• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;34560221]Don't be a pussy: Take 2 commences tonight[/QUOTE] Oohh, best of luck
Let me try to give Flamehead my best advice. Think of it like this: You have three tiers of social interaction, each one as important as the next. Liking yourself, liking others, and loving others. In order to to be successfully social (as awkward of a term that may be), you must attain each one in the order presented; you can't leap frog over "liking yourself" and "liking others" and go straight to "loving others," for example. From the little I've heard of you, you sound like a good portion of your problem being social stems from the fact that you don't like yourself. Of course, there might be other problems, as it would seem that you might have some form of depression (although I can't say this with any certainty, I still have to keep it in consideration). Now, if you want to solve your problem, there are a few things you need to do. Firstly, I would advise seeking psychiatric treatment if you do believe you might be suffering from some form of depression. If you do, you might end up running better with the rest of what I am saying in the long term. One thing you should know, though: if you do get medication, do not expect them to work 100% efficiently as soon as you start popping them. Antidepressants take a while to kick in with a full effect, and even then they might cause certain side-effects which make them undesirable for you. If that is the case, don't hesitate to keep getting them switched in order to find which one is the best for you. However, don't switch them out only a few weeks into treatment; give them time to work. Secondly, you need to gain some self-esteem and self-confidence. Of course, much easier said than done. However, the best way to get either is to find something (a job, a hobby, etc) that allows you to take pride in what you do. Once you feel pride in what you are doing, confidence and esteem will all come rolling along with it. Maybe take some time to meditate on what you want to do and what you like to do, and make simple goals and steps to keep you moving forward. All you need to do is start with baby steps, and with some time and effort, you'll see it snowball. Once you get past the stage of "liking yourself," you'll finally be ready for "liking others," and so forth. If you need help with that, that is what this thread is for. But, don't forget to keep bettering yourself, too, else you might fall down the same pit again. Also, if you ever feel overwhelmed with the daunting task ahead of you, just remember there are a lot of people on your same path that are struggling each and every day to better themselves, myself most definitely included. I've felt suicidal, came home and cried every day, and it is only recently that I started trying to pull myself out of that pit. So if you ever want someone to help you through this, I'm always here. Unfortunately, I still get bouts of depression every now and again, so I might not be the best of help, but I guess it's better that I offer my services than not.
[QUOTE=overpain;34558447]You're basically saying that he is fat? That's not cool, even by my standards.[/QUOTE] ...What? I was quoting what seith said. Also the dude said he was overweight, where the fuck did you get the idea I was calling him fat?
so much for the super friendly social and love advice thread huh
[QUOTE=DrBreen;34560835]so much for the super friendly social and love advice thread huh[/QUOTE] Because you and Seith brought the subject back up right when we had all agreed to drop it.
[QUOTE=1chains1;34561042]Because you and Seith brought the subject back up right when we had all agreed to drop it.[/QUOTE] I am to blame. Ban me.
[QUOTE=1chains1;34561042]Because you and Seith brought the subject back up right when we had all agreed to drop it.[/QUOTE] don't put this on me
[QUOTE=DrBreen;34561238]don't put this on me[/QUOTE] I take full responsibility. Ban me.
Shut the fuck up, I can't possibly believe any of this is helping the guy.
this used to be a good thread
--And Cut Off-- So, what are some ideas of a simple let-us-get-to-know-each-other date. Like a coffee and a stroll; what else is there?
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;34561586]--And Cut Off-- So, what are some ideas of a simple let-us-get-to-know-each-other date. Like a coffee and a stroll; what else is there?[/QUOTE] a stroll sounds simple but it isn't, if you have a stroll in a noisy city it's not gonna work, i'm thinking a stroll at a local park in the evening before the sunset then a nice quiet dinner.
Went on a sorta 'date' with this girl ive recently started talking to in school. (We spent a free period and went to a cafe had some tea and talked alot) and I realised I really quite like her. Now, Im really good friends with her best friend who assured me she likes me back, but doesn't want a relationship? Now, thats what confuses me. So... What steps can I go around to either change this or what? Im lost
[QUOTE=Bread Dog;34563072]Went on a sorta 'date' with this girl ive recently started talking to in school. (We spent a free period and went to a cafe had some tea and talked alot) and I realised I really quite like her. Now, Im really good friends with her best friend who assured me she likes me back, but doesn't want a relationship? Now, thats what confuses me. So... What steps can I go around to either change this or what? Im lost[/QUOTE] do not let her friendzone you. Also grow a sack of balls and say her what you feel, but if she likes you like friend,youre fucked. Btw if someones want to know she apologized me and now i have my valentine :-))
The "friend-zone" is not inescapable. It depends on the woman.
This thread sucks now due to Seith. It goes: 1) Person posts problem 2) Seith says something someone else doesn't like 3) They pointlessley argue for two pages 4) Repeat May I suggest if you don't agree with him you add him to your ignore list, and vice versa?
[QUOTE=Pascall;34563789]The "friend-zone" is not inescapable. It depends on the woman.[/QUOTE] . But it is VERY VERY hard to escape. Sometimes you do not even know you are in friendzone. Based on mine experience 1.5 years ago.
[QUOTE=Pascall;34563789]The "friend-zone" is not inescapable. It depends on the woman.[/QUOTE] As much as it depends on the male.
Friend zone is an ironic name in my opinion. Usually I see the pattern of: Get 'friend-zoned' > go with it for a day or two > "Fuck that bitch. Who needs her?!"
the way i see it people who bitch about the friendzone are obviously ignoring some kind of glaring flaw about themself
[QUOTE=Mon;34565253]the way i see it people who bitch about the friendzone are obviously ignoring some kind of glaring flaw about themself[/QUOTE] That flaw being, you didn't nut up enough to ask her out before you became really comfortable around her.
