The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;35591794]I can throw a punch, it is just I [I][B]really[/B][/I] am uncomfortable with it. I want to hit back but the school is completely zero tolerance and I am afraid of how bad it will be for me if I actually do some damage.
[editline]16th April 2012[/editline]
Or I get into a circumstance where I just overreacted that time and then I forever look bad and feel humiliated.[/QUOTE]
Ok, I normally don't believe in violence, but if you do, here's some quick guidelines IF YOU DO, I don't condone it but it can help:
Don't punch them in the face, you'll likely end up just cutting up your hand or breaking your fingers. I've had friends who have gotten into fights and broken their hands from trying to punch someone in the head because they have no experience with it, and tbh it's a pretty small target anyway, kind of stupid to risk aiming for. I assume you're not super beefy, so it's likely not worth it anyway since a punch wouldn't do more than stun them unless you hit their nose.
If they try to choke you/put you in a headlock, stick your fingers in their eyes.
Aim for the stomach, neck, and or groin (but only if you get a good opportunity). Also if you can hit them in the solar plexus (spot below the sternum before the ribs meet), that can be potentially disabling as well, and very painful.
Don't try to kick unless you are aiming for the shins or toes, that'll give them an opportunity to grab your legs, and at that point you're basically fucked. It debateably does very little damage otherwise, unless you're stomping someone on the ground, but if you manage to get your opponent on the ground you need to just run.
If more than one person hops in, just run the fuck away, even if it's only 2v1, you aren't going to win.
Don't let them get you on the ground, roll away from them and get up as fast as possible.
If you can get your hands on a blunt object and you need to end the fight, just throw it at them and run, don't try to go in for a swing because it'll likely be too slow for you to land it. And if you're running away, try to tip chairs and shit to keep them away from you.
If they have any sort of blade or weapon GTFO.
Anyway these are really basic tips, and I am by no means a professional. Seith likely knows more about fighting than me since he's military, but these are just basic rules that should help you stay a little safer.
That said, I think you need to confront a teacher or someone about your problems rather than assuming they won't help you at all. They very well might assume you don't need it if you haven't come to them for help, and might not want to get mixed in with that (even if they SHOULD be looking out for their students).
Is online school an option? That would obviously work. You could also transfer schools or something. Bullying really isn't something anyone should have to deal with so you should reach out to anyone who will listen.
Sorry but those fighting tips were pretty god-awful
[editline]17th April 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Squeaken;35593076]Uh, thats not how it works. If you hit them, you've just given them an excuse to beat the shit out of you.[/QUOTE]
That is quite a pessimistic generalisation
And in any case, it doesn't even matter if you lose a fight, if the alternative is letting people treat you like shit every day
[QUOTE=KnowProblem;35593123]That said, I think you need to confront a teacher or someone about your problems rather than assuming they won't help you at all. They very well might assume you don't need it if you haven't come to them for help, and might not want to get mixed in with that (even if they SHOULD be looking out for their students).[/QUOTE]
Did you even read what I said? I have constantly gone to teachers, only for it to end badly for me.
Good self-defense tips
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[QUOTE=Centralia;35593620]Is online school an option? That would obviously work.[/QUOTE]
High school for like six years or something online? If he wants to be a hermit maybe that would work
[QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;35595081]High school for like six years or something online? If he wants to be a hermit maybe that would work[/QUOTE]
It depends on the person mostly. I go to school and I am a hermit. Meanwhile I know people who don't and do plenty of stuff with people. It COULD be an option, but I mostly agree with you. Most people probably would have a harder time in the long run and would just sit at home.
[QUOTE=thisBrad;35590635]Went to the club for the first time last night.
I can't pick up girls with my life depended on it[/QUOTE]
"the club"
this always confuses me. do people live in places with only a single club? the idea frightens me. i guess i'm a city guy
anyways, i've never even tried to get on a stranger in a club... i just don't understand it or the appeal of it (it has happened a couple of times but i either can't remember how i did it (was far too drunk) or it was with someone i already knew)
I know from a friend that SOMEONE likes me, but I can't get any more out of her.
