Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

I feel like if that's the case, you may want to go for a degree in writing in general, not focusing entirely on just game writing. Some writers double dip in game and movies/TV. Some writers end up just writing ABOUT games and some writers don't end up doing either. When it comes to creating, you'll want to start building a portfolio pretty early on, too. That's what most people look for when it comes to creative positions. But at the same time, it's still a bid to get into the entertainment industry, which is difficult. I don't ever tell anyone to give up on what they wanna do, but they have to be smart about how they go about it, as well as the knowledge that what they want to do for life will likely not be the first, second, third, or even fourth job that they have. It's an uphill battle but if you do research and do your best to get yourself out there, something good may come. There's no guarantee, but if you keep trying and building your skills, your chances will increase as you learn and grow.

So, I don't exactly post here often, but I've a situation I need your insight in. So over the course of this Summer, I was part of a high intensity German course I needed to pass to get into uni (and I did pass the exam, just barely). On this course, there was this girl - we'll call her A - that caught my interest. We've a few similarities, both a little shy, quiet, stuff like that. Now, I kinda want to ask her out, since I've a faint idea she [I]might[/I] have a bit of interest in me (mind, I could be reading the situation wrong). Thing is though, I've never asked anyone out before, and I know she is super busy this entire week, except Sunday. So I wanna know if it's a good idea to ask her out on Sunday, or wait 'til the next weekend where she's available the whole weekend?

Ask her out on Sunday to begin with? Nothing wrong with that. Just go for something simple that way you won't be taking up the entirety of her free day. Something easy and casual like coffee or lunch.

I had thought about lunch. Like you said, something easy and simple, see how things turn out. What might be a good thing to do afterwards? Even if it'll only be a relatively short date (if you can even call it that), I don't imagine we'll be sitting down the entire time.

[QUOTE=Pascall;50854149]I feel like if that's the case, [B]you may want to go for a degree in writing in general, not focusing entirely on just game writing[/B]. Some writers double dip in game and movies/TV. Some writers end up just writing ABOUT games and some writers don't end up doing either. When it comes to creating, you'll want to start building a portfolio pretty early on, too. That's what most people look for when it comes to creative positions. But at the same time, it's still a bid to get into the entertainment industry, which is difficult. I don't ever tell anyone to give up on what they wanna do, but they have to be smart about how they go about it, as well as the knowledge that what they want to do for life will likely not be the first, second, third, or even fourth job that they have. It's an uphill battle but if you do research and do your best to get yourself out there, something good may come. There's no guarantee, but if you keep trying and building your skills, your chances will increase as you learn and grow.[/QUOTE] Excellent point here. When it comes to creative and cultural fields, it's better to receive a broad scope of education and experience, or else you might end up limiting your own mental scope, and creating shallow works as a result. E.g. someone who grows up reading comics and wants to write comics, but never read or writes anything besides comics will probably not be as good as someone whose cultural horizons are much broader. [QUOTE=Spetsnaz95;50854257]So, I don't exactly post here often, but I've a situation I need your insight in. So over the course of this Summer, I was part of a high intensity German course I needed to pass to get into uni (and I did pass the exam, just barely). On this course, there was this girl - we'll call her A - that caught my interest. We've a few similarities, both a little shy, quiet, stuff like that. Now, I kinda want to ask her out, since I've a faint idea she [I]might[/I] have a bit of interest in me (mind, I could be reading the situation wrong). Thing is though, I've never asked anyone out before, and I know she is super busy this entire week, except Sunday. So I wanna know if it's a good idea to ask her out on Sunday, or wait 'til the next weekend where she's available the whole weekend?[/QUOTE] Go for sunday. Just a single afternoon is much less of a commitment, and as such, if she is shy, may be easier to agree to at first.

As long as you dont become David Prassel 2.0 i'm sure you'll be able to achieve your goals of being in the industry. But with everything it requires risking a lot, think of all the people who threw their lives out to persue music and fail. You never know til you try but it is also a big gamble.

