• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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dude, you look way too far into stuff. i'm glad you're gonna try to look for somebody else, but a tip moving forward is to just not try to look for clues in every little thing, and not dissect tiny details that the other person probably wasnt even aware of. just go ask a girl out and keep things simple, dont even think about whether or not they're really into you, just take them wanting to talk to you as all the evidence you need to continue pursuing a relationship with them
I wasn't looking into it too much. It just hit me from the back of the head and I spilled at bit too much text on the screen. Just remembered that there was someone attractive looking with similiar interests, who felt comfortable talking to me and that seems like solid grounds for asking someone out.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35392775]I wasn't looking into it too much. It just hit me from the back of the head and I spilled at bit too much text on the screen. Just remembered that there was someone attractive looking with similiar interests, who felt comfortable talking to me and that seems like solid grounds for asking someone out.[/QUOTE] Dude, if you verbal-diarrhea that much onto a page, you're thinking about it too much. Calm your nips dude. If you start thinking about it and catch yourself, go do something else to take your mind off it, thinking about it too much will do nothing more than make you fuck up. I'm serious. All you'll do is set up these situations in your mind and then they won't go the way you want/expect and it'll just fuck you up.
What you should have been thinking instead of that giant story was: "That girl's pretty chill, I should ask her out"
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35392775]I wasn't looking into it too much. It just hit me from the back of the head and I spilled at bit too much text on the screen. Just remembered that there was someone attractive looking with similiar interests, who felt comfortable talking to me and that seems like solid grounds for asking someone out.[/QUOTE] here, this is where you put too much thought into simple things that shouldnt really cross your mind in bold: [quote]Hah I even might think I know who I should try to hit on: This one girl working at games workshop, [B]I remember going there once (as I tend to visit there often because I have a friend that works there, I'm painting warhammer figures and visit there just came a habit after I had to go there when I was working with another game store that had relations with GW), well she came to talk to about if I'm in the interest of buying anything at the moment, I promptly explained that I was just window shopping as usual. Then we had an usual friendly conversation (can't remember what it was about), which I ended with a pat on the shoulder. Why I think that she would be a good target on the scope would be that how relaxed and perhaps even intrigued she seemed there talking to me (which has propably something to do with that I don't really match the type that does visit the store a lot: unnatractive and somewhat socially awkward). Neither did she seem bothered by my friendly pat on the shoulder. And now I remember what I was talking about with her: Overgrowth (the indie-game) was what I was saving money for and the friendly pat on the shoulder was from me "feeling sorry" for her for only having a weak laptop to play games on.[/B][/quote] that doesnt leave a whole lot of information, because that's all the information you need: girl at the games workshop. don't think about why she seemed friendly toward you, just know that her being friendly toward you is enough. don't think about the significance of the shoulder pat, it wasnt that big of a deal in her mind, i promise you. just go get her, ace.
no way bro she patted you on the shoulder you should hit that I'm just kidding, what everyone else is saying is true You're thinking too much.
[QUOTE=Pascall;35392465]This guy who I work with seriously won't stop pestering me about hanging out. He's really nice but he's a little too nice. And too eager to get me to hang out with him. Like I literally get two or three texts every day from him asking what I'm doing. And it's even getting to the point where he's bugging me at my other job. I always tell him "I'm busy" or "Sorry, I can't". You know, in a polite way, obv, but he's obviously not getting the hint that I don't want to hang out. Is there something I can tell him that won't seem like I dislike him? Like I said, he's a nice guy, I'm just not interested in hanging out with him at all. Him and I would clash too much.[/QUOTE] you could either a) turn on bitch mode and tell him how you really feel, or b) continue ignoring him/putting him off until he either 1) stops trying, or 2) confronts you about it and you have to go to option A anyway. personally, i'd say just go with B. most guys will stop trying eventually, even if he doesnt understand that you're ignoring him that you dont like him.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35393168]you could either a) turn on bitch mode and tell him how you really feel, or b) continue ignoring him/putting him off until he either 1) stops trying, or 2) confronts you about it and you have to go to option A anyway. personally, i'd say just go with B. most guys will stop trying eventually, even if he doesnt understand that you're ignoring him that you dont like him.[/QUOTE] Yeah I've just been ignoring him recently. I'll wait a few weeks to see if he gets it. I just wasn't sure how long it might take for him to get the message. I don't think he's [I]that[/I] dense.
it can take a while, you just have to hold out until he stops or snaps
I know it's been a long time and I should have moved on by now, but I still go through almost weekly bouts of heartache over my ex-girlfriend. I've been out plenty and done things with other girls, but I still find myself wishing I could be with her again. Fuck.
