Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=srobins;50050535]You're cruisin' for a bruisin'[/QUOTE] nah i live like 3 hours away from them at uni even during the summer he doesn't know where i live or what i do so i'm good i could take him though :v:

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50050365][IMG]http://i.imgur.com/vpgAEZI.png[/IMG] i didn't know[/QUOTE] respond with nothing but hulk hogan quotes [editline]1st April 2016[/editline] or flirt with him instead [editline]1st April 2016[/editline] flirt with him using nothing but hulk hogan quotes

Have a date tonight to an event called First Friday which is typically a place where people show off and sell art and there's food and drinks which sounds great. But then I told my sister about it and she's got all these warnings to give me because it's apparently the same place as the Pub Run tonight and she's worried that this guy might try to take me to the Pub Run instead even though I don't drink. So now I'm kinda paranoid. I doubt he's gonna do something like that, especially since I need to be back by 11pm to be around to help my sister with her newborn, but now I can't help but be anxious about it. Boy I love anxiety.

Whatever happens just have fun.

Hard to do that when you don't know someone super well enough to know if they'd drag you along to something you'd really rather not go to.

so on one hand i probably won't be able to hang out or talk with that girl ever as long as they're dating but on the other hand i stood up to that asshole's bullshit so that's good i really have no respect for him and the shit he's done, which includes (other than cheating on her multiple times and lying about it), contributing to her drug problem and being an enabler, which is really fucking scummy [editline]1st April 2016[/editline] i'm not trying to be all white knight-ish (i wouldn't have messed with her if i had known they were together again) but damn

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50051068]Couldn't you just say no?[/QUOTE] I GET paranoid because a lot of guys I've talked to and know are very bad at saying no and are very pushy. Just bad past experiences that make me anxious. BUT I'M BACK and it ended up going really well actually! Actually got real close because it was cold and got a casual kiss in there and it was real nice. Probably gonna see him again this weekend.

[QUOTE=LaughingStock;49464238]aaaaaaaaand rejected oh well[/QUOTE] it's not considered a date but she texted me yesterday and told me we should grab lunch tomorrow which in all honesty is pretty rad. lol that post was from three months ago

Well, let a crush go, it wouldn't really go anywhere if I had acted on it, and I managed to make a friend in the meantime. And the whole maneuver of getting said crush then a friend allowed me to get over some lingering issues I had. For the first time since 2008 or so I feel like a clean slate, and I finally feel able to make and keep friends after 2 years of in and on depression. The fact that I'm starting the practical part of my teaching formation, and I like the prospect, also helps. I feel like having wasted plenty of opportunities, but it is never too late to keep living and trying new things.

Don't know if this is the right thread but it's something I'd like clarified, so here goes. A lot of my friends are the type who really like to get out and go clubbing shit and drink a lot (it's a wonder they've actually kept me close this long) and lately more than ever they've really tried hammering the idea in my head that this is something I need to do. Problem is this really isn't my kind of thing since I don't drink much, I don't enjoy the club scene at all and would really rather not go (that and this kind of thing is pricey is shit and I don't live off daddy's money). Am I really that much of a piece of shit for not being interested in this kind of thing? Like, I don't enjoy it really but they're really trying to turn my views on it and can't seem to take a hint. I feel almost alienated from them now since they're getting obessive with it.

You're not a piece of shit. Your friends are just overly obsessive about a lifestyle that you're not really into yourself. If anything, them attempting to pressure you into it is kind of a rude thing to do. Honestly, I would recommend going out and experiencing it maybe once or twice and if you really find that it's not for you, then there's nothing wrong with not going out like they do. It's not for everyone.

