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[QUOTE=Agent766;40224688]Situation: had online boyfriend for 10 months. He broke up with me maybe a month ago and has been avoiding me. He even removed me on Facebook. He told me he wanted to stay friends when we broke up. When we were together I had suspicions that he was lying to me about some things. I don't know what to do. I still love him even though he broke up with me. I still want to be friends with him and talk to him. But if I can convince myself he was lying to me about all that stuff, I can probably forget about him pretty easily. I don't want to though. I just have so many conflicting feelings and doubts. It'd be so much easier if he'd just talk to me. What the fuck do I do?[/QUOTE] Move on because you don't love someone you've never met and/or have only been dating for 10mo I don't mean to act callous or anything about your situation but honestly, e-relationships are not real relationships, and its best left that way. The best thing to do is what I did for my e relationship I had years ago. Let it be. Message him telling him you wouldn't mind talking or whatever as friends if/when he is ever ready to in the future. That's what I did, and 3 years later my ex re-added me on FB, all the past feelings are gone but I still hold a deep respect in him and wish the best for him (we broke up on "good terms"). We don't talk often or anything but it's nice to casually and lightly stay in touch via facebook.
I still have extremely strong feelings for him, regardless of weather or not it's not a real relationship. I did go to visit him on the other side of the country, but he claimed his mom read his texts and that I couldn't see him when I was about 5 minutes from his house. I still don't know if I believe him or not.
[QUOTE=Agent766;40224858]I still have extremely strong feelings for him, regardless of weather or not it's not a real relationship. [b]I did go to visit him on the other side of the country, but he claimed his mom read his texts and that I couldn't see him when I was about 5 minutes from his house.[/b] I still don't know if I believe him or not.[/QUOTE]Woah, what? Elaborate on this please.
[QUOTE=MasterFen007;40224401]The hell is a tulpa?[/QUOTE] it's pretty much giving yourself schizophrenia because you're too lazy to go outside and make real friends
[QUOTE=Agent766;40224858]I still have extremely strong feelings for him, regardless of weather or not it's not a real relationship. I did go to visit him on the other side of the country, but he claimed his mom read his texts and that I couldn't see him when I was about 5 minutes from his house. I still don't know if I believe him or not.[/QUOTE] Sounds like he's not taking whatever's between you seriously in the slightest.
[QUOTE=MasterFen007;40224401]The hell is a tulpa?[/QUOTE] wanting to hear voices in your head really bad so you train your head to hear voices and then they kind of stick
[QUOTE=KorJax;40224799]but honestly, e-relationships are not real relationships, and its best left that way. [/QUOTE] A failed relationship doesn't make it any less of a relationship. I know that, in my experience with online dating, much of the same feelings are there. One can love people all over the world, given the proper circumstances, it's just that one may not be able to show it physically. In essence, no, the two are not the same - they're very different. But, they still have significance. Look at the post you just quoted, do you not see worry, do you not see genuine emotion? Forgive me for speaking for others, but Agent would be just as distressed with his situation if it stemmed from a physical relationship, however, it arose from an internet relationship. One can argue that they're less successful than regular relationships, but we see people breaking up and not seeing eye-to-eye everywhere. Also, we can also see people in successful internet relationships get together and flourish as couples. The world of dating has a lot of variance, for someone to classify a type of relationship as "unreal" or "bound to fail" would just be incorrect.
I'm just glad I moved out of the online-dating realm and into the irl-dating realm :3 [editline]h[/editline] I may go shootan some gunz with the bf this weekend, may supply pictures (if that's what you people want)
[QUOTE=GhostProject;40225422]I'm just glad I moved out of the online-dating realm and into the irl-dating realm :3 [editline]h[/editline] I may go shootan some gunz with the bf this weekend, may supply pictures (if that's what you people want)[/QUOTE] "Guns" or guns?
