Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50028397]What is the root cause of the "fall in love with every girl" syndrome?[/QUOTE] Being inexperienced or desperate.

I don't know if this is the place to ask but whats the best dating website/friend finder. My girlfriend ended it with me and she was the only one I really talked to/got close with. I need to find somebody to fill the void.

[QUOTE=fauster;50029368]I don't know if this is the place to ask but whats the best dating website/friend finder. My girlfriend ended it with me and she was the only one I really talked to/got close with. I need to find somebody to fill the void.[/QUOTE] You're setting yourself up for failure by looking for someone to "fill the void". Learn to enjoy life on your own without being dependent on a third party just to get by. People can sense loneliness and it's not particularly attractive; if you go out and enjoy yourself though, people will notice and be attracted when you do finally meet someone you like!

[QUOTE=srobins;50029419]You're setting yourself up for failure by looking for someone to "fill the void". Learn to enjoy life on your own without being dependent on a third party just to get by. People can sense loneliness and it's not particularly attractive; if you go out and enjoy yourself though, people will notice and be attracted when you do finally meet someone you like![/QUOTE] I understand that, maybe I just need to wait to get back into the swing of things. Doesn't change the fact though that at the moment I want someone I can connect with.

[QUOTE=war_man333;50022540]First things first, I'm an exchange student here in Finland. Back in January I developed feelings for this girl, let's call her F. The first day after we met, she went to IKEA with me, just her and I. She asked me. It really seemed like she had something for me. A few days later I learned that she had a boyfriend, which is fair enough. I never got to the point of asking her out or obviously hitting on her. A month passes while I try to forget about her. I start seeing this other girl, C, but I didn't have feelings for her from the beginning, and neither did she. Eventually she showed feelings for me. Nothing is wrong with her, I just don't love her, even though we enjoy each other's company. The talking, the hanging out and the sex is great - but, no feelings. About 3 weeks ago she told me she loved me. Last Wednesday F just randomly started writing me, for no apparent reason. Just to talk, and not about anything particular. Started out with the usual 'long time no see!'. Later that day we ran into each other by chance. I was SO happy to see her. Just from this episode I knew I had to tell C that I genuinely do not have feelings for her. I told her last Friday. She cried, and I comforted her. We're still seeing each other because she's up for it, and I said I was as well. But truth be told, it feels strange for me now, as I'm romantically thinking about another girl. At some point I'll have to turn it into a friendship, but it'll have to wait a little while. Two questions: What should I do with C? She's happy even though she knows our 'relationship' will only last till maximum the end of this semester. I want to keep her as a friend (she's a [B]great[/B] person), and go to a festival in her country with her, and maybe tour some of the area. It's strange, but I feel that she would be a good friend. How do I go about telling her that I after all just want to be friends? What should I do with F? Do I slowly try hanging out with her, seeing if her relationship is going alright? I can't figure out if she's into me or not. She lives in this country and I'm going back in the summer. But deep down I feel this could turn into a great relationship. For me, she's almost perfect. I've been told I shouldn't be one of those 'guys who always think the grass is greener on the other side' but I really do not think that's the case. In case you read all of this, thanks for your time. Tl;dr: exchange student seeing other exchange student but trying to friendzone her to get with a girl who's already taken.[/QUOTE] The fact that you're trying to jump on a girl whose in a relationship shows you have no respect for her or her relationship and you have no concept of boundaries. A romantic relationship right now is the absolute last thing a person like you needs. You need to grow the fuck up and realize that the world doesn't revolve around your dick.

a little overkill and a little late? bunch of other people covered this already without straight berating the dude guy's already said he understands he's needs to back off and that he was in the wrong, and doesn't feel like he should have a relationship right now

