• Social Anxiety
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[QUOTE=AlexT;23526273]Someone very dear to me hasn't been with anyone outside of her immediate family for so long because she's been diagnosed with this. Social anxiety is something that has changed my life so much. The amount of people who dismiss it as something you can cure just by walking outside is annoying as hell. Ever think that person might have a heart attack and well, die? Just because you don't think it makes any sense doesn't mean it's not out there. OP's problems is exactly what I thought social anxiety meant, but it can be much more problematic than that. Just because you think you could clear it up by walking outside doesn't mean it's possible for some people. I really wish I could describe how much it hurts me, but no one on FP really cares anyway.[/QUOTE] Well I can sympathise with you. :) I originally chose to post this on FP so that I could send it as a link to Facebook, because Facebook's got a silly character limit and I can't type it all up on there word for word! But JEEZ! I never realised there were so many insensitive twats on this site!
[QUOTE=Gik;23526601]I never realised there were so many insensitive twats on this site![/QUOTE] You have [b]no idea[/b]
[QUOTE=veribigbos1;23526428]I don't see a doctor about it because its [b]obvious[/b] they are just gonna say "oh you're just shy get over it" [editline]03:29AM[/editline] Also this is why I don't talk about it with anyone[/QUOTE] I agree, doctors don't help with anything anyway!
Now the OP is starting to sound like a troll.
[QUOTE=BagMinge101;23525929]People with Autism and Aspergers actually have a disability.[/QUOTE] And so do people with SA to some degree, not that they're worse I'll admit, but they're still bad! Not that you'd know anything about it! [editline]01:43AM[/editline] Anyway, it's getting late, goodnight trolls!
Op you are just a loser, I used to have the same problem until I actually talked to girls a lot. You need at least to put in 100 to 200 hours of talking to girls on the phone or worse....IN PERSON. Then you will be good, or smoke some weed then go to the mall and you will be set.
I suffered from shyness until second semester of my senior year. I grew out of it around then, I realized that all of the people in my high school were all so clicky and I wasn't going to see most of them after high school anyway. I made my self go to prom, enjoyed myself, met some people, came home and realized I could enjoy myself and meet people anywhere and any time. Currently I don't really have any friends because I couldn't find many people with my interests at my school but I'm looking forward to University and learning with people that have the same interests. Basically all it takes is a different mindset and time. Just don't put yourself down so much, find stuff you like and do it. Esteem and stuff comes later when you find people like you and build relationships. Go to an airsoft field and rent a gun for a day, see if you like that. Join a forum having to do with the music you like, find out how to make some yourself, try and get into that life. You can do whatever you want in life, just find something you like and you can do or talk about often.
[QUOTE=AutoTurret;23526829]Op you are just a loser, I used to have the same problem until I actually talked to girls a lot. You need at least to put in 100 to 200 hours of talking to girls on the phone or worse....IN PERSON. Then you will be good, or smoke some weed then go to the mall and you will be set.[/QUOTE] The sad thing is that this works... I was high as shit when I picked up my first phone number. OP just sounds like a looser. Seriously, if you had spent the same amount of time being social instead of making this thread, you wouldn't be in your predicament.
op may have social anxiety but it seems half of facepunch is anti-social figure the difference
A LOT of people feel socially awkward. Hell, I used to also. You just need to stop pitying your self and acting like you have a disease and take action. It seems hard, but it really isn't. Start hanging out with some friends, go to movies, then start meeting other people and hanging out with them. It "cured" me. You'll still feel a little awkward probably but trust me it will help.
I don't know if I have social anxiety. But, I always avoid social events, I feel shy around my grandparents and aunts/uncles, and sometimes shy towards my own parents. The friends I make, I always lose because I think that they would be better without me. I even turn down positions that would put me into power with inclination to talk to people. I make it my goal in any situation to not reveal how uncomfortable I feel around people. I never stutter at all, when I do talk to people, I plan out the conversation in full to make it as compelling as possible, along with a swift get-away plan. I try to fake smiles and appear as normal as possible, when I feel no emotion at all. My shyness has cost me a few academic awards I could have gotten, it's just not worth the social interaction and recognition. I feel extremely self-conscience whenever someone gives me recognition for something I did, like getting an A on a test, or asking if I got a new hair-cut or a new t-shirt. I felt this way for as long as I remember. I always thought I'd grow out of it, but I've just learned to fake being social and no one seems to bother me about it. It feels like walking into a burning building when I ever go to public settings. I can tolerate it, but it's difficult. I really need to come out of my shell, but I really don't want to.
[QUOTE=Lightbourne;23526242]Noone said it would be easy or simple, why are you assuming the solution has to be?[/QUOTE] I'm not. That's exactly my point.
[QUOTE=Gik;23526655]I agree, doctors don't help with anything anyway![/QUOTE] good luck thinking that when you get cancer
[QUOTE=Olinaj;23525974]Easily cured. Go outside, who cares what people think of you, you are the ultimate judge of yourself. In all honesty, some people out there probably really enjoy your character/your company.[/QUOTE] "What, you have dyslexia? Easily cured, just fucking read properly, dipshit."
[QUOTE=Amber Lamb;23528868]"What, you have dyslexia? Easily cured, just fucking read properly, dipshit."[/QUOTE] Dyslexia and Social Anxiety are two completely different things.