Yeah, I have no problem giving it a try and such. I just hope that when it comes to saying that it's not my thing they handle it maturely because they've got a tendency to be fickle. Your response is much appreciated though, I'm glad I'm not this seemingly crappy dude.

anyone here with any experience with moving in with the opposite sex when you're just friends? a few days ago, my friend mentioned that it might be rad to move in together. I thought she was joking but she was serious, and I think it sounds kinda rad. I'm a little worried about it though. it'd feel more natural to move in if it was more than friends but it's not (no intention of going further either) and I don't really ever hear about this scenario even though I'm sure it happens often. I usually hear about two of the same sex and even that is somewhat rare to hear for me, I mostly hear about couples. just the thought of mixing our lives so much kinda scares me. if we move in, we're pretty much gonna share our lives with each other. for example, right now if I don't feel like hanging out with her or if I find her really annoying, maybe she's in bad mood for some reason, I can just stay at home or go back home. this'll definitely happen if we move in together too, what do I do then? she also tends to turn the volume quite high on everything while I enjoy a volume that is loud enough to hear unless I'm listening to music and I'm in the mood for loud music but that's not something that happens all the time. I also hate it when I'm not the one listening to the music and have to listen anyway, always clashes with my own music or when I want it quiet. she has also told me she HATES it when others tell her to turn it down and that's cool, but if we live together? not cool. then when she might want to have others over and I might not be in the mood to have others over, do I just bitch and tell her not to? I don't want to limit her in any way but at the same time I would be living there too with my own needs and limits. definitely gonna have to talk to her about my worries about sharing our life like this but I'm not sure just how far I can stretch it. how far can I reasonably "limit" her in things I find annoying without demanding too much? is it reasonable to, for example with the music, tell her to use headphones or something of that sort instead of using her speakers? is it reasonable to have her ask me every time she has people over or at least notify me? not sure if the latter is really gonna be an issue unless she intends to have a lot of people over, but I feel like it would be nice to get a heads up about it.

You already sound like you don't want to do it. If you're gonna have that many stipulations about how you want things and she is too, then it's not a good idea.

[QUOTE=Pascall;50054277]You already sound like you don't want to do it. If you're gonna have that many stipulations about how you want things and she is too, then it's not a good idea.[/QUOTE] we have yet to actually talk about any of this so I don't really know her side of things. maybe she'd be totally cool with having a few compromises somewhere, I've yet to know. it'd be pretty cool to move out with her as long as we can set some rules that both agree on and actually manage to follow. forgot to mention another thing, I'm also a little worried about future relationships if I'm gonna live with her. it's not a topic right now but it's most likely gonna be at some time. might be a little off putting to date a guy who lives alone with another girl?

[QUOTE=PredGD;50054248]anyone here with any experience with moving in with the opposite sex when you're just friends? a few days ago, my friend mentioned that it might be rad to move in together. I thought she was joking but she was serious, and I think it sounds kinda rad. I'm a little worried about it though. it'd feel more natural to move in if it was more than friends but it's not (no intention of going further either) and I don't really ever hear about this scenario even though I'm sure it happens often. I usually hear about two of the same sex and even that is somewhat rare to hear for me, I mostly hear about couples. just the thought of mixing our lives so much kinda scares me. if we move in, we're pretty much gonna share our lives with each other. for example, right now if I don't feel like hanging out with her or if I find her really annoying, maybe she's in bad mood for some reason, I can just stay at home or go back home. this'll definitely happen if we move in together too, what do I do then? she also tends to turn the volume quite high on everything while I enjoy a volume that is loud enough to hear unless I'm listening to music and I'm in the mood for loud music but that's not something that happens all the time. I also hate it when I'm not the one listening to the music and have to listen anyway, always clashes with my own music or when I want it quiet. she has also told me she HATES it when others tell her to turn it down and that's cool, but if we live together? not cool. then when she might want to have others over and I might not be in the mood to have others over, do I just bitch and tell her not to? I don't want to limit her in any way but at the same time I would be living there too with my own needs and limits. definitely gonna have to talk to her about my worries about sharing our life like this but I'm not sure just how far I can stretch it. how far can I reasonably "limit" her in things I find annoying without demanding too much? is it reasonable to, for example with the music, tell her to use headphones or something of that sort instead of using her speakers? is it reasonable to have her ask me every time she has people over or at least notify me? not sure if the latter is really gonna be an issue unless she intends to have a lot of people over, but I feel like it would be nice to get a heads up about it.[/QUOTE] I mean, to be fair this isn't really anything to do with moving in with the opposite sex, seems like she just isn't a good roommate for you. I have plenty of friends I enjoy hanging out with but would never in a million years live with lol, so you'll just have to make that call and decide whether or not you think you can make it work, or if you even want to bother trying.

