The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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try going out and doing things together more often, see if that helps conversations pick up
otherwise, keep trying, but if the communication/interest isn't there, it isn't there. doesn't have to be a bad thing, the relationship just isn't working.
Been struggling with a very mixed friendship/romance with this girl for a while now, this thread just reminded me what I need to do to take it to the next level. Good post Breen.
[QUOTE=KnowProblem;35324754]Ok, so, this relationship I've gotten into seems to be going pretty well, for the most part. But in terms of conversation, it seems to be getting a bit stale. She says she wants to get to know me better and says she doesn't really know a lot about me, but she never actually expresses interest in me or anything. Our conversations seem to be mostly about her or about what we're doing/current events, which is fine and good, but there's a point where you run out of things to say.
I've tried talking about my life and interests and stuff, but she gives off this vibe of boredom/not really caring, and I don't want to come off as self centered so I don't really push it a lot, I usually change subjects once I notice that interest is waning. She also doesn't text much, so outside of talking in person it's hard to comunicate. But it's getting a tad frustrating to hold a conversation when they die out constantly. She's also a bit socially awkward at times (and, to be fair, so am I), and hasn't really dated anyone before, which might contribute a bit to it.
Maybe I'm just reading her wrong or feeling too self conscious. I dunno. What do?[/QUOTE]
That reminds me of something of mine.
How I haven't followed the advice of just listening to the girls when they talk.
I am a good listener but I can talk about my daily crap withouth people getting bored due to being quite animated in my speak.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35319715]He got friendzoned but she regretted it later on[/QUOTE]
the friend-zone is a myth
you were either viewed as a sexual interest from the start or you never were at all. there isn't a point where a girl goes "OH this guy is [i]such a good guy[/i] that there's no way i can find him attractive anymore. he is now officially in the Friend Zone(tm)"
utter bullshit
the Friend Zone(tm) is something created by Nice Guys(tm) to explain why a girl is happy to hang out with them but doesn't want to shag them (when the real answer is just that their physical appearance and/or their social behaviour doesn't turn the girl on at all)
three times in my life i've been told that me and a girl are good friends and i have shagged those girls. one of those girls was my best friend for about 5 or 6 years and is still a very close friend. one of them i was very close friends with for a few months and now she's my girlfriend
stop labelling your relationships with nonsense
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35332207]the friend-zone is a myth
you were either viewed as a sexual interest from the start or you never were at all. there isn't a point where a girl goes "OH this guy is [I]such a good guy[/I] that there's no way i can find him attractive anymore. he is now officially in the Friend Zone(tm)"
utter bullshit
the Friend Zone(tm) is something created by Nice Guys(tm) to explain why a girl is happy to hang out with them but doesn't want to shag them (when the real answer is just that their physical appearance and/or their social behaviour doesn't turn the girl on at all)
three times in my life i've been told that me and a girl are good friends and i have shagged those girls. one of those girls was my best friend for about 5 or 6 years and is still a very close friend. one of them i was very close friends with for a few months and now she's my girlfriend
stop labelling your relationships with nonsense[/QUOTE]
but chesty!!! the friendzone really exists!!! in my desparation to fuck girls I always get friendzoned because I like being more friendly than flirty!!! so I'm just going to sulk about how I got viewed as a friend and not a romantic interest because I acted like a friend and not a romantic interest :c
I stopped by the tennis club next door to see what it was all about.
Forget Hot Coffee Girl, it's all about Tall Tennis Woman now. I might even take lessons.
[editline]28th March 2012[/editline]
That's not to say I don't burn deep for Hot Coffee Girl, though. She's definitely probably the love of my life. So is Cute Artist Girl from my drawing class. And Well-Spoken Petite Girl from my speech class. And whoever did the self-portraits in the student art gallery. I'm a very loving guy.
[editline]28th March 2012[/editline]
Oh, bless, I forgot all about Blue-Haired Target Babe. She's my moon and sun.
does she have a nice rack[SUB][SUB][SUP]et[/SUP][/SUB][/SUB]?
