
give everything a chance
absolutely everything
even cutting your wrists
you'll find your clique eventually
-snip- screw it. I shall pursue bigger and better things
I want to make Hot Coffee Girl think of me as "Hot Customer Guy," or at least "shaggably attractive customer guy."
I keep swinging by the coffee place, hoping to catch her at work so I can be all charming and shit, but I haven't had any luck since last weekend! I don't even know her name yet, and "that bald girl at the coffee shop" isn't a very flattering way to describe her, even when I follow it up with, "but she's got a phenomenal body, and her baldness is totally cool."
I'm guessing she probably has a boyfriend (like every other girl in my age bracket!), but I would at least like to find out before moping! If she does, there will be some brief mopage. Not much, since it's hard to put all your eggs in one basket when that basket is a bald girl whose name you don't even know, but a little bit for sure, because I would like to sleep with that basket and/or cultivate a relationship with that basket.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;35200116]I want to make Hot Coffee Girl think of me as "Hot Customer Guy," or at least "shaggably attractive customer guy."
I keep swinging by the coffee place, hoping to catch her at work so I can be all charming and shit, but I haven't had any luck since last weekend! I don't even know her name yet, and "that bald girl at the coffee shop" isn't a very flattering way to describe her, even when I follow it up with, "but she's got a phenomenal body, and her baldness is totally cool."
I'm guessing she probably has a boyfriend (like every other girl in my age bracket!), but I would at least like to find out before moping! If she does, there will be some brief mopage. Not much, since it's hard to put all your eggs in one basket when that basket is a bald girl whose name you don't even know, but a little bit for sure, because I would like to sleep with that basket and/or cultivate a relationship with that basket.[/QUOTE]
If you don't write humor already, you should.
[QUOTE=thisispain;35197838]find something you both enjoy?
you could even talk about homework or breathing.[/QUOTE]
i think there's something in finding a conversation topic but being more than happy to move into other conversational topics. you're trying to communicate you, not homework, don't get stuck on one topic.
I'm in a situation I don't understand at all.
There's this girl I like and the other day she asks to just take a walk around. We do that and we're talking and such for a while when we eventually sit down. Then I kind of make my move where I put my arm around her and all that and I think that things go pretty smoothly because she seems into it and keeps going along.
But ever since that day she just always says she can't when I ask her if she wants to to do something and she basically acts like she's avoiding me in general. What's the deal?
I'd guess she feels uncomfortable about what happened, even if she seemed to enjoy it at the time. You could try talking to her about it.
I've had a 'crush' on a girl for a while now which I already think is a bad idea since I haven't done much with it at all. She has a boyfriend and we've only spoken a few times, and each time I've had to initiate it.
I don't really know what to do at this point. At the moment I'm just leaving it for a while, as we'll prob be going out together next month with a group of friends so I think that'll be a good time to actually establish something real rather than our short Facebook chats. The expected response here is to ask her out and get to know her, but like I said she's got a boyfriend and so it complicates things, especially as we're not already close enough at all to just hang out outside of a 'date'. I don't know.
It's not a massive deal, I've been seeing other girls and have been getting on with my own life. It's just this girl seems really interesting to me, but I worry if I'm already overthinking it and putting her up on a pedestal without really knowing her, and in any case I don't really know how to approach it beyond waiting until next month like I said.
Any advice?
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;35203227]I've had a 'crush' on a girl for a while now which I already think is a bad idea since I haven't done much with it at all. She has a boyfriend and we've only spoken a few times, and each time I've had to initiate it.
I don't really know what to do at this point. At the moment I'm just leaving it for a while, as we'll prob be going out together next month with a group of friends so I think that'll be a good time to actually establish something real rather than our short Facebook chats. The expected response here is to ask her out and get to know her, but like I said she's got a boyfriend and so it complicates things, especially as we're not already close enough at all to just hang out outside of a 'date'. I don't know.
It's not a massive deal, I've been seeing other girls and have been getting on with my own life. It's just this girl seems really interesting to me, but I worry if I'm already overthinking it and putting her up on a pedestal without really knowing her, and in any case I don't really know how to approach it beyond waiting until next month like I said.
