• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Blazyd;35561037]I need some help on getting this girl's phone number. I don't want to sound all weird when I ask her. What should I say?[/QUOTE] Can I get your number?
[QUOTE=Blazyd;35561037]I need some help on getting this girl's phone number. I don't want to sound all weird when I ask her. What should I say?[/QUOTE] Be casual about it, don't preface it with "Can I ask you something?" Just ask.
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just tell her he changed his mind and didn't want to go?
Before I say what I am about to say let me just point out that I am not on the whole "Women should stay in the kitchen / Have no logic" etc. But the latter is really starting to show recently and it is confusing the fuck out of me. This girl that I have been dating from class for quite a while is so immensely fucking random that I should just give up. Moving on she told me several times that she would like me to come with her to her theater group. Despite not having much interest in acting, after thinking about it for a while, I told her that it doesn't hurt to try and I wanted to show that I genuinely care about the things that she does. Which I do. She said "Alright I'll bring the script to school." Skip forward two days and it is Thursday when we are supposed to go. I ask her what time it is, she replies in a semi-angry tone "It is late." I ask again "Oh okay, when exactly?" and she doesn't respond and I tell her "So.. I'll see you tomorrow then?" and she mumbles something and then no word from her at all. She said that we are good friends so far and that she likes to hang out with me. If you ask me I am not her friend if she won't even bother to make up an excuse for me to not come. She TOLD me to come, several times and when I say okay she just gives me the finger. It doesn't help the fact that she even had the script with her to school since I noticed her carrying it around and she never brings that stuff to school. What the flying fuck happened now? I have not spoken to her over texts or anything for a while due to us having lots of school related things going on, including have to decide where to study next on Monday which is a big decision. But even if she is stressed out, what did I ever do to deserve being treated like this? Forgive me for saying so but seriously, it really does seem like women lack a proper sense of logic. If you don't want me to come, then why do you keep telling me to come?!
either she is bi-polar or really dumb.
[QUOTE=mastfire;35566028]either she is bi-polar or really dumb.[/QUOTE] Bi-bolar indeed. She has quite the mood swings from day to day but that is probably since she is going for an A in every subject. Still, I don't want to come off as incosiderate or anything but seriously, I am stumped. What the hell. A few months ago all I did was to play videogames and now I am stuck in this mess. :v:
talk to her about how you feel when she keeps asking you to go to theater club and her atitude about you showing up.
[QUOTE=mastfire;35566145]talk to her about how you feel when she keeps asking you to go to theater club and her atitude about you showing up.[/QUOTE] Guess I'll have to do that. Shit will hit the fan.
Well, my ex finally got the guts to come text me last night. She sent me a photo of my dog saying "I still remember this guy :)". Well I responded and we chatted a little through text. I didn't know what to say and it all felt kinda weird but hey, I told her I was ready to talk to her again so I had to stick to the plan, so I was as polite and friendly as I could. We put our conversations up to date. She told me that she was having some insomnia and she needed someone to talk to, I was reluctant at first because I was tired but I talked to her for a while. The weirdest and most uncomfortable thing for me was how friendly she was to me after all the shit she did. She was talking to me the same way we used to talk when we were best friends. Like all the shit didn't happen. I agreed to overlook that so we could have a chance to be friends one day again, but like this? It's like she has no shame for what she did. Finally we talked about our love life, I said I was seeing someone now (Yes, I met a nice girl some weeks ago), and she said all confident in my face that she was still with the guy that was responsible for all the shit she was through. The idiot she went running back to after breaking her heart and after I, the idiot who believed her when she said she wanted to be with me, was dumped so she could run back to him. Fuck me. Sometimes I just don't understand girls. And the funny thing is, I just know that guy's going to break her heart again. And when he does, well who's she gonna turn to again? me. Sometimes I can't understand girls. Sorry for any girl out there reading this. I'm sure there are a lot of awesome girls out there, it's just that I've been getting all the crap. So, she invited me out and I told her I had to work (lied) so I'm not going to think about her now. I mean what's the point, she chose her path, I can't be there all the time. Also there's this girl I've been talking to and she agreed to visit my city when she gets to my country. I'm excited, she's cute, nice and has a great sense of humor and personality. Its weird I'm not into her for sex or any of that. I just feel good about being with her. I think I'm moving on just fine and I feel happy. Other people have been noticing that in me, I think I've changed a bit. I'm more friendly towards other people, I smile a lot, I no longer feel too underconfident to make eye contact with people, I'm more responsible and pro-active towards my work and sports. I think I did a lot of progress and I think I don't want to stop here. I feel I can improve much more and really I'm focused on it right now.
