Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

Speaking of exercise... Had a second date with that guy from earlier this week yesterday and found out he has some health issues that make physical activity difficult for him. Had taken him rock climbing and he ended up just sitting and watching the entire time because he was feeling ill (apparently this is an everyday thing for him). Even just walking across the square afterward seemed to be a struggle for him. We talked afterwards and it seems like food and any sort of physical activity are off the table for dates - that really doesn't leave a lot. Everything else about him was pretty much perfect, but I think this is a dealbreaker for me. I'm not sure I'm even attracted to him at this point and it's incredibly frustrating.

it's totally lame do something together

[QUOTE=Handsome Matt;50233592] idk what to do over the summer, I kinda wanna go abroad with her but is that too soon after just a couple of months of dating? is hanging out at our moms' houses together lame?[/QUOTE] Do whatever feels good and natural. Don't be afraid of talking about the relationship with her. It's important to know where you're both at. It doesn't have to be a secret that you'd like to travel with her some day.

Mmm, I have this feeling of being an outsider whenever I am with a group of people, and this sucks, because it hinders my ability to meet new people, and may hinder my ability to deepen my already existing relationships. Any advice, other than psyching myself up when I'm feeling particularly down?

[QUOTE=Eriorguez;50238536]Mmm, I have this feeling of being an outsider whenever I am with a group of people, and this sucks, because it hinders my ability to meet new people, and may hinder my ability to deepen my already existing relationships. Any advice, other than psyching myself up when I'm feeling particularly down?[/QUOTE] from my experience (take with grain of salt), this feeling of being an outsider is usually because you are with a group of people who've know each other more on a longer or more personal basis than you've known them and as a result, they'd usually talk to who they feel more personal or more closer friends with, aka the group. it may seem like im being blunt about this, but i used to be like this, thinking that the group of friends i was with were actual friends, but they really were just friends with themselves and not me, because they knew each other longer than i had of them. the only way to stop this is be friendly, include yourself when possible, but at the same time, dont be desperate, and act like your own person that has things of their own to worry about but most importantly, time. it takes time to be good friends with someone or multiple people

ugh this summer is going to be so boring. I have one friend here that I hang out with occasionally and that's it. I have no reason to go out otherwise. how do I make more friends here? I'm out of uni just at my home town in my parents place [editline]1st May 2016[/editline] I thought going to the park to skate would be fun but it's not really fun when you're just by yourself

any advice for getting close to someone who has low self esteem and that believes that people who get close to her will be harmed?

[QUOTE=Eriorguez;50238536]Mmm, I have this feeling of being an outsider whenever I am with a group of people, and this sucks, because it hinders my ability to meet new people, and may hinder my ability to deepen my already existing relationships. Any advice, other than psyching myself up when I'm feeling particularly down?[/QUOTE] I've had this happen to me a lot. I was grew up in a city called Canberra and when I was about 8 I moved to a city called Brisbane which was about 1000km (600 miles) away. Even though its in the same country, there's a lot you have to adjust to. Usually when I've felt like an outsider, it wasn't even my fault, it's just that the group had all been together since they were kids or something, and I was the new guy who was in the group but would never be "in" the group. In fact, when I think back to one group in particular, all I can remember is tragedy and nothing positive. Sometimes people will be welcoming to newcomers but other times they're not. I've turned my back on a lot of groups because of this. Since arriving all those years ago I've had a lot of friends. Unfortunately a lot of them moved away which left me looking for new friends often. I remember a few years ago after becoming friends with all these people and only to have them all move away, left me quite depressed and lonely. However, I now have a great group of friends, who I've know for years and I trust and care for. You're always going to feel like an outsider when you're new to a group, however if you spend time with them you'll either begin feeling more comfortable and accepted or more and more isolated. If you feel the second then they're probably not people you probably want to be around.

I need to ask here because I'm not sure whether I should do it or not. Last week I was out for a drink with this one girl, it was fun. She said the same thing about it and when I casually asked if she had any ideas what we could do on the second date she suggested we go to the same bar for a drink again. You know these foreigners that sometime come into places to sell shit? One of these came in during the date last week with a bunch of roses. I told her I would buy her one but I don't support these types of people. Her reaction to that pretty much told me that she thought it was cute. So, I am considering giving her one next time with the remark "since I didn't buy you one last time". That is fedora levels of cheesy but my question stands, is that a bad idea?

