The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=JohanGS;35357990]Advice on gaining weight? :I[/QUOTE]
eat
lift
[editline]30th March 2012[/editline]
a lot
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35358040]eat
lift
[editline]30th March 2012[/editline]
a lot[/QUOTE]
Dirty Bulking: Lots of carbs, higher than average caloric intake and lifting w/o cardio.
Why do people find such whimsy in my hardships?
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;35358525]Why do people find such whimsy in my hardships?[/QUOTE]
Because you present it in such a brilliant style.
And the names you give these girls; it's hilarious.
[QUOTE=Evilan;35358481]Dirty Bulking: Lots of carbs, higher than average caloric intake and lifting w/o cardio.[/QUOTE]
I want to stay fit, then what?
[QUOTE=JohanGS;35358807]I want to stay fit, then what?[/QUOTE]
i assume by 'fit' you're talking about your ability to run long distances n stuff like that
you can still gain weight while remaining fit i think. it's not something i've looked into but if you do hard cardio like a rowing machine on a high weight or something i guess that'd work. i'm sure normal cardio like running would be fine too but i wouldn't do so much that it impedes weight gain
[QUOTE=JohanGS;35358807]I want to stay fit, then what?[/QUOTE]
You have two possible choices. You can either bulk+cut every few months which is supposedly the fastest method to get larger, but while you bulk you sacrifice a lot of fitness for lifting. Or you can bulk up steadily by eating a balanced diet with required protein, lifting and performing cardio after you lift for maximum calorie loss without much muscle deterioration. Since you say you want to stay fit I assume that means you're opposed to the bulk+cut method.
So for the steady bulk you should lift 3-4 days a week doing mostly compound exercises (squat, bench press, dead lift, cleans, etc) to start (for like first 2-3 months) and then finishing up with maybe 30-45 minutes of cardio after your workout. Cardio after the workout is important because your muscles are already engaged and you lose calories faster without losing too much muscle mass between lifting. Also, do not exert yourself too much when doing the cardio, otherwise you will enter the realm of anaerobic exercise which will break down muscle much quicker, so watch your heartrate. Make sure you have protein before you lift and within an hour of finishing up the cardio for maximum muscle repair and improvement.
Just because I know Seith is a regular bodybuilder forum lurker, this is not the only method available for lifting, but I highly recommend it in accomodation with a a medium carb/higher calorie diet.
Hi FP. Basically, I'm a terrible person and I'm pretty sure no one suspects. I think I should give a bit of background?
I'm an atheist but I pretend I'm a Christian so people will like me and trust me more. I'm into electronic music and blues with small bits of metal here and there but I fake an interest in the exact same music everyone else likes. I dress, act, talk the exact same way as everyone else. But I seriously can't connect with people for the large part. I have friends, some of them very close, but it still weirds me the fuck out getting "close" to people. I want to be alone but at the same time loneliness scares me, seeing how sad and pathetic some people can be.
Basically I want to change and be my own person but I know that's basically asking to be a social outcast if you express any opinions or tastes different than the mainstream Orthodoxy. At the very least I want to be happy instead of perpetually bored/disconnected. Is this just high-school bullshit or should I get this sorted out now so it doesn't follow me throughout life?
And this is really fucking weird and embarrassing but I can't get it up or have an orgasm unless I'm thinking of or viewing necrophilia, snuff material, or gore. I've had this problem since I was a kid. "Normal" material only disgusts me, honestly. Can this be changed or is this set in stone about my personality?
[QUOTE=Djentleman;35359600]Hi FP. Basically, I'm a terrible person and I'm pretty sure no one suspects. I think I should give a bit of background?
I'm an atheist but I pretend I'm a Christian so people will like me and trust me more. I'm into electronic music and blues with small bits of metal here and there but I fake an interest in the exact same music everyone else likes. I dress, act, talk the exact same way as everyone else. But I seriously can't connect with people for the large part. I have friends, some of them very close, but it still weirds me the fuck out getting "close" to people. I want to be alone but at the same time loneliness scares me, seeing how sad and pathetic some people can be.