[QUOTE=maeZtro;50853731]I'm all for the whole "trust and don't try to control your partner" but her coming over to your house alone for sleep overs would be really weird even if you have a strictly platonic relationship. I don't think I could stay with someone who did that with another guy. [/QUOTE] [QUOTE=MxOAgentJohnson;50853875]After the amount of times i've been betrayed that would just set alarm bells off for me isntantly now, which is sad as i want to be as trusting as i once was but i cant anymore.[/QUOTE] Maybe my perspective is weird since I've never had to face the situation, but the way I see it, being too trusting is not [i]your[/i] problem, but rather betraying your trust is [i]the other person's[/i] problem. I should also think that if your partner has a mind to cheat, they're going to do it regardless of how much "permission" you give them. If you let them do whatever they want and they cheat on you, it's not your fault for allowing them to do it, it's their fault for cheating. Probably the main reason this case matters to me is that she and I live over an hour's drive away from each other, so ordinarily we'd go over to one another's houses and sleep over just so we aren't spending two hours on the road every day that we want to visit. She's on the way right now to spend the day here so I guess I gotta decide how much of this, if any, I want to bring up to her. Oh yeah, one more thing I wanted to mention. The reason I'm really torn on even discussing it with her. Sometimes when we'd hang out in the city, we'd get into situations that made me pretty uncomfortable. Like she would just approach a random group of people and start chatting like they were old friends. I don't really have a mind for that kind of thing, so I always ended up becoming really quiet and feeling like I don't want to be there. She always told me when we talked about this, "Your being comfortable is always going to be more important than me having fun with these random strangers, so don't feel bad about saying something to me." Well, since she has specifically said that spending any more nights at my house makes her [i]uncomfortable[/i], I feel like I owe it to her to just give her the same treatment she always gave me on that matter. She never tried to make me do anything I didn't want to do in social situations like that, so a big part of me feels like I shouldn't even try to convince her, and I should do my best to drop it and move on.

I was speaking to a couple of guys at work and mentioned the girl I matched with on tinder, turns out one of them knows her and she has a BF. great :v:

I have a date tomorrow :dance:

I have a girlfriend now which all started from, having sex with her the first night I met her. Things workout really weird sometimes.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;50853000]I'm having this conflict with my friend and I'm having a hard time seeing the other side of it. I figured I should post about it here to try and get more perspective. This girl and I have been friends for about a year. Really great friends. She would come over to my house for drinking nights, sleep over, whatever. Well about 3 months ago she got a boyfriend. And I hate to say it but her relationship with him is putting some strain on her relationship with me. The guy doesn't drink, so she resolved that she doesn't drink anymore either. So now I'm minus a drinking buddy. Now she also tells me she doesn't feel comfortable spending the night at my house anymore, because of him. Never mind the fact that she and I don't have sex or do anything that could remotely be considered cheating. She has her own room to sleep in when she stays over at my house and everything. The thing that I've started to wonder about... She tells me she just decided to do all these things out of her own volition out of respect for him... But as time goes on, I've got this growing suspicion that he's TELLING her not to drink anymore, and that he's TELLING her not to spend time with me. Because there have been some weird circumstances around the issue. In the year that I've known her, she's been through like 3 relationships, some longer-lasting than this current one, and she never had the slightest reservations about staying over at my house during that time. But then get a load of this timetable. About a week ago she first broke the news to me that she doesn't want to stay over anymore. Last night I got to see her again for a couple hours and I asked her why it was. She told me it just made her uncomfortable, since she's in a relationship. We talked a little and she said it's probably not that big a deal, and agreed to spend a night at my house tonight. Well, suddenly around 4 PM today she sent me a really long text about how she agreed to that too prematurely, and once again doesn't feel comfortable staying over at my house. Another thing that makes me suspicious is that she told me that "there were trust issues" in her boyfriend's previous relationship. It makes me wonder if HE was the one who had trust issues in that relationship, and that's why she refuses to spend any more nights at my house. No matter what the case, it's something that bothers me. I might be seeing this from a pretty fatalistic perspective, but my belief is that he should trust her when she's staying over at my house if we're JUST friends, since I know and she knows that we're doing absolutely nothing to feel guilty over. I think that if she's doing nothing wrong, and he still doesn't trust her, then it's his problem, and not hers. That she isn't responsible for any wrongful mistrust on his part. And to be really blunt about it I'd say it's a bad idea to date someone if you have to sacrifice your normal life for them, sacrifice friendships for them, and tiptoe around in your life hoping they aren't going to develop a misguided suspicion of you. But obviously I can't make any of these decisions for her. If she's determined that she can no longer allow herself to stay over at my house, I have to respect that wish. But I can't say I agree with it, or that I'm happy about it. Should I bother to say any of this to her, or should I just shut up and deal with it?[/QUOTE] I think it's perfectly ok that she stays at your house, given that it's always been like that and not something out of the blue. You should talk to her about it without being too inquiring, and if she just isn't comfortable with it, then leave the topic alone.

