Gay Chat V11 - Were you expecting something funny? - General

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;44433989]I got upset at this post because this isn't really what's happening. It pretty much raised my standards of what made a good post and made me annoyed at the small things[/QUOTE] Maybe you shouldnt take what's said on the internet to heart all the time? Just a suggestion. It's really easy to ignore people on the internet. If you continue to care about what people think of you it will drive you crazy.

I dunno, whether it's on the internet or not, if someone says something genuinely hurtful to you it can be really difficult to ignore. I like to think we could all do a better job being nicer to each other, whether or not we agree or disagree with each other's opinions and such.

[QUOTE=Shark Bones;44434016]I dunno, whether it's on the internet or not, if someone says something genuinely hurtful to you it can be really difficult to ignore. I like to think we could all do a better job being nicer to each other, whether or not we agree or disagree with each other's opinions and such.[/QUOTE] Words only hurt you if you allow then to hurt you.

[QUOTE=Vilusia;44434029]Words only hurt you if you allow then to hurt you.[/QUOTE] The words themselves can be ignored, but the intent behind them can often sting whether you want it to or not.

[QUOTE=Shark Bones;44434071]The words themselves can be ignored, but the intent behind them can often sting whether you want it to or not.[/QUOTE] That depends on your mentality. If you don't allow words to affect you, they won't affect you. I'm that way and I never get upset when someone calls me a name.

[QUOTE=~Kiwi~v2;44434082]I used to have this urge to explode when ever I was alienated by people and insulted and pushed around. You practically just grow out of it and ice found that there are just assholes in the world. Its your decision if you want to hear it or not. Since then I've found the nicer things in life.[/QUOTE] Yeah, but, what if someone you're close to says something hurtful to you? That's very hard to ignore. It all really depends on the context and the person.

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;44433855]You know what. you guys win, I am clearly a cunt. I honestly cannot handle this thread and myself anymore, and that's my fault. But I need you guys to seriously fucking realize why I act like this. It's not because I'm "ROFLSPERGER"; It's not because I'm "An Autistic Sperg"; It's not because I'm naturally an asshole. I don't expect anyone to pity me because when I told this to someone they just laughed at me. Since fucking day one I've been ridiculed for some of the dumb shit I've said. It still fucking lingers to this day. I've had people talk behind my back, convince some of my friends that I am a toxic person to be around, I've been humiliated, harassed, called autistic constantly to the point of where I'm actually starting to think I'm actually fucking autistic. "Burger you're just being too sensitive". I guess I must be? But it seriously starts to become crippling when it feels like a large group of people are dedicated to making your day feel like shit at such a high frequency. I've been told by reasonable people that I deserve the treatment I get, I've been laughed at for my reactions, I've received paragraph long messages on why I'm an autistic sperglord. I usually don't care about effortless insults, but when someone dedicated a bunch of their time to getting their message across that I'm scum of the fucking earth, it seriously affects me. I can't just "turn off the computer" or "ignore people" or simply stop going to this thread. It doesn't stop people from talking shit about me. I tried putting an end to this by apologizing to some people, but I couldn't apologize to people who have seriously wronged me. I'm just want to say I'm just so sorry for all this, I wish things were seriously different.[/QUOTE] I'm going to be truthfully honest here and I don't want to become an asshole to you or anything. But keep this as a personal note and think about it twice. You shouldn't "backslash" based on what you receive, and this happens to me most of the times in almost everywhere (including the internet). I tend to act like a cynical asshole to the nearest person, thing, anything that's really in my range/power. But I try to keep it enclosed as possible so I don't hurt others. Though you shouldn't also like let it stack as it hurts you overtime. I would just get in isolation mode, start ignoring what's around me and calm down until things do get better. However, this might sound a bit loony or crazy, it does actually helps me a ton. I know what you've done to others (including me) but then again I shouldn't make harsh opinions over it since I've done the same too. So, apology accepted.