Any advice?[/QUOTE]
If she has a boyfriend just leave it alone. If you somehow do hook up with her, it should tell you something about what she's like when she IS in a relationship... double edged sword!
I know, but I'm not even looking to hook up with her. I just want to get to know her.
So how was my day?
I went to the computer store with two friends, one whom is the girl.
aaa I'm a terrible person and a huge jerk when people repeat things to me
My mother conditioned me like that since she's always asking questions and since she appears to have brain problems she repeats the same questions [I]over and over again[/I] after i've given a response, [I]specially when that response was negative[/I], like she's actively trying to piss me off
so when people bring up subjects several times after i've expressed dislike on them I get really fucking mad and I'm probably going to lose anyone I ever meet after a few months because of that shit
When a girl talks to you about another guy, are you basically doomed?
If the guy turns out to be a massive dick, then you might have a chance.
[QUOTE=blazingfly;35204129]When a girl talks to you about another guy, are you basically doomed?[/QUOTE]
What kind of talk?
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35204610]If the guy turns out to be a massive dick, then you might have a chance.[/QUOTE]
But not if he turns out to have a massive dick.
[QUOTE=JohanGS;35204625]What kind of talk?[/QUOTE]
"haha this guy did this wasn't it funny?"
[QUOTE=blazingfly;35205277]"haha this guy did this wasn't it funny?"[/QUOTE]
Well what sort of thing was it? Did he tell a joke or something?
[QUOTE=blazingfly;35204129]When a girl talks to you about another guy, are you basically doomed?[/QUOTE]
i think it's likely to be one of 2 things:
1. she likes this guy and is oblivious to any feelings you have towards her, and so sees no problem in telling you about this guy
2. she does like you and is trying to make you feel (somewhat) jealous by talking about another guy, maybe subconsciously (or consciously) trying to see how you react so she can see whether you do have any feelings for her or not
really couldn't say which it is, but i think generally those are the scenarios
Or it could just be part of general conversation (unless she talks about him constantly or something)
Maybe I just live in my own little fantasy world where girls don't have ulterior motives for everything they say.
Well, I've never had a girl have feelings for me before, so I'm gonna be safe and assume that it was either 1. or just random conversation. I'm putting money on 1, it does seem she likes this other guy through other things I've seen them do around each other.
[QUOTE=blazingfly;35207042]Well, I've never had a girl have feelings for me before, so I'm gonna be safe and assume that it was either 1. or just random conversation. I'm putting money on 1, it does seem she likes this other guy through other things I've seen them do around each other.[/QUOTE]
What kind of things? If they were snogging, or something, it'd be a pretty good indication that they're into each other.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;35207872]What kind of things? If they were snogging, or something, it'd be a pretty good indication that they're into each other.[/QUOTE]
You and your snogging and shagging.
They're good words. Colorful.
how do you handle dating needy girls, i mean, if i were needy it would be okay, but i'm not. and i think she's worth the trouble but i never dated someone with her "needs"
what do
I thought you had a girlfriend anyway?
Define needs.
[QUOTE=DrBreen;35210428]how do you handle dating needy girls, i mean, if i were needy it would be okay, but i'm not. and i think she's worth the trouble but i never dated someone with her "needs"
what do[/QUOTE]
how about telling us of these needs
[QUOTE=DrBreen;35210428]how do you handle dating needy girls, i mean, if i were needy it would be okay, but i'm not. and i think she's worth the trouble but i never dated someone with her "needs"
what do[/QUOTE]
if you dont know how to handle them already it's probable that you wouldnt be able to sustain a relationship with her in the long run
By my standards a needy girl wants more attention more hugs more kisses talk all the time, meet all the time (but not fuck all the time, of all things), that kind of stuff, but yes in the long run it would be difficult, but my hope would be either it magically get better and she'd grow it out somehow (we're the same age; 20) or that i'd get used to it somehow. magically.
It's terrible because she's really great, great personality, self-conscious and aware of the world around us, unlike most dumb bitches of my age, great ass/boob ratio great looks and a huge Pokemon nerd (didn't see that one coming)
don't know what to say really it's probably best to stop, i don't know
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