[QUOTE=Alan Ninja!;35394128]I know it's been a long time and I should have moved on by now, but I still go through almost weekly bouts of heartache over my ex-girlfriend. I've been out plenty and done things with other girls, but I still find myself wishing I could be with her again. Fuck.[/QUOTE] That's completely normal as long as you don't give into it very often. The important thing is you know she is gone, you have gotten past the worst of the breakup and you are moving on with your life. Sometimes you will have lingering effects for a while, but they will pass as long as you keep focusing on bettering yourself.
Is it normal not to get over your ex? I mean, don't get me wrong, I haven't been talking to her nor seeing her in almost a year, not even texting her, and I feel like I can't find the will to meet new girls anymore. I've been thinking and could it possibly be my mind being fed up from relationships, or is it just healing its scars? I mean, I don't get as enthusiastic around girls as I were some years ago, (no, I'm not turning gay! :v:) seems like my last relationship gave me a real blow to my heart that I feel colder and feel more comfortable alone. That scares the shit outta me. I need to get back out there and contradict my isolation. But it's been almost a year! I never took that long to recover from a disastrous relationship. And the funny thing is that I had nothing but disastrous relationships with girls I liked a lot. It just feels like as I grow up, my enthusiasm and will to do crazy shit for the girl I love is fading away. If I was in this situation like 2 years ago I would be all trying to fix the relationship, even if it meant to preserve the friendship. Now, it just feels that it's not worth it. I've done enough, and my life comes first. It sure looks like I'm "letting go" but if I'm really letting go, then how do I still think about it and her everyday?
So, I've been talking with a friend for a few weeks about how to deal with his ex-girlfriend who cheated on him and then felt horrible about it. She apparently went through the general "I'm so sorry will you ever forgive me" shtick, and he put her on ice for a bit to let things cool down. This is where things take a turn for the weird. Apparently she felt [b]so bad[/b] for cheating on him that she took him on a trip to the American Virgin Islands. He has pictures, sand, touristy giftshop junk, the whole nine yards. Tonight, about ten-twenty minutes ago, I found out why she would go to such lengths and why she felt so bad. Apparently she cheated on him from an upwards of around [b]FIFTY TIMES[/b]. How the fuck-, more-so WHAT the fuck do I tell him? [editline]2nd April 2012[/editline] I just can't fucking wrap my head around a number like that. I mean, Christ.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;35395301]Is it normal not to get over your ex? I mean, don't get me wrong, I haven't been talking to her nor seeing her in almost a year, not even texting her, and I feel like I can't find the will to meet new girls anymore. I've been thinking and could it possibly be my mind being fed up from relationships, or is it just healing its scars? I mean, I don't get as enthusiastic around girls as I were some years ago, (no, I'm not turning gay! :v:) seems like my last relationship gave me a real blow to my heart that I feel colder and feel more comfortable alone. That scares the shit outta me. I need to get back out there and contradict my isolation. But it's been almost a year! I never took that long to recover from a disastrous relationship. And the funny thing is that I had nothing but disastrous relationships with girls I liked a lot. It just feels like as I grow up, my enthusiasm and will to do crazy shit for the girl I love is fading away. If I was in this situation like 2 years ago I would be all trying to fix the relationship, even if it meant to preserve the friendship. Now, it just feels that it's not worth it. I've done enough, and my life comes first. It sure looks like I'm "letting go" but if I'm really letting go, then how do I still think about it and her everyday?[/QUOTE] What you are letting go off is your need to continuously hold on to relationships. It being an unnatural thing, the need to not pursue them (the relationships that is), is why you probably still think about her. One more reason would be the fact you are not seeing other women, and not actively trying to contradict your isolation. Moving is living my friends. Where your legs go, your brain will have to follow. [editline]2nd April 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=ewitwins;35395713]So, I've been talking with a friend for a few weeks about how to deal with his ex-girlfriend who cheated on him and then felt horrible about it. She apparently went through the general "I'm so sorry will you ever forgive me" shtick, and he put her on ice for a bit to let things cool down. This is where things take a turn for the weird. Apparently she felt [b]so bad[/b] for cheating on him that she took him on a trip to the American Virgin Islands. He has pictures, sand, touristy giftshop junk, the whole nine yards. Tonight, about ten-twenty minutes ago, I found out why she would go to such lengths and why she felt so bad. Apparently she cheated on him from an upwards of around [b]FIFTY TIMES[/b]. How the fuck-, more-so WHAT the fuck do I tell him? [editline]2nd April 2012[/editline] I just can't fucking wrap my head around a number like that. I mean, Christ.[/QUOTE] 500 or 2 times, it doesn't matter. I would, as a friend, probably tell him she's not the one for him and that he deserves far better. The numbers don't matter, and only add more distress.
