Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

Alright generalized last post because I'm getting impatient with this thread. Thanks for understanding where my anger was coming from (for those of you that did) And while my anger might not excuse me for being an "asshole" (my refusal to lower my standards apparently makes me an asshole) At least this is what I got from this thread: "Get outside more" (which I'm working on to the best of my ability, thank you for bringing it back to my attention) "Stop being a dick" (not applicable irl because that's not an issue irl. but whats the point of trying to explain that to you guys anymore.) "Lower your standards" (uh. no. fuck no.) "Stop being so hateful" (Obviously I can see that I messed up a little here so I can see why you guys won't give me the benefit of the doubt and believe me when I say that [I]in physical person I don't go about spouting hate.[/I]. >Yes I have taken into consideration it might be me [I]multiple times.[/I] But It really isn't me that's the problem. It's where I am living. Problem solved. I need to work towards getting out of this shitty town. It's hard for me considering I don't have much money and the job hunt hasn't been so great. But I'm still trying. (places just aren't hiring) Thanks. [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=LordCrypto;48639365]also realtalk i had to fucking go make a deviantart you're "average", not gonna lie so you should realistically be assuming the best you're gonna get is "average" looking girls[/QUOTE] Yea thats what I've been saying this whole time! Thank you! I'm looking for an average girl and all I'm getting are gross people. See???

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48639427]Yea thats what I've been saying this whole time! Thank you! I'm looking for an average girl and all I'm getting are gross people. See???[/QUOTE] The general consensus in this thread has reached that your version of "average" is the people you're turning away

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48639303]Okay but if you were to throw me into a situation where there were a few lesbian girls I found attractive I can garuntee you I'd have the interest of one or two. This is not one of those situations. So you're not seeing the right me atm. [B]That's like if you go to a supermarket and see a parent yelling at their child for acting up in the store, you assume they're a bad parent overall, when in reality you're just seeing a bad snippet of them.[/B][/QUOTE] your mentality leaves very little room for self improvement "it's not me it's everyone else", "i'm attractive so why am i not getting attractive partners", and now that someone's calling you out on your personality you say "oh i'm not actually like this" don't you think it's time for a what-if-i'm-wrong moment

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48638929] Thank you though, the way you're going about this is good, this is progress. My town isn't too big, it's in the "ghetto". (generally it's not that safe of an area) Also what I do to hang out would depend completely on the person and what they want to do, because I'm pretty much down for anything. It can range anywhere from hiking/canoeing/camping to resteraunts/mall or "netflix and chill". I don't get to meet new people all that much because I don't have much that I can do to keep me outside other than running at the track in the mornings. (atm, I'm sure as soon as I find a job and get a real shedule going I'll meet more people.) I don't have a car and there isn't much to do locally, any friends I do have are always busy. I don't get to speak to new people too often.[/QUOTE] There you have it then. Not saying it's your fault that you have such a lifestyle but there's not really hanging around in public places or trying to see what's out of town nearby that often. You're not living life in it's fullest for that reason, and that doesn't make dating any easier. Go find that job then and mingle with your co-workers. If you think that's a step forward out of the paradigm you're currently in, then go for it.

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;48639467]The general consensus in this thread has reached that your version of "average" is the people you're turning away[/QUOTE] No?? I'm much better looking than these (these are just examples) of what I don't find attractive and what I keep turning down: [url]http://static.fjcdn.com/comments/Wot+abot+me+i+beh+lookin+sexy+_1c8d7d8e5432636174a474df6174cd8b.jpg[/url] [url]http://i.imgur.com/UJUGg7p.png[/url] [url]http://www.deathmetal.org/wp-content/uploads/angry_sjw-600x353.jpg[/url] Does this help at all? (also shit that first link didn't just go straight to the .jpg it went to the website... I google image searched these so you have a better understanding but idk if this will help) Obviously Im not gonna go around showing ACTUAL pics of the profiles I find on OK cupid and POF.

i guess the sjws rly are out to get you man......