Basically I want to change and be my own person but I know that's basically asking to be a social outcast if you express any opinions or tastes different than the mainstream Orthodoxy. At the very least I want to be happy instead of perpetually bored/disconnected. Is this just high-school bullshit or should I get this sorted out now so it doesn't follow me throughout life?[/quote]
I want to say it's high school bullshit, because no one is comfortable with who they are in highschool. It's a very high anxiety environment (at least for me when I was in it) where people really fake who they are so they have people to be around. It may be different in your case, but you should be who you want to be and opening up really fosters greater relationships than those based off of lies to protect who you really are.
[QUOTE=Djentleman;35359600]And this is really fucking weird and embarrassing but I can't get it up or have an orgasm unless I'm thinking of or viewing necrophilia, snuff material, or gore. I've had this problem since I was a kid. "Normal" material only disgusts me, honestly. Can this be changed or is this set in stone about my personality?[/QUOTE]
Gross lol. I'll try to find the video for reprogramming your brain to dopamine stimuli, but it is entirely possible to convert your brain to finding "normal" material as fappable once again. However, the one catch for reprogramming your ability to fap normally is to give it and/or sex up for about a month-2 months.
ugh im not making any progress talking to this girl
when i get near her i get like this huge boner and i forget how to talk
[QUOTE=Blueridge;35360561]ugh im not making any progress talking to this girl
when i get near her i get like this huge boner and i forget how to talk[/QUOTE]
Uh...
[QUOTE=Blueridge;35360561]
when i get near her i get like this huge boner and i forget how to talk[/QUOTE]
hah oh man
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;35360575]Uh...[/QUOTE]
no one notices i swear
[QUOTE=Blueridge;35360561]ugh im not making any progress talking to this girl
when i get near her i get like this huge boner and i forget how to talk[/QUOTE]
just remember the amazing conversation you had with that girl last week
"hey, are you in my gym class?"
"yes"
if you can repeat that, you will have her pants off in no time!
embrace your boner
Just poke her with it. It'll be fun.
"I promise that's my cell-phone!
Or is it?"
[editline]30th March 2012[/editline]
Sometimes I feel like a sex toy.
For girls.
Sorry guys, I don't do guys.
But girls...
I am a good sex toy.
Ever since joining Facepunch, I've had this awkward sensation to give myself paper-cuts on my dick.
I demand someone to explain to me why this sensation persists.
Haha fuck I just learned the girl I've been swooning over for the past 7 months, that my best friend also likes her. He's been such a good friend about it and not gettin involved, but now I think she might like him too.
Looks like it's time for me to exit the picture :(
[QUOTE=chaoslink23;35361882]Ever since joining Facepunch, I've had this awkward sensation to give myself paper-cuts on my dick.
I demand someone to explain to me why this sensation persists.[/QUOTE]
visiting fast threads too often can give you suicidal tendencies from all the shitposting
[QUOTE=chaoslink23;35361882]Ever since joining Facepunch, I've had this awkward sensation to give myself paper-cuts on my dick.
I demand someone to explain to me why this sensation persists.[/QUOTE]
You are an asshole.
That... God damn. Dude, why would you say that?
Christ.
[QUOTE=lum1naire;35361910]Haha fuck I just learned the girl I've been swooning over for the past 7 months, that my best friend also likes her. He's been such a good friend about it and not gettin involved, but now I think she might like him too.
Looks like it's time for me to exit the picture :([/QUOTE]
you waited 7 months, dear christ, it's your fault
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35361956]you waited 7 months, dear christ, it's your fault[/QUOTE]
I liked her for 7 months but we really just stayed good friends, then lately I noticed she started showin more interest in me and I did go on a date with her, but yea it is mostly my fault.
I really cannot stand meeting people for the first time, I always had a problem breaking the ice.
So therefore, I pretend that I know people before I even know them from now on.
A guy at the bar told me that if I like a girl, I should express my feelings towards her, not doing so was his mistake.
Easter is coming up and the girl suggested we go drink over at her place if her parents go somewhere for the time being. Me going by there car would be assuring for me having to sleep over there and then having that 1-1 time to come clean about how I really feel.
Do you guys think that it would be an appropriate time?
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35363439]A guy at the bar told me that if I like a girl, I should express my feelings towards her, not doing so was his mistake.