I will turn him into a human porta-potty

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;50030696]The fact that you're trying to jump on a girl whose in a relationship shows you have no respect for her or her relationship and you have no concept of boundaries. A romantic relationship right now is the absolute last thing a person like you needs. You need to grow the fuck up and realize that the world doesn't revolve around your dick.[/QUOTE] I realize that 'the world doesn't revolve around my dick', but what do I do if she writes me again? It kind of hurts when she texts. Do I just embrace the feelings and be a good guy, chat with her for half an hour to an hour, even though it hurts? Or should I be mean, tell her the truth straight up, and that she has to stop texting because it's hard for me? If all goes well I won't run into her again and she won't text me again.

today i told my girlfriend that my depression is coming back and i no longer feel the "magic" of the relationship, literally feels like we're just friends who fuck, she agreed but wants to give it 2 weeks to process/think, and also if we feel we can salvage anything i think we can but im very pessimistic, i love her to bits and i will always because we've got a long history but we seriously rushed this relationship, it's gone on for 2 months but we've known each other for 2 years, idk its confusing im sure we'll work something out

[QUOTE=war_man333;50032108]I realize that 'the world doesn't revolve around my dick', but what do I do if she writes me again? It kind of hurts when she texts. Do I just embrace the feelings and be a good guy, chat with her for half an hour to an hour, even though it hurts? Or should I be mean, tell her the truth straight up, and that she has to stop texting because it's hard for me? If all goes well I won't run into her again and she won't text me again.[/QUOTE] tbh honesty is the best policy, if her just being friendly with you is hard for you because of your feelings towards her, just tell her that, explain why, and move on with your life that or you know, keep going through the same motions you're going through, setting yourself up for a cycle of suffering that you seriously don't have to put yourself through it's gonna hurt either way, one way, it'll be harder to put yourself through in the first place, but you'll feel better in the long run, the other... you'll keep feeling shit, hanging on to something that you probably know isn't going to happen under any good conditions given the current circumstances the choice is yours, you /could/ just "embrace the feelings" and go on being a 'good guy' and chatting with her and whatever, but like... is that really doing you, or her, any actual favors? is that /really/ being a good guy, to yourself, and to her, in relation to your personal feelings?

[QUOTE=war_man333;50032108]I realize that 'the world doesn't revolve around my dick', but what do I do if she writes me again? It kind of hurts when she texts. Do I just embrace the feelings and be a good guy, chat with her for half an hour to an hour, even though it hurts? Or should I be mean, tell her the truth straight up, and that she has to stop texting because it's hard for me? If all goes well I won't run into her again and she won't text me again.[/QUOTE] Sounds to me like you just want your wiener in her and you have no actual interest in her as a friend.

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[QUOTE=MintyMginty;50034987]How do I break it to a friend I don't want to ever seen him again because he 'jokingly' hates all black people and thinks saying 'hang all niggers' is hilarious?[/QUOTE] Just tell him that you don't want to hang out with him because of that if he really wants to stay your friend then he'll probably stop which is good because thats really not that funny. If you ghost him you'll seem rude and it'll be super awkward if you see him after a few weeks of not talking.

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[QUOTE=MintyMginty;50034987]How do I break it to a friend I don't want to ever seen him again because he 'jokingly' hates all black people and thinks saying 'hang all niggers' is hilarious? Because I've left it a bit late to bring up now, seeing as he (and actually most of my social circle) have been indulging in super edgy humor for a long time and only now have I realized I'm a hypocrite if I don't find new friends.[/QUOTE] "hey can you cut the racist shit out? It's not funny man." Literally that simple. And you're not a hypocrite for having opposing beliefs, opinions, or ideals that you're friends have. You surround your self with people who are carbon-copies of yourself and you're not going to progress socially.

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;50032655]today i told my girlfriend that my depression is coming back and i no longer feel the "magic" of the relationship, literally feels like we're just friends who fuck, she agreed but wants to give it 2 weeks to process/think, and also if we feel we can salvage anything i think we can but im very pessimistic, i love her to bits and i will always because we've got a long history but we seriously rushed this relationship, it's gone on for 2 months but we've known each other for 2 years, idk its confusing im sure we'll work something out[/QUOTE] The honeymoon period of a relationship with the "magic" is only a temporary phase. But you said you still love her to bits. That's the thing with depression, it numbs feelings. You just need to look at your relationship objectively. Bear in mind that I'm carrying my own bias in this post. I'm assuming that my previous relationship ended on the basis of the honeymoon-period that kept back two people's depression wore off and things got even more painful.