I have two friends, male and female, who have been flatmates since 2010 or so. She's been the best wingman he could ever ask for. It always depends on the case, but I wouldn't really think it is a very big deal. A flatmate is a flatmate, and if you don't think she wouldn't make a good one, then it is settled. But gender is not a really important component of that.

I'm actually in a really similar boat, I also have a female friend talking seriously about finding a place together. The thing is, I KNOW it'll be an awkward living arrangement, but I have to weigh whether that's preferable to living with my dad. I mean I have had sex with this girl. Still do fairly regularly. But we are not ""dating"" But we still think the other is our best friend in the world. We're also co-workers! Last time we got drunk, she smiled at me and went "How come we're not married?" This was shortly before sex. Maybe I've let my feelings run away with me but I'd pretty well like to date her. I should THINK she feels the same way, but maybe we've just held off because we work together and all that. Thing is, I know that if we move in together, and she brings dudes home and/or gets a boyfriend, it's going to be CRUSHINGLY awkward for me. Just devastatingly awkward. I think if we were in a serious relationship OR if we were absolutely just friends and never had sex at all, I could handle ANY other complications that might arise with that living arrangement. But the way things stand right now, I strongly question my capacity to live with her. Hell, even if we'd just had sex once, maybe that could be written off as a fluke, but it's been several times. That's the kind of thing I can't just forget about and snap right back into platonic friendship after.

I've got a female friend who has also suggested we could be room mates at some point but I wouldn't do it. I just don't want to run the risk of us sexing under any circumstance and making things awkward and destroying a four year long friendship.

I'd be interested in giving it a shot but I really need to talk to her about my concerns first and she what she has to say to that. I imagine it could be a very fun experience, it's not like I'm tied down for life if we move in together. there's no expectation of that from either side. it's also my way out of the family house. I could move in somewhere with my current economy but it would be tiny. if there's a second person helping out then hey, perfectly manageable and much cheaper. I share Genericenemy's concern though, I'm a little afraid that we might end up having sex which could make things super awkward. the thought has struck me and the thought has struck her but we both know it would ruin our friendship. living together could make that more attractive I imagine as we're gonna spend a lot more time together in a home. there's gonna be two bedrooms but still.

Got texted out of nowhere by a girl saying 'my mom is driving me crazy lets get drinks' ayyy

Friend joins voice chat: Hey guys I just had sex! ok thanks i guess

is it creepy to message a girl that you kinda know saying that you heard that she's going to the same college as you and asking if she was going to attend an event?

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50061314]Only if you've been stalking her for the past 15 years, waiting for her to attend that specific college[/QUOTE] nah, I heard that she was attending the same college as I am through the Jewish grapevine in my town

[QUOTE=Sega Saturn;50001510]I think I'm in love.[/QUOTE] She loves me, too. :excited:

