The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=ForgottenKane;35349736]ugh
facing a lot of shit from friends about leaving my gf
fml[/QUOTE]
Okay... two questions.
1. Were you unhappy with your girlfriend when you left her?
2. Why are you friends with people who judge you for dumping someone you aren't even married to?
So I was real harsh, and you may think I'm a cunt now, I don't mind because someone had to do it
I'm not saying everyone runs through that narrative in their head every time they see a fat person, I was just trying to outline the subconscious connotations that go on. "Nice" people may never go so far, or would never actually say these things, but it's there nonetheless.
As for it being hard or someone having a serious disorder that causes it, I am well aware. The reason I didn't compensate for that in my post was that it was directed at joes, who said more or less that he can't be bothered to try. An attitude that poor deserves the bluntest response possible, imo.
[QUOTE=Godline;35348068]His parents were probably one of those take every day like its your last, motivational lets shove it down everybody else's throats kind people.
Tbf id rather be carrying "some" weight for the rest of my life rather than live a life being worried about what I have to eat because ill need to sweat it off later....[/QUOTE]
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HE'S SHOVING IT DOWN MY THROAT, OH NO
What did you say about my parents?
Get down and gimme 20 :v:
[QUOTE=Lukeo;35349677]You'll be fine, considering it was a mutual agreement there should be no hard feelings, had a girl break up with me over text the other week. :v:
Better to end it while neither of you are horribly depressed or feel terrible, go out on kind of a high note.[/QUOTE]
Thanks again. I'm sorry to hear that, and I'm glad you're getting it over pretty fast.
[QUOTE=Evilan;35350030]Okay... two questions.
1. Were you unhappy with your girlfriend when you left her?
2. Why are you friends with people who judge you for dumping someone you aren't even married to?[/QUOTE]
1. Yes.
2. Because they're generally good people, it's just that I think she's spreading something about me.
[editline]29th March 2012[/editline]
also im friends with a bunch of sociopaths so that might explain a it a bit
[QUOTE=Lukeo;35347175]Ask out your crush before you become "a great guy friend :)"[/QUOTE]
Already did, friendzonity happened.
[editline]30th March 2012[/editline]
But that kind of a friendzone situation that can be bypassed.
The main thing that sticks out to me about Joe's last paragraph is the bit about losing weight might not be viable eve to economic reasons... which i do think is bullshit.
Yes, everyone know that junk food etc. is much much cheaper than healthier options like salad and fresh produce and meat
but it's very simple; if you cant before to buy healthy food, then just reduce the amount of crap food that you eat. It really couldn't be simpler, so that example is a shite reason
and like evilIansaid, if you get into the mindset that losing weight is too hard for you then you probably wont
I've been losing weight recently.
What did I do?
Keeping an eye on what I eat and exercising every day.
Did I lose weight?
Nope.
But what I did lose was body fat. Which is awesome.
i've recently gained some weight due to eating healthy food.
I set myself a funny goal; to be in such shame that if I get in a game of strip poker (which is highly likely, with the group of friends where my crush is), what I lose in clothes they lose in self-esteem.
[editline]30th March 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=thisispain;35353561]i've recently gained some weight due to eating healthy food.[/QUOTE]
That reminds me how I stayed in shape one time I had junk food every day: Just eating once a day.
[QUOTE=Autumn;35353424]The main thing that sticks out to me about Joe's last paragraph is the bit about losing weight might not be viable eve to economic reasons... which i do think is bullshit.
Yes, everyone know that junk food etc. is much much cheaper than healthier options like salad and fresh produce and meat
but it's very simple; if you cant before to buy healthy food, then just reduce the amount of crap food that you eat. It really couldn't be simpler, so that example is a shite reason
and like evilIansaid, if you get into the mindset that losing weight is too hard for you then you probably wont[/QUOTE]
I think what you mean to say is that you endorse what I said 100% but you also want to be polite so you're letting it out in bits and pieces :v
[QUOTE=Autumn;35347930]also (iirc) a naturally skinny basta'hd
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Dunno about naturally skinny, I'm fit because I do things, all there is to it really
Anyhow we can't all be curvy and have famous bottoms and all sorts, gimme a break!
[QUOTE=Lukeo;35347175]Ask out your crush before you become "a great guy friend :)"[/QUOTE]
[quote=i'm right]the friend-zone is a myth
you were either viewed as a sexual interest from the start or you never were at all. there isn't a point where a girl goes "OH this guy is [i]such a good guy[/i] that there's no way i can find him attractive anymore. he is now officially in the Friend Zone(tm)"
utter bullshit
the Friend Zone(tm) is something created by Nice Guys(tm) to explain why a girl is happy to hang out with them but doesn't want to shag them (when the real answer is just that their physical appearance and/or their social behaviour doesn't turn the girl on at all)
three times in my life i've been told that me and a girl are good friends and i have shagged those girls. one of those girls was my best friend for about 5 or 6 years and is still a very close friend. one of them i was very close friends with for a few months and now she's my girlfriend
stop labelling your relationships with nonsense[/quote]
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35355057][/QUOTE]
While the principle behind the idea of the "Friend Zone" is close to the truth, it's reasoning is a bit far from it.