Shit situation in general, kinda want to vent/get advice Good friend i've had a crush on for a long time. I got drunk the other night and told her how i felt, she didnt believe me cause i was drunk (and ive been known to do that stuff under the influence), so the next day we talked about it and I told her I wasn't kidding. Shit part is that we wouldn't date because she doesn't like me quite that much I'm pretty sure, and we couldn't date because her and one of my close friends "had a thing" at some point (didn't date, just "talked" or whatever). So I pretty much accept the fact that nothing could ever come from it. Not much i can do about it now, but it feels a little better to get it off my chest. And I guess if anybody has advice i'd be open. (Do i punch lady!?!?!?)
Should've asked her out once you wanted to, not waited for ages and slowly become more infatuated with her.
I know I haven't pulled of all of the best move in this storm of a love affair. I know I have been too over-analytical (I have to thank you guys for making me realize that, thank you very much). But HOLY FUCKING SHIT!!! Yesterday when I said: Wow, what a day! I never knew what today would bring. Let me have start from the very beginning of the day: First you fantastic people help me see the best alternative for going on with this: Quitting. I faced it and made myself clear about it. I knew that the thing would only start going down the shitter did I keep on trying. You also told me in time to not be suddenly overly friendly towards her. I was ready to start moving on, start trying to find someone else to make me feel the same feelings with. [I]2nd of April[/I] [B]Parte un[/B] I wake up feeling like shit because of my lack of sleep duing to my heart flipping the fuck out due to consuming large amounts of caffeine the previous day. I get my cup of coffee to give me the kickstart I need to make it trough the day (I had to go to school today so I could not go cold turkey). Then I kill some time at the forums watching funny pics and reading news and trying to get something to read to keep my mind on track. I call my friend and ask if I can go over to his place, I play some Metro 2033 while he gets ready, I head over to his place, eat breakfast with him and his mom and then we two go for walk. On the walk I talk to him about how I'm ready to move on, while he gives some advice (start of slowly with making contact with the girl at GW, going there as one would usually go and let my likeable personality take care of the rest and if it doesn't work out then keep moving on), I go get myself a can of Coke from the store (scaling down on the caff, slowly). At the end of the walk he gets a call from his GF so he tags along with me to the city where they go shopping while I go to school. After having a really great and constructive talk with my teacher about my final project for school me and them two meet up at the mall where from we go to GW. [B]Parte deus[/B] She wasn't working at this day it seemed, but I still got to try out the new paints (which were quite cool). Then we start heading home, dropping by at two stores trying to find The Lord of The Rings trilogy on DVD (for a marathon), but with no success. We head home and on the way my dad calls my best friend to have him drop by at the motorcycle store on the way to look at some bikes, so me and mah female friend head over to my place for a cup of coffee (and for me to eat, since they went out for pizza and forgot to call me about it in time). Coffee is made with the side of chit-chat and me managing to burn my mouth with the microwave thai-food. My best buddy and dad arrive and the two lovers have their quick verbal exchange and then the motor-enthusiasts continue on searching for bikes on the web. So my BFB (best female friend) decides to go home a bit before her boyfriend so that she has more time to write on her homework, I accompany her on the way to their home and do the highfive-hug gesture with him on my way back. Once at home I notice that my coffee is halfways undrunk, so I chug it down and decide to text up with the unfrortunate middle-man of the events. He's at his friends house and doesn't advice me to go there because they have a violent session of nicotine withdrawal combined with the furiosity of the slightly unresponsive controlls of Skate 3. I suggest that I take my cigarillo's with me there to help him calm his shit. I walk there and toss the emergency smokes to him (we'll call him woodman from now) and all is fine, I have played the part of a peacekeeper. I am then greeted by a cup of coffee, that I in my short-sightedness and lack of self-controll decide to drink. I play a bit with woodmans brothers electrical guitarr, I play some Skate 3 for laughing at how much I suck at the game and we have a good time. After a while; woodman gets a business call (he installs garbage stalls for housing companies, with a friend of his). By the time he is gone I ask the unfortunate middle man, if he talked with her last night. He complies, tells me everything, he tells me what she told him. [B]Parte trois[/B] It all starts making sense, it all starts to illuminate. She has a crush on the first guy of the circle of friends. I start to understand it all, why he (the middle man) has been slighty endorsing my feelings for her, I am totally clear on what he meant yesterday when he said: "You might be the one who ends up