[QUOTE=JDB;40225475]"Guns" or guns?[/QUOTE] what
[QUOTE=shteev;40225395]A failed relationship doesn't make it any less of a relationship. I know that, in my experience with online dating, much of the same feelings are there. One can love people all over the world, given the proper circumstances, it's just that one may not be able to show it physically. In essence, no, the two are not the same - they're very different. But, they still have significance. Look at the post you just quoted, do you not see worry, do you not see genuine emotion? Forgive me for speaking for others, but Agent would be just as distressed with his situation if it stemmed from a physical relationship, however, it arose from an internet relationship. One can argue that they're less successful than regular relationships, but we see people breaking up and not seeing eye-to-eye everywhere. Also, we can also see people in successful internet relationships get together and flourish as couples. The world of dating has a lot of variance, for someone to classify a type of relationship as "unreal" or "bound to fail" would just be incorrect.[/QUOTE] A relationship (under a romance/partner context) doesn't mean you have genuine emotion with a persona it means you have genuine emotion for an individual. You [I]cannot[/I] ever get to truly know an individual if you have never met them. An e-relationship is no different than a waifu falling in love with their body pillow, because you feel a genuine emotion for a persona of an individual rather than the actual individual. Yes people don't often fake their personas when they get involved with things like this, but fact of the matter is being in a relationship in-person is completely different do being in an e-relationship. There's nothing wrong with being online friends with someone and developing an affection for them as well. The problem is partner/dating relationships are bonds built between two people mutually, but an e-relationship can never achieve this seriously because you aren't ever able to actually achieve that if you don't ever get to know someone and who they are and how they act and how they think in-person. Things that are extremely important in compatible partners that you can never get a sense of over the internet include whether or not the person is introverted or extroverted, what their living habits are like, how they interact with others, their lifestyle, etc. Or even something as simple as how they look and act in-person. Its surprising how much a person's visualization differs between a photo/stream and how they actually are in-person. Especially when you take into consideration that a large part of how people present themselves to others is how they carry their personality and image. You might think this is pretty, but its a bigger deal than you think. Someone who simply carries their self-image in a way that is totally against what you like (subconciously) is someone who you'll have a very hard time connecting with in-person. Again, not saying the feelings are invalid. What I'm saying is e-relationships aren't real relationships because a relationship is a bond between two individuals and people wholistically, while an e-relationship can never be that as you only get part of the picture (and one that is cherry picked by your e-partner, might I add).
[QUOTE=TehWhale;40224988]Woah, what? Elaborate on this please.[/QUOTE] [url]http://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1231821&p=39025822&highlight=#post39025822[/url] God, I only post drama in here. [editline]9th April 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=Rents;40225044]Sounds like he's not taking whatever's between you seriously in the slightest.[/QUOTE] That sounds about right, even though he said otherwise and one of the things I worried about. (I have anxiety issues)
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To me, personally, it sounds like a load of bullshit and that he doesn't take anything seriously. I wouldn't put up with that.
[QUOTE=KorJax;40225554]A relationship (under a romance/partner context) doesn't mean you have genuine emotion with a persona it means you have genuine emotion for an individual. You [I]cannot[/I] ever get to truly know an individual if you have never met them. An e-relationship is no different than a waifu falling in love with their body pillow, because you feel a genuine emotion for a persona of an individual rather than the actual individual. Yes people don't often fake their personas when they get involved with things like this, but fact of the matter is being in a relationship in-person is completely different do being in an e-relationship. There's nothing wrong with being online friends with someone and developing an affection for them as well. The problem is partner/dating relationships are bonds built between two people mutually, but an e-relationship can never achieve this seriously because you aren't ever able to actually achieve that if you don't ever get to know someone and who they are and how they act and how they think in-person. Things that are extremely important in compatible partners that you can never get a sense of over the internet include whether or not the person is introverted or extroverted, what their living habits are like, how they interact with others, their lifestyle, etc. Or even something as simple as how they look and act in-person. Its surprising how much a person's visualization differs between a photo/stream and how they actually are in-person. Especially when you take into consideration that a large part of how people present themselves to others is how they carry their personality and image. You might think this is pretty, but its a bigger deal than you think. Someone who simply carries their self-image in a way that is totally against what you like (subconciously) is someone who you'll have a very hard time connecting with in-person. Again, not saying the feelings are invalid. What I'm saying is e-relationships aren't real relationships because a relationship is a bond between two individuals and people wholistically, while an e-relationship can never be that as you only get part of the picture (and one that is cherry picked by your e-partner, might I add).[/QUOTE] I totally agree with you on so many points except for the idea that e-relationships aren't relationships. They are, just in the sense that they may not be transferable to real life.
