Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

I don't even know that I want to be with anyone. I am cool with being alone. I'm good at it. I would have a lot more money, spend more time with my friends, and I would probably enjoy myself more often. I could jack off in peace and I could still have as much sex as I wanted because women are easy. But now that we've talked about it and she feels awful for making me feel trapped, she's backed off the marriage thing and said she just wants us to be together in whatever capacity makes us both happy. Which means never mind we don't have to get married just don't leave me. And I mean, I would feel like a dick if I did leave her. Her life would be ruined. Everything would have to change. Without me she has to have a completely different life. My life without her would be almost exactly the same except probably more fun because I get to be selfish. So it's a should stay or should I break up with her.

The very fact that you're saying "women are easy" is telling me that you shouldn't be in a relationship at all tbh.

[QUOTE=Pascall;50357980]The very fact that you're saying "women are easy" is telling me that you shouldn't be in a relationship at all tbh.[/QUOTE] I mean like having sex with a woman isn't difficult. As in, if it's something I want, it won't be hard to find and being tied to one person doesn't make it any easier or harder to get sex, either way it's about the same. That's all I mean. Sorry if that came out wrong.

dating a girl, thinking about another one, and still inlove with my ex am i the asshole finally?

So I've been dating this girl and I was hoping that once school ended we would have more time to actually date and stuff. Instead were both working full time and on nearly opposite schedules. She has one job where she works nearly entire weekends and she has groups and activities she participates in on top of it all. I feel like it's really becoming a strain on our relationship. She said she would make time for me but I'm concerned that she won't commit to that assertion. What should I do?

[QUOTE=autodesknoob;50362018]dating a girl, thinking about another one, and still inlove with my ex am i the asshole finally?[/QUOTE] Not necessarily. If "in love with my ex" only means you have feelings for him/her, and you're just dating that other person, I don't see a reason to call you an asshole. You're trying to move on and have sort of like a backup for your current date. Just depends on how you deal with it.

[QUOTE=autodesknoob;50362018]dating a girl, thinking about another one, and still inlove with my ex am i the asshole finally?[/QUOTE] Yes [editline]21st May 2016[/editline] Why are you dating someone when you have feelings for other people?

[QUOTE=Disseminate;50365303]Yes [editline]21st May 2016[/editline] Why are you dating someone when you have feelings for other people?[/QUOTE] Because sometimes you can have feelings for multiple people, some of which may not be available to date.

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Going to a LAN party and long story short i kind of need to share a two person inflatable bed with a girl. Today i asked my girlfriend about it and she was just cool with it, even though i expected the answer its still nice that she is so cool about it all :garryspin:

[QUOTE=srobins;50365314]Because sometimes you can have feelings for multiple people, some of which may not be available to date.[/QUOTE] next time i go out with the girl im dating, im gong to tell her the truth, since i like her and all, but my mind is very split at this time, and she should now before getting too close. It sucks. Shes very beautiful, nerd and straight forward with everything, and i like all that, but my mind still misses the fuck out of my ex, since she dumped me from a year and a half relationship, which was my first. And adding to that, theres another girl that caught me off guard like a bullet. Im teaching as a helper for this class and this girl has something i cant really describe. Before being in my first relationship, everything was easy. You get the girl of your dreams, you get inlove, you build that up with love until you have plans for the future, you dont mess around and take things seriously and you go from there, you just need love right? Now i dont know what to think, im messing around, confused, from lots of points and a few girls and hope about relationships died a bit, and the objectives got really distorted... dont know what i want really at this point.

[QUOTE=autodesknoob;50368083]next time i go out with the girl im dating, im gong to tell her the truth, since i like her and all, but my mind is very split at this time, and she should now before getting too close. It sucks. Shes very beautiful, nerd and straight forward with everything, and i like all that, but my mind still misses the fuck out of my ex, since she dumped me from a year and a half relationship, which was my first. And adding to that, theres another girl that caught me off guard like a bullet. Im teaching as a helper for this class and this girl has something i cant really describe. Before being in my first relationship, everything was easy. You get the girl of your dreams, you get inlove, you build that up with love until you have plans for the future, you dont mess around and take things seriously and you go from there, you just need love right? Now i dont know what to think, im messing around, confused, from lots of points and a few girls and hope about relationships died a bit, and the objectives got really distorted... dont know what i want really at this point.[/QUOTE] I wouldn't necessarily profess to her that you still have feelings for your ex.. Probably just say you're don't feel ready for a relationship (which sounds kinda true). It seems like you don't really want to settle with one girl yet and you want to date around and see what that's like for a while, which is fine. I'd just tell her you're not feeling ready for a relationship right now and you want to keep it casual.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50043359]alright boys tomorrows april fools and that means prime flirting joke time the jist of what i want to do is make a really romantic text and then completely throw her off with something irrelevant but funny. gets the idea of me as more than a friend in her mind while not being too forward. i was thinking of something like "---, theres been something i've been meaning to tell you for a very long time. ever since i first met you... *blah blah blah romatic shit*. it's just, ---, there's a SKELETON INSIDE YOU RIGHT NOW"[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=NixNax123;50050365][IMG]http://i.imgur.com/vpgAEZI.png[/IMG] i didn't know[/QUOTE] [quote]last time i heard about him she broke up with him. they're an on/off couple (where the guy just cheats on her a lot but she still comes back (heard this straight from her telling me)) so i thought i caught her in the single period guess not[/quote] so i'm seeing this girl at a pool party next week, and we haven't talked since this incident. i had a mutual friend talk to her a while back, just to ask her whats up with me. apparently her boyfriend won't even let her talk to me, and she was apparently a little weirded out by the prank. i still want to be on good terms with her, even if she can't hang out with me while she's with her boyfriend. i just liked being friends with her because her and i were really good friends and could talk about really personal stuff together. so i was thinking at the end of the pool party, i'll just ask her to talk and make a quick apology, just something like "hey, i'm sorry about what happened. i really didn't mean to weird you out or anything. i know you can't hang with me because of your boyfriend, and i respect that, but i just want to make sure we're on good terms individually. so yeah, sorry, can we still be friends?" obviously i'm having trouble finding the right things to say, any advice?

