The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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Gonna ask the girl I got friendzoned by if she would like to go see the movie Hunger Games some day, as she seemed interested in it when I talked about it today.
And next time I see the girl I spent last friday night with if she would like to go for a cup of coffee the next time she comes to the city, as it was our original plan.
Get more of that potential jealousy going on.
I decide to not be quiet and the person I'm interested in isn't at school today. ffff
I went ahead and talked to some juniors(I'm a sophomore). It turns out that one of the juniors in my general business class is going to the prom. He didn't state who. He talks to a lot of people, so there might be a chance that he asked the person out. I was worried at first, but then I realized that 1) He's probably going to go out with another junior and 2) it doesn't matter anyway, my ultimate goal is to be friends with this person, and if she's dating that doesn't really affect the goal unless her boyfriend is freaky about the subject.
Now this is a request for advice. Good friend who is a girl was cryptic to me about guy problems. This came after a sorta kinda flirt.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;35298612]be yourself
like actually be yourself and be proud of being yourself. if you are proud of who you are talking to other people, even girls won't even be an issue.
also in college there's a lot more people and they don't give a shit about popularity, so fucking up doesn't matter.[/QUOTE]
This is true. It's much easier to be "social" in college than highschool in some ways, though harder in others.
It's harder because you'll almost never be involved or around the same people for more than a semester class-wise, and you're classes will generally only involve class - there's really not much personality wise or friend wise to be found in classes. It's harder to meet people becuase of this. The exception would be small classes that focus on your major, especially upper-level ones. Generally you'll be consistently in the same class with other people at that level.
It also is a lot easier to be exposed to people if you live on-campus through dorms through the first year or two. You'll basically be forced to be around people for a good year or two, which does wonders for getting to know people.
If you don't live on campus, you can get involved with clubs and such to get to be friends with others.
But at the same time it's much easier. Generally you're going to be more comfortable and confident in your own skin at the college-level age, which makes introducing yourself less awkward because you're going to generally not give a shit at the result, as you'll hopefully just be yourself.
Popularity pretty much doesn't exist at all, and most pregdicices too. If someone happens to be pregidiced against you, chances are you simply won't interact with them. Almost nobody cares about who is popular and who is not anymore. Partially due to maturity, partially due to corsework, and partially due to the size AND age diversity of the student body being much larger. Basically if you put yourself out there, you'll generally find people to meet and know naturally, and generally nobody is going to care who you are as they'll have their own types of people and groups they like to be around.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;35298386]so my girlfriend's mother is an absolute cunt that hates me because i'm an atheist
i mean jesus what[/QUOTE]
that's funny
my girlfriend's mother loves me for the same reason. she even let me stay at their house for two weeks when i needed a place to stay. didn't even have to sleep on the couch, just in my girlfriend's room. her mom really likes me.
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[QUOTE=NeonpieDFTBA;35307261]Now this is a request for advice. Good friend who is a girl was cryptic to me about guy problems. This came after a sorta kinda flirt.[/QUOTE]
"good friend talks to you about guy friends"
it's probably not there, and you're probably picking up signals that aren't there either with a "sorta kinda flirt." it's pretty clear when a girl's into you
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35309112]
"good friend talks to you about guy friends"
it's probably not there, and you're probably picking up signals that aren't there either with a "sorta kinda flirt." it's pretty clear when a girl's into you[/QUOTE]
Not all women provide signals that easily.
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[QUOTE=redBadger;35306827]And if i do not have her number?[/QUOTE]
Preferred choice would be a phone call. Unless, you have an option to chat her up face to face.
i hate having to text girls. it's such a chore, but unfortunately the general understanding in my school is that if you don't text a girl you obviously have no interest in her. it blows because i'll usually be outstandingly overt in my flirting, but that same kind of overt-ness doesn't translate well to text.
you don't have to text her constantly if she isnt capable of keeping you interested that way. just text them to set up dates and whatnot, if you're going out together then i believe that would count as showing interest in them.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35310572]you don't have to text her constantly if she isnt capable of keeping you interested that way. just text them to set up dates and whatnot, if you're going out together then i believe that would count as showing interest in them.[/QUOTE]
i'm not exaggerating when i say the girl will assume you don't like her if you don't text her at least once a day. it's nuts.
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and it's essentially universal, regardless of the personality of the girl.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;35310605]i'm not exaggerating when i say the girl will assume you don't like her if you don't text her at least once a day. it's nuts.
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and it's essentially universal, regardless of the personality of the girl.[/QUOTE]
maybe you should find someone who you would actually like to text and enjoy talking to throughout the day then???
i have long days at uni, 10 till 4, and it's just straight work. my girlfriend tends to text me a little during the day and i find it no chore to reply. she's usually doing something interesting and, regardless, it's nice to know what she's up to and it's nice to know that she feels the need to tell me
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[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35310683]maybe you should find someone who you would actually like to text and enjoy talking to throughout the day then???
i have long days at uni, 10 till 4, and it's just straight work. my girlfriend tends to text me a little during the day and i find it no chore to reply. she's usually doing something interesting and, regardless, it's nice to know what she's up to and it's nice to know that she feels the need to tell me[/QUOTE]
it's not a matter of finding it a chore to text the girl, i find it a chore to text for any reason.
well that's your own issue then i guess, it shouldn't feel too difficult to hear what somebody's doing at least once a day, especially a girl you like
BDA, does that latest update on Katie mean that she's a no-go?