From my personal experience, e-relationships can be very rough, but can be nice if the person is actually genuinely committed to it.
Personally dislike e-relationships. I'd prefer to know them in person. But what do I know.
So i got up early and spent the whole day out fishing with a friend. All in all was a pretty good day despite not catching anything. I was tired the whole day sadly and spent quite a lot of money on things like food but eh, i have a job for a reason. The weather was too perfect to not go out and fish. However, when i got back i was rather annoyed. I got into my dorm around 9pm and my roommate had already gone to bed at 9pm. I understand 9pm is a reasonable time for bed but this is a college student we're talking about. My roommate has been just such a bitch lately. He's constantly complaining about how he's sick now when he straight up isn't. He looks no different and is acting no different other then occasionally randomly saying AHH FUCK IM SICK out loud, literally yelling it. He's been complaining about the workload for his classes but he keeps skipping half of them saying how "I'M SICK MY THROAT HURTS TOO" despite the fact that after skipping class due to his sore throat he's able to rap along to music for the next 10 hours. And for some reason he always calls his parents when he skips class or misses it. He whines about being tired after 8 hours of sleep to me who still hasn't slept since the previous day. He doesn't have class until 11 am tomorrow and he had 9 hours of sleep today and randomly goes to bed at like 8:30.
[QUOTE=Cotroxy;40226573]Personally dislike e-relationships. I'd prefer to know them in person. But what do I know.[/QUOTE] People need to understand the difference between a long distance relationship and an e-relationship
[QUOTE=mysteryman;40226720]-roomie story-[/QUOTE] what a lazy ass. Although i did kinda like the same thing this year with the sore trought and still singing(although you could tell it was sore from my voice)
[QUOTE=dragonitemaster;40226945]what a lazy ass. Although i did kinda like the same thing this year with the sore trought and still singing(although you could tell it was sore from my voice)[/QUOTE] His voice sounds no different and i hear it constantly. But i'm getting tired of this, i've been way too courteous to him for the whole year, so fuck him, i'm not going to be quiet just because he went to bed early tonight. I still have work to do.
[QUOTE=mysteryman;40226986]His voice sounds no different and i hear it constantly. But i'm getting tired of this, i've been way too courteous to him for the whole year, so fuck him, i'm not going to be quiet just because he went to bed early tonight. I still have work to do.[/QUOTE] I don't think you should do the fight tonight tonight because if you do it may lead to an even worse one due to him being tired.
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[QUOTE=TehWhale;40227362][img]https://dl.dropbox.com/u/1439918/Pics/2013-04-09_23-34-32.png[/img][/QUOTE] [img]http://i.imgur.com/j5eNQ7o.png[/img] "do you want to like my boyfriend?" maybeee [editline]9th April 2013[/editline] when i took my drivers license test i forgot to wear my glasses, and the instructor knew i passed
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qnydFmqHuVo[/media] I fucking died laughing. My chest hurts.
meanwhile on the other side of the table
one of the super animu girls at my school had that on and i almost died of laughter from it.
[QUOTE=TehWhale;40227579][media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qnydFmqHuVo[/media] I fucking died laughing. My chest hurts.[/QUOTE] what a classy table
[QUOTE=garychencool;40227755]what a classy table[/QUOTE] the cups are also extremely classy
Uh today apparently my GSA host/youth worker wants me to go to Ontario where chosen kids go to a massive LGBT conference. I thought she was kidding too.
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