[QUOTE=Vilusia;44434105]That depends on your mentality. If you don't allow words to affect you, they won't affect you. I'm that way and I never get upset when someone calls me a name.[/QUOTE] While I do agree with what you're saying, not everyone is capable of disassociating things on the net as easily as that. I don't really know what to say to you roflburger, other than you're not a bad guy and I'm sorry you're feeling the way you are. I was sort of in the same boat as you a long time ago before I even came to Facepunch, but in my case I just got so fed up with everything I eventually completely numbed up and more or less am a ghost on the net as a result. Hell, I think my last post in this thread was over a year ago. I guess the best advice I can give is be assured you're not a cunt or an asshole or anything like that, maybe you're just a bit too impulsive with what you post? Again I don't mean to offend, and I think the fact you did apologize to some folk says a lot. Just keep your chin up as best you can man, hope you feel better.

Damn son that dragon is buff as FUCK homie.

Thank you for accepting my apology guys. Is it unreasonable that I want some other people to apologize to me? I'm not trying to sound like an ass but it would be beneficial if I knew that some people are willing to stop and realize that what they didn't wasn't that great. [QUOTE=Vilusia;44434029]Words only hurt you if you allow then to hurt you.[/QUOTE] No this is the thing. I can easily shrug off a single dumb insult once, but when it's a whole bunch of people and a whole bunch of incidents then it starts to get serious.

This day went to shit pretty quick near the end for me. At least its almost over.

No offense dude but have you tried making a new account or something. Slightly related I browse a hockey subreddit and there was this guy who was just a straight up shitposter. Like every time he would post it would get instantly downvoted. One day he disappeared and some other dude started posting with shit too and he would get shit too. After maybe 3 months people found out it was the same dude. Point is he wasn't getting shit because of how he acted and then just from his reputation, he got shit because of how he always acted. Point is try a new account if you're getting too much shit on this one, if it happens again maybe you should take a closer look at yourself and if not, then it's a win situation

[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;44434800]No offense dude but have you tried making a new account or something. Slightly related I browse a hockey subreddit and there was this guy who was just a straight up shitposter. Like every time he would post it would get instantly downvoted. One day he disappeared and some other dude started posting with shit too and he would get shit too. After maybe 3 months people found out it was the same dude. Point is he wasn't getting shit because of how he acted and then just from his reputation, he got shit because of how he always acted. Point is try a new account if you're getting too much shit on this one, if it happens again maybe you should take a closer look at yourself and if not, then it's a win situation[/QUOTE] No that would be running away from the problem.

[QUOTE=Saza;44430078]new glasses woo [img]https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/31421373/Camera%20Uploads/IMG_20140402_122842.jpg[/img] [editline]2nd April 2014[/editline] I really should shave though[/QUOTE] Dem eyes tho <3 [editline]Whoopie[/editline] Also I just read your post, ROFLBURGER. You know, I've seen you doing bad stuff on Facepunch. But it's not nearly enough to get the shit you get. So yeah, those people do owe you an apology. Just an opinion. PS: I love everyone in this thread, honestly <3~

[QUOTE=Saza;44430078]new glasses woo [img]https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/31421373/Camera%20Uploads/IMG_20140402_122842.jpg[/img] [editline]2nd April 2014[/editline] I really should shave though[/QUOTE] I like how rectangle framed glasses look. I wouldn't want to get round ones, they just don't really seem to fit anything else. Rectangle ones always look a bit more sophisticated I guess.

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;44434870]No that would be running away from the problem.[/QUOTE] What if you're the problem? T̶h̶i̶s̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶f̶i̶n̶d̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶o̶u̶t This is to prove to yourself that it could be you.

[QUOTE=Krydar;44434941]Dem eyes tho <3 [editline]Whoopie[/editline] Also I just read your post, ROFLBURGER. You know, I've seen you doing bad stuff on Facepunch. But it's not nearly enough to get the shit you get. So yeah, those people do owe you an apology. Just an opinion. PS: I love everyone in this thread, honestly <3~[/QUOTE] It's not just what he says on FP that's necessarily the problem, it's what he says on FP (incl. ratings & visitor messages), steam group chats, and steam pms all together that makes the problem what it is. If he was just an occasional shitposter then yeah I can see the flak he gets being a little overkill but it's not just the occasional shit post.

[QUOTE=Tomo Takino;44435439]I like how rectangle framed glasses look. I wouldn't want to get round ones, they just don't really seem to fit anything else. Rectangle ones always look a bit more sophisticated I guess.[/QUOTE] I've never seen a fitting pair of round lenses on anyone but old people. On the other hand, though, the rounded corners I like rather than straight up 90 degrees

I personally think visitor message rules are a bit too lenient, because people seem to get away with harassment on it way to often. Not directed at anyone. Just in general.

