Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=SXBIG;50295914]How long have you known her?[/QUOTE] 3 years later this year

ever have that moment where you've stayed up all night and the first thing that happens when you talk to your crush and you realize that you've accidentally shed your mammalian flesh and revealed that you were a reptile the entire time because wow spaghetti spilled from my pockets i'm glad she even still talks to me

i don't know if this is quite the same, but i just talked to a girl and she revealed her hatred of weeaboos and called them cancer. i hadn't quite fallen for this girl yet, but after that it was clear that she is the one. of course all of this went to shit when i showed her a screenshot of a FNaF bodypillow i stumbled upon.

[QUOTE=Pascall;50295877]I guess I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum. I'm usually the friend who gets fallen for and man. It's... pretty awkward when you don't reciprocate feelings.[/QUOTE] I'm in this situation right now too, one of my two best friends is totally in love with me even though I've shot him down on practically a weekly basis. He's not overly needy or nice or anything because of it, so I tolerate it. It hasn't stopped him from starting dumb pedantic arguments with me every time we talk (which is what I live for).

I'm in the same scenario. It's not love so much as it is lust, though. It's gotten to the point where I can't be under the influence around him because he's terrible with boundaries and never listens when I tell him to stop. He's fine while sober, but the moment he has even a sip of alcohol he goes full sexual predator mode and gropes me every chance he gets Doesn't help that he denies any sexual attraction to me and says it's "all in good fun relax", like damn dude that's just rapey get your hand off my nuts please

The first day of being single after a 2 and a half year relationship is just so... empty. I didn't expect this. She was the only person I could talk to about my feelings as well. [B]Edit:[/B] We're still friends, not all is lost. The cooling off period is going to be difficult but I'm hopeful we can be best friends at the end of it all.

A friend of mine recently passed a way. I had drifted from her recently, but it's amazing how many memories I had of her, since I don't remember being friends with her that long. Her and two other of my friends used to hang out all the time, but we all drifted apart. Now we're all back together, which is good I guess, but it shouldn't have taken her death to bring us back together :\ But I'm pretty glad that these people are back in my life again.

hey guys met this girl at a concert a few days ago, she was super cool and we spent the whole night together, just us. she went with a group of friends but once i said hi to the group she was kinda just focused on me and we talked the entire night. we had a blast and i'm pretty sure she was into me. i'm going back there next friday to see another concert, and i said we should hang out then and she agreed, as she lives there. thing is, i live 3 hours away, but i'm going to university and moving in there in a few months (late august). so, is there any way of holding this up until actually get there? because once i actually live there, we can actually start dating and stuff (i'm done with long distance relationships. never worked out for me) i am confuse

I need help again with the girl I gave the rose to. I'm doing something with her next Tuesday but my date idea falls flat if the weather is bad that afternoon and weather reports change every hour. Can someone suggest things you can go to during bad weather?

[QUOTE=blerb;50298114]I'm in the same scenario. It's not love so much as it is lust, though. It's gotten to the point where I can't be under the influence around him because he's terrible with boundaries and never listens when I tell him to stop. He's fine while sober, but the moment he has even a sip of alcohol he goes full sexual predator mode and gropes me every chance he gets Doesn't help that he denies any sexual attraction to me and says it's "all in good fun relax", like damn dude that's just rapey get your hand off my nuts please[/QUOTE] Holy shits and I thought I was bad for turning into a flirty emotional mess. [editline]12th May 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=NixNax123;50308986]hey guys met this girl at a concert a few days ago, she was super cool and we spent the whole night together, just us. she went with a group of friends but once i said hi to the group she was kinda just focused on me and we talked the entire night. we had a blast and i'm pretty sure she was into me. i'm going back there next friday to see another concert, and i said we should hang out then and she agreed, as she lives there. thing is, i live 3 hours away, but i'm going to university and moving in there in a few months (late august). so, is there any way of holding this up until actually get there? because once i actually live there, we can actually start dating and stuff (i'm done with long distance relationships. never worked out for me) i am confuse[/QUOTE] Let her know your situation if she wants to date you or if she's just looking for a fling you'll know. Don't make it sound like that is what has to be done though, more along the lines of over the time until you move there you get to know each other and then if it's something you both want well then bam.

[QUOTE=DELL;50310064] Let her know your situation if she wants to date you or if she's just looking for a fling you'll know. Don't make it sound like that is what has to be done though, more along the lines of over the time until you move there you get to know each other and then if it's something you both want well then bam.[/QUOTE] Alright cool, thanks. So just nudge the fact that I'm interested but don't commit to anything until I can. Got it!

[QUOTE=jonoPorter;50308991]I need help again with the girl I gave the rose to. I'm doing something with her next Tuesday but my date idea falls flat if the weather is bad that afternoon and weather reports change every hour. Can someone suggest things you can go to during bad weather?[/QUOTE] the bedroom for a gumming of the worm

Is it just me when after a relationship we're like yeah we can still be friends then after a week there is like 0 communication?

[QUOTE=Acid Rapper;50314042]Is it just me when after a relationship we're like yeah we can still be friends then after a week there is like 0 communication?[/QUOTE] no that's everyone [editline]13th May 2016[/editline] unless you both end it amicably

[QUOTE=Acid Rapper;50314042]Is it just me when after a relationship we're like yeah we can still be friends then after a week there is like 0 communication?[/QUOTE] It's probably for the best tbh, let you both move on. Come back to it later.

