• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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Give me some advice.
[QUOTE=fritzel;35372508]Give me some advice.[/QUOTE] an apple a day keeps the doctor away [editline]31st March 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35368044]I'm going to confort her about one misunderstanding; I never was a guy friend whom suddenly wants more (which she apparently tough), how I already fell for her personality a long time ago, how I allways had a genuine interest in her because no other girl has made me feel such a wide array of strong emotions and that I've never could have imagined that I would meet someone like her. (I just wrote 3 pages about this, but then I noticed how overboard it was) I will also try to make some moves at every chance I get.[/QUOTE] this is not a good plan, please tell me you're not going to do it [editline]31st March 2012[/editline] if you really have to tell her, just tell her later when things work out between you there is literally no reason to tell her now unless you want to have a chance of alienating her
Jo I've loved you for 5 years and I stare at you in class do you love me too? :))))
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35372566]an apple a day keeps the doctor away [/QUOTE] I am the doctor.
[QUOTE=fritzel;35373091]I am the doctor.[/QUOTE] no, i am
[QUOTE=CaptainHijacks;35368222]What's your favourite textiles for hats? If you're a hatter.[/QUOTE] i'm a mad hatter.
i feel like shit ATM don't know what it is but talking to people just really annoys me and I think I'm coming down with a cold
Monday Monday Monday, I am [I]so[/I] asking out [I]Cute Well-Spoken Girl[/I]. I got a haircut and trimmed the heck out of my beard and am feeling quite confident in my appearance, and I'm just gonna let that roll over into wooing her.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;35374766]Monday Monday Monday, I am [I]so[/I] asking out [I]Cute Well-Spoken Girl[/I]. I got a haircut and trimmed the heck out of my beard and am feeling quite confident in my appearance, and I'm just gonna let that roll over into wooing her.[/QUOTE] Will you commence sweet shagging with her?
[QUOTE=Protocol7;35374666]i feel like shit ATM don't know what it is but talking to people just really annoys me and I think I'm coming down with a cold[/QUOTE] Those kinds of days happen and I wouldn't let it effect you too much. I'm having a less than stellar day as well, so I'm planning on just lying around, studying for the 4 exams I have next week and possibly finishing up ME3. As long as you do something to preoccupy yourself or prepare yourself, then the day really is not a waste.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;35375325]Will you commence sweet shagging with her?[/QUOTE] Where's your sense of propriety?
What a fantastic day. First saving a world of boredom by going out shopping with my best friends GF, while he was out looking at bikes and cars with my dad. Then we meet up at the mall. Went rent a movie. I buy some candy which I then regretted and donated to my best friends brother. Then having an hour long run followed by a hot sauna. After that I check in steam if the girl would be there and if she would like to watch a movie with me and my friends. But just as I log in her status was "last online 30 seconds ago", so I tought that she has something planned for tonight. While having dinner I get texted by one of my friends whom is bored and I suggest him that he joins in with our movie night. So I jump in my car and head off to pick him up and on our way back to my friends house where were supposed to watch the movie; The girl calls up and says that she has nothing to do. So we head towards her place and pick her up. When watching the movie she gets texted by one of our mutual friends (the guy whom I told about my feelings towards her), she shows me the text which is implying that he is really damn drunk. She complains about her saldo being low, so I make the reply with my phone to the guy. Telling him about the situation at the place. Get this as an answer: "Yeeeaaaa, I'm at my bro's place, heading home soon. Would have told her about how you feel towards her, have you totally get some." (Now do you guys at FP think that third-party help would be good to have? He is a really close friend of hers.) Movie goes on, watching a horror movie together with friends is a good source of laughs, laughing at mistakes and making references to videogames and other movies. After one and a half movies and an episode of standup comedy, we leave. I drop them off at their places and head home. And then I go write about it on the internet. My day in short.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;35375325]Will you commence sweet shagging with her?[/QUOTE] He's a big dumb american, not a tiny smart brit.