Tennis ladies wear flattering pants.
didn't get baldie
officially not a man
One of these days I'll be walking by the coffee shop with an umbrella, just as she gets off work. She'll say, "why do you have an umbrella? It's not even raining." I'll reply, "You might laugh at my umbrella now, but if it does ever rain, then who'll have the power?"
She'll say, "You're charming and hilarious and also you have nice teeth and hair. My boyfriend is dumb and ugly by comparison."
I'll say, "Certainly. Let's go to my apartment and make love by the fire."
She'll swoon and say, "I've never done it by a fireplace before."
And I'll say, "fireplace?"
It will be great.
[QUOTE=Blueridge;35320378]Girl I'm interested in talking to came to school today. I was gonna talk to her in Biology, but we were watching Osmosis Jones the entire time today and then she went with her friends and started talking about shoes. In General Business, I was going to ask her something like "Hey, aren't you in my gym class?" but I couldn't talk to her as immediately after class she and her friend left early, and she came to class late today.
So hopefully with gym with her tomorrow, things will be better. There's a tournament thing we're doing there, and tomorrow(I'm hoping) is the day I'm going to say something to her.[/QUOTE]
well i finally said something. Asked her if we had gym together, she said yes. should've probably made a more specific statement with the "I'm going to say something to her" thing.
congrats on talking to a girl!
youve made some huge progress towards getting laid!!
[QUOTE=baptizedinblood;35325220]Been struggling with a very mixed friendship/romance with this girl for a while now, this thread just reminded me what I need to do to take it to the next level. Good post Breen.[/QUOTE]
Good post Breen? he literally wrote none of the op that actually had to do with the thread
Does having an issue with your sister count as a social problem?
Because I REALLY need to bitch about her.
And maybe find a solution to my problem.
[QUOTE=Pascall;35335238]Does having an issue with your sister count as a social problem?
Because I REALLY need to bitch about her.
And maybe find a solution to my problem.[/QUOTE]
of course it counts.
[QUOTE=Pascall;35335238]Does having an issue with your sister count as a social problem?
Because I REALLY need to bitch about her.
And maybe find a solution to my problem.[/QUOTE]
i dont think so
i have a issue with my cousin that has been around since 2005, and even though we have school together it doesn't affect either of us
[QUOTE=Pascall;35335238]Does having an issue with your sister count as a social problem?
Because I REALLY need to bitch about her.
And maybe find a solution to my problem.[/QUOTE]
Nope, that's a personal problem, but if you'd like to share it with us and vent your frustrations go right ahead, i know all about brother/sister problems :v:
EDIT: More so brother problems, i don't have a sister, but equally valid i suppose!
[QUOTE=Blueridge;35335262]i dont think so
i have a issue with my cousin that has been around since 2005, and even though we have school together it doesn't affect either of us[/QUOTE]
Well then it's obviously not an issue is it?
-snippers-
[editline]28th March 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Lukeo;35335280]Well then it's obviously not an issue is it?[/QUOTE]
Not an immediate issue, but an unresolved issue, lying dormant. Like syphilis.
God I would like to. I would so like to.
Don't get me wrong, I love her.
But god[I]DAMN[/I] she is the most lazy, ungrateful, bitchy, rude, self-serving, demanding, over-the-top drama queen I have EVER had the displeasure of being related to.
And I swear to god I cannot WAIT until she gets the fuck out of the house.
She sits at home for fucking 18 hours out of the day if she's not going off and baking cakes at her friends house, and only works on weekends. Meanwhile, both of my parents have full time careers, and I'm working two jobs AND going to school. So she's the only one home. And NOTHING gets done. My mother and I pride ourselves on having a clean house, okay? Even my [I]dad[/I] does more around the house than she does. So she does fucking nothing. All day. Just sits on her goddamn laptop on Twitter. I come home, there's fucking clothes everywhere, dishes still in the sink, bowls full of rice left on the counter with trash and food everywhere.
