Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

Pretend you know things about finances, it's probably fine...

What do you have to lose by going? The worse that can happen is you don't get the job. I went for an interview with Eastern Airways as a ramp agent, I did a bit of googling on the company and read up on how the company started and when, where they're based, the kind of planes they used and where they fly to. The interviewer was very impressed with me and I interviewed very well. And I didn't get the job because I have long hair. Yes it's a safety issue, but after telling them I was aware of the rules on hair and I was willing to cut it to follow said rules, I thought it would have played in my favour. Instead they went for the only other guy that applied, and he apparently couldn't speak English very well. But so be it, looking back I'm glad I didn't get the job. If things had gone the way they did and I was working down at the airport with my then girlfriend and the guy she left me for, I would have left anyway. Leaving a job after only a couple of months doesn't look good on a CV.

You've got to Tuesday to do research on that company then? jeeeeeeeeezus I'm late. Yea never hurts to go, at the very least you'll know what they expect of you. You can use that for future interviews, never huts to have the experience

So I have a bit of a question. I'm 20, and I wouldnt mind finding that special someone, but I don't really know where to begin. All the bars here are full of old tradies because of the horse racing and just generally too damn expensive, and I can't handle loud noises due to bad Tinnitus so clubs and parties are out the window. I have trouble starting conversations due to a stutter that I've had for most of my life (finally in the last stages of getting rid of it now, but I'm still extremely self conscious about it). Plus I do have a little bit of trouble hanging around in large groups due to being self conscious about my speech (I sort of feel like a spare part since I don't talk as much). However if I do get to know someone, I can talk for days. Does anyone have any tips?

So my best friend told.me she loved me And we kissed And I was so excited for it all to finally go somewhere And fast forward 2 days And she's too afraid to commit to date me Life huh

[QUOTE=samuel2213;50192623]So I have a bit of a question. I'm 20, and I wouldnt mind finding that special someone, but I don't really know where to begin. All the bars here are full of old tradies because of the horse racing and just generally too damn expensive, and I can't handle loud noises due to bad Tinnitus so clubs and parties are out the window. I have trouble starting conversations due to a stutter that I've had for most of my life (finally in the last stages of getting rid of it now, but I'm still extremely self conscious about it). Plus I do have a little bit of trouble hanging around in large groups due to being self conscious about my speech (I sort of feel like a spare part since I don't talk as much). However if I do get to know someone, I can talk for days. Does anyone have any tips?[/QUOTE] try online dating. You're probably not gonna meet your soulmate but it'll help build confidence (or it'll give you some feedback on how much work you've got ahead of you in terms of building sex appeal) communities like reddit.com/r/okcupid can be useful for feeling out the scene and what other people usually expect from it.

My girlfriend had to move back to Korea in the beginning of last month and after that we pretty much just stopped talking, it just tapered out We never even really broke up, we just stopped talking But then yesterday she called one of our mutual friends (she used to live in the same share house as me) when a bunch of us were hanging out and they ended up passing the phone around and facetiming and such to everyone except me, it felt really awkward I don't know what to do, I guess I should talk to her privately first instead which is what I wanted to do anyway but it's difficult because she barely speaks english so we mostly just speak Japanese to each other, which neither of us are that good at. So talking about serious stuff is hard

So I had decided tonight would be my last first date for a little while because dating was getting exhausting for me and I realized I wasn't remotely excited about meeting this guy despite how attracted I was to him. Got there and he was ten times more attractive than his profile pictures let on and was absolutely hilarious to talk to. Spent four hours together, kissed when we left, and he just texted me telling me I looked great tonight. This went so much better than expected.

For the people that don't know what is this about, I found my dad cheating on fb and told my mom, fast forward 2 months later after he left the house My mom cries weekly telling me to forgive my father, that she really wants him back, that she forgave him already, she loves him, but I don't know what to do anymore, I just can't forgive him for what he did, I'm tired of the fights I had with him everytime we did something together or when he just had high sugar (he's diabetic) My father asks my mom if he can arrive to have lunch, but I just can't resist seeing him on the house, when I arrive from school and see he is at home, I just want to be in my room all day and not even have interaction with him. I want to see my mom happy, and she says that the only way I can see her happy again is if my father comes back, that if I really love her, I should forgive him, but it just seems to hard to do that. I don't know what to do

Well after having a crush on this girl for about two years we kinda had prom yesterday and I was too much of a pussy to ask her out. So after feeling a sense of self-loathing for being such a coward after prom and getting a pep talk from a good girl-friend I finally mustered the courage to go tell the girl that I really liked her. I mean she probably knows already but I've never really said it. I kinda said things along the lines of "Hey you're the prettiest, most intelligent and greatest person I know ever. Ummmm yeah we should go out some time after exams." (yeah I'm about as suave as sandpaper) but somehow she was nice enough to say "yeah sure". What to do from here?