being the one breaking this circle of friends or saving it"(I honestly could not translate it in a better way from my language). She has a crush on the first guy on the circle, this in its part is caused by her feeling affectionate towads him due to their long history of friendship. And the whole "it's complicated" thing comes from that he doesn't have those feelings towards her. He just sees her as a friend. The middle man implies that he has feelings for someone else and well might actually not even care about a relationship with a girl at the moment. For what he is; A guy who lives in the moment, acting reckless, searching for a thrill wether it be adredaline from doing something stupid, or getting high from a substance. To say the least; he is far from being mature. Now I'm starting to feel really extatic, due to the shine of hope in the situation and from starting to get at the peak of the coffee. Woodman is back from his phone call and his dad arrives and gives him the pack of smokes that he requested and then we head to the balcony for a calming puff. Me being in my coked-up-alike state I go make acquaintance with him and have a really socially forward talk with him, just in a matter of minutes going from what I study and what he works with, to motorcycling and accidents with bikes. Then woodmans brother arrives and I introduce myself to him, altough this time just promptly. Then woodman and his father go out for a driving lesson, where they would be dropping off the middle man and me at our places, but I change my mind getting the ride as I'm about to head off to visit my BF and BFF to give an update on the interesting turn of events (as they have been supporting me trough this whole emotional rollercoaster ride, as has this thread). [B]Parte quatre[/B] On my way walking there my BF's brothers friends picks me up and gives me a lift there where we both are going, I get there and talk with that group of friends about what a goddamn interesting day I've had, also giving them a bunch of great laughs by my humorous, playful and caffed-up state. I head up to give my BF and BFF the update on the whole thing about the massive twist. Then we head to the store to where they buy some food and I buy some mineral water. We head back home where they do the household work they were supposed to do while I hang around letting off some steam. Then I headed home and wrote this. To conclude, I will keep my calm, let her sort this thing out by herself and hopefully come to some sense about it. I have prepared myself for both the two possible endings. One from where I just move on and one where my long waited dream comes true.
It's a great feeling when you realize that you are over your ex-girlfriend.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35400872]I know I haven't pulled of all of the best move in this storm of a love affair. I know I have been too over-analytical (I have to thank you guys for making me realize that, thank you very much). But HOLY FUCKING SHIT!!! Yesterday when I said: Wow, what a day! I never knew what today would bring. Let me have start from the very beginning of the day: First you fantastic people help me see the best alternative for going on with this: Quitting. I faced it and made myself clear about it. I knew that the thing would only start going down the shitter did I keep on trying. You also told me in time to not be suddenly overly friendly towards her. I was ready to start moving on, start trying to find someone else to make me feel the same feelings with. [I]2nd of April[/I] [B]Parte un[/B] I wake up feeling like shit because of my lack of sleep duing to my heart flipping the fuck out due to consuming large amounts of caffeine the previous day. I get my cup of coffee to give me the kickstart I need to make it trough the day (I had to go to school today so I could not go cold turkey). Then I kill some time at the forums watching funny pics and reading news and trying to get something to read to keep my mind on track. I call my friend and ask if I can go over to his place, I play some Metro 2033 while he gets ready, I head over to his place, eat breakfast with him and his mom and then we two go for walk. On the walk I talk to him about how I'm ready to move on, while he gives some advice (start of slowly with making contact with the girl at GW, going there as one would usually go and let my likeable personality take care of the rest and if it doesn't work out then keep moving on), I go get myself a can of Coke from the store (scaling down on the caff, slowly). At the end of the walk he gets a call from his GF so he tags along with me to the city where they go shopping while I go to school. After having a really great and constructive talk with my teacher about my final project for school me and them two meet up at the mall where from we go to GW. [B]Parte deus[/B] She wasn't working at this day it seemed, but I still got to try out the new paints (which were quite cool). Then we start heading home, dropping by at two stores trying to find The Lord of The Rings trilogy on DVD (for a marathon), but with no success. We head home and on the way my dad calls my best friend to have him drop by at the motorcycle store on the way to look at some bikes, so me and mah female friend head over to my place for a cup of coffee (and for me to eat, since they went out for pizza and forgot to call me about it in time). Coffee