I can't even really narrow down the field. So I either have to leave it or ask out like 5-10 girls. :suicide:
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;35591794]I can throw a punch, it is just I [I][B]really[/B][/I] am uncomfortable with it. I want to hit back but the school is completely zero tolerance and I am afraid of how bad it will be for me if I actually do some damage.
[editline]16th April 2012[/editline]
Or I get into a circumstance where I just overreacted that time and then I forever look bad and feel humiliated.[/QUOTE]
An angry mind is a narrow mind.
And right now, even if you've been taking shit for years, thinking of violence as an escape is being narrow and throwing all your grades to the trash can just so you can feel good about punching some idiot in the face.
Getting into fights won't solve anything. That justs creates rivalry and you don't want that.
Trust me, I've been bullied to and the only time I reacted with violence was in self defence witch is totally different than picking up a fight.
You should vent your anger and stress in other things other than what's going on with some stupid kids in highschool and if you do that you'll start being seen with other eyes, people will start noticing you for being happy and as you boost your confidence your marks will higher up.
So you want to punch and fight with people that want to see you pissed of and willing to fight them just so they can kick your ass and take pictures of it. If you want to punch, learn how to punch, go hit the gym/dojo and punch some bags, train hard and pick some martial art to practice, vent your anger in that and you'll feel more confident out there.
You can act in self defence, surely. But never pick a fight with people that live out of bullying to feed their egos. Wait until they give you a reason to punch them and then end it, that's self defence.
As for suicidal depression, hey that's normal for someone who takes as much crap everyday as you do, but motivation doesn't fall from the skies. It's inside you. Just change and toughen up. Work harder and you'll be stronger than that crap. Otherwise it won't end.
Anyway, why do they pick on you? Surely there was something in you they had noticed, some vulnerability. Explore that.
[QUOTE=NeonpieDFTBA;35596046]I know from a friend that SOMEONE likes me, but I can't get any more out of her.
I can't even really narrow down the field. So I either have to leave it or ask out like 5-10 girls. :suicide:[/QUOTE]It's probably her
[QUOTE=Glitch360;35596303]It's probably her[/QUOTE]
I know who she likes and I know it is not me.
[editline]16th April 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Yahnich;35596689]yeah it's fucking unreal how dumb people get. usually they say 'someone' likes you to gauge your interest in dating someone else
i mean dudes do it as well and i just find it ridiculous[/QUOTE]
As above. I thought about that, but due to reasons I cannot disclose I know, whoever she likes, it is not me.
gahhhh
2 times today the girl I was interested in was ALONE and both were perfect times to start a conversation
and I blew them both because I didn't have the confidence
Next time.
[QUOTE=Blueridge;35601590]gahhhh
2 times today the girl I was interested in was ALONE and both were perfect times to start a conversation
and I blew them both because I didn't have the confidence
Next time.[/QUOTE]
Happened to me once too. I was standing there for like 5 minutes trying to figure out exactly what to say and how to say it and if I really should.
In the end I just gave up with myself.
But yes Blueridge...go get her next time.
Just pretend I read the rest of the thread. Maybe I'll go back some time. I'm here for personal research of male opinion.
What do guys really think of being asked out? I've honestly asked out almost all of the guys I have dated, and I can't decide what guys think of that.
I have more but i'll leave it at that as a way to get an idea of the thread I guess.
Sorry for likely off topic.
[QUOTE=Blueridge;35601590]gahhhh
2 times today the girl I was interested in was ALONE and both were perfect times to start a conversation
and I blew them both because I didn't have the confidence
Next time.[/QUOTE]
assume attraction my dude. that is the key.
[editline]16th April 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Rhenae;35601884]Just pretend I read the rest of the thread. Maybe I'll go back some time. I'm here for personal research of male opinion.
What do guys really think of being asked out? I've honestly asked out almost all of the guys I have dated, and I can't decide what guys think of that.
I have more but i'll leave it at that as a way to get an idea of the thread I guess.
Sorry for likely off topic.[/QUOTE]
i wouldn't mind. i would view the situation just as i'd view any other date: getting to know the person.
i guess i'd be a little more intrigued by knowing the person is more than just interested in me.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;35601884]Just pretend I read the rest of the thread. Maybe I'll go back some time. I'm here for personal research of male opinion.