I don't know how to feel about this situation The girl I mentioned before The one who told me she loves me But told me she can't commit to a relationship She told me she doesn't want me to not be a part of her life But I honestly don't know how I can pretend to just be her friend

[QUOTE=Dick Slamfist;50199025]I don't know how to feel about this situation The girl I mentioned before The one who told me she loves me But told me she can't commit to a relationship She told me she doesn't want me to not be a part of her life But I honestly don't know how I can pretend to just be her friend[/QUOTE] Why would you be pretending? You've been friends with her up to now.

You are her friend and you are there for her. Things may change in the future, things may remain that way, or things may go back to the way they were. Also, romance and friendship are not antagonic; in fact, romance without quite a bit of friendship may be quite empty; I may not be the best qualified person to speak about this, but from what I've seen in others I'd say it is close enough.

Okay. So, I'm gonna tell you guys a story and you will tell me what I should have done differently. Yesterday, I went and treated myself to some tasty In-N-Out burger. I ordered a double double and some fries. Actually, I'm gonna draw it. [img]http://i.imgur.com/Qxcgnl8l.png[/img] Then THIS happens. [img]http://i.imgur.com/5DQXXZOl.png[/img] Frick yeah. Now I got some eye candy. So now I'm just chillin there eating my double double, casually checking her out every once in a while. But THEN.... when I looked up to check her out again, THIS HAPPENS: [img]http://i.imgur.com/6C3lN4Ql.png[/img] And then a SPLIT SECOND later: [img]http://i.imgur.com/7ec5QOkl.png[/img] Aight, so, y'already know what it is. This isn't a sure sign. Maybe she was just blankly staring in my direction and felt awkward about it so she looked away. So I kept looking for signs. I intentionally didn't look at her for like a good minute, and then I looked back up at her. [img]http://i.imgur.com/iquh109l.png[/img] CHECK. [img]http://i.imgur.com/SpSeEpNl.png[/img] MATE. To top it all off, this is where she stood when she was waiting for her order: [img]http://i.imgur.com/QZnnbSCl.png[/img] So at this point I have this whole thing planned out. I'm gonna take forever eating my burger, and when she leaves, I'll just happen to leave at the same time as her. I'll hold the door open for her or some shit and smile at her. Then I'd lay this on her: "Hey. Are you single?" (teehee yea) "Can I get your number?" (sure teehee its (408) ***-****) "Cool. I'm cheesylard btw how are you doing" (teehee blah blah blah). Cool. Except......... her order took FOREVER. I finished my burger hella early. I didn't know what to do. So I went and refilled my water cup.... [img]http://i.imgur.com/kq5M7Knl.png[/img] And pretended to clean my eating space and all that shit. Then I pretended to have to go to the bathroom, and as I was washing my hands, I heard an order number being called out. I walked out the bathroom and saw this: [img]http://i.imgur.com/aIhl7Phl.png[/img] So yeah. I was kinda boned. I could have ran to her outside but I felt like that would have been creepy. :( Is there anything I could have done differently? Looking back, I feel like my plan was kind of shitty, but idk.

Dude.

holy shit

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50201756]You could have approached her[/QUOTE] Like, inside of the In-N-Out? I felt like I might have been putting her on the spot (by asking if she was single) in a public space like that. That's why I wanted to wait until she left so I could talk to her outside.

the very definition of overthinking

[QUOTE=cheesylard;50201785]Like, inside of the In-N-Out? I felt like I might have been putting her on the spot (by asking if she was single) in a public space like that. That's why I wanted to wait until she left so I could talk to her outside.[/QUOTE] Asking her if she was single would've more than likely turned her away from you completely. I'm kind of astounded you somehow believed she might've had some interest in you only because she glanced at you once in a while whilst waiting.

when you're in a restaurant, you look around, right? and that means you look at people too, correct? and if one of those people looks right at you, you'll most likely look away. agree? it was not a sign

[QUOTE=Triot;50201833]Asking her if she was single would've more than likely turned her away from you completely. I'm kind of astounded you somehow believed she might have some interest in you only because she glanced at you once in a while whilst waiting.[/QUOTE] I'd agree with you if it was only once. But I caught her staring at me twice, over the course of like.... 2 minutes. I'd say the odds are in my favor at that point. Obviously it's not a guarantee, but as a guy you have to take risks.

