Deli lyfe v.10 let's share our life problems edition because apparently we're all miserable
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[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;46865270]If another man said he had a crush on me I'd take it as a compliment and use it as a confidence booster, but politely tell him I'm straight.
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but lets face it if girls dont think im attractive a gay guy wont either LOL[/QUOTE]
Different guys are into different things, just like girls are.
[QUOTE=paindoc;46865305]Taep. TAEP
stop doing that. that is how you undermine your confidence. You gotta fake it till you make it.
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It's hard to be confident with this shit when you always fail. I don't even know if this girl is ignoring me or if she's just busy and forgets to text back, but my lack of confidence makes me think she's just ignoring me. And I'm really unlikely to see her on campus so I guess maybe I should just forget about her if I don't hear from her in the next couple days. And maybe just forget about girls altogether because it's starting to get pointless to even try at this point.
[QUOTE=catbarf;46865338]To be fair it's not being 'put off by your sexuality', more like being awkward about unresolvable sexual tension. It happens.[/QUOTE]
I was speaking if they were specifically put off by one's sexuality, such as them no longer wanting to be associated with them specifically because they're not straight, which tends to be the reason more often than not when this type of situations goes badly.
I don't know what to do here. Like we were getting along so good before the break and I felt like she was at least kind of returning my interest and then all of a sudden she's ignoring my texts.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;46865364]I don't know what to do here. Like we were getting along so good before the break and I felt like she was at least kind of returning my interest and then all of a sudden she's ignoring my texts.[/QUOTE]
People deal with different things internally, man. Sometimes we tend to forget the depth of one another's minds and thoughts because we only see people, and thus take them at face value. Perhaps she's dealing with something internally and has been introverted, perhaps she has something else taking the majority of her time, and perhaps she just doesn't feel like talking. There are such an infinite possibilities in this situation that it's simply best to just wait and see what the end result is. If she didn't want anything to do with you she most definitely would've done it already. Let things play out. Don't stress.
I'm real sorry to be regressing to sperg taepo but you guys are literally my only friends now. Like all of my IRL friends are getting into relationships and forgetting I exist.
Everybody is a flower, reaching for the sun. Not every flower buds and sprouts and grows the same way, but every flower reaches for the sun.
[QUOTE=Kath;46865302]Anyone who is willing to sacrifice their friendship with you over something like that is not someone you want in your life in the first place. If they're put off by your sexuality, they're an ignorant bigot, and they don't deserve to know you.[/QUOTE]
I don't have a problem with being friends with a gay guy, I have a problem with being friends with a gay guy who is constantly trying to get into my pants.
Trust me, I get hit on by dudes more frequently than by women, and that's easy enough to just take as a compliment, but if someone has actual feelings for you it makes for a lot of fucking tension and weirdness.
Its often pretty weird being in a friendship where the other person has turned you down with a definite 100% no, because its pretty impossible to just shut off your feelings without causing harm to yourself of the other person.
[QUOTE=notrabies;46865413]but if someone has actual feelings for you it makes for a lot of fucking tension and weirdness.
Its often pretty weird being in a friendship where the other person has turned you down with a definite 100% no, because its pretty impossible to just shut off your feelings without causing harm to yourself of the other person.[/QUOTE]
Then if going separate ways is the best way, then do that, but that's entirely different the other person not wanting anything to do them since they admitted something along the lines of what 3b posted.
[QUOTE=3bwii;46862425] I'm starting to fall for him.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;46865353] And maybe just forget about girls altogether because it's starting to get pointless to even try at this point.[/QUOTE]
3bwii x taepo I'd ship it
Holy shit, changing a the mainspring in a gearbox is a very annoying job to put it very lightly.
You know, I normally don't swear much and a lot of my friends haven't ever seen me being angry, I think I scared my buddy that was helping me :v:
So after my buddy helped me putting gearbox back together I put it back into the body, attach the selector switch and fuck the selector switch didn't work, also the trigger wouldn't go fully back.
After some peering into the gearbox I saw that the trigger switch jammed.
Dreading to open it up again I had a little emotional breakdown after which I said "FUCK IT, I'm gonna fix that damned thing!"
Lo and behold I managed to reassembled the whole gearbox on my own.
After everything was fitted back into the body I did the coke can chrono test to get a rough estimate.
Between 350-370, just what I was aiming for!
I did use .25g BB's instead of .20g BB's so that means it's on the low side of the estimate right?
May be a bit strange to overreact about such a thing, but finally fixing this thing just is what I needed, me not succeeding at a lot of college stuff has been on my mind the last couple of days, so finally succeeding in something is nice.
Anyways, just had to put it out there.
[QUOTE=notrabies;46865413]I don't have a problem with being friends with a gay guy, I have a problem with being friends with a gay guy who is constantly trying to get into my pants.
Trust me, I get hit on by dudes more frequently than by women, and that's easy enough to just take as a compliment, but if someone has actual feelings for you it makes for a lot of fucking tension and weirdness.