Imo just ignore her or friend zone her. I had a long distance relationship with a girl but it didn't go well on the forth month. Most long distance relationships don't work 9.5/10 of the time.
[QUOTE=mastfire;35567047]Most long distance relationships don't work 9.5/10 of the time.[/QUOTE] unless of course it was not long-distance for a long while and then, due to whatever reason, it becomes long-distance for some set amount of time
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35567147]unless of course it was not long-distance for a long while and then, due to whatever reason, it becomes long-distance for some set amount of time[/QUOTE] I do agree but if a guy meet a girl online but the live in x about of miles/kilometers(applies if they live two different city where public transportation example city buses or trams. metropolitan cities do not count.) from each other but haven't met. And the do hook up but never see each other in a long time then it won't work. But be careful of rapist's or fakes. To make sure if they are real ask them if they want to chat with a webcam on.
Going on a date tonight! Dinner and a movie :) [img]http://weknowmemes.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/yea-fuck-yea.gif[/img]
[QUOTE=CommanderPT;35565995]Before I say what I am about to say let me just point out that I am not on the whole "Women should stay in the kitchen / Have no logic" etc. But the latter is really starting to show recently and it is confusing the fuck out of me. This girl that I have been dating from class for quite a while is so immensely fucking random that I should just give up. Moving on she told me several times that she would like me to come with her to her theater group. Despite not having much interest in acting, after thinking about it for a while, I told her that it doesn't hurt to try and I wanted to show that I genuinely care about the things that she does. Which I do. She said "Alright I'll bring the script to school." Skip forward two days and it is Thursday when we are supposed to go. I ask her what time it is, she replies in a semi-angry tone "It is late." I ask again "Oh okay, when exactly?" and she doesn't respond and I tell her "So.. I'll see you tomorrow then?" and she mumbles something and then no word from her at all. She said that we are good friends so far and that she likes to hang out with me. If you ask me I am not her friend if she won't even bother to make up an excuse for me to not come. She TOLD me to come, several times and when I say okay she just gives me the finger. It doesn't help the fact that she even had the script with her to school since I noticed her carrying it around and she never brings that stuff to school. What the flying fuck happened now? I have not spoken to her over texts or anything for a while due to us having lots of school related things going on, including have to decide where to study next on Monday which is a big decision. But even if she is stressed out, what did I ever do to deserve being treated like this? Forgive me for saying so but seriously, it really does seem like women lack a proper sense of logic. If you don't want me to come, then why do you keep telling me to come?![/QUOTE] Well, you have all the right to be pissed and confused about the way she's been acting with you. I think you should just back away a little from her. That's a fucked up problem with a very simple solution since you can't fix people up. Just let her go and go about your business. If she liked you, she'd be more kind exposing her problems with you and things would be clearer. You'd both work out your problems if there were some, right? That's not happening and you have the right to be a little mad and stepping away from her. After all she took steps in order for it to happen... Since speaking to her only results in childish comebacks of rage, let her come speak to you. And when she does speak to you, let her know you were not happy with what she did and talk about it. Her reaction will tell you everything you need to know to make a decision about her. If she starts raging and being all semi-angry towards you then you've got your answer: she's a little bitch.
[QUOTE=Prez;35568861]Going on a date tonight! Dinner and a movie :) [img]http://weknowmemes.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/yea-fuck-yea.gif[/img][/QUOTE] Update: Date went well! We went for dinner, talked for about an hour, then saw titanic (which was good but oh my god is it long). We're going to do something again next weekend. :)
I wanted to go out and ~party~ tonight since gf was with friends. I mixed some gatorade with some ciroc or whatever its called and drank about 1 shot worth. I started to feel sick and get a headache, so I didnt do anything. I think it was probably because I only had lunch today and hadnt had anything else to eat since then. I used to think not eating before alcohol consumption just only made it easier for you to get drunk but can It cause sickness as well?
I was actually surprised at the substance in the movie Titanic. Actually ended up watching the whole thing haha. [editline]14th April 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Jmir 54;35575997]I wanted to go out and ~party~ tonight since gf was with friends. I mixed some gatorade with some ciroc or whatever its called and drank about 1 shot worth. I started to feel sick and get a headache, so I didnt do anything. I think it was probably because I only had lunch today and hadnt had anything else to eat since then. I used to think not eating before alcohol consumption just only made it easier for you to get drunk but can It cause sickness as well?[/QUOTE] Never. Drink. Alone.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;35576179]I was actually surprised at the substance in the movie Titanic. Actually ended up watching the whole thing haha. [/QUOTE] woah thats so weird, who would ever think of watching a full movie??