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50368417]so i'm seeing this girl at a pool party next week, and we haven't talked since this incident. i had a mutual friend talk to her a while back, just to ask her whats up with me. apparently her boyfriend won't even let her talk to me, and she was apparently a little weirded out by the prank. i still want to be on good terms with her, even if she can't hang out with me while she's with her boyfriend. i just liked being friends with her because her and i were really good friends and could talk about really personal stuff together. so i was thinking at the end of the pool party, i'll just ask her to talk and make a quick apology, just something like "hey, i'm sorry about what happened. i really didn't mean to weird you out or anything. i know you can't hang with me because of your boyfriend, and i respect that, but i just want to make sure we're on good terms individually. so yeah, sorry, can we still be friends?" obviously i'm having trouble finding the right things to say, any advice?[/QUOTE] pretty much this [QUOTE]hey, i'm sorry about what happened. i really didn't mean to weird you out or anything. i know you can't hang with me because of your boyfriend, and i respect that, but i just want to make sure we're on good terms individually. so yeah, sorry, can we still be friends?[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=da space core;50368469]pretty much this[/QUOTE] alright cool, wasn't sure if that was good or not since i don't have a good track record with apologies :v: thanks!

Man, how do you end up in such a relationship, and not notice that you are being blatantly controlled by someone who would otherwise be just some dude/chick? Kind of a scary thing, I almost got caught on that game with my ex. Glad I drew the line though. [editline]22nd May 2016[/editline] In other news, I met a girl on Tinder a month and a half ago, and we finally met face to face on Tuesday. We held hands and shit and everything's going well, even though she lives 3 hours away from me (on public transport, it would probably be 1 hour by car). I'm strangely happy with just texting, so the distance isn't that big of a deal. Just a little update in my life, I hope it keeps going well.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50369257]I wouldnt say you respect that shes banned from talking to you by her boyfriend. Thats not something to respect.[/QUOTE] well, what else am I going to say without sounding like I totally don't think she deserves him and coming off as "break up with him so we can hang out"? you're right though, I guess I'll just leave that part out. I just kind of wanted to let her see that I saw where she was coming from. I want to tell her its really toxic and unhealthy but I'm not sure I can do that without, again, coming off as wanting to get them to break up.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50371432]I would be blunt, honestly. Tell her you like her as a person and respect her, but her boyfriend is controlling, manipulative, and you will love to be friends when she grows some common sense and gets in a healthier relationship.[/QUOTE] I'm usually blunt with other people when it comes to things like this, but I don't feel like it's my place at the moment since we haven't really spoken in a while, even though we were really good friends before. I feel like that may make her uncomfortable and maybe even completely alienate her from me, depending on how much she "loves" her boyfriend. Then again, this is probably my one chance to communicate with her in a long time. eeeeeeeee .-.