I had a nice encounter today on the train and got someones number, i always seem to have that happen. She overheard my music and said she was into it, got talking and starting talking about music and all sorts. Got her number and been messaging each other now, she seems awesome, wants to meet up on the weekend for brunch or something.

A week ago i met this guy with who works at the same supermarket as my girlfriend and he said that she is a whole lot happier and cheerful then she ever was and it started after she met me. Damn that made me feel happy :dance:

So I'm gonna start this post by simply saying that I have been in better situations. I honestly don't know what to do and I would be really thankfull if you people could give me some advice. So I made the stupid decision of approaching this one girl at the beginning of my college year. I wasn't too direct about it mind you. Just tried to small talk to see if conversation would lead anywhere. But as I expected, she catched on quick on what was really happening there. And let's just say that she probably didn't like that all that much. Specially because she is in a relatioship with another guy and I'm gonna be sincere, if I knew that beforehand I wouldn't even have the thought of actually doing anything. She goes to all classes I go to and that has been tormenting me. Every time we have to be at the same exact place it creates this awkward vibe that makes me want to not even look at her general direction. I also stopped trying to talk to her altogheter because of this, which I will admit, it probably only made matters worse. She most definitely hates my guts now. Even thought she doesn't actually show it most of the time. I am deathly of afraid of her thinking that I was objectifying her. Which it wasn't the case at all. At least I hope to god I wasn't enough of a idiot to end up making that impression. In all honesty I REALLY wish I could come in good terms with her because I don't think she is a bad person. But I don't think she's much willing to listen to me either. There's always the possibility of her being mad for the pure fact of me to even DARE to take a liking to her too. But I don't know if it is that either. I just want to make things right for the both of us since we will probably have to share the same classes until the end of this semester anyway. And I don't exactly feel good about ignoring anyone or be a hassle to them. Is there any angle I can tackle this on? To maybe fix the problem? I try not to show it but this is literally tearing me apart. Why does every time I have feelings for a girl it literally becomes a war of attrition with both parts hating each other? I'm seriously sick of seeing the same old ending over and over again. [sp] I hope this is not too hard to understand. I tried my best to keep everything simple and organized so it would be easy on the eyes for anyone to read it. I revised a lot of times too to check for proper grammar and spelling but I'm probably too exhausted to have caught all the errors. [/sp]