I'm following your situation like it's a television series, so if you feel creeped out, it's probably natural.
Got some advice today from a friend who managed to escape the friendzone.
Its really useful to have my date's brother as my friend.
Now i hear she has been really happier than normal now that she started dating me, and she has talked a lot about me.
Normally i'd probably be really paranoid about her feelings.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35315955]Got some advice today from a friend who managed to escape the friendzone.[/QUOTE]
care to share?
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;35311594]BDA, does that latest update on Katie mean that she's a no-go?
I'm following your situation like it's a television series, so if you feel creeped out, it's probably natural.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, the Hot Coffee Girl ship has sailed, but somebody else will dock if I hang out at the port for long enough.
[QUOTE=NeonpieDFTBA;35316529]care to share?[/QUOTE]
Well what he did was that he got the opportunity of having his crush catch him in the prescence of another girl (who was a friend) and then he showed her his sad face. To show how miserable he was withouth her.
I told her my situation and we both agréed on that it is manageable (with the situation being her not just feeling comfortable about dating her friends).
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35317935]Well what he did was that he got the opportunity of having his crush catch him in the prescence of another girl (who was a friend) and then he showed her his sad face. To show how miserable he was withouth her.
I told her my situation and we both agréed on that it is manageable (with the situation being her not just feeling comfortable about dating her friends).[/QUOTE]
seems much quicker than letting them have a year to finally come around :v:
From what I've picked up it didn't seem to be instant.
So yeah, on my previous post, i decided to ask this girl out over facebook and got a yes, and she thought the double date idea would be cool, so thats what we will do. She was cool with it being over facebook and all since we rarely see each other in school.
Anyway, first date ive been on since August, and im excited. Not in a relationship yet, but im being optimistic
[QUOTE=NeonpieDFTBA;35304356]It says there are 52 pages but no matter what browser I use and what way I attempt to access page 52 it redirects me here...
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It appears it was lying...[/QUOTE]
such is the social anguish of NeonpieDFTBA
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35315955]Got some advice today from a friend who managed to escape the friendzone.[/QUOTE]
The Hank Green friendzone or where they friends who decided to get together?
He got friendzoned but she regretted it later on.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;35310605]i'm not exaggerating when i say the girl will assume you don't like her if you don't text her at least once a day. it's nuts.
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and it's essentially universal, regardless of the personality of the girl.[/QUOTE]
This may sound crazy, but have you actually considered telling them you like them?
Today was a weird day for me, I got groped by a creepy guy in my maths classes and a hot girl. When I got groped by the hot girl, this lead to a conversation about my lack of sex and how when anything goes for my groin, it mostly ends in pain, not pleasure.
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[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35319715]He got friendzoned but she regretted it later on.[/QUOTE]
Was he an overbearing friend, trying disparately to hook up with this girl, against all common sense or was he friends with the girl and developed an attraction to her. If it's the first case, the best way to get out of the friendzone is to stop hanging out with her.
Girl I'm interested in talking to came to school today. I was gonna talk to her in Biology, but we were watching Osmosis Jones the entire time today and then she went with her friends and started talking about shoes. In General Business, I was going to ask her something like "Hey, aren't you in my gym class?" but I couldn't talk to her as immediately after class she and her friend left early, and she came to class late today.
So hopefully with gym with her tomorrow, things will be better. There's a tournament thing we're doing there, and tomorrow(I'm hoping) is the day I'm going to say something to her.
Speaking of girls and gyms, I saw a girl from my English class this morning while I was at PT. I only got to say hello then, but I got to talk to her for a couple minutes before and after class later on. She seems pretty nice, and from what I've seen/heard in class she's pretty sharp too.
Ok, so, this relationship I've gotten into seems to be going pretty well, for the most part. But in terms of conversation, it seems to be getting a bit stale. She says she wants to get to know me better and says she doesn't really know a lot about me, but she never actually expresses interest in me or anything. Our conversations seem to be mostly about her or about what we're doing/current events, which is fine and good, but there's a point where you run out of things to say.
I've tried talking about my life and interests and stuff, but she gives off this vibe of boredom/not really caring, and I don't want to come off as self centered so I don't really push it a lot, I usually change subjects once I notice that interest is waning. She also doesn't text much, so outside of talking in person it's hard to comunicate. But it's getting a tad frustrating to hold a conversation when they die out constantly. She's also a bit socially awkward at times (and, to be fair, so am I), and hasn't really dated anyone before, which might contribute a bit to it.
Maybe I'm just reading her wrong or feeling too self conscious. I dunno. What do?
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