Gay Chat V11 - Were you expecting something funny?
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[QUOTE=SPESSMEHREN;46417523]I didn't decide to leave engineering until after the cut-off date so I had to stick through all my engineering classes.
Failed one, just barely passed the other (probably because I explained to my professor what was going on so he passed me).[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I didn't want to risk it. The only midterm I did well on was my Commerce one. The rest I either scraped by, rode the curve into a pass, or failed (math).
I likely could have turned it around by finals if I dropped a class to lighten the load but honestly, I didn't like any of the material. Our Intro to the Engineering Profession course also kind of confirmed that I have no interest in performing the duties of a professional engineer. (imo all university programs should have something like this because the busywork of most classes is almost always misleading)
everyone needs to stop living so far away from me god damnit
I would be going on SO MANY DATES but everyone that really likes me lives either in other countries or multiple states away.
[QUOTE=Levithan;46418669]everyone needs to stop living so far away from me god damnit
I would be going on SO MANY DATES but everyone that really likes me lives either in other countries or multiple states away.[/QUOTE]
Welcome to my world.
I wish I didn't get so attached to people who are far away, but really, this is the only place that I have any kind of social life. I'm pretty fucking sad.
I really wish we were close together. I swear i'd hug every single one of you.
Get off the internet and do things where you meet people locally, you can even use the internet to find people locally. You're only wishing this because you've let so much of your social life become an internet thing.
Nothing's going to happen if you sit in front of your computer and wish.
If I wasn't that of a coward, I would do that. Most people I was together were kinda jerkbags. Not all of them were like that but they really werent my friends either. But still, I wish I had my old friend's number again ;c
This girl makes me giggle like a fucking retard
It's too bad there's pretty much nothing else out here, and being open about my sexuality would be ill-advised in a place like this, so that makes things a lot harder. Right now, I'm pretty much set on just setting up shop somewhere else when I get the chance, because besides being lonely all the time, I've had it with this ass of a state. I mean, finding someone with my mindset would be like trying to find a needle in a haystack. Really, I just need to see some other places and get a good perspective on what else is out there.
Of course, not having a job or a car or a diploma isn't really doing me a lot of favors there either.
Way to come off sounding like it's that simple, Roll.
I wish it was as mentally easy as it is said, but it really isn't. It can take years to build up your mentality, self-confidence, trust and security and what not to be able to do that for some people.
The whole "let so much of your social life become an internet thing" - to some, that simply just seems like the only option at the time. Strangers can be the single most terrifying thing on earth. Hell, I can't even go to the fucking store alone without having to fear breaking down in tears in the middle of the line at the cashier, and I [I]know[/I] there's others here who have it just as difficult.
Welp apparently my sister's dropping off my college course, it'll be a little more scary now.
The upside is she's going to go do voluntary teacher assistant work, which is something she's super interested in so yay for her!
[QUOTE=Stoffy;46419573]Way to come off sounding like it's that simple, Roll.
I wish it was as mentally easy as it is said, but it really isn't. It can take years to build up your mentality, self-confidence, trust and security and what not to be able to do that for some people.
The whole "let so much of your social life become an internet thing" - to some, that simply just seems like the only option at the time. Strangers can be the single most terrifying thing on earth. Hell, I can't even go to the fucking store alone without having to fear breaking down in tears in the middle of the line at the cashier, and I [I]know[/I] there's others here who have it just as difficult.[/QUOTE]
I think it was general advice for people who don't suffer from anxiety.
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46419987]I think it was general advice for people who don't suffer from anxiety.[/QUOTE]
Even with anxiety, it'll never get better if you never try.
[editline]6th November 2014[/editline]
[QUOTE=Stoffy;46419573]Way to come off sounding like it's that simple, Roll.
I wish it was as mentally easy as it is said, but it really isn't. It can take years to build up your mentality, self-confidence, trust and security and what not to be able to do that for some people.
The whole "let so much of your social life become an internet thing" - to some, that simply just seems like the only option at the time. Strangers can be the single most terrifying thing on earth. Hell, I can't even go to the fucking store alone without having to fear breaking down in tears in the middle of the line at the cashier, and I [I]know[/I] there's others here who have it just as difficult.[/QUOTE]
I'm sorry I didn't include your specific illness in my post.
[QUOTE=Roll_Program;46420041]I'm sorry I didn't include your specific illness in my post.[/QUOTE]
Which is exactly what I didn't mean it to come out as. It was just an example, but what ever, dude.