[QUOTE=SoftHearted;50857035]So I'm gonna start this post by simply saying that I have been in better situations. I honestly don't know what to do and I would be really thankfull if you people could give me some advice. So I made the stupid decision of approaching this one girl at the beginning of my college year. I wasn't too direct about it mind you. Just tried to small talk to see if conversation would lead anywhere. But as I expected, she catched on quick on what was really happening there. And let's just say that she probably didn't like that all that much. Specially because she is in a relatioship with another guy and I'm gonna be sincere, if I knew that beforehand I wouldn't even have the thought of actually doing anything. She goes to all classes I go to and that has been tormenting me. Every time we have to be at the same exact place it creates this awkward vibe that makes me want to not even look at her general direction. I also stopped trying to talk to her altogheter because of this, which I will admit, it probably only made matters worse. She most definitely hates my guts now. Even thought she doesn't actually show it most of the time. I am deathly of afraid of her thinking that I was objectifying her. Which it wasn't the case at all. At least I hope to god I wasn't enough of a idiot to end up making that impression. In all honesty I REALLY wish I could come in good terms with her because I don't think she is a bad person. But I don't think she's much willing to listen to me either. There's always the possibility of her being mad for the pure fact of me to even DARE to take a liking to her too. But I don't know if it is that either. I just want to make things right for the both of us since we will probably have to share the same classes until the end of this semester anyway. And I don't exactly feel good about ignoring anyone or be a hassle to them. Is there any angle I can tackle this on? To maybe fix the problem? I try not to show it but this is literally tearing me apart. Why does every time I have feelings for a girl it literally becomes a war of attrition with both parts hating each other? I'm seriously sick of seeing the same old ending over and over again. [sp] I hope this is not too hard to understand. I tried my best to keep everything simple and organized so it would be easy on the eyes for anyone to read it. I revised a lot of times too to check for proper grammar and spelling but I'm probably too exhausted to have caught all the errors. [/sp][/QUOTE] A problem has a solution, if there's no solution, you have to come to peace with it. Act as her friend and she will perceive you as her friend and probably appreciate you for it. Avoidant behavior tends to create more anguish than already is.

Had a nightmare that I just completely failed to make a positive impression on a group of people, I think we were going to go to space or something. Like a space camp except actually ending up going to space and we were in a very, very beautiful city. The group was all (cis) women and as a trrans woman that's very intimidating, plus they were all obviously very intelligent, hence the space thing. Myself, I'm one of those that had natural talent at a young age then fucked it all up when it became actually important. But yeah, no matter what I did or said (acting relatively to my real life personality) there was just no getting anything sort of response out of them, nothing overtly negative but most assuredly nothing remotely positive. It reminds me of my recent work experience where there were a few people that there was just nothing happening with, one guy in particular we just couldn't find any sort of common ground or had any sort of positive interaction, which was especially bad because we had to work the same section. This sort of thing is why I believe I can't speak as "me", only dispense information like a talking encyclopedia, and even then I suck at that. What I feel I should take away from this, and would like to get some sort of second opinion on, is that there are some people you should just not bother with? Some people who if you open your mouth to or look at or generally think about will only lead to awkwardness and disappointment? Some people who you're just not compatible with? Or do I just suck with socialising with real, normal people?

[QUOTE=DiscoInferno;50859966]Had a nightmare that I just completely failed to make a positive impression on a group of people, I think we were going to go to space or something. Like a space camp except actually ending up going to space and we were in a very, very beautiful city. The group was all (cis) women and as a trrans woman that's very intimidating, plus they were all obviously very intelligent, hence the space thing. Myself, I'm one of those that had natural talent at a young age then fucked it all up when it became actually important. But yeah, no matter what I did or said (acting relatively to my real life personality) there was just no getting anything sort of response out of them, nothing overtly negative but most assuredly nothing remotely positive. It reminds me of my recent work experience where there were a few people that there was just nothing happening with, one guy in particular we just couldn't find any sort of common ground or had any sort of positive interaction, which was especially bad because we had to work the same section. This sort of thing is why I believe I can't speak as "me", only dispense information like a talking encyclopedia, and even then I suck at that. What I feel I should take away from this, and would like to get some sort of second opinion on, is that there are some people you should just not bother with? Some people who if you open your mouth to or look at or generally think about will only lead to awkwardness and disappointment? Some people who you're just not compatible with? Or do I just suck with socialising with real, normal people?[/QUOTE] There are definitely people that can have adverse effects on you simply by being around them- why, exactly, is a mystery to me but I had a friend that I could never be myself around, and I was actively aware of it, but unsure of the cause. No matter what I did, we just simply weren't compatible, even if we were comfortable with one another. Friendships aren't just yourself talking with someone or doing things with them or acting a certain way(although those are parts of a friendship)- a friendship comes from having the right chemistry with someone, it's a feeling, not an action.

