Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=KOManiacJim;50206641]Three 20th Anniversary Mews for Pokemon X, Y, Omega Ruby and Alpha Sapphire from Game Stop. PM Me for the Code. Limit one per User.[/QUOTE] whoa nice. I don't own a pokemon game but man if I did....

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50050365][IMG]http://i.imgur.com/vpgAEZI.png[/IMG] i didn't know[/QUOTE] update: girl was ignoring me after this, i got someone to ask why, she said "we can't be friends anymore because of my boyfriend" the worst thing that could've happened actually happened holy shit whatever though, shouldn't shame myself if it's out of my control. that was a good prank and i stand by it :v:

[QUOTE=cheesylard;50201857]I'd agree with you if it was only once. But I caught her staring at me twice, over the course of like.... 2 minutes. I'd say the odds are in my favor at that point. Obviously it's not a guarantee, but as a guy you have to take risks.[/QUOTE] Why is this dumb?

[QUOTE=cheesylard;50207427]Why is this dumb?[/QUOTE] because you're interpreting normal social interaction between two people (eye contact) as something more than that

Someone staring at you twice doesn't really... mean anything. I stare at people sometimes because I zone out.

Then what do I look for?

Actual social interaction, rather than signs from strangers.

You can approach anyone, really. What you have to look for is signs that she DOESN'T want to talk. Reading a book, listening to music, on the phone, on a laptop, with other people, etc. Otherwise, feel free to just go up and initiate conversation? Or just say hi, at least. Start with "Excuse me," and then follow up with a genuine compliment on either something she's wearing or something she has. But you have to mean it. Shallow compliments just to get her to pay attention to you are a dime a dozen and are worth very little. Then if she makes signals like she's feeling awkward or uncomfortable, you say "I just wanted to let you know! Have a good day!" and go back to minding your business or if she seems interested, then continue conversation like you would with any human being. Not rocket science. It's really just about knowing when someone DOESN'T want to talk.

[QUOTE=cheesylard;50207427]Why is this dumb?[/QUOTE] Because I literally had more action with a girl two rows behind me at the reading room today; people look around, we're both social and curious creatures after all. Sometimes we catch each other's eyes - after all, it's pretty much the first thing people look at. It doesn't necessarily mean anything. And this isn't me trying to sound like "I got all the game", it's just that this literally happens multiple times a day, and it doesn't imply any special connection. If you want to check if they aren't just zoning out, send them a smile if you're feeling courageous. If they respond, you could maybe strike up a conversation with them if the situation is appropriate - if nothing else you may have made them feel a bit more appreciated, and there's no harm done.

How can I get myself out there more, guys? I'm one of those people who can't really get into a group and feel as comfortable/thought about as other people in said group. I'm not sure if it's because I seem like the type of person who doesn't like to be approached or if it's just a mental thing, but I just really wish I could feel comfortable even getting involved in conversations in a group environment without feeling burdensome.

[QUOTE=Zoran;50207921]How can I get myself out there more, guys? I'm one of those people who can't really get into a group and feel as comfortable/thought about as other people in said group. I'm not sure if it's because I seem like the type of person who doesn't like to be approached or if it's just a mental thing, but I just really wish I could feel comfortable even getting involved in conversations in a group environment without feeling burdensome.[/QUOTE] What are your hobbies and interests? I don't know what situation you're in, but joining events and organizations that are inline with what you're into is a great way of getting out there. Because the event is within your own field of interest, starting and maintaining conversations shouldn't be too difficult.

There's this girl is really shy and kind of absent minded (I hate describing people with the word shy, but I can't think of a better word) and I'm really into her. We've studied and we often spend time together and it's so much fun, but I obviously want it to be more than that, I'm not in a hurry, though. The thing, I can't just be blunt and show signs obvious enough for her to get them because that might feel akward or overwhelming for her, even if she likes me too. What is the best approach in this situation? I'm terribly sorry for my grammar, my english has been on decline since Uni started.

So a friend called me that she needed help. Told me she can't find a place to stay because her parents won't let her in and her friends argued with her. She wanted to stay at my place and wait until things cool down. So I got my parents and they told me "No!" because they're out for the weekend, she might be a clinger, and that letting her in would enable her. I told her to call her other friends or call the emergency line because apparently she's injured. Did I do the right thing to have other people help and not myself? I feel like I did, but at times a part of me says otherwise.

so i feel my gf is becoming more and more dependent on me, maybe im relationship retarded but i told her tonight that im kinda not digging it because i feel i cant support the weight of dependecy tonight she told me she didnt want me talking to specific people which i told her to rightfully stop bossing me around and restricting me because i dont and wont restrict her idk im thinking too much

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;50224571]so i feel my gf is becoming more and more dependent on me, maybe im relationship retarded but i told her tonight that im kinda not digging it because i feel i cant support the weight of dependecy tonight [B]she told me she didnt want me talking to specific people[/B] which i told her to rightfully stop bossing me around and restricting me because i dont and wont restrict her idk im thinking too much[/QUOTE] Nah that's bullshit. That either implies that she doesn't trust you, or that she doesn't want you to have fun with people you like. Or maybe she thinks they're taking too much of the time you should be spending with her. Who knows, either way I think it's completely proper to basically tell her to mind her own business. In a nice way of course.