big bad ess dubya jays trying to keep you down

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48639489]No?? I'm much better looking than these (these are just examples) of what I don't find attractive and what I keep turning down: [URL]http://static.fjcdn.com/comments/Wot+abot+me+i+beh+lookin+sexy+_1c8d7d8e5432636174a474df6174cd8b.jpg[/URL] [URL]http://i.imgur.com/UJUGg7p.png[/URL] [URL]http://www.deathmetal.org/wp-content/uploads/angry_sjw-600x353.jpg[/URL] Does this help at all? (also shit that first link didn't just go straight to the .jpg it went to the website... I google image searched these so you have a better understanding but idk if this will help) Obviously Im not gonna go around showing ACTUAL pics of the profiles I find on OK cupid and POF.[/QUOTE] I'm not going to lie, I reckon the 2nd link you linked would probably have a better personality and taste than you

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;48639631]I'm not going to lie, I reckon the 2nd link you linked would probably have a better personality and taste than you[/QUOTE] Having standards = bad taste? K den. You can dislike my standards/taste as much as you want. I like relativley average/fit white girls who know how to take care of their bodies. If you think thats bad taste thats your thing. Dosen't make it bad/better whatever. If you like overweight women/men whatever thats your thing and you're allowed to like it. Dosen't mean its bad taste and dosen't mean its better or worse than mine. [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] I just simply do not find certian things attractive. That is OK. [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] No one should force me to be attracted to things I just can't get attracted to.

Anyway, on another topic because I don't care about this one anymore: You guys have any fun day-time date ideas that aren't exclusively food-related? Having lunch is cool and all (and is actually my preferable time of day to go out and eat with my S/O) but I like having something to do. I'm not huge on the movies because you can't talk and movie theaters make me anxious, plus I like being out and about in the sun. What kinds of places do you guys like going?

That is OK yeah, but also great personalities can completely change how you view attractiveness Guess it depends if your after fuck buddies or a relationship

what kind of place do you live in? If you're in the country, seasonal options like beaches/lakes and apple picking can be fun. Once the evenings start to cool off you could build a firepit if you have a yard and then chill out around the fire. If you're in the city, you could spend a day chilling at a big park. You could stay home and make some kind of foodstuff from scratch like bread or whatever and then eat it later while watching a movie and drinking wine. that sounds p. solid you can go on hikes to interesting local places

[QUOTE=Pascall;48639702]Anyway, on another topic because I don't care about this one anymore: You guys have any fun day-time date ideas that aren't exclusively food-related? Having lunch is cool and all (and is actually my preferable time of day to go out and eat with my S/O) but I like having something to do. I'm not huge on the movies because you can't talk and movie theaters make me anxious, plus I like being out and about in the sun. What kinds of places do you guys like going?[/QUOTE] I went to like an animal park at my local zoo with my date once, we went to a park also that's right near a power station and made for power station employee's and families but people use it for either public sex or just to get away from things Not a lot, depends if you like scenery or whatever

I live in San Antonio. Real big city. Lots to do, so it's hard to figure out which things would be worth it or not. Sorta wish I lived closer to the beach though. It's about an hour and a half away from here. Then again, the weather will be cooling off soon too so that's probably out of the question until next year. I'm in an LDR so I do my best to make sure we do what we can when we visit each other.

do you two enjoy driving? Just fill the car up and get lost, drive to rural areas, find an abandoned paddock or trespass, stay the night, basically try not to use your GPS and see where the roads take you

[QUOTE=Pascall;48639800]I live in San Antonio. Real big city. Lots to do, so it's hard to figure out which things would be worth it or not. Sorta wish I lived closer to the beach though. It's about an hour and a half away from here. Then again, the weather will be cooling off soon too so that's probably out of the question until next year. I'm in an LDR so I do my best to make sure we do what we can when we visit each other.[/QUOTE] Just go walking around on the riverwalk during the day mang, there's all kinds of places and things to do downtown. The whole area around the Pearl is great too, been there tons of times and still haven't seen everything. No worries doe, I'm in CT right now learning how to operate giant underwater dildos so don't be afraid of running into old man Maverick while cruising down the street in your '64.