Forgive me if this gets too long Several months ago, say, maybe a month into MGSV being new? I ended up getting into contact with a girl I knew in middle school. I won't lie, it wasn't easy to find her. No facebooks or anything, had to use less than usual means like searching records and phone books. Eventually remembered her brothers name after some searching around and added him on facebook, then he told her and she reached out to me. Things were great, I loved our talks. Anyways, in December I started talking to someone online, and eventually let her move in to my house. (long story I'd rather not get into) In May, on my 21st birthday I try to visit the girl from middle school's work place because it's a theatre grill/brewery, you order burgers and stuff and watch movies, totally cool and I could say hi you know? Nice Guys was the movie. They were sold out, and she wasn't there but she started talking to me through text cuz I asked if she was in. After I saw the movie somewhere else, I texted to her about it, she liked it too. She asks me to an amusement park, and offers to pay ticket/food if I drive her there. Now the dilemma here is I'm still with this other girl, even though she's becoming shitty to me, I'm no cheat. Also, my dad has to drive. I still have no license. I simply tell middle school girl "Yeah lemme know when". Apparently she wanted me to definitely say I could give her a ride there? Anywho, last week current girl disappears from our home with her shit. Oh fucking well, I was already pretty over her already. It's more of a blessing than anything. I hit up middle school girl because now nothing is stopping me from going with her. I sent a funny picture, no answer. Someone on lmao pics posted a pic of a girl thinking about communism from wikihow, and it looked like her so I sent it. She finally answers "that's me". I said it made me think of her then admitted I was late but asked about the amusement park again. "just your luck but I literally just found someone tonight." "its up to him but he's a filthy memer so he might be okay with it" ok so as soon as I read this shit I get the strangest feeling in my chest that's just like "ohfuckohfuckohfuck" I said "Ah man, I was trying to contact you a bit ago to say something.. Lemme know I guess, sorry for the bad timing" She told me its okay and she'd love to go with me, but she's gonna make sure its alright with this other guy. Told me she's sorry for not responding sooner, and excused it by saying she just got back from Texas two days ago. She then struck up a conversation about suicide squad after sending me pics of her infront of the standees. Next she texts me "He said he wasn't 100% sure if you could come or not since he's a bit shy around new people. I'll let you know what he decides. If he says no, I'm gonna have to pick who to go with. I feel really badly, though. I should have responded earlier." I told her I felt bad too because I put it off for so long. She told me its fine and that she's pleading my case, and said he'll get back to her in due time. "I really would like to go with both of you, so hopefully it will work out" I told her I probably should've said something substantive instead of sending dumb pictures and she told me couldwouldashoulda will just make you feel bad and that its totally fine. I said hi to her the next day. She answered "Ahoy!" and I sent a pic of a flyer I got of a kidz bop talent search saying "Ah shit, sing in kidz bop? Sign me up". She said hell YEAH then I asked about if there were any updates. She said "hes working right now unfortunately." I asked when she thinks it'll be happening, like the day to go, she said they only just started planning. I commented that I'd been waiting since our first talk, and asked if it'll be before October (i have important plans in October). She said: "I didn't want to start planning for the actual trip until I found at least one person to go with, because it's kind of silly to do that with no ride. It will 100% be before October. My coupon is only good until September 5th at the latest. As for the exact date, I'm not sure. I was thinking later this month" she also sent "Apologies for the late message. I hope I didn't wake you." when I woke up around 4-6 hours after she'd sent that I wrote back: "Oh, I think I was probably able to get you a ride, my bad if I didn't speak up at the time. I can definitely without a doubt get you one now though. Later this month sounds perfect. Also no you didn't wake me, but I hope this message doesn't do the same to you lol." Since then, nothing. This was Sunday morning at 7:30am. On Monday, I sent a picture of punisher talking about not paying taxes. Later that evening, a comic from pbf of peanut butter getting ready to make love with some jam until her "button will pop if seal is broken" pops and he flips out. Next day I sent a pic of a CD envelope with a sticker that says breaking the seal constitutes agreement to the EULA, and someone just ripped open the bottom to avoid it, I also accompanied it with a thumbs up emoji. Later that night (last night) I decide [i]maybe[/i] the lack of responses could be related to just sending stupid pictures instead of talking. I ask her about how her trip to Texas was "I forgot to ask, how was the trip to Texas btw? You told me your great grandma has a farm there? How was it" (she'd mentioned the trip months ago) As of right now still no response. I'm getting anxious. No idea how to think about this. Was I pushing too hard? Making her feel bad? Does she think I just want a free ticket to the park? Did I hurt her feelings by talking about the park trip instead of about her? Does she like this other dude? Is there even actually another dude? Is she pulling an elaborate ruse where she takes both of us on separate weeks? Did she already go or cancel and this is her way of getting back at me for 2 months of silence? I'm losing it thinking of all the things it could be. I fucking hope I'm just being retarded. Did I fuck up? Is there anything I can do to save this? [editline]10th August 2016[/editline] Should I just ask? "Hey is everything okay?" Or "Is everything alright between us? Did I say something?" [editline]10th August 2016[/editline] I feel like that's a no no