is made with the side of chit-chat and me managing to burn my mouth with the microwave thai-food. My best buddy and dad arrive and the two lovers have their quick verbal exchange and then the motor-enthusiasts continue on searching for bikes on the web. So my BFB (best female friend) decides to go home a bit before her boyfriend so that she has more time to write on her homework, I accompany her on the way to their home and do the highfive-hug gesture with him on my way back. Once at home I notice that my coffee is halfways undrunk, so I chug it down and decide to text up with the unfrortunate middle-man of the events. He's at his friends house and doesn't advice me to go there because they have a violent session of nicotine withdrawal combined with the furiosity of the slightly unresponsive controlls of Skate 3. I suggest that I take my cigarillo's with me there to help him calm his shit. I walk there and toss the emergency smokes to him (we'll call him woodman from now) and all is fine, I have played the part of a peacekeeper. I am then greeted by a cup of coffee, that I in my short-sightedness and lack of self-controll decide to drink. I play a bit with woodmans brothers electrical guitarr, I play some Skate 3 for laughing at how much I suck at the game and we have a good time. After a while; woodman gets a business call (he installs garbage stalls for housing companies, with a friend of his). By the time he is gone I ask the unfortunate middle man, if he talked with her last night. He complies, tells me everything, he tells me what she told him. [B]Parte trois[/B] It all starts making sense, it all starts to illuminate. She has a crush on the first guy of the circle of friends. I start to understand it all, why he (the middle man) has been slighty endorsing my feelings for her, I am totally clear on what he meant yesterday when he said: "You might be the one who ends up being the one breaking this circle of friends or saving it"(I honestly could not translate it in a better way from my language). She has a crush on the first guy on the circle, this in its part is caused by her feeling affectionate towads him due to their long history of friendship. And the whole "it's complicated" thing comes from that he doesn't have those feelings towards her. He just sees her as a friend. The middle man implies that he has feelings for someone else and well might actually not even care about a relationship with a girl at the moment. For what he is; A guy who lives in the moment, acting reckless, searching for a thrill wether it be adredaline from doing something stupid, or getting high from a substance. To say the least; he is far from being mature. Now I'm starting to feel really extatic, due to the shine of hope in the situation and from starting to get at the peak of the coffee. Woodman is back from his phone call and his dad arrives and gives him the pack of smokes that he requested and then we head to the balcony for a calming puff. Me being in my coked-up-alike state I go make acquaintance with him and have a really socially forward talk with him, just in a matter of minutes going from what I study and what he works with, to motorcycling and accidents with bikes. Then woodmans brother arrives and I introduce myself to him, altough this time just promptly. Then woodman and his father go out for a driving lesson, where they would be dropping off the middle man and me at our places, but I change my mind getting the ride as I'm about to head off to visit my BF and BFF to give an update on the interesting turn of events (as they have been supporting me trough this whole emotional rollercoaster ride, as has this thread). [B]Parte quatre[/B] On my way walking there my BF's brothers friends picks me up and gives me a lift there where we both are going, I get there and talk with that group of friends about what a goddamn interesting day I've had, also giving them a bunch of great laughs by my humorous, playful and caffed-up state. I head up to give my BF and BFF the update on the whole thing about the massive twist. Then we head to the store to where they buy some food and I buy some mineral water. We head back home where they do the household work they were supposed to do while I hang around letting off some steam. Then I headed home and wrote this. To conclude, I will keep my calm, let her sort this thing out by herself and hopefully come to some sense about it. I have prepared myself for both the two possible endings. One from where I just move on and one where my long waited dream comes true.[/QUOTE] holy shit i forced myself to read your whole post, and boy do I have a ton of advice. you [i]need[/i] to slow down and think about what's important in life. literally nothing in your post meant anything at all, it was all very average, boring, day-to-day events, but you were writing paragraphs and paragraphs about it like it was some incredible turn of events and you [b][i]need[/i][/b] to stop looking into things so much. if you truly think you have a chance with her, just ask her out, if not, just stop even thinking about her. there is literally no reason to spend all of your time obsessing over her like you've been doing. even after you've said "ok guys you're right I'll stop", you still just get right back into it because of literally [i]nothing[/i]. [editline]2nd April 2012[/editline] and do you realize "coked up" doesn't mean coca-cola?