[QUOTE=Evilan;34565543]That flaw being, you didn't nut up enough to ask her out before you became really comfortable around her.[/QUOTE] true a lot of the time though i notice that a lot of guys who get friendzoned are ugly as a sin that or they come off as kind of creepy that kind of thing
[QUOTE=Seith;34556510]None of your problems are physical. Even being overweight. Stop being a fucking victim, as if you are the only person in the world with those issues. Seeing a psychiatrist would do shit. It's not like these problems are separate, they are all a derivative of your idiotic behavior; You're overweight, so you sit at home and cry, then you became anti social and paranoid. After being such for some time now, you became depressed, then because your life isn't moving forward but only backwards, you became suicidal. Do you think drugs will fix your inability to hold yourself up when the world shits in your face? no, they only treat the symptoms and your life will still be misrable. Wake up. You hate being fat? you got two choices - lose fat, or learn to accept yourself. You hate being anti social? socialize. THERE ARE NO QUICK FIXES. Either piss yourself away in agony, that you didn't do shit to help yourself or become the change you want in your life.[/QUOTE] Fuck you.
What a great way to start the new page. Keep feedin' that flame, everyone.
JohnnyMo1: she wasn't there :c JohnnyMo1: dating blows dicks JohnnyMo1: wish I could just vomit my feelings at her JohnnyMo1: in a fine mist JohnnyMo1: and she will inhale them and say "yes, this is acceptable" JohnnyMo1: we will strip naked and climb on a pogo stick JohnnyMo1: and bounce to the moon JohnnyMo1: befriend a colony of indigenous aliens JohnnyMo1: and the world will blast itself into a violent nuclear hell [editline]5th February 2012[/editline] That is my dream. That is my nightmare.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;34568554]JohnnyMo1: she wasn't there :c JohnnyMo1: dating blows dicks JohnnyMo1: wish I could just vomit my feelings at her JohnnyMo1: in a fine mist JohnnyMo1: and she will inhale them and say "yes, this is acceptable" JohnnyMo1: we will strip naked and climb on a pogo stick JohnnyMo1: and bounce to the moon JohnnyMo1: befriend a colony of indigenous aliens JohnnyMo1: and the world will blast itself into a violent nuclear hell [editline]5th February 2012[/editline] That is my dream. That is my nightmare.[/QUOTE] I am not sure if I should be horrified or turned on.
I'm both
[QUOTE=1chains1;34568689]I am not sure if I should be horrified or turned on.[/QUOTE] . Horrified boner
So I asked this girl out on a date on Thursday, and it was supposed to happen Saturday. Well we text somewhat regularly and so I decided to text her to ask for some info and get no reply. Well she is one of those kind of girls who forgets her phone and other random air headed reasons so I just let it go and text her 5 hours later the same question to see if she was working. No reply. Anyways by that point I am not going to text her a third time and if she wants the date to happen she can put some effort into it as well. So all of Saturday goes by and I decide to instead go to my friends house and crash there as nothing obviously was going to happen. But what pisses me off is today at 9 am she texts me "Heyyy c:". I felt I should at least give her a chance to explain before getting truly angry, so I ask her what happened. "Oh I had work till 6 instead of 1 and then had to babysit" That seemed like bullshit, but I didn't want to argue so the conversation goes like this: "Oh well why didnt you give me a heads up?" "Sorrrrry." "Its all good I guess" "Ok c: Whats up?" I didn't reply after that and I am wondering if I should even go sit with her at lunch tomorrow. This isn't the first time she has pulled something like this. The issue is when we do hang out and talk we fucking fit each other perfectly and I am extremely attracted to her, but I do not like to be fucked around with. Even more so I hate highschool bullshit love games and it seems like that is what is happening here, so I am getting ready just to say fuck it and ignore her. edit- [QUOTE]. Horrified boner [/QUOTE] MOTHERFUCKING FEARECTION
[QUOTE=1chains1;34568891]So I asked this girl out on a date on Thursday, and it was supposed to happen Saturday. Well we text somewhat regularly and so I decided to text her to ask for some info and get no reply. Well she is one of those kind of girls who forgets her phone and other random air headed reasons so I just let it go and text her 5 hours later the same question to see if she was working. No reply. Anyways by that point I am not going to text her a third time and if she wants the date to happen she can put some effort into it as well. So all of Saturday goes by and I decide to instead go to my friends house and crash there as nothing obviously was going to happen. But what pisses me off is today at 9 am she texts me "Heyyy c:". I felt I should at least give her a chance to explain before getting truly angry, so I ask her what happened. "Oh I had work till 6 instead of 1 and then had to babysit" That seemed like bullshit, but I didn't want to argue so the conversation goes like this: "Oh well why didnt you give me a heads up?" "Sorrrrry." "Its all good I guess" "Ok c: Whats up?" I didn't reply after that and I am wondering if I should even go sit with her at lunch tomorrow. This isn't the first time she has pulled something like this. The issue is when we do hang out and talk we fucking fit each other perfectly and I am extremely attracted to her, but I do not like to be fucked around with. Even more so I hate highschool bullshit love games and it seems like that is what is happening here, so I am getting ready just to say fuck it and ignore her. edit- MOTHERFUCKING FEARECTION[/QUOTE] is she pretty? if yes, atleast wait until you get to the first base if you know what i mean
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