Can't go wrong with a setup like that. I'd say go for it. Give her some candy too, candy is awesome. Not like sappy candy just like fucking gummy worms or something from the store. My favorite gifts is stuff I can eat.

i love gummie worms man if someone bought me sonme i'd be like "oh thank you"

I think the flower will do, I'm not bringing candy if we're going to a bar for a drink.

no you buy the gummy worms on the way home after drinking and be like "here's some gummy worms now how about you gum my worm"

it's more the gesture that counts to be honest, a flower like a rose is a nice, simple way to make that gesture because it's not something that needs to be held onto indefinitely, nor does it cost a lot... it's a little cheesy or cliche, sure, but it's definitely not 'neck beard fedora level' the fedora level equivalent of making that kinda gesture would be if you got her like a full boquet of flowers, and a heart shaped box of chocolates on your second date, while wearing a tuxedo and a top hat or some shit

Got my hairs cut and generally cleaned up today, girl at work I've been crushing on gave me this look like I've never seen before, like she was just out and out staring and smiling at me for a minute and I jokingly called her out on it. Felt pretty good just wanted to say that, made my whole day better.

Damn, I would love to get some gummy worms. I wonder if I could get gummy worms for someone... I don't think she's really into candy though

[t]http://i.imgur.com/8K99w43.png[/t] so this person i used to see from like september 2015 to september 2015 lashed out at me for my snap story, when i told her i dont listen to bullies she sent this fuckin lmao, im done with her ass, she's harassed me enough

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50248716]Send her a snap of your flaccid penis that says "this is how much i care"[/QUOTE] she removed me fam, i sent this back [t]http://i.imgur.com/rK2wCRS.png[/t] to anyone curious to parental salary her dad is a judge and her mum is, something, they live comfortably in the inner city. When i saw her house for the first time it was a cosy 2 story house. But she got immediately scared that i now knew how much her parents made i think this is bc when we discussed a lot of politics, she was a hard lining feminist and kept talking about the disenfranchised and was really anit-white people when she was white herself. She had no idea about the "tough life" that people like me faced so it made all her concerns bogus. Week after that she said literally said /thread and that marked the end of the adventure, im not kidding

Sounds like someone who could honestly use some time to herself, there seems to be loads of insecurity going on there.

Sounds like you really dodged a bullet dude

[QUOTE=Wealth + Taste;50249259]Sounds like you really dodged a bullet dude[/QUOTE] im glad she broke off from me honestly, she was bad news from the start. Also she told a bunch of people that i was emotionally and sexually abusive as well. So she wanted to destroy me from the start.

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;50249320]im glad she broke off from me honestly, she was bad news from the start. Also she told a bunch of people that i was emotionally and sexually abusive as well. So she wanted to destroy me from the start.[/QUOTE] toxic af

Normally I wouldn't go to a thread like this because I feel pretty confident in my social skills, but I holy shit I feel like I'm incredibly unlucky when it comes to finding girlfriends. Literally every single girl/woman (keep in mind I only started to feel like dating when I was in Junior year of highschool) I've been interested in is already taken. And I'm not talking about asking them out and they are giving me a non-harsh way of putting it. I mean I'll be interested in someone, pondering if I should pursue a relationship and finding out within a week they already have a boyfriend by either seeing them or it being casually brought up in conversation by them or people they know. I dunno, just felt like venting I suppose. I mean it's not like I'm doing anything wrong, besides maybe being interested in the wrong people.