[QUOTE=Stoffy;46420127]Which is exactly what I didn't mean it to come out as. It was just an example, but what ever, dude.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Stoffy;46419573]Way to come off sounding like it's that simple, Roll.
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What-ever dude.
Pretty shitty day, wish I still had someone to hold me :C
sup folks
[QUOTE=jack10685;46420303]Pretty shitty day, wish I still had someone to hold me :C[/QUOTE]
I wish I had someone to hold me regardless of how my day went, honestly
I was wondering if someone could help me - I want to buy a domain and host a website to showcase my showreel, cv, photography etc. but I don't know diddily dick on how to do it, maintain it or create something that looks nice (for example this: [url]http://www.adamheslop.co.uk/[/url] )
Anyone got advice or want to help?
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jesus christ erp that was quick <3
[QUOTE=Davidn64;46419266]If I wasn't that of a coward, I would do that. Most people I was together were kinda jerkbags. Not all of them were like that but they really werent my friends either. But still, I wish I had my old friend's number again ;c[/QUOTE]
I think a lot of people really fail to understand how difficult it is to talk to people when you have anxiety. Even when people in my classes would initiate conversations my first thought would be "well this person obviously has an ulterior motive". It takes a lot of work to get out of that mindset and there's no single way that works for everyone.
I think the best way is just to find people like yourself, who maybe even have anxiety themselves, and have awkward shy mini-conversations with them until you both get better at it
I used to have anxiety that would give me physical reactions but it was amazing how much of it was completely in my own thoughts. I'm glad I don't have some kind of chemical imbalance or something that makes it impossible to overcome it without drugs.
I literally (after seeing a psychologist) just decided "lol well now I don't have anxiety anymore!" And after a couple of false starts I can answer phones and look people in the eyes when talking to them! I also met a couple of people who are really great friends during the transition from being anxiety filled to not being as anxiety filled.
[QUOTE=redback3;46420487]I was wondering if someone could help me - I want to buy a domain and host a website to showcase my showreel, cv, photography etc. but I don't know diddily dick on how to do it, maintain it or create something that looks nice (for example this: [url]http://www.adamheslop.co.uk/[/url] )
Anyone got advice or want to help?
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jesus christ erp that was quick <3[/QUOTE]No problem
Shit I got the page king. Uhh, I've been doing gay things recently.
It really is as simple as getting more experience in those situtations
Which is part of why its hard - its as easy as making that step, but at the same time you don't know how to approach those situations and you have to go into those situations using a social knowledge base that you know is flawed. That's what causes anxiety, which causes you to approach social situations in this negative feedback loop that is hard to break out of. It's hard to "figure out" how to be social when you don't know exactly how to be. Discovery is part of the process, but that can lead to rejection, putting your self image on a pedestal, etc. Thats why you gotta just do it! The best experience is doing it yourself.
The best advice I can give to help you is to stop judging yourself so harshly and be open to constructive criticism in any form. If you dress weird unintentionally and know you might be getting odd looks that you don't want as a result, then that is a form of constructive criticism - learn from it! Nobody remembers your really dumb moments if you learn from them. We all have terribly embarrassing situations that we've been in that have been a direct result of being socially awkward (i.e. for me, I've walked on top of the vietnam memorial during a middle school field trip to DC.. awkward when someone reprimanded me for it and then I realized what I was doing). Even though those moments feel like they are embarrassing for you YEARS after they happened, any witness to it will almost never remember it after a week.
You learn from trial by fire and you won't break anxiety in social situations unless you give yourself the knowledge base you need to no longer feel anxious around others. The first step is stop feeling anxious about yourself - you are fine. If you feel really out of place around people, just find a different friend group. You don't have to be friends with everyone, and once you get out of high school everyone will see you as an equal even if you don't belong to the same friend group. So it doesn't hurt to give it a chance with as many people as possible till you figure out who you click with best. Its just important to feel confident in oneself as otherwise you won't be able to empathize and interact with others too well.
Alternatively, go through a bad breakup. That's what I needed :v: it was enough of a low point and self-esteem destroyer that it changed me around completely (for the better).
On a related note:
[img]http://i.imgur.com/751Xqwq.jpg[/img]
(also I know there is a difference between standard social anxiety that most will go through and actual clinically diagnosed anxiety related to depression and other mental illnesses, I'm giving advice assuming it is not of the clinical variety)
omg I am in tears I just watched some Day[9] tv it's hillarious.