[QUOTE=Pascall;50854149]I feel like if that's the case, you may want to go for a degree in writing in general, not focusing entirely on just game writing. Some writers double dip in game and movies/TV. Some writers end up just writing ABOUT games and some writers don't end up doing either. When it comes to creating, you'll want to start building a portfolio pretty early on, too. That's what most people look for when it comes to creative positions. But at the same time, it's still a bid to get into the entertainment industry, which is difficult. I don't ever tell anyone to give up on what they wanna do, but they have to be smart about how they go about it, as well as the knowledge that what they want to do for life will likely not be the first, second, third, or even fourth job that they have. It's an uphill battle but if you do research and do your best to get yourself out there, something good may come. There's no guarantee, but if you keep trying and building your skills, your chances will increase as you learn and grow.[/QUOTE] I think being a writer in general would be the best thing for me. More doors would be open that way though I haven't read a novel since senior year in high school and writing textbooks in college. My fan-fic short story is only 7 chapters long and I already garnered a good amount of fans and some familiar names. Then again there's also a SFM community collab for 60 second action cliches and I REALLY want to do that before Oct 1. Doing either one would probably help my portfolio immensely.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50861836]2 texts with no response means just hold up, it's their turn to say something Who is this "other dude" and why does he dictate who she can hangout with or not?[/QUOTE] Got no idea. "Filthy memer"? I assume she's letting him decide because she believes he "answered first" which I believe I kinda did tbh [editline]10th August 2016[/editline] Should I use that if things get defensive? "Who is this and why did you leave who gets to come in their hands"? [editline]10th August 2016[/editline] I'm hoping she will just notice it herself tbh, if someone was the problem id just ditch that someone

No I mean when I get an answer if she says he said no [editline]10th August 2016[/editline] I'll try to keep myself together till at least Sunday. Maybe she's just busy on weekdays [editline]10th August 2016[/editline] Yeah she might be busy on weekdays- looks like I didn't get an answer till I texted her that picture Friday night and stopped getting answers after Sunday morning. Seems odd to me though. [editline]10th August 2016[/editline] Makes it really hard for me- if I have to text her at a certain time on a certain day guessing her schedule how am I gonna just wait it out [editline]10th August 2016[/editline] Not to mention it'd be very bad if her answer was last minute. I may need at least 3 day advance

So much text, so much on the fly analysis of everything, so many questions. Slow it down and relax a bit man

[QUOTE=VenomousBeetle;50862103]No I mean when I get an answer if she says he said no [editline]10th August 2016[/editline] I'll try to keep myself together till at least Sunday. Maybe she's just busy on weekdays [editline]10th August 2016[/editline] Yeah she might be busy on weekdays- looks like I didn't get an answer till I texted her that picture Friday night and stopped getting answers after Sunday morning. Seems odd to me though. [editline]10th August 2016[/editline] Makes it really hard for me- if I have to text her at a certain time on a certain day guessing her schedule how am I gonna just wait it out [editline]10th August 2016[/editline] Not to mention it'd be very bad if her answer was last minute. I may need at least 3 day advance[/QUOTE] Uh you are reaaaaLly overanalysing this here