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35401419]holy shit i forced myself to read your whole post, and boy do I have a ton of advice. you [i]need[/i] to slow down and think about what's important in life. literally nothing in your post meant anything at all, it was all very average, boring, day-to-day events, but you were writing paragraphs and paragraphs about it like it was some incredible turn of events and you [b][i]need[/i][/b] to stop looking into things so much. if you truly think you have a chance with her, just ask her out, if not, just stop even thinking about her. there is literally no reason to spend all of your time obsessing over her like you've been doing. even after you've said "ok guys you're right I'll stop", you still just get right back into it because of literally [i]nothing[/i]. [editline]2nd April 2012[/editline] and do you realize "coked up" doesn't mean coca-cola?[/QUOTE] Not an incredible turn of events? From my stand-point it has been. Finding out that my attempts have been rejected by her when her attempts have been rejected too. I was getting ready to move on and then I'm hit with it. And I was referring to being coked-up-alike state as being so high on caffeine that people were doubting that I actually high on something stronger than just caffeine.
The stars weren't aligned, [I]Cute Well-Spoken Girl[/I] remains a stranger. I'll get her next time for sure. I was totally hip to go for it, but she walked out of the room in conversation with a friend, and I convinced myself it'd be rude to interrupt and also I was wearing a dirty shirt because I got dressed in the dark and also my hair was kinda messed up and also I was pretty sleepy and didn't get to have my coffee and also I'd just eaten some soup so my breath might not have been at maximum freshness and also it was a bit too humid, so today was clearly just a bad day to ask her out. What excuses?
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35400872]But HOLY FUCKING SHIT!!! Yesterday when I said: Wow, what a day! I never knew what today would bring.[/QUOTE] the most dull thing i have ever read
Got rejected. Well. Fuck. I suppose this happens I guess.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35400872]shitload of stuff[/QUOTE] Hate to use a SPUF expression, but this isn't your fucking blog. Are you even regarding any of the things we're telling you? We're here to give advice and sympathize, please understand that this thread isn't for just dumping your shit on. I've tried to be nice, but goddamnit, it's pissing me off.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35400872]I know I haven't pulled of all of the best move in this storm of a love affair. I know I have been too over-analytical (I have to thank you guys for making me realize that, thank you very much). But HOLY FUCKING SHIT!!! Yesterday when I said: Wow, what a day! I never knew what today would bring. Let me have start from the very beginning of the day: First you fantastic people help me see the best alternative for going on with this: Quitting. I faced it and made myself clear about it. I knew that the thing would only start going down the shitter did I keep on trying. You also told me in time to not be suddenly overly friendly towards her. I was ready to start moving on, start trying to find someone else to make me feel the same feelings with. [I]2nd of April[/I] [B]Parte un[/B] I wake up feeling like shit because of my lack of sleep duing to my heart flipping the fuck out due to consuming large amounts of caffeine the previous day. I get my cup of coffee to give me the kickstart I need to make it trough the day (I had to go to school today so I could not go cold turkey). Then I kill some time at the forums watching funny pics and reading news and trying to get something to read to keep my mind on track. I call my friend and ask if I can go over to his place, I play some Metro 2033 while he gets ready, I head over to his place, eat breakfast with him and his mom and then we two go for walk. On the walk I talk to him about how I'm ready to move on, while he gives some advice (start of slowly with making contact with the girl at GW, going there as one would usually go and let my likeable personality take care of the rest and if it doesn't work out then keep moving on), I go get myself a can of Coke from the store (scaling down on the caff, slowly). At the end of the walk he gets a call from his GF so he tags along with me to the city where they go shopping while I go to school. After having a really great and constructive talk with my teacher about my final project for school me and them two meet up at the mall where from we go to GW. [B]Parte deus[/B] She wasn't working at this day it seemed, but I still got to try out the new paints (which were quite cool). Then we start heading home, dropping by at two stores trying to find The Lord of The Rings trilogy on DVD (for a marathon), but with no success. We head home and on the way my dad calls my best friend to have him drop by at the motorcycle store on the way to look at some bikes, so me and mah female friend head over to my place for a cup of coffee (and for me to eat, since they went out for pizza and forgot to call me about it in time). Coffee is made with the side of chit-chat and me managing to burn my mouth with the microwave