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just message her being like 'hey how have things been' if you wanna start talking to her again. no stress, if things don't work out then whatever, right? random question, completely irrelevant, a mate of mine's 21st is coming up, I figured i'd get her a gift and buy her a bottle of her preferred wine, it's an easy gift, i'm not tryna go for anything or whatever, just figured it's better to get her something as opposed to nothing, she gave me about 3 different brands of the same type of wine to pick from basically my question is should I go for the least, mid, or most expensive? it's such an over thinking thing, and considering she gave me 3 to pick from of the same type I doubt she cares too much , it's not like it matters too much to me they're all relatively cheap (literally a few dollars difference), just curious what you guys would pick in that context for the sake of reference when I go to buy i'm leaning towards the mid-priced, even though they're all cheap, but it's either that or the most expensive etc, avoiding the least expensive because lets face it, a 'cheapest option' is never a great option when thinking of someone else

I'd go with the mid priced one, for the exact reasons you mentioned yourself

ok after reading over this i realised this is shitty angsty teen blog post so i spoilered it. to tl;dr it: i thought id got over my social anxeity, turns out i hadnt and now i feel like complete shit, also a girl i like proberbly doesnt like me and might have made up some excuse to not go out with me when i asked her out after she said she liked me while drunk and then also while sober but idk if she just didnt want to be a cunt [sp]if you read past this point and read it all, thanks i guess, i just want someone to talk to about this and fp is the nicest place to do it, even if no one does read it so this has litterly just fucking happened to me, and i need to vent somewhere basically ive been at oxford uni on this trip with school to check out universities for the past week. today was the formal dinner and party. i managed to speak properly to teachers there that id never met before about something they probably didnt care about, but i did it, and i was proud of myself. anyway afterwards we go to this cramped room playing music at a really high volume, so i go sit down and just stare in to space. i thought 'fuck it' got up and started being in a group with people + a friend. that lasted for the entirety of 1 fucking minuite before i was fighting back the tears because for some reason i cant stay in a fucking place stood up for a minuite actually no its not that so heres a longer story if youre still interested it was new years this year, and a girl i really liked but thought i had 0 chance, but was really good friends with, told me that she liked me. i asked her out and she said sure, then she was "ill", so i asked her again, but this time she gave me this massive reply about exams and stress and her ex and all this shit. i sort of could see where she came from but have been overanlyizing the shit out of everything i do and say and she does since. she proberbly still doesnt fucking like me, she proberbly never did and i got my fucking hopes up like i always do only to get shot down again. i dont even know why i care, in just over a year im never going to fucking see her again so why do i give a shit. anyway turns out she liked some guy and everyone was peer pressuring her in to saying she liked him, that combined with the crowd, music and dancing just tipped me over the edge and i just couldnt do it, i just walked out, walked my to my room, threw myself on the bed and properly cried for the first time in months.[/sp] it proberbly doesnt even matter, im only 17 ffs

alright boys tomorrows april fools and that means prime flirting joke time the jist of what i want to do is make a really romantic text and then completely throw her off with something irrelevant but funny. gets the idea of me as more than a friend in her mind while not being too forward. i was thinking of something like "---, theres been something i've been meaning to tell you for a very long time. ever since i first met you... *blah blah blah romatic shit*. it's just, ---, there's a SKELETON INSIDE YOU RIGHT NOW"

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50043359]alright boys tomorrows april fools and that means prime flirting joke time[/QUOTE] Ah nice, thanks for the inspiration. About time I actually trolled someone on April Fools' day instead of the other way around.