It's not an instant decision nor (for the most part) a conscious decision.
The zone exists due to how the male behaves towards the girl. Just because a man is good friends with her, doesn't mean he can't have sex with her. In fact, common grounds with girls is a natural part of a relationship.
The zone only describes a failure to communicate his desires without being perceived as clingy (i.e showing too much interest right from the bat, listening to her every trouble....)
if you really want to get in shape, join the military. once you're in basic training, you'll be too scared to not exercise
disclaimer: this is a life decision, you probably shouldnt just join it on a whim
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35356267]if you really want to get in shape, join the military. once you're in basic training, you'll be too scared to not exercise
disclaimer: this is a life decision, you probably shouldnt just join it on a whim[/QUOTE]
Shouldn't you already be on your back to headquarters?
[QUOTE=Seith;35356368]Shouldn't you already be on your back to headquarters?[/QUOTE]
what do you mean?
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35356398]what do you mean?[/QUOTE]
Didn't you say you finished bootcamp like 2 weeks ago?
yeah, what about it? I'm in tech school now at Keesler air force base in mississippi, and once I'm done with this I'll go to my first base to actually do my job
I thought you were having an off time, seemed odd, as we get about a day, two max here after bootcamp.
no, tech school's kinda like college. there's a bunch of dorms, class for eight hours monday through friday, and you can do pretty much whatever you want off-duty. there's still PT at 4 in the fucking morning though
There is an annoying couple in my friendship group, when ever they get a chance they make out, but the worse thing is you can hear it 10m away.
tell them to stop, it's annoying. if they respond by laughing and doing it more for the attention, stop inviting them to hang out. nobody enjoys that.
[QUOTE=Thoughtless;35356640]There is an annoying couple in my friendship group, when ever they get a chance they make out, but the worse thing is you can hear it 10m away.[/QUOTE]
Why does it bother you so much, the question arises.
ChestyMcGee I do know, quit being smug
Just saying it's best to ask the girl out while he's interested, giving her compliments isn't going to instantly form a relationship, considering he said that she's a crush and not just a nice shag
why do i keep mistaking this thread for the Sex, Girlfriends and Shit
[editline]30th March 2012[/editline]
why is there not a comma between girlfriends and shit
[QUOTE=Lukeo;35356743]ChestyMcGee I do know, quit being smug[/QUOTE]
no >:(
[QUOTE=ForgottenKane;35356793]why do i keep mistaking this thread for the Sex, Girlfriends and Shit
[editline]30th March 2012[/editline]
why is there not a comma between girlfriends and shit[/QUOTE]
does it really matter? both titles are pretty clear
[QUOTE=Seith;35356661]Why does it bother you so much, the question arises.[/QUOTE]
It's just annoying, you're trying to have a conversation, but then you get distracted by this loud sloppy sound that you are desperately trying to ignore. Them making out isn't too much of a problem, but the noise they make just makes everything awkward.
Aaah! I tried to ask out [I]Cute Well-Spoken Girl[/I] from class today, but it totes didn't go like I expected! I figured that, when I walked up to her in the hall after class and said, "hey, what's up," she would stop for a second and give me the opportunity to go, "You know, if you're not seeing anyone, I'd like to take you out to dinner."
Instead, she just smiled and kept walking! I mean, she seems pretty shy, so maybe she didn't know that I wanted to talk to her and wasn't just saying hello? I dunno!
I'll try again next class, I suppose, but I was feeling pretty [I]in the zone[/I] today!
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35353553]I've been losing weight recently.
What did I do?
Keeping an eye on what I eat and exercising every day.
Did I lose weight?
Nope.
But what I did lose was body fat. Which is awesome.[/QUOTE]
i've stopped eating ridiculous amounts of carbs (i.e. massive bowls of pasta at least once a day), and now that i'm happily eating salads, getting my 5 (or more) portions of fruit & veg a day and only on 1200kcal a day i'm finding that my weight is slowly reducing, but i'm noticing chubby bits starting to decrease, which feels great. nothing too drastic, i'm eating even healthier than before (not that i was particularly unhealthy, i just liked big portions of carbonara and pittas + houmous etc. which quickly adds up in sugar/starch and fats
losing weight can definitely be harder for some people than others, but it's always a possibility and just hiding behind excuses saying that people "don't understand how difficult it is" are doing just that... hiding from the truth, which is no good for anyone
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35349362]I used to have a similar (but less extreme) view as you until I was put on medication that caused me to gain 30-35 pounds in 2 weeks
I've been a naturally skinny person all of my life, and earlier in the year I was even so underweight that I had to [i]try[/i] to gain weight.
and suddenly, I found myself getting larger than the average person, and I became incredibly self conscious. I worked out for hours every day and watched what I ate extremely carefully, and I still found it really difficult to lose weight.
Yes there are some fat people who could definitely help being fat and probably lose a lot of their weight, but there are others who really struggle with it
you really can't just go around judging people based on their weight, who knows why they are fat, it could totally be due to their personality like you said, or it could also be because of some completely unrelated situation
and fyi I lost a lot of the weight, I'm getting back to normal now, so this isnt just being defensive[/QUOTE]
Advice on gaining weight? :I
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