Luckily, for the most part I've mainly seen people using the visitor messages for friendliness and affection. At least, in my experience. I just want to spread the love. :c

[QUOTE=Roll_Program;44435456]What if you're the problem? T̶h̶i̶s̶ ̶i̶s̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶f̶i̶n̶d̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶o̶u̶t This is to prove to yourself that it could be you.[/QUOTE] I know I'm "the problem... [QUOTE=DemonElite;44435498]It's not just what he says on FP that's necessarily the problem, it's what he says on FP (incl. ratings & visitor messages), steam group chats, and steam pms all together that makes the problem what it is. If he was just an occasional shitposter then yeah I can see the flak he gets being a little overkill but it's not just the occasional shit post.[/QUOTE] Are you saying that I deserve all the insults and general harassment that you and some of your friends threw at me.

[QUOTE=DemonElite;44435498]It's not just what he says on FP that's necessarily the problem, it's what he says on FP (incl. ratings & visitor messages), steam group chats, and steam pms all together that makes the problem what it is. If he was just an occasional shitposter then yeah I can see the flak he gets being a little overkill but it's not just the occasional shit post.[/QUOTE] Then again I shouldn't comment on the matter because I haven't seen him anywhere outside FP.

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;44435610]I know I'm "the problem... Are you saying that I deserve all the insults and general harassment that you and some of your friends threw at me.[/QUOTE] Most of the time, yeah you do (I say most of the time because I don't always know what other people say to you and when, we're not some collective group plotting against you). You have this issue with interacting with people and civil or not you can't take it (any criticism what so ever) and act like a dick to everyone around you indiscriminately. You complain when someone criticizes what you do publicly, then you ignore/dismiss them when they do what you ask by discussing it in PM. You generally just act like a cynical, pessimistic jerk who insults or demeans whatever is being discussed at hand. I only call you out when I feel like you deserved being called out, which is when you act in ways like I described above. I don't stalk you and insult you at every turn (I even have you added on steam and I've NEVER used that to "harass" you) or rate every post you make dumb. You were asked to leave wechat before, for about a week (but not banned, despite the fact that there was a clear consensus by the majority of those to ban you and the self-exile was a compromise in hopes you'd change your behavior) largely because of your general attitude toward everyone. You should consider that not everyone is out to get you but there's an actual problem with the way you go about communicating with people. I'm not saying this to be mean, to "insult" you, or to "harass" you, but this is something you should genuinely consider.

[QUOTE=DemonElite;44435745]Most of the time, yeah you do (I say most of the time because I don't always know what other people say to you and when, we're not some collective group plotting against you). You have this issue with interacting with people and civil or not you can't take it (any criticism what so ever) and act like a dick to everyone around you indiscriminately. You complain when someone criticizes what you do publicly, then you ignore/dismiss them when they do what you ask by discussing it in PM. [/quote] I ask people to take it to PMs because it shits up the chat and generally encourages people like you to start throwing insults like "sperglord" or "shitlord around". I dismissed the PM because by that point it was long past to avoid a unnecessary conflict and I was really upset. I apologized to ownderded about this a week ago. [quote] You generally just act like a cynical, pessimistic jerk who insults or demeans whatever is being discussed at hand. I only call you out when I feel like you deserved being called out, which is when you act in ways like I described above. I don't stalk you and insult you at every turn (I even have you added on steam and I've NEVER used that to "harass" you) or rate every post you make dumb. [/quote] I call it harassment because in every conversation that is negative about me, you throw "flavorful" insults at me. [quote] You were asked to leave wechat before, for about a week (but not banned, despite the fact that there was a clear consensus by the majority of those to ban you and the self-exile was a compromise in hopes you'd change your behavior) largely because of your general attitude toward everyone. You should consider that not everyone is out to get you but there's an actual problem with the way you go about communicating with people. I'm not saying this to be mean, to "insult" you, or to "harass" you, but this is something you should genuinely consider.[/QUOTE] I am well aware of my issues with dealing with anger, and I apologized to a few people on in the few days for some of my actions. If your intentions were to help me, you did the exact opposite.

