• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Djentleman;35437130]my mom doesn't agree with pharmaceutical drugs and therapy, she tells me to "man up and get over it." dumb bitch. which is extra funny since she was such a bitch to my dad he bailed out. how do I "man up" with no one to learn from?[/QUOTE] withholding psychological treament constitutes child abuse which is a crime, so you can just tell her that or go to the police. i'm absolutely serious, she's not allowed to that.
[QUOTE=Djentleman;35437130]my mom doesn't agree with pharmaceutical drugs and therapy, she tells me to "man up and get over it." dumb bitch. which is extra funny since she was such a bitch to my dad he bailed out. how do I "man up" with no one to learn from?[/QUOTE] Learn from us!
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;35436949]Fucking guy on my basketball team pisses me the hell off. Were playing a pick-up game, he dribbles up to me, and I barely initiate contact with him and he misses his lay-up. As I'm running back to play offense I can hear him talking quietly about how I'm a bitch because I refused to acknowledge me fouling him (I did but it was very lightly and were all college level players and usually we just let those go by) and the fact I called out them fouling me on an offensive possesion (I got smacked on the wrist and I felt as though I got fouled so im going to call it out). He refuses to call out fouls because he claims he's "not a bitch." But this is what really rustles my jimmies. Before a weight-lifting session, as we were waiting for the weight room to open up he's acting like a total jackass and all of a sudden he hits a fellow teammate with a ball and my teammate basically trys to fight him. My other teammates hold them both back and what the fucking hypocrite does is basically just gets butthurt and leaves practice due to this minor incident and never shows up for the rest of the day. If youre such a fucking tough guy then why do you just leave practice because someone didnt put up with your bullshittery? He's also a team captain I would LOVE for him to piss me off so badly one day that I just go beserk and attempt to thrash him. I've never fought before and I'm generally a timid person but I'm the strongest/tallest guy on the team so I would be confident in my amatuer fighting ability buuut then again usually there has to be a stimuli that makes me lose my mind (he's done something like this before, I was walking into the locker room and he was behind me and he basically just kicked my shoe and I stumbled a little. I kept walking calmly but for some reason I just lost it a second later and slammed the locker room and just yelled really loudly, I kinda scared everyone.) But on TL:DR I have a lot of bottled-up anger towards a total jackass on my basketball team and I'm just waiting till he pushes my buttons to the point where I throw a few punches.[/QUOTE] Don't bottle it up until you explode on him, that makes you seem an unstable person (especially if you're planning it like you are now.) Just carry yourself calmly and confidently and without any expectations of what might happen. You know what's acceptable to you and what isn't; if he acts like an asshole, ask him what he's doing and why he's acting like an asshole. Take it to him verbally, instead of staying quiet and letting it build up. Show him up by actually expecting him to answer for shit that he does. If he continues, tell him you'll kick the shit out of him if he doesn't stop being a dick. If it still continues, kick the shit out of him.
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;35436949]Fucking guy on my basketball team pisses me the hell off. Were playing a pick-up game, he dribbles up to me, and I barely initiate contact with him and he misses his lay-up. As I'm running back to play offense I can hear him talking quietly about how I'm a bitch because I refused to acknowledge me fouling him (I did but it was very lightly and were all college level players and usually we just let those go by) and the fact I called out them fouling me on an offensive possesion (I got smacked on the wrist and I felt as though I got fouled so im going to call it out). He refuses to call out fouls because he claims he's "not a bitch." But this is what really rustles my jimmies. Before a weight-lifting session, as we were waiting for the weight room to open up he's acting like a total jackass and all of a sudden he hits a fellow teammate with a ball and my teammate basically trys to fight him. My other teammates hold them both back and what the fucking hypocrite does is basically just gets butthurt and leaves practice due to this minor incident and never shows up for the rest of the day. If youre such a fucking tough guy then why do you just leave practice because someone didnt put up with your bullshittery? He's also a team captain I would LOVE for him to piss me off so badly one day that I just go beserk and attempt to thrash him. I've never fought before and I'm generally a timid person but I'm the strongest/tallest guy on the team so I would be confident in my amatuer fighting ability buuut then again usually there has to be a stimuli that makes me lose my mind (he's done something like this before, I was walking into the locker room and he was behind me and he basically just kicked my shoe and I stumbled a little. I kept walking calmly but for some reason I just lost it a second later and slammed the locker room and just yelled really loudly, I kinda scared everyone.) But on TL:DR I have a lot of bottled-up anger towards a total jackass on my basketball team and I'm just waiting till he pushes my buttons to the point where I throw a few punches.[/QUOTE] the only solution here is obviously dunk on him and hang from the rim with your balls in his face and hopefully he quits basketball forever If you really can't contain your anger, just use words to hopefully get some of it out there without getting physically involved. Although those words could lead to a physical confrontation I guess, but hope it doesn't and use it as your way to not put up the guys bullshit..
