• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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BDA, you need to tell us the joke For all we know it could be a bad joke and since you yourself admitted to having a quirky sense of humor, she might not have thought it was funny
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;35235908]I tried to joke with this girl today, but she didn't get it. I don't know who was more put off by it, her or me. [editline]21st March 2012[/editline] It was obviously an hilarious joke. The most hilarious joke.[/QUOTE] Please tell. michaeljackson-popcorn.gif
No, it was hilarious. Trust me, I only tell hilarious jokes. The [I]most[/I] hilarious jokes. Of course, it might have only been hilarious in a situationally ironic way, but that just makes her not getting it even more off-putting. The friendly-looking chubby dude across the room laughed the proper amount, so obviously she's just a putz! That's okay, I wasn't going anywhere with it. I just wanted to be clever.
[QUOTE=exxkai;35234614]I come seeking advice, let's see if you can help me. I met this girl via another friend, my school and her school are practilly like 5 mins away, my friend and her are in the same school, I always wait for my friend to walk home, anyways she started to come with him, I didn't know her, so we started to talk the usual stuff, and on the second day I added her to facebook, we started talking, the next day she gave me her number and we talked though WhatsApp, and when we left school we went together walking.. Anyways she invited me to a party she was doing in her house, I went to the party, she was on top of me abit too much for hardly knowing me so I didn't do anything. The next day she invited me to her house once again, two friends of hers were going, to watch a film and that, we had dinner blabla, and when we watched the film she sat by my side and after a bit she started to hold my hand, and when I left I didn't do anything, the next day she starts to talk to me, saying she isn't sure about this, we were like that for the next days, both weirded out about the situation. After a few days like this we started a relationship, we were fine for two days, that week after we started she was going to her town where she lived before, anyways after those two days, she started to act weird, she was really cold with me (we never met thoses days, because of exams). She said we should have some time not talking to see if she actually feels something for me, I started to like her, we talked little over the course of the week, these two girls I met not too long ago, dedicated a photo for me, and I put it as my profile picture, she took notice and when I talked to her she was really cold, I asked her, and said it doesn't matter she just wanted to make me notice that she didn't like it, on the weekend, she phoned me and we talked about what we did and that, she was making hints that she wanted something with me. We kissed on Monday after school everything was going good, then she started again with the same, and now she told me another guy was after her in her school, I didn't mind, we didn't have anything serious yet. To cut the rest out short, we was cold to each other these days, and she said she was going to give me a surprise on my Birthday which was on last Saturday, I invited those two girls aswell, and they only knew me and another friend, so we had a party on the beach, I wasn't really worrying about anything that day, and I was with them two cause the didn't know anyone and I didn't want to leave them alone, when she left, she sent me a message saying she forgot to give me my present, she was going to give it to me on Monday, the next day, she phoned me saying that on the beach she noticed she actually liked someone else, nothing happened on the beach that I know of, and that she doesn't want anything with noone, I was quite gutted she said that, but it was her decision I took it and carried on, on the other hand, the other guy has been really annoying with her, and that she somesort told the other guy to leave her alone, and she didn't say anything like that to me, this week we have still been meeting to go and leave school, we have been talking, we both have been cheerful, the question is, What do I do now?, I really like her, and I enjoy her presence, patience could be a factor here, but I've been waiting for nearly two months, if she liked me and wanted something with me, why did she change her opinion one day to another? Sorry for the long post D:[/QUOTE] I know it's hard. But relax and think about it. Usually when you start noticing that coldness from someone people tend to keep on giving the benefit of the doubt. Everybody does that at some point, you did, I did too and I think everyone here did at some point. Second of all you have to keep this in mind and use it as a rule so you won't feel so dependant on other people and you won't suffer from moving on and letting things go: People don't just run away, they are there so take your time. Yes, this sound a lot like taking people for granted. It is to some point. But it will help you build your mentality of moving on, because people never let things go completely. As for the girl, she showed early signs of uncertainty since the beginning. Things that you hadn't notice before. That's ok, now you saw it. Now what I advise you to do is to move on for a while don't text her, don't talk about what you had, forget about it, you moved on, you're ok with it and that's what you have to transpire. I'm not going to give you a formula to get her back because there is no such thing. I'm just going to give you some tips to win back her respect and interest, and raise your chances a little bit too. Just don't get your hopes up. Ok, first of all, you still go out and that's great. She knows you want her and she doesn't want you. Problem is you show to much that you want her, that you want a relationship with her. And by showing I mean, you're always "friendzoning" yourself by being there all the time when both of you want to go out, by texting her caring to much. Those sorts of things. You're always available. Even when you're not suppose to be. I don't want to give bad news to you neither giving you to much hope, because that girl never really really like you. She had you, got enough and moved on. You don't have much chances with that girl and you'll get over her pretty easily. People feel attracted to people they respect and you have to make her respect you, not by demanding it, but by living your own life, moving on and don't always be there for you. Make her miss you. That's when people start to notice you. That's all I can say, really. It's tough but you gotta take this time to change. Change is important, make friends, meet new ones, do something. This is how people miss you and look up to you. If you keep doing what you're doing but you'd only be taken for granted. There are lots and lots of things I can say about this, about every detail of making yourself noticeable. I won't. You only need to know this. It's as simple as it gets. But if you want to know my opinion. You don't have much chances with that girl. [B]Knowing this will make you want her even more, right?[/B] Now think about my last sentence. Do you understand where I'm getting at? I think you should forget about her for now. Move on, maybe your paths will cross again, maybe not, but right now you don't have a chance. Move on cause there's just way better than that thing you had with her out there. Insisting and touching the subject will only make things worse.