Its often pretty weird being in a friendship where the other person has turned you down with a definite 100% no, because its pretty impossible to just shut off your feelings without causing harm to yourself of the other person.[/QUOTE]
Which is where the "please wait until you're closer" comes in.
The fact that he's a straight guy makes this 100% more clear cut. The conversation about his feelings isn't going to happen with the expectation of it being mutual. There's no rejection, he likes you...he's also straight. It's to get secrets out of the way, which are annoying at best and burdensome and scary in close relationships at worst, and let them know that you don't consider friendship a consolation prize. Bwii isn't trying to get in his pants, he's trying to figure out how to deal with how he feels.
I know admittances like this kind of undermine confidence in advice, but it's possible I'm wrong. I'm in a similar situation, but the stakes are a bit higher and I haven't told her, so I've only done thinking about the problem, but...a lot.
I bought a watch
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I had a crush on Herf in highschool. I told him how I felt and that I understood nothing would come of it, he was alright with it and then I sort of grew out of it.
we're still friends like 4 years later
I was roughly the same age as you, 3b. If you're good friends, it wont matter, you'll still be friends afterwards. Just just cant keep pursuing your feelings because thats where you mess things up.
So its only day 1 of the quarter and I'm extremely worried. I'm taking an intro to drawing class, and apparently its extremely difficult as the professor grades almost entirely on quality and skill present in your drawing, not effort. My grades last quarter were so far in the gutter that I cannot afford to have below a 3.5 at all for the next 2 years, and with the amount of work required to maintain that grade between a hardcore physics class + calculus II + drawing class I'm worried I'll burn out or not be able to maintain a high GPA.
So either I drop a class I'm interested in, or I stay in and risk destroying my GPA further. Also, I have to take 2 5 credit arts/art history/cinematography/music courses in order to come back to uni next year due to a deficiency from high school. So if I drop I'm probably taking a course on Baroque art history I guess
[QUOTE=Kath;46865302]Anyone who is willing to sacrifice their friendship with you over something like that is not someone you want in your life in the first place. If they're put off by your sexuality, they're an ignorant bigot, and they don't deserve to know you.[/QUOTE]
I have nothing against anyone of different sexual orientations. People in my family are gay and I've known gay guys before and they're all cool people, regular folks just like me except they like the D.
But if I was really close friends with a guy and we were total bros and he just randomly came out and told me he was in love with me than I'd feel super fucking awkward from there on out.
Just how I'd feel about. It's how most people would feel I think. It's not like a "Oh, you're gay go die in a fire I don't want to be your friend" scenario just a really awkward situation where being together has this weird tension that didn't exist before because now you know your friend is attracted to you sexually. So it's just like, awkward.
People are irrational like that.
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[QUOTE=catbarf;46865338]To be fair it's not being 'put off by your sexuality', more like being awkward about unresolvable sexual tension. It happens.[/QUOTE]
This.
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Like, for example a guy tells a girl "I love you" out of the blue and the girl doesn't return the feelings.
Their friendship is super awkward because the guy feels like he made things strange and the girl feels tension because now she knows that he's attracted to her. It happens all the time in this situation.
I don't see anyone calling that girl an ignorant bigot.
So I take offense to that.
Got myself an 8mm film projector from an antique store. It's pretty awesome. So far I have a Charlie Chaplin film, some film with a bunch of WWII footage, and one about Pope John XXIII.
I bought an antique radio from 1929 from the salvation army. It's pretty sweet, it's one of those big cabinet radios that looks like a piece of furniture. It's in surprisingly amazing condition for being so old, just needs a little electronic work.
[QUOTE=CodeMonkey3;46866327]I have nothing against anyone of different sexual orientations. People in my family are gay and I've known gay guys before and they're all cool people, regular folks just like me except they like the D.
But if I was really close friends with a guy and we were total bros and he just randomly came out and told me he was in love with me than I'd feel super fucking awkward from there on out.
Just how I'd feel about. It's how most people would feel I think. It's not like a "Oh, you're gay go die in a fire I don't want to be your friend" scenario just a really awkward situation where being together has this weird tension that didn't exist before because now you know your friend is attracted to you sexually. So it's just like, awkward.
People are irrational like that.
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This.
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Like, for example a guy tells a girl "I love you" out of the blue and the girl doesn't return the feelings.
Their friendship is super awkward because the guy feels like he made things strange and the girl feels tension because now she knows that he's attracted to her. It happens all the time in this situation.
I don't see anyone calling that girl an ignorant bigot.
So I take offense to that.[/QUOTE]
[i]You[/i] are irrational like that.
Him being a guy doesn't change anything about the friendship-crush dynamic except make the one with the crush feel less conflicted. It's not "out of the blue" if you're good friends, sit down, and ask to talk about something serious. It's out of the blue if you know he/she isn't attracted to you (crystal clear when they're the same sex and a different sexuality) and you don't know each other and you use the words "I love you".