Easter is coming up and the girl suggested we go drink over at her place if her parents go somewhere for the time being. Me going by there car would be assuring for me having to sleep over there and then having that 1-1 time to come clean about how I really feel.
Do you guys think that it would be an appropriate time?[/QUOTE]
that guy wasn't exactly right. she invited you to her house alone to have a good time with her, don't ruin it by sitting her down and telling her how you feel, let her know how you feel by doing something about it. hang out with her and make a move. you didn't give many details, but "girl invites guy over to house alone to drink with her parents gone" sounds like a pretty decent clue.
dont come clean about how you really feel, thats just dumb
make a move or something, dont just tell her "IVE ALWAYS LOVED YOU"
Hi again. This week has been hell for me.
I had a shitty weekend due to the events that happened at the play and at school the next day. On Monday I the girl I liked noticed and asked me what was wrong. I came out and told her pretty much everything. She was a blushing a tad but she told me something that she likes me, but like a "close friend". Though she did say I was the first guy to make her smile since she broke up with her last boyfriend a year ago, and that she appreciated me waiting until I [I]really[/I] needed to tell her, or else she would have been "freaked out" from another guy liking her. We still agreed to be close friends but its not the same.
Since Monday (even before I told her), I haven't "orbited" her like I used to; I don't go to her during passing periods or talk to her. In fact I didn't talk to anyone this week, unless they talked to me first. I'm usually the guy who talks to everyone and gets into their business, but I just stayed quiet this week. Almost no one talked to me at all, and she & I only talked to each other during study hall (we share 5 periods together). I wanted to see if anyone enjoyed my company enough to come TO ME to talk, but the only ones who talked to me were ones who wanted homework help.
She has friends in all of our shared classes except study hall, so I'm not sure if she wants me to talk to her because she has no other friends in that class or what. I feel like I'm the last option when none of her other friends are around her.
I feel unimportant in my school. All the people only talk to their friends who they've known since elementary/middle school, and I moved here about a year and a half ago (Sept 2010). I feel as if seniority is like the only thing that decides friends here, and I have none of it. I don't do anything on the weekends because no one invites me to do anything, and when people ask me what my plans are for the weekend I tell them I'm free and not doing anything.
Its been like this since I've moved here, but I've just been the initiator of all the conversations to everyone I talk to. No one seems to care enough about me to start a conversation that isn't about how to do Calorimetry. I want someone to care about me, and it was last weekend that I realized no one really does. I just ignored it but when I added all the body language together with the girl I like (who I feel is the closest to me in the school) I realized she doesn't care (or appear to at any rate).
TL;DR-Got friendzoned, and I feel unwanted and unloved.
What should I do about her? Should I just stop thinking I still have a chance or keep pushing? Should I just stay friends with her?
Also any advice on being wanted by others would be nice. I've always been myself at school, I've never put on an act to get others to like me.
i had a really shitty week too, but life goes on...
[QUOTE=Djentleman;35359600]Hi FP. Basically, I'm a terrible person and I'm pretty sure no one suspects. I think I should give a bit of background?
I'm an atheist but I pretend I'm a Christian so people will like me and trust me more. I'm into electronic music and blues with small bits of metal here and there but I fake an interest in the exact same music everyone else likes. I dress, act, talk the exact same way as everyone else. But I seriously can't connect with people for the large part. I have friends, some of them very close, but it still weirds me the fuck out getting "close" to people. I want to be alone but at the same time loneliness scares me, seeing how sad and pathetic some people can be.
Basically I want to change and be my own person but I know that's basically asking to be a social outcast if you express any opinions or tastes different than the mainstream Orthodoxy. At the very least I want to be happy instead of perpetually bored/disconnected. Is this just high-school bullshit or should I get this sorted out now so it doesn't follow me throughout life?
And this is really fucking weird and embarrassing but I can't get it up or have an orgasm unless I'm thinking of or viewing necrophilia, snuff material, or gore. I've had this problem since I was a kid. "Normal" material only disgusts me, honestly. Can this be changed or is this set in stone about my personality?[/QUOTE]
I used to be the same in terms of pretending to be like everyone else. Fuck that it just makes things worse. If people are really your friends they will be accepting of who you really are. Chick whos as crazy as you are.
Asking a girl out tomorrow.
I'm going up and over. Wish me luck boys.
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