Right so I'm going to be a bit short on this one. My aunt on my fathers side got together a long time ago with a man that looked nice and acted nice. He was cool and gentle and my aunt loved him and they eventually had a child who would be my cousin, this was back in 2002 something and this is when he started to reveal how he really was as a person. It turns out he is a complete fucking psychopath that manipulates everyone in his environment for his own benefits. Now my aunt eventually after years of abuse separated from him and got a new better man to be with but this psychopath now controls my cousin and his life. My cousin is now 14, a critical part of life were you find yourself and start to think how you are as a person. Its like everywhere he goes his psychopath dad is with him. It's like my cousin is controlled by some north koreanstyle dictator. I want to help him, but he doesn't have the guts to do it and I feel super bad for him. He can't visit his mom whom is my aunt at all cause that's not allowed and if he does something his not allowed to do I don't know what will happend to him. I need some advice here, the only option I have in mind isn't very legal but it's something this fucker deserves.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50371471]I'm usually blunt with other people when it comes to things like this, but I don't feel like it's my place at the moment since we haven't really spoken in a while, even though we were really good friends before. I feel like that may make her uncomfortable and maybe even completely alienate her from me, depending on how much she "loves" her boyfriend. Then again, this is probably my one chance to communicate with her in a long time. eeeeeeeee .-.[/QUOTE] I don't really understand what you're even apologising about. You made a silly joke and her boyfriend threw a hissy fit over it? You didn't do anything wrong. If you apologise to her, then it'll make it seem like you were in the wrong and her boyfriend is in the right (which he is not). Don't apologise, just make an observation of the situation and ask if she's still on good terms with you. If she's not then she probably isn't worth having as a friend anyway, because no true friend would end a friendship over something as trivial as that.

[QUOTE=Darth Ninja;50374454]I don't really understand what you're even apologising about. You made a silly joke and her boyfriend threw a hissy fit over it? You didn't do anything wrong. If you apologise to her, then it'll make it seem like you were in the wrong and her boyfriend is in the right (which he is not). Don't apologise, just make an observation of the situation and ask if she's still on good terms with you. If she's not then she probably isn't worth having as a friend anyway, because no true friend would end a friendship over something as trivial as that.[/QUOTE] now that I think about it, playing it cool like this seems like the best thing to do. just a quick, "we cool?" then an offer to hang out sometime. thanks, guys! getting an outside opinion always helps me see things clearer. :smile:

I've been curious, for tinder users, how common is it that you use up a whole day's worth of likes and get 0 matches? It happens to me pretty often and i'm not sure if it's a bad thing, or if this happens to everyone

happened to me when I was in glasgow. I think my long hair really puts ladies off :v:

15 years later, it's my last day of school :ohno:

[QUOTE=dcalde78;50393945]happened to me when I was in glasgow. I think my long hair really puts ladies off :v:[/QUOTE] Some love it though.

when I started seeing my first gf I was just growing it out but by the end of the relationship 3 years later she hated my hair. second gf liked it and in her words found me "ridiculously attractive" but we both want very different things from life so we split but are still good friends. I've had another female friend do my hair a couple of times, the most fancy one being a reverse french plait (I think). it's been straightened a few times. it sits a lot better than it used to naturally now, it used to be pretty big but it's much better now, and I get a fair amount of natural waviness as well. #naturalbeauty

When my hair was fairly long last year girls always played with it and styled it different ways. Was kind of nice tbh

I'll admit it's pretty nice to have a girl play with my hair, it hasn't happened often but I have enjoyed it when it's been done

So I recently went on a first date with this girl and she's pretty cool we have almost identical taste in vidya and both come from theatre backgrounds and get along pretty good. (she also casually mentioned how kinky she is which a +++ for this guy) And today a female friend I've crushed on oreviouskt told me she wants to get together with me Shed nice but we don't really have a fucking thing in common other than we both kinda like talking to each other I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings and I'm so stressed and feel gross about all this [editline]27th May 2016[/editline] For clarification how do I let my friend down easily cause as pretty as she is I don't think we're a match like that at all, we differ too much. As appealing as the idea of hooking up might be I want to see where things go with this theatre girl

[QUOTE=Dick Slamfist;50399900]So I recently went on a first date with this girl and she's pretty cool we have almost identical taste in vidya and both come from theatre backgrounds and get along pretty good. (she also casually mentioned how kinky she is which a +++ for this guy) And today a female friend I've crushed on oreviouskt told me she wants to get together with me Shed nice but we don't really have a fucking thing in common other than we both kinda like talking to each other I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings and I'm so stressed and feel gross about all this [editline]27th May 2016[/editline] For clarification how do I let my friend down easily cause as pretty as she is I don't think we're a match like that at all, we differ too much. As appealing as the idea of hooking up might be I want to see where things go with this theatre girl[/QUOTE] god damn that's pretty tough. i'd say to just go with your heart, and even if feelings are hurt, it's best to do it early. i had something similar happen to me actually. there's this one person that's been pretty flirty with me and asked me if we wanted to hang out sometimes. thing is, i got my eyes on an old schoolmate of mine and i did for a few months now (when i still was with my ex, and i had planned to tell her only if things got serious, but then shit happened so i broke up with her). i had to turn this person down and she's still feeling down about it like four days later, which makes me feel like a dick. so basically now i'm gonna try and ask my schoolmate out next time i'm at her place, and if everything fails i can still go back to this other friend. feeling optimistic tho, since we enjoy each other's company and her mother absolutely loves me [sp]kind of amazing this all happened to a social outcast like me :v[/sp] aaaand if that fails too then i'll take a break from relationships cause shit's complicated. wish me luck boys.