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Lets be sure we're on the same page: we're talking about resolving feelings in a friendship [i]that you want to continue[/i], not being rejected in an attempt to make your friend into your partner.
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anddddd lovely, now he can't respond.
[QUOTE=CodeMonkey3;46866327]I have nothing against anyone of different sexual orientations. People in my family are gay and I've known gay guys before and they're all cool people, regular folks just like me except they like the D.
But if I was really close friends with a guy and we were total bros and he just randomly came out and told me he was in love with me than I'd feel super fucking awkward from there on out.
Just how I'd feel about. It's how most people would feel I think. It's not like a "Oh, you're gay go die in a fire I don't want to be your friend" scenario just a really awkward situation where being together has this weird tension that didn't exist before because now you know your friend is attracted to you sexually. So it's just like, awkward.
People are irrational like that.
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This.
[editline]6th January 2015[/editline]
Like, for example a guy tells a girl "I love you" out of the blue and the girl doesn't return the feelings.
Their friendship is super awkward because the guy feels like he made things strange and the girl feels tension because now she knows that he's attracted to her. It happens all the time in this situation.
I don't see anyone calling that girl an ignorant bigot.
So I take offense to that.[/QUOTE]
I'm on Code's side with this one. Regardless of sexual orientation, when one person tells another about feelings for them and said feelings are unrequited, that makes things awkward and [I]usually[/I] the friendship falls apart.
Obviously that's not always the case, but in this case, being that 3bwii is 15 and this guy is 18, looking at things from his perspective, he might feel awkward continuing their relationship as friends.
Even if it was a straight thing I think that would remain true.
[QUOTE=Zao Medong;46866929]I'm on Code's side with this one. Regardless of sexual orientation, when one person tells another about feelings for them and said feelings are unrequited, that makes things awkward and [I]usually[/I] the friendship falls apart.
Obviously that's not always the case, but in this case, being that 3bwii is 15 and this guy is 18, looking at things from his perspective, he might feel awkward continuing their relationship as friends.
Even if it was a straight thing I think that would remain true.[/QUOTE]
I kinda agree with everyone, but it depends on how the asker handles the relationship with the asked. If they can keep their promise of remaining just friends, I see things being just fine. Problem is it is often easy to see every gesture of genuine friendship as a sign the person is into you in situations like this. An outside perspective helps a lot.
[QUOTE=Zao Medong;46866929]I'm on Code's side with this one. Regardless of sexual orientation, when one person tells another about feelings for them and said feelings are unrequited, that makes things awkward and [I]usually[/I] the friendship falls apart.
Obviously that's not always the case, but in this case, being that 3bwii is 15 and this guy is 18, looking at things from his perspective, he might feel awkward continuing their relationship as friends.
Even if it was a straight thing I think that would remain true.[/QUOTE]
Actually, I think 3bwii is a few years younger than that, which would probably make the situation even more uncomfortable.
so that girl that i drove home from the party got wicked food poisoning (along with a couple other people) from some tainted pizza that was served at said party (i didn't have any)
so GG, not banging her before she leaves
Ohh shit.
RAF Marham, the airbase near me, has an opening for a weapons technician.
It's 53 weeks training, and I'm over-qualified.
Starting at £17 grand a year plus accommodation, healthcare and food but can go up to £22 grand a year.
I'm not enjoying Sixth form one bit, feel really tempted.
Help me out here facepunch.
If you're confident you can get it, jump the fuck onto that, sounds like a pretty safe bet.
good experience
also if you get into that, a few years down the line you can do part time uni or even fulltime or something and end up being mega rich
Okay guys, I've been talking to both my family and my friends.
Its happening, i've been thinking about it for a while now.
Heading down to the recruiting office in Norwich at the weekend. Should be good
I've been looking at the job for a while, its just sheer luck that a position opened up so close to home.
i hope you credit me and fragg for guiding you through this life on your death bed
otherwise we will spook the fuck out of you as ghosts
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just before you die yourself
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assuming me and fragg are dead
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if not we'll just beat you up as old men
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unless we're in a vegetative state
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congratulations we're all very happy for you
yes
[QUOTE=Kath;46865302]Anyone who is willing to sacrifice their friendship with you over something like that is not someone you want in your life in the first place. [I][B][U]If they're put off by your sexuality, they're an ignorant bigot, and they don't deserve to know you.[/U][/B][/I][/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=CodeMonkey3;46866327]
I don't see anyone calling that girl an ignorant bigot.
So I take offense to that.[/QUOTE]
Too bad literally nobody read what I actually wrote and just interpreted it how they please
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I posted precisely what I meant but everyone that has quoted me has taken my comment and interpreted it to the context of their post. I was speaking SPECIFICALLY about the possibility of them no longer wanting to be friends because the other person is homosexual to a degree. Nothing in my post had anything to do with the situation being unresolved sexual/tension.
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