I'll relax, it's just this is like the first I've mentioned it publicly. I don't know who else to tell and since this thread seemed slow I wanted to put forth any perceived variables [editline]10th August 2016[/editline] I just wish there was something easier than simply waiting. It's hard because other unrelated events have put me in a position of nothing and my anxiety runs wild

Hey my friend from kindergarten is getting married, and I'm truly happy for her. Yet a month ago they had a falling out. She's stopping in my town, so we're going to catch up. She's not even twenty two yet, and she's getting married. I'm happy for her, yet my brain is being skeptical because of the recent breakup. I'm going to to meet the fiancé this Friday, so that's going to be cool.

[QUOTE=Solodris;50857072]A problem has a solution, if there's no solution, you have to come to peace with it. Act as her friend and she will perceive you as her friend and probably appreciate you for it. Avoidant behavior tends to create more anguish than already is.[/QUOTE] Yeah, you're right. I probably just end up showing that I don't mean any bad to her with small gestures. I will also try my best to act as natural as possible when she's around. and if she ends up thinking badly of me anyway after all of this I just have to suck it up. it's fine if she hates me. But I won't answer to that hate with any sort of hatred of my own either.

Yeah dude it's just a random chick right? She's not worth it. Now if you're still into her 7 years later it might be worth but as it stands you might not really see her again and there's plenty of time, and if she's gonna be like that, eh fuck em' If this chick I like right now started giving me certifiable actual shit I'd probably be done. Patience has worn thin on total asshole relationships in the past.

Eh, is not about love anymore. I am honestly too worn out right now mentally because of this to have any actual feelings for her now. I just hate being in bad terms with someone that's all. Is just the type of person I am.

So I went on my date, the first double date I've ever had. The concept seemed really nice and chill, hanging out with your friend and a nice woman at the same time. While it certainly was nice I found it very hard or even impossible to get intimate and personal with her, it ended up feeling like we were friends and she had a crush on me except I like her too. I think my main problem was that whenever we found things to talk about and started to get closer, one of the other two would say or do something that killed the mood (for lack of a better word.) Also, we were playing shuffle board and it felt like it required our full attention. The last time and first time I met her, we were bowling with a bunch of friends and she wasn't participating because she was hurt. We were sitting/lying on a couch talking and giving each other our full attention which annoyed my friends because every time it was my turn to bowl I would be deep in conversation :v: Anyway, it just felt so much better and she was giving me "the look" like crazy but I didn't lean in for a kiss because I was fucked in the head by that other woman I wrote that long stupid post about. Have anyone had a better experience with double dates? My experience is that they suck but they might be better when both couples are already in a romantic relationship and you just want to hang out.

[QUOTE=DiscoInferno;50859966]Had a nightmare that I just completely failed to make a positive impression on a group of people, I think we were going to go to space or something. Like a space camp except actually ending up going to space and we were in a very, very beautiful city. The group was all (cis) women and as a trrans woman that's very intimidating, plus they were all obviously very intelligent, hence the space thing. Myself, I'm one of those that had natural talent at a young age then fucked it all up when it became actually important. But yeah, no matter what I did or said (acting relatively to my real life personality) there was just no getting anything sort of response out of them, nothing overtly negative but most assuredly nothing remotely positive. It reminds me of my recent work experience where there were a few people that there was just nothing happening with, one guy in particular we just couldn't find any sort of common ground or had any sort of positive interaction, which was especially bad because we had to work the same section. This sort of thing is why I believe I can't speak as "me", only dispense information like a talking encyclopedia, and even then I suck at that. What I feel I should take away from this, and would like to get some sort of second opinion on, is that there are some people you should just not bother with? Some people who if you open your mouth to or look at or generally think about will only lead to awkwardness and disappointment? Some people who you're just not compatible with? Or do I just suck with socialising with real, normal people?[/QUOTE] I keep having dreams that I find a girlfriend then they die within about 2 hours. Don't really take much from it.