why are you such a grouch jo
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35576191]woah thats so weird, who would ever think of watching a full movie??[/QUOTE] As opposed to falling asleep.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;35576179]I was actually surprised at the substance in the movie Titanic. Actually ended up watching the whole thing haha. [editline]14th April 2012[/editline] Never. Drink. Alone.[/QUOTE] I wasnt
I just did something ridiculously stupid. A few weeks ago I told my best friend's cousin about the guy my best friend likes. That's all I told her, and now she just texted me 'Did you break all my secrets to X?!'. I replied with 'What?' because I don't know what else to say. It kind of just came back to me. I'm not even sure what else I told her.. How do I avoid a massive shitstorm with my best friend? Edit: Basically my reaction. [IMG]http://meta.filesmelt.com/downloader.php?file=titanicgif14.gif[/IMG]
[QUOTE=AtomicDongo;35577025]I just did something ridiculously stupid. A few weeks ago I told my best friend's cousin about the guy my best friend likes. That's all I told her, and now she just texted me 'Did you break all my secrets to X?!'. I replied with 'What?' because I don't know what else to say. It kind of just came back to me. I'm not even sure what else I told her.. How do I avoid a massive shitstorm with my best friend? Edit: Basically my reaction. [IMG]http://meta.filesmelt.com/downloader.php?file=titanicgif14.gif[/IMG][/QUOTE] Apologize. They confided in you and you told somebody about it they didn't want you to tell, she has a right to be po'd.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;35575035]Well, you have all the right to be pissed and confused about the way she's been acting with you. I think you should just back away a little from her. That's a fucked up problem with a very simple solution since you can't fix people up. Just let her go and go about your business. If she liked you, she'd be more kind exposing her problems with you and things would be clearer. You'd both work out your problems if there were some, right? That's not happening and you have the right to be a little mad and stepping away from her. After all she took steps in order for it to happen... Since speaking to her only results in childish comebacks of rage, let her come speak to you. And when she does speak to you, let her know you were not happy with what she did and talk about it. Her reaction will tell you everything you need to know to make a decision about her. If she starts raging and being all semi-angry towards you then you've got your answer: she's a little bitch.[/QUOTE] My friends have been saying the same. If she gives a damn about me then she will come along. Not that it really matters, I'll most likely move up to Stockholm after the summer vacation for Uni. So I'll never see her again. That is why I wanted to go to the theater group to begin with, to talk to her afterwards. Tried talking to her before about our minor problems but it looks like it didn't help even though she invited me along to a movie night the day after. Guess I'll wait and see what happens. But then again, Stockholm.
[QUOTE=AltUser;35555550]The girl who I've been spending time with and I, as you may know had gotten really close. And this time last week we both got quite drunk and basically confessed our feelings for each other and led to us hugging and cuddling, etc. As well as kissing, which I actually stopped as it didn't feel right as we were pissed. So the next morning I text her asking if she felt the same way and it basically went: "Yeah, I think I do" and we agreed that we should take it slow and "tread the water" as her experiences have been shitty in the past, I was fine with this but we didnt see each other for a good few days. So this Wednesday we went out just for a walk and I didn't really try anything on with her as I felt we were both confused about where we stood, well that's a lie really: I just didn't know if she wanted this or not. Then that night she text me saying that we should stay as friends. She said that she did have feelings for me but was afraid that if we went ahead with this and it didn't work out then we wouldn't end up being as close as we are now. She said that its not that she doesn't want to do this, its just that she's not sure and doesn't want to fuck things up between us. After trying to persuade her, I found that her decision was final. She said stuff like shes not worth it and there's someone out there who deserves me more than her. So what can I do now? I seriously do feel things for this woman and I'm not sure but I think she might just feel things about me too, it's just that in previous relationships things haven't always been easy for her, from what I've heard. Besides, who confesses all their feelings for someone and kisses them if the two of them are "just friends". Oh, I also met her mother who asked, and I quote if we were "boyfriend and girlfriend now". So what now? I told her that we will just stay as friends but I'm sure there's more than that between us? I think the only thing that can help me is if we both get drunk again.[/QUOTE] Seriously, I need someones help or at least an opinion on this.
Any last minute movie date tips? I'm going today to see titanic.
Don't wait for her to make a move.
Break the touch barrier as soon as you can, seriously. Just touch her on the shoulder or anything, if she doesn't already know you then it'll seem like its natural for you to touch people. But at the same time it'll do a pretty good job of keeping you out of the friend zone.
My friend had a first date yesterday, and it went quite well for him. His lady friend made him cookies, because they were having a picnic. Unfortunately for both of them, my friend came over to my house afterwards, and when he left he forgot to take his cookies. This was not wise. I need milk.
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