• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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I'm only doing it to break out of the friendzone.
I'm hoping maybe someone could give me advice on how to just get over a "situation" with a girl I know. It's been going on since January and its really stressing me out. I really want to not care about it anymore, but the second I'm not busy doing anything I automatically think about it, and it makes me depressed. No matter how hard I try I just cant get over it. Its getting to the point where I'm getting borderline suicidal about it. I even got a job thinking "Hmm, maybe if I get a job it will help me take my mind off it." and its not really working. The second I stop working/on break it pops into my head. Its like my brain wants me to feel sad and depressed, I cant stand it. And for those wondering what the situation is: My friend and I KNEW a girl. She's 18 (Its funny because she turned 18 in January) and has been going out with some 15-year old KID over xbox live who plays MW3 religiously (Yes, hes one of those 'mlg-wannabe-MW3-is-srs-bussiness" kids), and who lives almost 5,000 miles away (We live in Hawaii, and MW3 kid is in Virgina.) for the past 3 months. And very, very, VERY long story short, My best friend asked her out and got turned down for 15-year old MW3 kid who she will be probably never met in real life. Now My friend and I feel really "replaced". She almost NEVER talks to us anymore, and before MW3 kid we played and talked all the time. It was really fun, but thanks to MW3 kid it's all gone now. I miss her and all the fun times we had, but she now she is basically telling us to fuck off by never talking to us anymore. I feel like if she does talk to us its only because she feels like forced to, like to make us feel better even though I don't think she really cares anymore. I don't even have a crush on her, I was really good friends with her though. I just really miss her...
Just tell her that you don't want your friendship to tear away.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35252072]this is so weird though are you actually trying to greet the strangers? are you trying to start a conversation with them? or are you just acknowledging their existence as some sort of practice for the future? if someone i didnt know randomly raised their eyebrows at me but then didnt actually start a conversation i would just think they were weird[/QUOTE] if everybody cared that much about what people thought of them do you think anybody would be able to meet anyone new? it's just a friendly greeting and i raise my eyebrows at strangers all the time, they usually just do the same back.
Raising the eyebrows is generally a sign of being surprised/taken aback at what is going on, in that case it sounds like you're acting affronted by the presence of the individuals you use it on No wonder they do it back :v:
[QUOTE=SHOE3045;35256789]ive never even fucking kissed a girl... im just tired of being alone, I just want a fucking hug. I dont know the last time I got a hug.[/QUOTE] We share a common goal
[QUOTE=SHOE3045;35256789]ive never even fucking kissed a girl... im just tired of being alone, I just want a fucking hug. I dont know the last time I got a hug.[/QUOTE] I've never even held hands with one.
let's all meet up and shag! Yeah baby! [editline]23rd March 2012[/editline] im dead inside
Is it bad if I have a deep hatred of women and straight men?
[QUOTE=Icyanimal;35260174]Is it bad if I have a deep hatred of women and straight men?[/QUOTE] Um, yeah.
[QUOTE=ZombieDawgs;35259635] im dead inside[/QUOTE] We all are to some extent
[QUOTE=Icyanimal;35260174]Is it bad if I have a deep hatred of women and straight men?[/QUOTE] I'd say a deep hatred for anything isn't exactly the best thing.
you're at that stage where you think that anyone who's different from you is somehow inferior to you as well [editline]23rd March 2012[/editline] also known as "rusty100-syndrome"
is there an actual name for it?
[QUOTE=JohanGS;35261080]is there an actual name for it?[/QUOTE] Arrogance and Narcism. Pick one.
Narcigance
[QUOTE=junker|154;35261163]Arrogance and Narcism. Pick one.[/QUOTE] You mean narcissism? [editline]23rd March 2012[/editline] Because narcism is not a thing.
Narcism: the state or condition of narcitude, being a narc.
How can I meet new people.
[QUOTE=Megafan;35262821]You mean narcissism? [editline]23rd March 2012[/editline] Because narcism is not a thing.[/QUOTE] Yeah, I totally failed that one. I was used to the german word and failed to translate it properly :v:
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;35255421]Maybe it'd help if I had the backstory here, but doesn't the fact that you're on a date kind of imply that she knows you have feelings for her, or at least are open to the concept of having feelings for her?[/QUOTE] We "dated" once before where she talked about her past relationships. Both sucked (one said she was too shy and another wanted nudes). A lot of the people in our high school are assholes/whores anyway. She said she doesn't plan on having a serious relationship until shes in college because high school relationships don't mean anything really. Too much drama and even if you do love each other different colleges will break you up anyway. We're both familiar with shows like Maury and Jerry Springer so we see a lot of bullshit in the "relationships" on the show anyway. Honestly I had the EXACT same beliefs before I got to know her. Now I just want to spend more time with her. At school we share 5 periods together and we walk together in the halls. People notice (because both of us aren't exactly the dating type, as in people who know us wouldn't expect us to be in a relationship) and basically all her friends and all of my friends know I like her. Its bugging the hell out of me now that apparently her friends told her/she knows and nothing has happened.
You guys seem like you know what you're on about, so can you help me out abit?
[QUOTE=Scrimp;35264036]You guys seem like you know what you're on about, so can you help me out abit?[/QUOTE] sure, lay it on us [editline]23rd March 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;35263797]We "dated" once before where she talked about her past relationships. Both sucked (one said she was too shy and another wanted nudes). A lot of the people in our high school are assholes/whores anyway. She said she doesn't plan on having a serious relationship until shes in college because high school relationships don't mean anything really. Too much drama and even if you do love each other different colleges will break you up anyway. We're both familiar with shows like Maury and Jerry Springer so we see a lot of bullshit in the "relationships" on the show anyway. Honestly I had the EXACT same beliefs before I got to know her. Now I just want to spend more time with her. At school we share 5 periods together and we walk together in the halls. People notice (because both of us aren't exactly the dating type, as in people who know us wouldn't expect us to be in a relationship) and basically all her friends and all of my friends know I like her. Its bugging the hell out of me now that apparently her friends told her/she knows and nothing has happened.[/QUOTE] first off, that isn't a good attitude to generalize that most people at your high school are assholes/whores. i had the same attitude for a long time, but eventually i dropped it and started talking to everybody, and i met a lot of really cool people that i used to hate. secondly, if everybody knows you like her, then she knows you like her, and she agreed to go on a date with you, so that's the signal that she wants to see where it goes. it's on you to make the move. don't wait for the perfect opportunity, because you'll end up waiting forever. just reach over and hold her hand, it's not difficult. don't even think about, just force your hand to move.
It takes me alot to write this but anyway there is girl that I really like but she is slightly more 'cool' than me and im kinda more of the layed back characters of my school but she thinks im cute as I act akward or something. I don't know what to do as I will be wrecked from something bad happening. I'm getting swetty writing this.
first you need to calm down a bit and get rid of that notion that she's somehow better than you then ask her out, see if she's interesting and if she's not, move on
Define aske her out, please.
[QUOTE=Scrimp;35264537]Define aske her out, please.[/QUOTE] Do you want to do x on y? something along those lines I assume.
[QUOTE=Scrimp;35264537]Define aske her out, please.[/QUOTE] you're not in middle school or maybe you are. the point is that asking someone out isn't "will you be my girlfriend?," you actually ask them on a date. go read the op, it covers that.
Ok cheers, btw I'm in secondary school.
[QUOTE=ZombieDawgs;35264603]Do you want to do x on y? something along those lines I assume.[/QUOTE] I would be even more specific, that could be said in totally the wrong way.
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