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35376360]What a fantastic day. First saving a world of boredom by going out shopping with my best friends GF, while he was out looking at bikes and cars with my dad. Then we meet up at the mall. Went rent a movie. I buy some candy which I then regretted and donated to my best friends brother. Then having an hour long run followed by a hot sauna. After that I check in steam if the girl would be there and if she would like to watch a movie with me and my friends. But just as I log in her status was "last online 30 seconds ago", so I tought that she has something planned for tonight. While having dinner I get texted by one of my friends whom is bored and I suggest him that he joins in with our movie night. So I jump in my car and head off to pick him up and on our way back to my friends house where were supposed to watch the movie; The girl calls up and says that she has nothing to do. So we head towards her place and pick her up. When watching the movie she gets texted by one of our mutual friends (the guy whom I told about my feelings towards her), she shows me the text which is implying that he is really damn drunk. She complains about her saldo being low, so I make the reply with my phone to the guy. Telling him about the situation at the place. Get this as an answer: "Yeeeaaaa, I'm at my bro's place, heading home soon. Would have told her about how you feel towards her, have you totally get some." (Now do you guys at FP think that third-party help would be good to have? He is a really close friend of hers.) Movie goes on, watching a horror movie together with friends is a good source of laughs, laughing at mistakes and making references to videogames and other movies. After one and a half movies and an episode of standup comedy, we leave. I drop them off at their places and head home. And then I go write about it on the internet. My day in short.[/QUOTE] sounds like you should have made a move on movie night personally i dont like bringing in 3rd party help and you should be more than capable of doing it yourself. a 3rd party doesnt make things any easier, and having them tell the girl how you feel about them is just as bad as you doing it. just make a move.
I really don't want to come across as gloating but goddamn last night was fucking great. Went to a friend's party, owned the dancefloor, got three numbers, one of the which is the girl I've been crushing on for a few months now. We were finally able to speak irl, and she actually asked me to buy her a ticket to this event coming up and she could pay me back, but it turns out to be sold out! I might still be able to figure something out though and in any case, at least we exchanged numbers and were finally able to establish some sort of rapport. Also, one of the other two girls said she'd (quote) suck my dick if she didn't have to leave. I got her number as she was leaving, texted her later that night for a while and we're planning on getting together some time soon. Fuck, it feels good to be back.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;35379319]she'd [b](quote)[/b] suck [b]my dick[/b] if she didn't have to leave. Fuck, it feels good to be back.[/QUOTE] Not quite what you're going for, but I feel ya, man. Way to be, dog.
Thought I didn't have feelings for this girl and then she got carried away in a stretcher today during our show and I'm reconsidering that assessment. Fuck shit dicks.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35377099]sounds like you should have made a move on movie night personally i dont like bringing in 3rd party help and you should be more than capable of doing it yourself. a 3rd party doesnt make things any easier, and having them tell the girl how you feel about them is just as bad as you doing it. just make a move.[/QUOTE] So what type of move should I have pulled off? Not too long ago I was told not to tell her how I feel.
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35369768]why would i accept it? i used to think it was a real thing. it gave me an excuse for sexual failure and an excuse to give up. but i've broken out of the non-existent zone so many times now i refuse to believe in it. it's just an explanation for idiots who can't accept that anything other than bad timing ruined their attempt to get pussy[/QUOTE] why are you guys acting like all women are exactly the same. like the friend zone either exists for all women or it doesn't exist for all women. I'm pretty sure some women might do it and others might not.
for me it's not a question of all women are exactly the same, more that the friendzone is a justification based on the concept that people categorize other people they know into zones which in my experience is totally false.
there are a lot of people i know who do not do it, but i do know some who most definitely do it
well no they don't really categorize people, but it's possible for a relationship to get to that point. one person wants to fuck, the other doesn't, they still have good relations, one sided sexual tension sort of thing.
There are too many factors to a friend zone that lable it as just a single thing. Girls are known to value friendship over relationship a fair bit more, but really, most of the time it's just the guy feeling sorry for himself and being introverted about his feelings. In cases when it's obvious and the girl ignores it is just a big lack of communication. I was apart of an unfortunate case where I actually told the girl I had feelings for her, she told me she had feelings for me, we went on a couple of dates. Then she took me aside and told me she still had feelings for me but she valued our friendship more and wanted to just stay friends. Which fucking sucked. But ahh well, if she didn't want a relationship it's not like I could force her. Too bad our friendship didn't really last after that.