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48639680]I just simply do not find certian things attractive. That is OK.[/QUOTE] Look, nobody is bothered by that. You're hitting friction in this thread because you're caustic, mean, and you've got an entitlement complex.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;48639848]Just go walking around on the riverwalk during the day mang, there's all kinds of places and things to do downtown. The whole area around the Pearl is great too, been there tons of times and still haven't seen everything. No worries doe, I'm in CT right now learning how to operate giant underwater dildos so don't be afraid of running into old man Maverick while cruising down the street in your '64.[/QUOTE] I generally go to the Riverwalk at night. Never actually been there during the day, now that I think about it lmao. Might do that though. [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=fruxodaily;48639831]do you two enjoy driving? Just fill the car up and get lost, drive to rural areas, find an abandoned paddock or trespass, stay the night, basically try not to use your GPS and see where the roads take you[/QUOTE] We're actually going on a road trip from Virginia Beach up to NYC in March. Looking forward to that a lot.

The word "standard" should not be used to describe's one's interests and/or the lack of them for a particular trait in others. makes you sound like you're vieweing people as items rather than as people with a variety of traits, pros and cons. Also because standard is closer to something not being up to a certain quality rather than qualify towards certain personal tastes. even if its not your intention to threat said group like that, you're making it sound like it. i do remember when i wanted to date kawaii blue haired girls and was mad because there were noce around and all of them were on the internet miles away but you eventually meet cool people with other stuff in them that makes you forget about said stuff. being impatient is something hard to deal with, specially when you think you're out of options and you just want to get it, but the world is such a huge place you're bound to find someone cool for you [I]eventually[/I].

Alright I feel kinda shit and I don't know what to do. I just really want to talk to that girl I mentioned earlier because I just like talking to her but I think she kinda made clear that she just wanted to be friends and I don't like bothering people. what2do

[QUOTE=Timezbrick;48639966]Alright I feel kinda shit and I don't know what to do. I just really want to talk to that girl I mentioned earlier because I just like talking to her but I think she kinda made clear that she just wanted to be friends and I don't like bothering people. what2do[/QUOTE] get over her

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48639303]Okay but if you were to throw me into a situation where there were a few lesbian girls I found attractive I can garuntee you I'd have the interest of one or two. This is not one of those situations. So you're not seeing the right me atm. [B]That's like if you go to a supermarket and see a parent yelling at their child for acting up in the store, you assume they're a bad parent overall, when in reality you're just seeing a bad snippet of them.[/B][/QUOTE] look, people have already pointed out that your attitude is shitty. so i'm not going to do that. but what i am going to do is point out that you should try and be a little bit more realistic here with your views according to multiple studies including one from the [URL="http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr077.pdf"]NHIS[/URL] (from 2013-2014, so who knows, maybe the number has gone up) only an average of 3.8% of americans identify as LGBT. this is an average across the entire usa, ranging from 10% in DC which is a huge outlier and 1.7% in north dakota (but who cares about north dakota) remember, these are just statistics and OF COURSE, there's always room for variation. but then you also narrow down this 3.8% by saying that you only want skinny, attractive white girls. according to [URL="http://www.gallup.com/poll/158066/special-report-adults-identify-lgbt.aspx"]another study[/URL], [B]non-white Americans are more likely to identify as LGBT[/B] so you're literally shooting yourself in the foot here. try to have a little bit of patience and understanding, especially if you're working with parameters as strict as you're giving yourself. you're only 18 for fucks sake

[QUOTE=Timezbrick;48639966]Alright I feel kinda shit and I don't know what to do. I just really want to talk to that girl I mentioned earlier because I just like talking to her but I think she kinda made clear that she just wanted to be friends and I don't like bothering people. what2do[/QUOTE] dont bother her. either embrace the idea you wont enjoy the sweet nectar of her love in the very depths of your soul and just enjoy her as a friend or move on onto someone else.