[QUOTE=Pascall;50295877]I guess I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum. I'm usually the friend who gets fallen for and man. It's... pretty awkward when you don't reciprocate feelings.[/QUOTE] Honestly after dating my current girlfriend I sympathize with women soooo much more regarding the constant bombardment of advances you guys get. She's so super nice to everyone which results in a ton of super limp wristed lameasses that get all friendly with her and then eventually get frustrated and manipulative when she doesn't respond to their inevitable advances (see: church boy from last week). It's kinda sad seeing her disappointment as various "friends" get shitty with her all of a sudden now that she isn't single. She also opened my eyes to how shitty cat calling is, which.. Not that I didn't think it was shitty before, but daaaamn. You ladies are living in a whole different world, apparently.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50314054]no that's everyone [editline]13th May 2016[/editline] unless you both end it amicably[/QUOTE] Just because you end it amicably doesn't mean you can be friends afterward. Nobody is going to be ready to transition to friendship immediately after a breakup - if you don't think that you need time away from each other, chances are it's because you're still in denial of what has happened and are trying to put off adjusting to being single.

So our university friend group is going to decrease by a third next semester. We're looking at losing three-four close friends due to various reasons. That's just in the main group. A lot of friends I have outside that particular circle are also leaving.

[QUOTE=vizard38;50314616]So our university friend group is going to decrease by a third next semester. We're looking at losing three-four close friends due to various reasons. That's just in the main group. A lot of friends I have outside that particular circle are also leaving.[/QUOTE] There's something vaguely weird about this post... it's like your revoking their membership to your super secret friend club or something. Do they have to hand in their gun and badge?

[QUOTE=metallics;50314881]There's something vaguely weird about this post... it's like your revoking their membership to your super secret friend club or something. Do they have to hand in their gun and badge?[/QUOTE] Oh no I don't mean it like that. I just mean that they're dropping out and we're not going to see them ever again, which is depressing.

Do you not have social media??? That's what stuff like Facebook is good for. Keep in touch with people who move away.

[QUOTE=Pascall;50315167]Do you not have social media??? That's what stuff like Facebook is good for. Keep in touch with people who move away.[/QUOTE] Some of them don't, and its different not being able to see them in person. I'm just lamenting that they'll be gone.

[QUOTE=vizard38;50315342]Some of them don't, and its different not being able to see them in person. I'm just lamenting that they'll be gone.[/QUOTE] Just got to learn people come and they go. Doesn't meant you won't see them again though, a lot of people I use to hangout with like every weekend I now see maybe once every month or two.

Oh man my 6th form leavers pub crawl was a night. I met 2 lasses who invited me to a festival years back (we must have been 13-14), good god I wish I went. I thought that they were taking the piss out of me (perhaps they were and still are). I went to the nightclub all of the popular people go to, they played 2 types of music, the songs that played at my year 6 leavers disco and shit I couldn't recognise for the life of me. That killed my mood. I have completely wasted my time at that fucking school. I'm the same fucking idiot I was 7 years ago, I just hate myself substantially more.

After 2 days on Tinder and a week on WhatsApp and phone I've finally managed to ask a girl out. Going to a really cool place in my home-town so the place and time are set. Very nervous about awkward silences though, we've been chatting so much I can hardly think about things to ask except boring shit like "what school did you go to?" or something.. Ugh, tips anyone? Is there a masterlist of 1st date questions I should memorize. I really don't want to waste this opportunity, girl has been keeping me up at 1am all week and I really cherish my sleep lol

Why is asking her what school she went to considered boring? A first date is generally to get to know someone better, so those are the exact type of questions I'd start with. You do want to get to know her, right? It may not be the most exciting type of question, but it gets the ball rolling so to speak (unless she's just a boring person IRL).

How do I stop being a boring fucker? I'm trying to talk to this girl, but all I can think of asking is boring shit like "what are you doing after school?"

[QUOTE=Sepia Gnome;50319689]How do I stop being a boring fucker? I'm trying to talk to this girl, but all I can think of asking is boring shit like "what are you doing after school?"[/QUOTE] acknowledging that you are boring is a start. try to make steps towards gaining confidence in your conversational skills. what are some topics you can talk to her about? get her to talk about stuff in her life, people naturally love to talk about themselves because it's the easiest thing to talk about for them.

[QUOTE=arthuro12;50318681]After 2 days on Tinder and a week on WhatsApp and phone I've finally managed to ask a girl out. Going to a really cool place in my home-town so the place and time are set. Very nervous about awkward silences though, we've been chatting so much I can hardly think about things to ask except boring shit like "what school did you go to?" or something.. Ugh, tips anyone? Is there a masterlist of 1st date questions I should memorize. I really don't want to waste this opportunity, girl has been keeping me up at 1am all week and I really cherish my sleep lol[/QUOTE] Well what kinds of things do you REALLY want to know about her? And what kinds of things do you REALLY like spending time talking about? Start with those areas.

I landed an internship in Manhattan this summer (starts this wednesday) and I just got into the apartment I'm letting in Jackson Heights, Queens. It seems like a decent place but according to the internet over half of the population is 1st gen immigrants and only 15% of the population is white. It's the first time I've been in the minority and its kind of freaking me out. The people seem fine for the most part, its just that I was looking forward to making new friends, meeting new people etc. but most people here are working/middle class foreigners, not many young college student types like me. Maybe once I actually start working I'll meet people through my job and be able to hang out elsewhere but I'm really bummed out. I feel like such a fish out of water. Not only have I never lived in a big city before, but people here in general are much more rude and less likely to talk to/ be nice to strangers. It's sort of something I took for granted growing up near Atlanta. And to top it all off its really seeming like I picked the worst possible neighborhood for a young white kid to live in. I hope this all wasn't a terrible mistake.