[QUOTE=thisispain;35437139]withholding psychological treament constitutes child abuse which is a crime, so you can just tell her that or go to the police. i'm absolutely serious, she's not allowed to that.[/QUOTE] i think i'm gonna bring that up tomorrow cause this anxiety shit is killing me. keep in mind she's native american (i'm half-native and half-scottish) and hence the whole distrust of pharmaceutical drugs (it's fucking dumb i know). but you're right dude. time for a loooong talk.
[QUOTE=Djentleman;35437425]i think i'm gonna bring that up tomorrow cause this anxiety shit is killing me. keep in mind she's native american (i'm half-native and half-scottish) and hence the whole distrust of pharmaceutical drugs (it's fucking dumb i know). but you're right dude. time for a loooong talk.[/QUOTE] just don't tell her she's dumb or her beliefs are dumb. do it gently, tell her you respect her views and can understand why she doesn't trust modern medicine. and then stress that you suffer from not having the therapy that you need, make it more about you because ultimately it is about you and not her or her beliefs.
[QUOTE=Djentleman;35437425]i think i'm gonna bring that up tomorrow cause this anxiety shit is killing me. keep in mind she's native american (i'm half-native and half-scottish) and hence the whole distrust of pharmaceutical drugs (it's fucking dumb i know). but you're right dude. time for a loooong talk.[/QUOTE] Half native and half Scottish. Now there's an interesting combination :v:
[QUOTE=Cheesemonkey;35436992]you have some anger issues dude literal fistfights accomplish nothing but they deffo make you look like a complete tosser. and do you seriously think that he's that much of a cunt in public and nobody notices? when he fucks with you in public everyone just hates him a little bit more. i guarantee nobody likes him and if you get mad enough at his childish bullshit to fight him then people are going to look at you funny.[/QUOTE] I agree with avoiding violence where possible but I think sometimes people like that just need someone to stand up to them and put them back in their place. Not necessarily suggesting he 'snaps' and goes nuts on him like he was saying, but still just confronting him for being such a twat.
[QUOTE=Apache249;35433816]So, there's this one girl. She confuses the hell out of me. 'nough said.[/QUOTE] If you want to tell us more what's confusing about her. All I can say that I've been lately in a really confusing situation, so maybe we can get some light on your situation.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35434241]mommmmmm, pleassse cut my haaair nooOOO i dont WANT to go to a barber!!![/QUOTE] :v: I want to go to the barber. In fact I might.
[QUOTE=AltUser;35409949]Continuation of this: We went out again yesterday, despite her seeing a band live the previous night which she usually needs a day to recover from. The weather was also average, it looked like it could rain at any point, but we still went out, just not to the place we wanted to. We instead took a ten minute walk up the mountain and stayed there for about 4 hours. All we did was chat and stuff, but it seemed like we were both having fun as we were joking around with each other a lot. We also got slightly more uhm... personal? Playful? partly by kinda play-fighting. If I'm honest, at this point I think I might have a chance, I just need to show her my intentions now, any good ways of doing that? We plan on going up the larger mountain next time the weathers nice, so I just need a way to show her how I feel, I'm open to any suggestions.[/QUOTE] Yet another post by me: We're going out tomorrow to a party with a bunch of friends, and I swear I'm going to make a move (That's no false promise either) but I have one problem; Her gay friend, I swear whenever he's there he is the biggest cockblocker ever, how can I politely get him to fuck off without seeming like a dick? Seriously it's a real mood killer when I'm talking to her and he waltzes over with his overly-gay attitude. He done it a couple of times yesterday when a bunch of us went to the cinema, I just wish he would go suck a dick (Literally, at least that would keep him out of my hair for a bit) -Rant over-
[QUOTE=Djentleman;35436896]Oh and, is atheism a turn-off for girls?[/QUOTE] God dammit, be confident in what you believe. Would you even date a girl who wholeheartedly despised your belief? I don't think it will change how much they want your dick.
I think i have a bigger crush for the girl i used to date, than the girl im dating right now. This girl that i used to date, shes just the kind of girl i always wanted, slim and cute, pretty much "ideal" for me. The one im dating now is curvy, really nice to talk to, shes someone who really who seems way out of my league, but still im just not having that big of a crush on her. Theres no specific things to love about her. Just the overall. Dating her is really easier though, Im braver because losing her for doing mistakes doesnt seem like that much to lose. On the first one I was really nervous all the time, because she was everything I wanted. I didnt wanna fuck that up so I didnt take any risks. Now I wish I did. But I really wanna keep dating the one im dating now. You never know if and when i'll fall in love. [editline]5th April 2012[/editline] The first one was UNIQUE, a character. [editline]5th April 2012[/editline] OH almost forgot, the girl that i date listens to punk, and it strongly reflects on the way she dresses, but she hasn't shown me that yet. She also has a mohawk. She said that shes arfraid that i would think shes weird or something, so she dresses more "normally" when she goes out with me. Told her i wanna see her dressed like she usually is. I like girls with unique style, so i guess i'll like that :)
I thought that once the girl starts calling me babe and kissing me goodbye and hooking up with me a few times, I could stop playing the game with her and start texting her when I wanted and not after a set amount of time. How wrong I was. She's started giving me all these excuses to create distance between us. I'm sure at least some of what she's saying is true (for instance she did just get out of a long relationship and therefore is justifiably cautious) but I know an excuse when I see one. So I've just stopped being so available and she is coming back for more. I'm just wondering at what point it can stop being a game because I really do care for her.