[QUOTE=GoDong-DK;50224924]Nah that's bullshit. That either implies that she doesn't trust you, or that she doesn't want you to have fun with people you like. Or maybe she thinks they're taking too much of the time you should be spending with her. Who knows, either way I think it's completely proper to basically tell her to mind her own business. In a nice way of course.[/QUOTE] it relates back to a girl i saw for 2 months last year who we stopped seeing each other bc it fell apart but she believes id go back with her in a heart beat even though she knows too well she was a pain in the arse and shes in a relationship was p stupid

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;50224940]it relates back to a girl i saw for 2 months last year who we stopped seeing each other bc it fell apart but she believes id go back with her in a heart beat even though she knows too well she was a pain in the arse and shes in a relationship was p stupid[/QUOTE] That might be her justification, but it isn't the reason.

i basically said i wont respect her wishes for me to not talk to people, i dont like being controlled, im not a child

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;50225278]i basically said i wont respect her wishes for me to not talk to people, i dont like being controlled, im not a child[/QUOTE] Don't get too caught up in standing up for yourself all the time though. If you know she is a good girl then she is probably just looking for some comfort and security so don't be too harsh. It all depends on how much you like them and how far you want it to go but you will have to make some compromises in a long term relationship.

[QUOTE=triplej05;50228045]Don't get too caught up in standing up for yourself all the time though. If you know she is a good girl then she is probably just looking for some comfort and security so don't be too harsh. It all depends on how much you like them and how far you want it to go but you will have to make some compromises in a long term relationship.[/QUOTE] Having friends is not something that should ever be compromised on in a relationship. Letting someone else decide who you can talk to should NEVER take place in a healthy relationship. [editline]29th April 2016[/editline] Like, it's fine to give advice and to warn people not to be assholes... But usually people get into controlling relationships in the first place because they have a tendency to let others push them around. If someone's already in a controlling relationship, telling them to keep doing what they're doing is not a good idea.

she just fears id leave her for someone else and she knows last year i fucked a lot of people. So she always thinks im going to go back in there for round two and ive told her numerous times that will not happen while we're dating im free to talk to them and shes free to talk to her ex and others she had love interest for a few years back, it isnt anything i will and can stop

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;50228193]Having friends is not something that should ever be compromised on in a relationship. Letting someone else decide who you can talk to should NEVER take place in a healthy relationship. [editline]29th April 2016[/editline] Like, it's fine to give advice and to warn people not to be assholes... But usually people get into controlling relationships in the first place because they have a tendency to let others push them around. If someone's already in a controlling relationship, telling them to keep doing what they're doing is not a good idea.[/QUOTE] I did not say to compromise on this. Just use the right words to who this girl is, which you know more than us. This person is not some kind of evil being for being insecure. Using the wrong words and mindset you might end up keeping your friend you have your chats with but losing the girl you love and spend alot of time with.

How do I get over a relationship? I broke up with my girlfriend of a year because the relationship was too toxic for her. I was basically the bad guy in the relationship because I could never compromise with her. I probably made the biggest mistake of my life, she loved me with a fiery passion, but I just tossed it into the trash cause of my selfishness.

[QUOTE=gooldude;50228913]How do I get over a relationship? I broke up with my girlfriend of a year because the relationship was too toxic for her. I was basically the bad guy in the relationship because I could never compromise with her. I probably made the biggest mistake of my life, she loved me with a fiery passion, but I just tossed it into the trash cause of my selfishness.[/QUOTE] In my experience, when this shit happens it was bound to never work. You loved each other on different levels, she loved you more than you could and that resulted in the eventual crash It's happening with me right now, i feel you can get over that knowing you were never really in it to begin with. Of course it will like sting for a few weeks but just take some time to yourself to breathe, maybe go out and have a drink with some mates clear your head

[QUOTE=gooldude;50228913]How do I get over a relationship? I broke up with my girlfriend of a year because the relationship was too toxic for her. I was basically the bad guy in the relationship because I could never compromise with her. I probably made the biggest mistake of my life, she loved me with a fiery passion, but I just tossed it into the trash cause of my selfishness.[/QUOTE] time, mostly, and focusing on your self and enjoying your own life.

[QUOTE=maddogsamurai;50221244]So a friend called me that she needed help. Told me she can't find a place to stay because her parents won't let her in and her friends argued with her. She wanted to stay at my place and wait until things cool down. So I got my parents and they told me "No!" because they're out for the weekend, she might be a clinger, and that letting her in would enable her. I told her to call her other friends or call the emergency line because apparently she's injured. Did I do the right thing to have other people help and not myself? I feel like I did, but at times a part of me says otherwise.[/QUOTE] Update; didn't get a text back from her. Hopefully she found help, God knows I couldn't.

so I'm dating this bisexual chick and it's going awesomely anyway, today she told me I was the first guy she ever kissed. [sp]THIS IS JUST LIKE MY JAPANESE ANIMES[/sp]

I think dating a bisexual chick would be cool, but I don't think the average bi girl would be my type. I'm totally into the more traditional, innocent kind of girls. I think most bisexual girls don't really have that vibe.

My girlfriend is bisexual, she's got a long history of kissing girls at gay bars. I don't really mind as it's all in the past now Who knows, maybe someday we'll have a threesome

love when events get cancelled on the day, now i've got shit all to do this evening on a side note, i've progressively become more self-confident socially over these last couple months, and it's going swell. I want to make it a point that it's heavily coinciding with more regular exercise and simply leaving the house more often (yoga/long walks, short runs while walking etc), and it's probably something that can't be overstated enough that exercise, in general, helps. Basically, if you can't be fucked to work out, at least start going for daily walks, make an effort to nod to or say hi to people as you walk past them, it's those little things that add up a good deal towards making larger steps over time