[QUOTE=PredGD;50054248]anyone here with any experience with moving in with the opposite sex when you're just friends? a few days ago, my friend mentioned that it might be rad to move in together. I thought she was joking but she was serious, and I think it sounds kinda rad. I'm a little worried about it though. it'd feel more natural to move in if it was more than friends but it's not (no intention of going further either) and I don't really ever hear about this scenario even though I'm sure it happens often. I usually hear about two of the same sex and even that is somewhat rare to hear for me, I mostly hear about couples. just the thought of mixing our lives so much kinda scares me. if we move in, we're pretty much gonna share our lives with each other. for example, right now if I don't feel like hanging out with her or if I find her really annoying, maybe she's in bad mood for some reason, I can just stay at home or go back home. this'll definitely happen if we move in together too, what do I do then? she also tends to turn the volume quite high on everything while I enjoy a volume that is loud enough to hear unless I'm listening to music and I'm in the mood for loud music but that's not something that happens all the time. I also hate it when I'm not the one listening to the music and have to listen anyway, always clashes with my own music or when I want it quiet. she has also told me she HATES it when others tell her to turn it down and that's cool, but if we live together? not cool. then when she might want to have others over and I might not be in the mood to have others over, do I just bitch and tell her not to? I don't want to limit her in any way but at the same time I would be living there too with my own needs and limits. definitely gonna have to talk to her about my worries about sharing our life like this but I'm not sure just how far I can stretch it. how far can I reasonably "limit" her in things I find annoying without demanding too much? is it reasonable to, for example with the music, tell her to use headphones or something of that sort instead of using her speakers? is it reasonable to have her ask me every time she has people over or at least notify me? not sure if the latter is really gonna be an issue unless she intends to have a lot of people over, but I feel like it would be nice to get a heads up about it.[/QUOTE] don't do it i know people who are no longer friends despite being good friends before moving in together or at least if you do make sure you can get out at any point of time hating something is a strong word, and if she hates it when someone tells her to turn down the music, that just means it's going to be an awful time for you, she'll probably argue with you, and if you tell her it's rude then she'll probably think you're attacking her or something i have friends who've wanted me to move in with them but after going on vacation with them i realize that it would be absolutely awful living with them, they would not do their dishes, they would throw their crap everywhere then complain about how it's so messy, then make you help clean up, then if you tell them they're being irresponsible they'll get moody and just say "i am responsible, i go to work every day, i pay my bills"(and it's like no shit, i do that shit too, doesn't make you responsible) and think you're making an attack on them, when you're actually talking about their actions, and ANY amount of stress would make them do literally nothing they're great friends to be around though, just not to live with actually go on a long vacation with her before you decide whether you move in with her

I'm at the point where messaging someone I like feels like chasing them or something, is that a bad sign? [editline]4th April 2016[/editline] I'm mainly asking because I don't want to scare them off.

[QUOTE=TheCactusman;50065393]I'm at the point where messaging someone I like feels like chasing them or something, is that a bad sign?[/QUOTE] i'd say it's never a great sign if it feels too forced, as to whether that's a bad sign towards the situation, or more a reflection of your own personal anxieties is a different question entirely to be honest how specifically does it feel like you're 'chasing them'? -edit- to be honest if you're worried about scaring them off before you've even sent a message you're probably worrying a little too much about it, unless you're like, obsessively hitting them up multiple times a day... it's not exactly a bad sign in that case, it just means you like them and you're a bit interested in them tbh,just don't let that feeling rule you, don't be too dependent on a positive outcome, or 'any' outcome really, that feeling can really build up into a powerhouse of self-sabotage if you let it, and it's really hard (not impossible, just frustratingly hard) to break that if it gets to that point... speaking from experience

[QUOTE=elasticity;50065404]i'd say it's never a great sign if it feels too forced, as to whether that's a bad sign towards the situation, or more a reflection of your own personal anxieties is a different question entirely to be honest how specifically does it feel like you're 'chasing them'? -edit- to be honest if you're worried about scaring them off before you've even sent a message you're probably worrying a little too much about it, unless you're like, obsessively hitting them up multiple times a day... it's not exactly a bad sign in that case, it just means you like them and you're a bit interested in them tbh,just don't let that feeling rule you, don't be too dependent on a positive outcome, or 'any' outcome really, that feeling can really build up into a powerhouse of self-sabotage if you let it, and it's really hard (not impossible, just frustratingly hard) to break that if it gets to that point... speaking from experience[/QUOTE] It's actually more something a friend said to me, I just don't want to seem too eager or anything.

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;50060511]Got texted out of nowhere by a girl saying 'my mom is driving me crazy lets get drinks' ayyy[/QUOTE] It was hella fun and she even paid for drinks. We're gonna grab dinner some weekend (I suppose, we made plans to but no actual date yet oh well we'll see)