[QUOTE=BagMinge101;23525811]No, you're just a shut in who uses some bullshit medical excuse to make himself feel better about his lack of social skills. Seriously, this is the 15th thread about how we should feel sorry for x because they are socially awkward.[/QUOTE] [img]http://filesmelt.com/dl/Say.jpg[/img]
My mom's friends son has this really bad. He can't even leave the house. He pretty much sat inside all day playing vidya games. Me and my brother used to always hang out with him to try and help him get more socially active. We eventually got him to go into stores and buy things on his own (talking to the sales clerk even) but we have lost contact with him since and I'm pretty sure he's back in his previous state. It really sucks for him because when he's older he won't be able to get a job, a girlfriend/wife or have a life.
[QUOTE=7DeadlySyns;23528883]Dyslexia and Social Anxiety are two completely different things.[/QUOTE] they're both disorders
I usually prefer to be alone/with a small group of people, but I operate just the same when i'm in a group, just need to learn to get that all that stuff is in your head.
[QUOTE=7DeadlySyns;23528883]Dyslexia and Social Anxiety are two completely different things.[/QUOTE] They're both mental disorders and they're both easily fixable: just stop it.
[QUOTE=Amber Lamb;23529935]They're both mental disorders and they're both easily fixable: just stop it.[/QUOTE] hahaha you have no idea what you are talking about
[QUOTE=thisispain;23530036]hahaha you have no idea what you are talking about[/QUOTE] Hahahahaha you obviously can't tell I'm being sarcastic.
[QUOTE=Amber Lamb;23530053]Hahahahaha you obviously can't tell I'm being sarcastic.[/QUOTE] what you posted has been posted seriously at least three times it's like killing someone and saying "nah it was just a joke".
[QUOTE=thisispain;23530075]what you posted has been posted seriously at least three times it's like killing someone and saying "nah it was just a joke".[/QUOTE] And what I'm responding to has been posted at least three times.
Where'd the OP go? Did he suddenly get too scared to post anything anymore? You can fix this so easy by just talking to more people. In fact, talk to people of the opposite sex. Making friends will boost your confidence greatly and dramatically reduce whatever the hell made up syndrome you have. Actually it's mainly paranoia. You could just be paranoid.
[QUOTE=Tetsmega;23530470]Where'd the OP go? Did he suddenly get too scared to post anything anymore? You can fix this so easy by just talking to more people. In fact, talk to people of the opposite sex. Making friends will boost your confidence greatly and dramatically reduce whatever the hell made up syndrome you have. Actually it's mainly paranoia. You could just be paranoid.[/QUOTE] I'm assuming you've suffered with and conquered this problem?
Everything listed in the OP describes me. I can talk to people on the Internet really well because I still have some anonymity, and as I get to know the person I can start talking about things I'm not comfortable talking about face to face. But when I try talking to a stranger (even when they're my age), I just become completely afraid and I can't do anything. Fortunately, I've been trying to get over my fear lately. There is a girl in my summer class at college, and I had been trying to say something to her for many weeks, but just this week I've talked to her twice. And both instances went pretty well. She didn't tell me fuck off, or kick me in the nuts. She seemed interested in me, not boyfriend-girlfriend interested, but interested enough to talk to me. Both times were very short conversations, but hopefully it gets me over my fear. Just my two cents. [editline]11:13PM[/editline] [QUOTE=Stupideye;23529335]My mom's friends son has this really bad. He can't even leave the house. He pretty much sat inside all day playing vidya games. Me and my brother used to always hang out with him to try and help him get more socially active. We eventually got him to go into stores and buy things on his own (talking to the sales clerk even) but we have lost contact with him since and I'm pretty sure he's back in his previous state. It really sucks for him because when he's older he won't be able to get a job, a girlfriend/wife or have a life.[/QUOTE] I didn't have it that bad. I could always go out to the store and buy stuff. I still don't talk to the clerk other than to gruffly say thanks or whatever. But I am capable of leaving my house to do errands. But like the OP said, I avoid eye contact with people who are walking by, and I get really fidgety.
[QUOTE=BagMinge101;23525811]No, you're just a shut in who uses some bullshit medical excuse to make himself feel better about his lack of social skills. Seriously, this is the 15th thread about how we should feel sorry for x because they are socially awkward.[/QUOTE] Thank you! [editline]05:15AM[/editline] Seriously guys, You know your socially akward and cant talk to be people, just admit it. It pisses me off when you guys do that to get fake sympathy. "Ohh, It's a sewious medical condition Guies!!11!"
For one, i too suffer from social anxiety. As i can see not many people here understand this condition, but i know it well... Too afraid to do much, in fear of looking like a moron. Sometimes it takes balls just to answer a question in math, in fear of getting the answer wrong and feeling like a failiure. And worse, cannot even talk to a girl because it feels like they may judge you behind your back... But the way i see it, if you recluse and never speak, and stay by yourself, you actually look more like 'the weirdo' of the school. I find that by fitting into at LEAST one social group, and making friends within this group makes me look less strange, but then again the group i'm in seems to be the "spews and emos" group :geno: But as long as you have a group of friends, your confidence should build up... Otherwise have a diazepam, that helps :v:
Don't impose social groups on yourself. Just try to go out there and make friends. The world isn't going to care nor end if you flub something or appear a bit nervous.
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