I'll get home after working for 8 or 12 hours straight and see this fucking shit everywhere and then my mom comes home and gets all upset because nothing's done and we BOTH get punished. I swear to god it's driving me up the fucking wall. And when she DOES do something, she does an extremely SHITTY job of it. It's like she doesn't know how to do ANYTHING. She can't wash clothes right, she can't do dishes properly, she doesn't know how to mop or sweep or even clean the goddamn bathroom correctly. So I end up doing it all myself because I'd rather have it done the RIGHT way than have crap everywhere still because she did a god-awful job.
So I don't get a moment to relax until fucking midnight after working and going to school and she's STILL SITTING THERE on fucking Twitter.
All. Fucking. Day.
Okay.
I'm done.
I think.
I really just needed to get that out.
when she moves out it's gonna be worse because she's not gonna manage to survive out on her own.
i never had any brothers or sisters, but i've had horrible housemates so i sympathize, don't feel bad about wanting to murder her hhahah.
I would be out of the house already just to get away from her if I made enough money. Unfortunately, even with two jobs, I'm still only making about 300 every pay period. Give or take. And I'm not sure if that's enough to afford a place. Even with a few roommates.
Not that I can find any roommates yet anyway. No one I know would be able to put up with my standards of cleanliness.
I hate people who takes jokes too far. Today was warm, so we spent a lot of it outside, and we kept tackling everyone and piling on them, when we did it to one guy he got a knee to the balls.
A normal human response is to help him up and help him recover, but this one kid, while the guy was obviously in pain, decided to take off his shoes and throw them in the bush, and it just killed the mood and makes me less keen to take part in physical play like that, as massive idiots can just ruin it.
it depends on your surrounding, if i remember correctly you go to a community college? i don't think they really have student housing near community colleges so i'm afraid that's not an option.
and with dirty housemates you run the risk of becoming their mother in the end, some people just don't learn how to clean up after themselves.
Im hoping your sister doesnt turn out to be like a 5 year old or something.
Slight exaggeration but tell your parents to get her to clean her room properly, start from there and progress. Just like anything start off small.
[QUOTE=thisispain;35335428]it depends on your surrounding, if i remember correctly you go to a community college? i don't think they really have student housing near community colleges so i'm afraid that's not an option.
and with dirty housemates you run the risk of becoming their mother in the end, some people just don't learn how to clean up after themselves.[/QUOTE]
Yeah. No on campus housing here. So I'd have to find an apartment. On-campus housing is much more expensive than an apartment around here, at any rate.
and yeah I know that much. I need to move in with people who like to be clean and take pride in neatness. I mean clutter, I don't mind. As long as it's organized clutter.
[QUOTE=Godline;35335439]Im hoping your sister doesnt turn out to be like a 5 year old or something.
Slight exaggeration but tell your parents to get her to clean her room properly, start from there and progress. Just like anything start off small.[/QUOTE]
They've been trying that since she was 14. Hasn't worked so far. She's 22 now.
your parents need to grow some balls and force her to pay rent or take care of the house, goddamn
I wish they would. But they'd rather her be here than out on her own for some reason. I don't know.
[QUOTE=Pascall;35335459]Yeah. No on campus housing here. So I'd have to find an apartment. On-campus housing is much more expensive than an apartment around here, at any rate.
and yeah I know that much. I need to move in with people who like to be clean and take pride in neatness. I mean clutter, I don't mind. As long as it's organized clutter.
They've been trying that since she was 14. Hasn't worked so far. She's 22 now.[/QUOTE]
Your parents are too fucking soft then, christ almighty 22 and a no offence dead beat. They need to start charging her rent / force her to get a job or something productive. If she wont move her arse round the house force her or tell her she can fund her own lifestyle.
because she would probably die on her own, killed by the various animals that would infest her habitat.
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