it might not be a game, maybe she just didn't end up liking you
Well fuck me
i mean if shes any decent, shell be forward about that with you, so youre right that the way shes weaseling around is like a game
she sounds like a girl who wants what she can't have and doesn't want it as soon as she can have it unfortunately many people have that attitude
[QUOTE=killerteacup;35448653]she sounds like a girl who wants what she can't have and doesn't want it as soon as she can have it unfortunately many people have that attitude[/QUOTE] theres literally no reason to assume stuff about her personality based on her actions you can guess about her intentions, but not about what she's like as a person
[QUOTE=Djentleman;35436896]I have extreme anxiety issues, I try and hide it but most of my friends can I'm a nervous wreck. I often find myself inexplicably thinking that there is someone trying to kill me. I smoke a metric fuckload of cigarettes and weed just to be able to attend school without freaking the fuck out. How do I become a more relaxed person without the weed and cigs? I know the air of agitation and the fact I smoke are driving girls away. Additionally I posted before about my necrophilia issue so if the dude who replied to me sees this, tell me if you found that thing about dopamine and reprogramming your brain. Oh and, is atheism a turn-off for girls? All the dudes I know who can easily get girls, I see them in church when I fake going. I was considering "coming out" of the atheism closet, is this a good idea? y/n.[/QUOTE] um you should probably balance out all your mental issues before you even think of getting a girlfriend...
I suffer from social anxiety what the hell am I doing in here oh god
fuck man for some reason over the past few months my speech has been phasing between super-articulate to disjointed as hell and i have no control over it fuq dis [editline]5th April 2012[/editline] but yeah i've actually got a real problem here pretty much, this girl said she would hang at lunch, but ditched (she said she forgot, i'm not sure if i believe that) so later i got pissed and confronted her about it, which didn't turn out all that well i said sorry later, and she said sorry too, but later, she posted a status saying "i'm allowed to have more than one friend you know" so yeah i guess kind of fucked up here so i guess that raises the question over how i can unfuck this situation
You can say "fuck that" and move on because anyone that makes a status like that after ditching you and 'apologizing' is pretty much brain-dead and not worth your time.
statuses directed at anyone in particular are incredibly passive aggressive
unless they actually mention the person's name, in which case they're just straight up aggressive I've seen like one person do that, ever
[i]sometimes i just dont get why certain people post *sigh*[/i] (not directed at you turnips5, just VENTing god)
[QUOTE=Pascall;35392465]This guy who I work with seriously won't stop pestering me about hanging out. He's really nice but he's a little too nice. And too eager to get me to hang out with him. Like I literally get two or three texts every day from him asking what I'm doing. And it's even getting to the point where he's bugging me at my other job. I always tell him "I'm busy" or "Sorry, I can't". You know, in a polite way, obv, but he's obviously not getting the hint that I don't want to hang out. Is there something I can tell him that won't seem like I dislike him? Like I said, he's a nice guy, I'm just not interested in hanging out with him at all. Him and I would clash too much.[/QUOTE] there's not really a way of saying that you don't want to hang with him without leaving the impression that you don't like him. your best bet is to just say you don't like him that much enough to hang and hope he can just deal with it.
[QUOTE=Pascall;35392465]This guy who I work with seriously won't stop pestering me about hanging out. He's really nice but he's a little too nice. And too eager to get me to hang out with him. Like I literally get two or three texts every day from him asking what I'm doing. And it's even getting to the point where he's bugging me at my other job. I always tell him "I'm busy" or "Sorry, I can't". You know, in a polite way, obv, but he's obviously not getting the hint that I don't want to hang out. Is there something I can tell him that won't seem like I dislike him? Like I said, he's a nice guy, I'm just not interested in hanging out with him at all. Him and I would clash too much.[/QUOTE] just say it to him how you said it to us "you're a nice guy but i don't think we can hang out" something like that
Asked a girl to go see the hunger games with me. She said yes. :v:
[QUOTE=Outcast_X;35450222]Asked a girl to go see the hunger games with me. She said yes. :v:[/QUOTE] Atta boy! You going to make a move or is it strictly platonic?
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