[QUOTE=darcy010;35382447]There are too many factors to a friend zone that lable it as just a single thing. [b]Girls are known to value friendship over relationship a fair bit more, but really, most of the time it's just the guy feeling sorry for himself and being introverted about his feelings. [/b] In cases when it's obvious and the girl ignores it is just a big lack of communication. I was apart of an unfortunate case where I actually told the girl I had feelings for her, she told me she had feelings for me, we went on a couple of dates. Then she took me aside and told me she still had feelings for me but she valued our friendship more and wanted to just stay friends. Which fucking sucked. But ahh well, if she didn't want a relationship it's not like I could force her. Too bad our friendship didn't really last after that.[/QUOTE] WHAT. EVERYTHING, WHAT I am sorry, but this is not the real reason.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;35381668]why are you guys acting like all women are exactly the same. like the friend zone either exists for all women or it doesn't exist for all women[/QUOTE] you could apply everything i said to the male friendzoning thing too (if you believe women do it then guys must do it too. if anyone then denies this then the friendzone definitely is bullshit)
I did make my moves yesterday. So we had a long conversation about it today on the phone. Went down pretty much like last time. Same conclusions as before, she doesn't want to risk breaking the cycle of friends and she thinks that I might be just falling for her because of our common interests (which I am a bit, but not entirely). Atleast I got a friend backing me up. If not to help out with the love, then atleast to help me stand.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;35385048]guys def friendzone, for the exact same reasons as women: not hot enough[/QUOTE] i guess that's what the real friendzone is - a lack of sexual attraction. usually people call "friendzone!!" because "i'm just such a nice guy and i left it too long so now we're just friends"
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35385028]I did make my moves yesterday. So we had a long conversation about it today on the phone. Went down pretty much like last time. Same conclusions as before, she doesn't want to risk breaking the cycle of friends and she thinks that I might be just falling for her because of our common interests (which I am a bit, but not entirely). Atleast I got a friend backing me up. If not to help out with the love, then atleast to help me stand.[/QUOTE] telling her over the phone you liked her sooooo much omg is not making a move, it's making things awkward. you should have just asked her out. don't stay too attached to her, because you're pretty much at a slim to no chance of getting with her now, so begin your hunt anew
[QUOTE=Yahnich;35385127]Even if you waited for too long, if she was ever sexually attracted to you then it's completely possible to let that attraction flare up again. 'nice guys' generally just aren't confident enough to either go through with it while she's still attracted or confident enough to wake up that attractedness[/QUOTE] i can vouch for this when i met my girlfriend i pretty much immediately decided that she's out of my league. we talked a shit tonne and it was always about really interesting things and often quite personal, so i assumed we were just friends even when there were really obvious signs going on like her cancelling any dates she had and stopped talking to the couple of guys she had seen a little bit at the time, i still didn't clock that she was interested in me as anything more than a friend i think the fact that i acted so friendly and not forwards probably made her reluctant to make a move too after a while thank god we drank 4 bottles of wine one night
[QUOTE=Yahnich;35385048]guys def friendzone, for the exact same reasons as women: not hot enough[/QUOTE] Or for my example; really hot girl, whom is also nice, gets along very well with me, but nothing has much common interests with me and isn't too keen on talking about what goes on in the world. [editline]1st April 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Yahnich;35385127]yeah that's pretty much the only reason why girls 'friendzone'. Even if you waited for too long, if she was ever sexually attracted to you then it's completely possible to let that attraction flare up again. 'nice guys' generally just aren't confident enough to either go through with it while she's still attracted or confident enough to wake up that attractedness [editline]1st April 2012[/editline] please tell me you didn't profess your love for her over phone aaaaaaaawkard[/QUOTE] She called me. And she wanted to talk about it.
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