going to a mate's wedding tomorrow, bizarre we basically grew up together and he's already got a kid and getting married wonder if there'll be many singles there, seems like most of his friends are all in relationships as well but dunno about the bride's side last wedding I went too I enjoyed myself, got into the spirit of the event and ended up slow dancing with this one girl, she was gonna give me her number, but then my phone was dead so I gave her mine. never got a follow up from that of course, but whatever. I just hope I don't get stupidly drunk beyond just enjoying myself, i've been known to over drink a bit

So my partners parents have decided to loan us money to buy a house (well, loan us money for the deposit) but only if i sign a clause saying that if we break-up, i'm not going to take half of the stuff in the house. I'm quite insulted by this but i understand the fear. The annoying thing is is that most of the stuff in the rented house we currently have is all my partners furniture since hes been collecting furniture over 4-5 years and i hadn't really been in the position to do the same. Hes also had really lucky chances to buy these bits of furniture since his parents knew people getting rid of stuff.

[QUOTE=greeley;50046253]So my partners parents have decided to loan us money to buy a house (well, loan us money for the deposit) but only if i sign a clause saying that if we break-up, i'm not going to take half of the stuff in the house. I'm quite insulted by this but i understand the fear. The annoying thing is is that most of the stuff in the rented house we currently have is all my partners furniture since hes been collecting furniture over 4-5 years and i hadn't really been in the position to do the same. Hes also had really lucky chances to buy these bits of furniture since his parents knew people getting rid of stuff.[/QUOTE] what if you take 49/51 of the share of the stuff in the house? is that still covered by the clause? ;) tbh anything that you pay for out of your own pocket should, in a sense, belong to you, that's just how I see it. by proxy, you should not be immediately entitled to any of the stuff your partner personally purchases, so I don't see a problem with the agreement if it's purely and simply creating a distinction between individual purchases if that makes sense the real problem comes in split purchases, like what if you guys go 50/50 on something, who gets to keep it? obvs this is all talking in the hypothetical event of a breakup, which while it may happen, i'm hoping for your sake it doesn't unless it's one of those 'it absolutely had to happen' situations, just one of those things to take into consideration ya know, because the financial sides of breakups can be some of the hardest things especially when you're living together, sounds like the 'clause' you're being asked to sign is, honestly, in the interest of a less messy situation should it occur if that makes sense

Going to spend the weekend with my girl. I feel all anxious, but the good kind of anxiety. :excited:

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50043359]alright boys tomorrows april fools and that means prime flirting joke time the jist of what i want to do is make a really romantic text and then completely throw her off with something irrelevant but funny. gets the idea of me as more than a friend in her mind while not being too forward. i was thinking of something like "---, theres been something i've been meaning to tell you for a very long time. ever since i first met you... *blah blah blah romatic shit*. it's just, ---, there's a SKELETON INSIDE YOU RIGHT NOW"[/QUOTE] [IMG]http://i.imgur.com/vpgAEZI.png[/IMG] i didn't know

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50050365][IMG]http://i.imgur.com/vpgAEZI.png[/IMG] i didn't know[/QUOTE] I mean.. He's almost certainly retarded, but you didn't know she had a boyfriend? lol [editline]1st April 2016[/editline] I always wonder how people get caught like this in the first place? Does he just read all of her texts or did she tattle? Either way it's funny to see people in real life acting like this.. "I'll fucking kill you so don't play" lmao

last time i heard about him she broke up with him. they're an on/off couple (where the guy just cheats on her a lot but she still comes back (heard this straight from her telling me)) so i thought i caught her in the single period guess not [editline]1st April 2016[/editline] there's also a chance she might be trolling me back though and yeah going through your s/o's texts is kind of shitty. but the guy is shitty so i wouldn't put it past him but in any case this is all so silly [editline]1st April 2016[/editline] just in case, i sent the guy a message along the lines of "if you're gonna get mad, just get mad at me" because i [I]really[/I] don't want the guy to drag her into this

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50050492]just in case, i sent the guy a message along the lines of "if you're gonna get mad, just get mad at me" because i [I]really[/I] don't want the guy to drag her into this[/QUOTE] You're cruisin' for a bruisin'