What do guys really think of being asked out? I've honestly asked out almost all of the guys I have dated, and I can't decide what guys think of that.
I have more but i'll leave it at that as a way to get an idea of the thread I guess.
Sorry for likely off topic.[/QUOTE]
Same as goldenGnome said, i would be intrigued. Also it would make you more interesting off the bat. Sort of shows that you're not afraid to openly go after what you want, and are not the shy type.
So kudos to you.
Oi. My buddy Jordan's got a girlfriend again, which means he spends every waking moment with her and spares no time for his friends. He gets so excited at the prospect of having a lady that he clings to it like it's going out of style.
I'm a little bit peeved! We had plans today! He saw her yesterday, and then he bails on our plans to see her again [I]tonight[/I]! Dork left me all alone, and now I'm eating a loaf of homemade bread and sulking.
don't nag him about it, it will only further ingrain him in her butthole. just wait for the honeymoon phase to wear off.
I'll pass the time by gossiping about him with my other friends.
If this were a sitcom, the "wacky one" would pop in and mutter, "here we go again."
[editline]16th April 2012[/editline]
And it's totally a lose-lose situation. He'll be this way for as long as they're dating, and if they ever break up he'll spend six or more months in a deep blue funk, whining about how she was "the one," and that he's "lost without her."
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;35602282]I'll pass the time by gossiping about him with my other friends.
If this were a sitcom, the "wacky one" would pop in and mutter, "here we go again."
[editline]16th April 2012[/editline]
And it's totally a lose-lose situation. He'll be this way for as long as they're dating, and if they ever break up he'll spend six or more months in a deep blue funk, whining about how she was "the one," and that he's "lost without her."[/QUOTE]
well then maybe you do need to intervene, but be careful. people like that tend to do whacky things when you confront them about their behavior.
sorry to call your friend a member of the "people like that" collective but im just basing that on your deep blue funk assessment.
Oh jeez, I just found out what to say to her depending on what class time it is so that it isn't awkward:
If it's General Business, I'll say "Ready to fill some fake invoices?"
If it's Gym, I'll say "Ready to do fairly little because gym sucks?"(I'm a fan of excersive and sports but our teacher isn't it's all stuff like Badminton and floor hockey)
And if it's Biology.. well I don't think I'll say anything there. Can't think of anything about the class without it being awkward.
If you plan out a conversation, and she deviates from the lines you mentally prepared, you're going to end up getting lost and having nothing to talk about. Better to just wing it with something weird and hope she bites.
[QUOTE=Blueridge;35602449]Oh jeez, I just found out what to say to her depending on what class time it is so that it isn't awkward:
If it's General Business, I'll say "Ready to fill some fake invoices?"
If it's Gym, I'll say "Ready to do fairly little because gym sucks?"(I'm a fan of excersive and sports but our teacher isn't it's all stuff like Badminton and floor hockey)
And if it's Biology.. well I don't think I'll say anything there. Can't think of anything about the class without it being awkward.[/QUOTE]
believe me when i say you will not even sound one tenth as cool as you are imagining in your head right now when delivering any of those lines.
planning what you're going to say is a recipe for disaster my friend.
[QUOTE=Blueridge;35602449]If it's Gym, I'll say "Ready to do fairly little because gym sucks?"[/QUOTE]
Jesus, that even sounds dumb on paper.
Just be natural, don't come up with dumb "cool" phrases. How hard is that?
I had one of my servers comment on how nice my eyes were today.
I always love getting little compliments like that. Makes a terrible day so much better.
[QUOTE=Pascall;35602967]I had one of my servers comment on how nice my eyes were today.
I always love getting little compliments like that. Makes a terrible day so much better.[/QUOTE]
Your server wants to bang you
well duh!
I posted a while back about how this girl just up and stopped talking to me even though we spent a lot of time together one night and I made a pretty successful move on her.
Was the classic deal where when you get one girl mad at you, they all get mad at you. It's a bunch of bullcrap.
how old are you, she seems pretty immature
She could communicate when she's mad instead of just ignoring you
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