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;44435946]I ask people to take it to PMs because it shits up the chat and generally encourages people like you to start throwing insults like "sperglord" or "shitlord around". I dismissed the PM because by that point it was long past to avoid a unnecessary conflict and I was really upset. I apologized to ownderded about this a week ago. I call it harassment because in every conversation that is negative about me, you throw "flavorful" insults at me. I am well aware of my issues with dealing with anger, and I apologized to a few people on in the few days for some of my actions. If your intentions were to help me, you did the exact opposite.[/QUOTE] so um what are you trying to achieve?

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;44435946]I ask people to take it to PMs because it shits up the chat and generally encourages people like you to start throwing insults like "sperglord" or "shitlord around". I dismissed the PM because by that point it was long past to avoid a unnecessary conflict and I was really upset. I apologized to ownderded about this a week ago. [/QUOTE] Dismissing the PMs with ownderd wasn't an isolated incident. You just don't care about what's being said to you no matter the method of delivery even if it's in the most civil manner despite how rude you may have been. [quote]I call it harassment because in every conversation that is negative about me, you throw "flavorful" insults at me.[/quote] Ever consider that you may deserve those "flavorful insults" when you start insulting and belittling people, their interests, or a conversation at hand? It's how the arguments with you always start, you saying something incredibly rude and insensitive and then getting butthurt and coming up with this persecution complex when someone criticizes you for it (on varying levels of civility, depending on the person). I, nor anyone else for that matter (at least that I'm personally aware of) go out of our way to insult you (or say something negative about you) unprovoked. Those negative conversations about you only come up when you start the routine of insulting someone or something out of the blue completely unprovoked almost like we can't discuss anything you personally don't approve of. It's one thing to have a dissenting opinion or to make a joke, but it's a problem when it's just outright insulting without reason. [quote] I am well aware of my issues with dealing with anger, and I apologized to a few people on in the few days for some of my actions. If your intentions were to help me, you did the exact opposite.[/quote] Those apologies don't mean much when you just continue doing what you do, which is what happened several times. If you're sincere on changing things one of the first things you need to work on is changing how you converse with people (not being so rude at every turn is a good start). That's my honest opinion, take it however you'd like.

[QUOTE=Saza;44435504]I've never seen a fitting pair of round lenses on anyone but old people. On the other hand, though, the rounded corners I like rather than straight up 90 degrees[/QUOTE] Oh yeah definitely, mine have rounded corners and I think they make me look a bit more mature.

My glasses look vaguely hipster except they're actual proper glasses.

i haven't smoked weed for almost a month and i'm pretty proud of that considering my previous smoking habits.

[QUOTE=DemonElite;44436133]Dismissing the PMs with ownderd wasn't an isolated incident. You just don't care about what's being said to you no matter the method of delivery even if it's in the most civil manner despite how rude you may have been. Ever consider that you may deserve those "flavorful insults" when you start insulting and belittling people, their interests, or a conversation at hand? It's how the arguments with you always start, you saying something incredibly rude and insensitive and then getting butthurt and coming up with this persecution complex when someone criticizes you for it (on varying levels of civility, depending on the person). I, nor anyone else for that matter (at least that I'm personally aware of) go out of our way to insult you (or say something negative about you) unprovoked. Those negative conversations about you only come up when you start the routine of insulting someone or something out of the blue completely unprovoked almost like we can't discuss anything you personally don't approve of. It's one thing to have a dissenting opinion or to make a joke, but it's a problem when it's just outright insulting without reason. Those apologies don't mean much when you just continue doing what you do, which is what happened several times. If you're sincere on changing things one of the first things you need to work on is changing how you converse with people (not being so rude at every turn is a good start). That's my honest opinion, take it however you'd like.[/QUOTE] I absolutely agree that my comments towards people were uncalled for, but I haven't done any shit since those apologies except for argue with spaceghost today when I was acting like a cunt today when I explained to him that he wasn't helping by insulting me further. You don't understand the point here. If I am being insulted constantly by you of course I'm not going to take any advice you say seriously. I know the problem is me, it's 100% me. Though part of the solution is you to seriously stop with the flaming. I am willing to personally apologize for any wrongs that I've said or done to you if you're willing to apologize to me for all the shit you've pulled. [editline]49[/editline] Jesus I'm shitting up the thread with my bullshit, I think I should stop posting in here until I calmed down.