You gotta stop thinking.

[QUOTE=Triot;50201833]Asking her if she was single would've more than likely turned her away from you completely. I'm kind of astounded you somehow believed she might've have some interest in you only because she glanced at you once in a while whilst waiting.[/QUOTE] adding on to this, just really don't start by suddenly approaching and asking someone if they're single why do you think that is a good way of going about it? that really comes off as incredibly strange and creepy and i'm sure if that's one of the first things you say that will really turn someone off from wanting to talk to you. why not try to find some common interest or compliment their clothing or something anything other than just going up to someone and asking if they're single

[QUOTE=Eriorguez;50199186]You are her friend and you are there for her. Things may change in the future, things may remain that way, or things may go back to the way they were. Also, romance and friendship are not antagonic; in fact, romance without quite a bit of friendship may be quite empty; I may not be the best qualified person to speak about this, but from what I've seen in others I'd say it is close enough.[/QUOTE] I dunno, I've never remained friends for very long with somebody when one of us admits to feelings for the other. It hasn't happened many times but that's been my experience. It really worries me because my best friend right now is a girl that I think I've developed feelings for. We have made out and had sex several times and we tell each other "I love you" like no big deal and even through all this I'm STILL too worried to ask her to be exclusive or make things "official" in case she says no and things then become awkward. But I don't know, if we survived the awkwardness of that first drunken hookup, maybe we'd get past that too. It just seems kind of irreconcilable if I want a serious relationship and she doesn't. Plus, then all that physical intimacy would stop, and that would suck.

[QUOTE=cheesylard;50201697]post[/QUOTE] I'm going to play armchair psychologist here so sorry if I sound a bit presumptuous, but bear with me I think the fact you made up an overly specific conversation scenario in your head means you weren't even going to talk to her in the first place. You were in there for a long time, and you could've walked up to this girl at any point, but you didn't. That's because your brain came up with a sequence of events that worked (too well, in fact), which in turn meant that any scenario other than that one wouldn't have. I'm not saying you made it up as an excuse, I'm saying it implicitly works as one. Don't make plans, period. Writing up dialogue for things that haven't happened yet is a surefire way of metaphorically shitting your pants whenever they don't go your way

Here is a little secret of knowing if someone is into you or not.[video=youtube;xa-4IAR_9Yw]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xa-4IAR_9Yw[/video]

so this is just venting but before my friend kinda jumped on me I had a date set up with this girl offa tinder After my friend told me she just wants to be buddies and can't commit to a relationship I went back to the tinder girl only for her to tell me she hooked up with one of her friends and they're dating now? so I give up because I think my life is fictional

That guy I'm sorta talking to just texted me saying he felt alone in the world and I was like... oh yeah I can relate to that a little bit. And then he was like "I don't feel that way when I'm around you" and man I don't even know how to reply to that. I don't really think I've caught feelings or anything yet (or if that's even gonna happen???) but I think he has. Awkward!!

I just told him that I was glad he felt comfortable around me. Idk what else would sound good that wouldn't also lead him on lol..

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;50202093]I'm going to play armchair psychologist here so sorry if I sound a bit presumptuous, but bear with me I think the fact you made up an overly specific conversation scenario in your head means you weren't even going to talk to her in the first place. You were in there for a long time, and you could've walked up to this girl at any point, but you didn't. That's because your brain came up with a sequence of events that worked (too well, in fact), which in turn meant that any scenario other than that one wouldn't have. I'm not saying you made it up as an excuse, I'm saying it implicitly works as one. Don't make plans, period. Writing up dialogue for things that haven't happened yet is a surefire way of metaphorically shitting your pants whenever they don't go your way[/quote]No. [editline]25th April 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=VIOLATION_SNG;50201895]adding on to this, just really don't start by suddenly approaching and asking someone if they're single why do you think that is a good way of going about it? that really comes off as incredibly strange and creepy and i'm sure if that's one of the first things you say that will really turn someone off from wanting to talk to you. why not try to find some common interest or compliment their clothing or something anything other than just going up to someone and asking if they're single[/QUOTE] This is where I got the idea from: [media]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABgL2LcoBTU[/media] I think it just depends on your style, tbh.