thai-food. My best buddy and dad arrive and the two lovers have their quick verbal exchange and then the motor-enthusiasts continue on searching for bikes on the web. So my BFB (best female friend) decides to go home a bit before her boyfriend so that she has more time to write on her homework, I accompany her on the way to their home and do the highfive-hug gesture with him on my way back. Once at home I notice that my coffee is halfways undrunk, so I chug it down and decide to text up with the unfrortunate middle-man of the events. He's at his friends house and doesn't advice me to go there because they have a violent session of nicotine withdrawal combined with the furiosity of the slightly unresponsive controlls of Skate 3. I suggest that I take my cigarillo's with me there to help him calm his shit. I walk there and toss the emergency smokes to him (we'll call him woodman from now) and all is fine, I have played the part of a peacekeeper. I am then greeted by a cup of coffee, that I in my short-sightedness and lack of self-controll decide to drink. I play a bit with woodmans brothers electrical guitarr, I play some Skate 3 for laughing at how much I suck at the game and we have a good time. After a while; woodman gets a business call (he installs garbage stalls for housing companies, with a friend of his). By the time he is gone I ask the unfortunate middle man, if he talked with her last night. He complies, tells me everything, he tells me what she told him. [B]Parte trois[/B] It all starts making sense, it all starts to illuminate. She has a crush on the first guy of the circle of friends. I start to understand it all, why he (the middle man) has been slighty endorsing my feelings for her, I am totally clear on what he meant yesterday when he said: "You might be the one who ends up being the one breaking this circle of friends or saving it"(I honestly could not translate it in a better way from my language). She has a crush on the first guy on the circle, this in its part is caused by her feeling affectionate towads him due to their long history of friendship. And the whole "it's complicated" thing comes from that he doesn't have those feelings towards her. He just sees her as a friend. The middle man implies that he has feelings for someone else and well might actually not even care about a relationship with a girl at the moment. For what he is; A guy who lives in the moment, acting reckless, searching for a thrill wether it be adredaline from doing something stupid, or getting high from a substance. To say the least; he is far from being mature. Now I'm starting to feel really extatic, due to the shine of hope in the situation and from starting to get at the peak of the coffee. Woodman is back from his phone call and his dad arrives and gives him the pack of smokes that he requested and then we head to the balcony for a calming puff. Me being in my coked-up-alike state I go make acquaintance with him and have a really socially forward talk with him, just in a matter of minutes going from what I study and what he works with, to motorcycling and accidents with bikes. Then woodmans brother arrives and I introduce myself to him, altough this time just promptly. Then woodman and his father go out for a driving lesson, where they would be dropping off the middle man and me at our places, but I change my mind getting the ride as I'm about to head off to visit my BF and BFF to give an update on the interesting turn of events (as they have been supporting me trough this whole emotional rollercoaster ride, as has this thread). [B]Parte quatre[/B] On my way walking there my BF's brothers friends picks me up and gives me a lift there where we both are going, I get there and talk with that group of friends about what a goddamn interesting day I've had, also giving them a bunch of great laughs by my humorous, playful and caffed-up state. I head up to give my BF and BFF the update on the whole thing about the massive twist. Then we head to the store to where they buy some food and I buy some mineral water. We head back home where they do the household work they were supposed to do while I hang around letting off some steam. Then I headed home and wrote this. To conclude, I will keep my calm, let her sort this thing out by herself and hopefully come to some sense about it. I have prepared myself for both the two possible endings. One from where I just move on and one where my long waited dream comes true.[/QUOTE]I think you need to stop.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35400872] [B]Parte deus[/B][/QUOTE] deux.
Stop quoting the fucking blog. Guy with problem, cut contact with those involved with the issue, let it blow over.
So I know this girl here, I told her that I have an affection towards her but I know she doesn't. I asked what to do to make her have that kind of affection towards me (it's a normal question around where I live) but she says that she's the kind of person that rarely has any feelings for another person in that matter. Maybe in time she will have it but my question is, does anyone know how to speed this up or just be good to her until the time comes?
shes not interested in you (you messed up) and you should move on
why cant i get a girl who will touch my dick? love sucks
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