And I was.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;35235908]I tried to joke with this girl today, but she didn't get it. I don't know who was more put off by it, her or me. [editline]21st March 2012[/editline] It was obviously an hilarious joke. The most hilarious joke.[/QUOTE] don't feel too bad: [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jbnueb2OI4o[/media]
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;35235748]But that's exactly what you do! You think you're always right that you end up giving the most trivial advice in a huge wall of text. You act like you've figured it all out and the rest of us don't know what they're doing. You're actually so full of yourself that you feel like you're giving deep and useful advice. You're so convinced of what you just said above and of how you're analysis is so deep and helpful that you fail to see that what half of what you say is just redundant things that all of us already know and the other half is just wrong. There is not a single person asking for advice here that hasn't been jumped by your arguments. Arguments, once again, that you make so complex and deep that you start inventing universal formulae for everyone's problems. Everywhere we look here you're there acting like you're the man and when we try to tell you, you think we're just messing with you. We're not, you just have to put yourself in your own place and think things through before posting.[/QUOTE] Redundant things that nobody cared to mentioned. I offer advice, may it be extreme or weird in your eyes, it's still an offer. The thing that makes it an argument, is when people disagree with your opinions. So to say I "jumped" people is absurd. I don't expect people to agree with me, nor I care. I provide stuff that work for me. I offer advice that I would utilize myself. "Be social" is one of them. I was social in "normal circumstances" and was unhappy. I was shitty with women. I had been in most of the situations people mentioned here. I met a person that told me bullshit about women and pickup. I went out like a "weirdo" and met women. I started holding a better meaning to life... beyond women and having sex. Understanding how I was, really and how I should view life and my problems. So, right now, I am the man. I was in your place. Whether you agree or not, it's your problem not mine. In the near future, my words will hold more meaning in your eyes.
[QUOTE=Evilan;35235569]Oh fun, now the Love Advice Thread is in GD.[/QUOTE] Now the whole forum can argue with Seith!
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;35236257]Now the whole forum can argue with Seith![/QUOTE] Like a boss.
Seriously, Seith. A recommendation. Your posts would be so much better if you just stopped writing like a philosopher.
pff he doesn't have the smoothness of Chomsky or the creamy texture of Nietzsche and he sure ain't as sharp as Voltaire
[QUOTE=thisispain;35236540]pff he doesn't have the smoothness of Chomsky or the creamy texture of Nietzsche and he sure ain't as sharp as Voltaire[/QUOTE] Aight then I'll go down a notch Seith, stop posting as if you were a "deep thinker"
I like philosophy and deep thinking.
[QUOTE=Protocol7;35236614]Aight then I'll go down a notch Seith, stop posting as if you were a "deep thinker"[/QUOTE] If I had a nickel...
Not sure how okay I am with this thread having to be in GD now..
[QUOTE=Protocol7;35236448]Seriously, Seith. A recommendation. Your posts would be so much better if you just stopped writing like a philosopher.[/QUOTE] Pihlosophers invoke thought and have meaning to their writing. The only thing seith's posts invoke in me is the urge to smash my head into a wall.
The Super [i]Friendly[/i] Social Love and Advice Thread: Seith hate edition
Shit, I liked LA more when it was stowed away at the bottom of the forums as for Seith, I wish we could just ignore his posts, but new people looking for advice will then just absorb all of the weird crap he says
[QUOTE=lum1naire;35237967]Not sure how okay I am with this thread having to be in GD now..[/QUOTE] Didn't make much sense for the Chat Threads to be separated anyways. I mean a "Chat Thread" and a "General Discussion Thread" sound like the same thing to me.
This is more social than relationship, but whatever. I haven't had any face to face contact with any of my friends for more than two weeks now, and I imagine it will continue for at least a few months (not something that I can change). Any tips on not going insane from what is basically cabin fever?
[QUOTE=LordCrypto;35239114]This is more social than relationship, but whatever. I haven't had any face to face contact with any of my friends for more than two weeks now, and I imagine it will continue for at least a few months (not something that I can change). Any tips on not going insane from what is basically cabin fever?[/QUOTE]Video games. Lots and lots of video games and movies
other than that?
Nah, just keep yourself busy.
Thinking about making a profile on POF. I'm just looking for hookups, but any advice?
[QUOTE=LordCrypto;35239114]This is more social than relationship, but whatever. I haven't had any face to face contact with any of my friends for more than two weeks now, and I imagine it will continue for at least a few months (not something that I can change). Any tips on not going insane from what is basically cabin fever?[/QUOTE] Might have to make some new friends. Take a jump out of your comfort zone and introduce yourself to someone new. A month without social contact is torture without someone to talk to on a daily basis, even with video games.
I would be friends with Seith :v:
[QUOTE=Evilan;35240565]Might have to make some new friends. Take a jump out of your comfort zone and introduce yourself to someone new. A month without social contact is torture without someone to talk to on a daily basis, even with video games.[/QUOTE] Except I don't really have the ability to. Due to a unique and complicated situation, which I don't care to explain frankly, I have no contact with my current friends. My old friends from my former school aren't aware of the situation, and making contact with them would require explaining it, which I don't want to do. End result: I'm in a limbo state socially. [editline]21st March 2012[/editline] and even if that didn't matter i haven't talked to anyone my age in a week. i hate this
So if you hate it, why can't you try to make new friends?
because frankly i don't really have a choice any of the people that i care to talk to at all either i'm not legally allowed to or i don't want to explain why i'm reconnecting in the first place
I don't see why you can't talk to [I]new[/I] people though. If it's legal reasoning, which it sounds like it is, then that's pretty shitty. You'd just have to pull yourself together and keep yourself occupied for awhile.
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