[editline]6th November 2014[/editline]
[URL="http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=3vJ5tgijykA#t=858"]He's not even talking about starcraft[/URL]
I wish I could embed a video at a specific time.
Maaan, I've missed playing Rock Band/Guitar Hero so much! Even if I'm stuck playing guitar since I haven't had my drums sent over, I'm having so much fun it's ridiculous. It'll only get better once the drums do make it over here, too, since then I can play it together with my boyfriend (even though he hates like 90% of the songs :v:) and it's gonna be great~
[QUOTE=Stoffy;46419573]Way to come off sounding like it's that simple, Roll.
I wish it was as mentally easy as it is said, but it really isn't. It can take years to build up your mentality, self-confidence, trust and security and what not to be able to do that for some people.
The whole "let so much of your social life become an internet thing" - to some, that simply just seems like the only option at the time. Strangers can be the single most terrifying thing on earth. Hell, I can't even go to the fucking store alone without having to fear breaking down in tears in the middle of the line at the cashier, and I [I]know[/I] there's others here who have it just as difficult.[/QUOTE]
You'll never go anywhere if you keep that mentality. It's good to realize you have a problem but even worse if you use that problem as a crutch to prevent you from bettering yourself. If you stay only online it won't lead to good things, yeah you'll meet some friendly faces and people you'd call your friends, but online socializing is not, and never will be, a complete alternative to actually going outside and being with friends in person. Sticking solely to online socializing often reinforces anti social aspects or leaves the person largely socially awkward (and i mean actually being awkward not, whoops i dropped my pen i'm so akward. I mean the kind of awkward where people don't even want to be around you because you either can't hold a conversation correctly or start talking about weird shit for no reason).
You sound like you have legitimately bad anxiety issues to which you should actively seek help for instead of hiding online. If you're that close to breaking down just going out then you will never be able to function correctly and that's a world of problems all on it's own.
This isn't the same as telling someone with depression to cheer up, roll didn't over simplify a single thing.
Think of online socializing as like, crackers with some peanut butter on them. You can survive off just those crackers and peanut butter, but you'll only just survive. You'll still be malnourished and lacking in a few health aspects from lack of change in your diet from something as basic as peanut butter crackers. They get the job 'done', but not nearly to the same extent a meal of steak and eggs would do.
[editline]6th November 2014[/editline]
[QUOTE=greeley;46415889]I never got into it. At all.
I watched the first season. Wasn't bad.
2nd Season meh....
3rd season i got so bored i couldn't even carry on with it.[/QUOTE]
I'm mostly the same way. I watched and love Breaking Bad from the start and caught every new episode from seasons 1-3. I loved it, but after the way season 3 ended and the fact that the new season didn't start until over a year after 3 ended, it annoyed me how it opened up, the change of direction bothered me, most of the characters became irritating, and the show generally just changed directions entirely.
It figures though, i was in love with a show that wasn't hugely popular and as it got really well known and widely watched and everyone started talking about it, i lost interest.
I think i'm like halfway through season 4 before i said fuck it. Seasons 1-3 were excellent, great tv, fantastic writing, exceptional direction, in depth characters developing realistically and remained believable. Once it shifted more to just drama i just copped out.
[editline]6th November 2014[/editline]
[QUOTE=gerbe1;46421505]omg I am in tears I just watched some Day[9] tv it's hillarious.
[editline]6th November 2014[/editline]
[URL="http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=3vJ5tgijykA#t=858"]He's not even talking about starcraft[/URL]
I wish I could embed a video at a specific time.[/QUOTE]
I watch day[9] for his off days and his story telling days. I love them. Great moments like this. To this day my friend gives me shit about loving ska music and responds to every song i'll link him to with this:
[URL]http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=hkzl0zHIE2k[/URL]
my personal favorite though, and yes this video is long but so worth it:
[url]https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=1N6cOC2P8fQ[/url]
For some reason it won't embed either video, even without the s in https. It embeded the above one before but broke when i edited the post.
i hate having to leave uni early, but my anxiety and depression just wins over me every time. I have no idea on how I'm gonna survive when I'm done.
[QUOTE=~Kiwi~v2;46422408]When you're done. You'll feel like a fucking champion.
Just hang in there buddy. The reward will be much much more greater then your downfall.[/QUOTE]
It's my last trimester and I'm almost the same as I was when I entered.
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