[QUOTE=Destroyox;50250395]Normally I wouldn't go to a thread like this because I feel pretty confident in my social skills, but I holy shit I feel like [B]I'm incredibly unlucky when it comes to finding girlfriends[/B]. [B]Literally every single girl/woman[/B] (keep in mind I only started to feel like dating when I was in Junior year of highschool) I've been interested in is already taken. And I'm not talking about asking them out and they are giving me a non-harsh way of putting it. I mean I'll be interested in someone, pondering if I should pursue a relationship and finding out within a week they already have a boyfriend by either seeing them or it being casually brought up in conversation by them or people they know. I dunno, just felt like venting I suppose. I mean it's not like I'm doing anything wrong, besides maybe being interested in the wrong people.[/QUOTE] You're focusing way too much on having a relationship that you're projecting it on every nice girl you meet. You don't just "find a girlfriend". We're not talking about a resource you collect. You actually spend time with that person and that person spends time with you until the mutual interest flourishes into something deeper. Relationships come after dating, after romantic involvement. Don't get ahead of yourself, take it easy. Even if you find the right girl, being in a relationship isn't something you want to jump into right away. It takes time to consider, to get aware of what it implies. Otherwise your desperation will be palpable, and girls you actually feel interested in with feel the hint of your little desperation.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;50254633]You're focusing way too much on having a relationship that you're projecting it on every nice girl you meet. You don't just "find a girlfriend". We're not talking about a resource you collect. You actually spend time with that person and that person spends time with you until the mutual interest flourishes into something deeper. Relationships come after dating, after romantic involvement. Don't get ahead of yourself, take it easy. Even if you find the right girl, being in a relationship isn't something you want to jump into right away. It takes time to consider, to get aware of what it implies. Otherwise your desperation will be palpable, and girls you actually feel interested in with feel the hint of your little desperation.[/QUOTE] so much truth in this, I wish I knew it before my first relationship, of course live and learn and all that

I had this good relationship going with a girl in my high school,shes final year now and i broke up with her in person where i apologized and told her that it's just me and that I'm an idiot.She knows I still love her and she says she loves me a lot,we talked at school today but never really talked about getting back or talked much about the break up.She said that she was at her friends house the weekend where he accidentally touched her breast and she got bitten on her hip from some game they played(note there where multiple boys there)her friend(a guy)and all the other ones are at our school as well and I haven't said anything cause we not dating anymore.I'm going to talk to her seriously tomorrow and she know cause she agreed to it but yet I feel a sense that she doesn't care much or she's trying to not go back to how things where?i don't know.Should I clear things up and just let her go?or should I try and give it another try cause I actually really care.Problem is I can't be in the same school with her and watch as she slips away.If she chooses to completely leave or detach I'll have to switch schools.

So I finally got out of a relationship with a manipulative person. I'm glad it's over.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;50254633]You're focusing way too much on having a relationship that you're projecting it on every nice girl you meet. You don't just "find a girlfriend". We're not talking about a resource you collect. You actually spend time with that person and that person spends time with you until the mutual interest flourishes into something deeper. Relationships come after dating, after romantic involvement. Don't get ahead of yourself, take it easy. Even if you find the right girl, being in a relationship isn't something you want to jump into right away. It takes time to consider, to get aware of what it implies. Otherwise your desperation will be palpable, and girls you actually feel interested in with feel the hint of your little desperation.[/QUOTE] I'm not really sure if that's accurate. I don't think I'm projecting as I've been able to have female friends who are both nice and attractive no problem. It's just that legitimately every girl I've been interested in dating literally already has someone. And don't worry, I'm not one of those "tfw when no gf" people. I'm not mad or depressed about not having a girlfriend to fulfill a status quo or sexual desires. I just want to start dating and haven't been able to is all.

I did the thing with the Rose and brought her one with that remark. She thought that it was cute and amazing. After we finished our drinks we went for a walk along the lake into the direction of her place. At some point she looks into the paper the Rose is wrapped in and tells me the flower is gone gone. I guess she lost it somewhere along the way. While we were backtracking to go find it I could tell she was almost about to cry but when we found it she pretended she was just pretending to almost cry but I also think she just said she was pretending because I said "You're not going to cry now, are you? It's just a flower." Either way I guess it meant something to her. Shame she's not around the next 10 or so days because her school is going on a trip to the USA, but she told me she would text me and tell me how New York was so that's good. She also invited me to her prom (I have no idea how to describe this in English) which is in August or something. Overall a good evening I would say, even though when we parted ways I let the inner autist out because when we hugged she had her cheek awfully turned towards me and I had no better idea to make our cheeks touch. But she still texted with me after so that's fine I guess. We'll see.

Hey guys. Was just wondering if anyone had any good game suggestions (co-op) on pc, besides Lovers in Dangerous spacetime, borderlands, l4d2 and portal1/2.