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48639680]Having standards = bad taste? K den. You can dislike my standards/taste as much as you want. I like relativley average/fit white girls who know how to take care of their bodies. If you think thats bad taste thats your thing. Dosen't make it bad/better whatever. If you like overweight women/men whatever thats your thing and you're allowed to like it. Dosen't mean its bad taste and dosen't mean its better or worse than mine. [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] I just simply do not find certian things attractive. That is OK. [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] No one should force me to be attracted to things I just can't get attracted to.[/QUOTE] calm down and care less if you stop caring so much about trying to find one and just focus on getting on with life, it will happen I used to think I was a failure cause I didn't have a girlfriend and I was so focused on getting one and I would get mad that I didn't, then I stopped caring so much about it eventually, and I ended up getting into my first relationship which lasted 3 years I wasn't specifically looking for a relationship when I found her, nor when I started seeing my new girlfriend. who coincidentally is bisexual and is very much up for getting another lady involved :toot:

[QUOTE=Pascall;48639800]I live in San Antonio. Real big city. Lots to do, so it's hard to figure out which things would be worth it or not. Sorta wish I lived closer to the beach though. It's about an hour and a half away from here. Then again, the weather will be cooling off soon too so that's probably out of the question until next year. I'm in an LDR so I do my best to make sure we do what we can when we visit each other.[/QUOTE] Honestly an hour and a half isn't bad, but this is coming from someone currently driving an hour and a half every day just to get to and from campus. Might be nice to spend a weekend near the beach. My boyfriend was in SA over the weekend meeting a friend of his (we're from Dallas). Apparently they had some friends come up with a big list of stuff to do in San Antonio and knocked out everything on the list in 3 hours. I've never been to San Antonio myself but there are a lot of really scenic rural areas in Texas. My boyfriend and I both regularly drive around at night and just look for pretty areas to stop in. When it cools down a bit, we were going to go Hill Country for a few days and do some plein-air landscape painting/photography together. [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] Or come to Dallas during the state fair and the four of us can chill! [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] Granted, that doesn't fit your "daytime dates" prompt, but still. State fair is worth going to at least once

Not sure if it fits here, but how do I forgive someone? Long story short I dated a girl last year (thinking she was gonna leave our school so I wouldnt see her daily) and it went really well but then she started ignoring me without a given reason, since then I've kinda held a grudge against her. This schoolyear she's in my class and she keeps hanging around my group of friends (because they're the only people she knows in the class) I realize having a grudge is a shitty thing to do because she just didn't feel that way. I just find it really hard to talk to her at the moment Any advice?

Act friendly towards her, and try to do small talk. Don't show any forms of hostility, but you should acknowledge the issue with sincerity and try keeping a calm tone. That's my 2 cents on solving a grudge

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;48640353]Not sure if it fits here, but how do I forgive someone? Any advice?[/QUOTE] Time.

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;48640353]Not sure if it fits here, but how do I forgive someone? Long story short I dated a girl last year (thinking she was gonna leave our school so I wouldnt see her daily) and it went really well but then she started ignoring me without a given reason, since then I've kinda held a grudge against her. This schoolyear she's in my class and she keeps hanging around my group of friends (because they're the only people she knows in the class) I realize having a grudge is a shitty thing to do because she just didn't feel that way. I just find it really hard to talk to her at the moment Any advice?[/QUOTE] I'm not seeing the problem, it sounds like she isn't even aware you have a grudge? If so no need to say anything, just act normal.

I know this subject is old and needs to end, but what do you want us to do IJNOMED? We can't magically make the girls in your area more "attractive" or make you less picky. Go find some groups or clubs that do things you enjoy, and just stop looking for a girlfriend and just let it happen on its own. Finding someone can not be forced, just take it easy. [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=dcalde78;48640035]I wasn't specifically looking for a relationship when I found her, nor when I started seeing my new girlfriend. who coincidentally is bisexual and is very much up for getting another lady involved :toot:[/QUOTE] I had the opportunity to get another lady involved, was so turned on by the thought, ended up being the shittiest night of my life. I'm not the kind of guy to share my girl. I basically felt like I was being cheated on right in front of me. :suicide: