Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=dcalde78;50879805]People seem to brand selfishness as a bad thing, but sometimes it's necessary for your own wellbeing.[/QUOTE] Exactly, i'm not sorry for what i did, i had to battle long and hard to come to the decision i needed to better my life. I chose not to live in misery and surrounded by a past that upsets me and i cant be happier now. I still struggle with being bipolar, it's something that isnt going to go away, but atleast it isnt furthened by a toxic life.

man from the sounds of things you definitely made the right decision, and you stood by it too, which takes some strength. unrelated, I sure love getting snapchats from my ex through her sister's account.

So I have this one friend who I'm pretty sure i have developed feelings for, but i just dont know whats going on in her mind. She either treats me like I'm the best thing in the world or pushes me away. One day we'll have the best time together, and then we dont talk. What do you guys think it could be? And I've not always liked her, but since it happened I've gotten slightly more nervous with her around.

Good news everyone her phone was totally fucking fucked, only got one of my texts and hers never arrived found this out when her brother posted on facebook asking for pizza and I sent a free pizza with my papa points and he asked me about it

So how do I engage in conversation with someone I've only spoken to maybe two times? I got the number of someone who works at a tattoo parlor, because I've been there a few times to drive my mother home because she's been getting a lot of work done on her legs, and I've had a few chats with this girl who works on piercings. She seems really interested in a lot of things I'm into, and we've talked a bit about said things in person. There's actually a convention her and a lot of the people who work with her are going to this weekend, and I unfortunately couldn't go today which is when she was doing some sort of contest or something with piercings. I texted her that I missed today, but would be there tomorrow and I wanted to know a bit about how the contest went, but all she responded with was that she'd see me tomorrow.

[QUOTE=BoxinShrimp;50881296]So how do I engage in conversation with someone I've only spoken to maybe two times? I got the number of someone who works at a tattoo parlor, because I've been there a few times to drive my mother home because she's been getting a lot of work done on her legs, and I've had a few chats with this girl who works on piercings. She seems really interested in a lot of things I'm into, and we've talked a bit about said things in person. There's actually a convention her and a lot of the people who work with her are going to this weekend, and I unfortunately couldn't go today which is when she was doing some sort of contest or something with piercings. I texted her that I missed today, but would be there tomorrow and I wanted to know a bit about how the contest went, but all she responded with was that she'd see me tomorrow.[/QUOTE] "hey its [insert your name here], would you like to go for a drink some time soon? Are you free [insert day here]?" Usually works for me

Welp I'm in love for the first time call the cops I don't give a fuck. :trumpet: [editline]14th August 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=BoxinShrimp;50881296]I texted her that I missed today, but would be there tomorrow and I wanted to know a bit about how the contest went, but all she responded with was that she'd see me tomorrow.[/QUOTE] Fuck that's a pretty good thing, at least she responded. I say go there, chat with her about the contest and shit, and then ask her out for a drink or something in person if the convo is going well, like throw a "you doing anything after work" in there just to get the ball rolling. You COULD ask her out over text but 100% of the time, asking in person is better even if it's ball-shrinkingly hard to do.

[QUOTE=Qwerty Bastard;50883321] Fuck that's a pretty good thing, at least she responded. I say go there, chat with her about the contest and shit, and then ask her out for a drink or something in person if the convo is going well, like throw a "you doing anything after work" in there just to get the ball rolling. You COULD ask her out over text but 100% of the time, asking in person is better even if it's ball-shrinkingly hard to do.[/QUOTE] Unfortunately, I couldn't make it out to the con. I texted her that I was sorry I couldn't go, but that I'd love to hear how it went sometime. Hopefully she doesn't think I'm flaking on her.

Just need a bit of an insight I've been in a relationship for 4,5 years. Everything in it was great, but my girlfriend dumped me due to "not loving me anymore". This happened in late June, and the breakup has been mentally rough for me. At points I've still falsely hoped for something to work and even met up with her twice, with her responding to me in an old way and having some feelings for me but nope, still nothing. Roughly two weeks ago I've got myself a new girlfriend I really adore, she is absolutely stunning in a lot of ways. Here is when the shit started to happen. 1) First of, I've started mixing up people's names and calling out my ex-girlfriend out loud. This shit is starting to fairly annoy me and everyone around me, especially my current gf I feel very guilty in front of. 2) My libido has severely jumped down. I've started to rarely fap, as well as having some troubles getting the johnny up during sexual preludes. I'm afraid to think that my gf does not turn me on (considering I really love her body features?) From what I can tell, I still cannot get over my GF and have no fucking idea how to do this, as well as how to sort my head out. Thoughts?

Personally I think a month of downtime seems pretty short for such a long relationship - especially as you say you care a lot. Are you sure you're ready for another relationship already? Seems to me that you still have feelings for your old gf, but maybe you should process those before starting something new.

So I've moved my stuff into my new room at the dorm two days ago and I ended up sleeping with the woman who lives in the room opposite mine. Now she says she loves me and while I really like her I have only met her two times in my life and don't know her that well :s: This could be the start of something really awesome but if things get akward I have to live with her everyday for years. The phrase "you don't shit where you eat" comes to mind but she's so damn cute and I regret nothing. Anyway, I was supposed to be ready to get picked up by my parents at 8 am but woke up spooning at 8:20 so I didn't have time to speak to her and just gave her a peck on the cheek before I ran out. I didn't get her number or anything and I won't see her again until the 21'st. The problem is that I have no idea what I should do when I see her again. I'm worried that she is angry with me and I have no way of communicating with her until I get there.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50889293]Two days? That woman doesn't love you, she doesn't even know you[/QUOTE] I totally agree with you, I like her and want to get to know her though. I just hope she isn't angry so I have to live next to an angry woman for two years. Do you think she will be pissed at me when I get there?

Even if that's true, how can I get her to back off without making her angry now? I slept with her and going over there telling her I don't want to get involved will probably not turn out well.

Oh I will :v: I don't think she's like that though, she has an ex she doesn't like but still get along with so I think she understands relationships. Hey, maybe she's lying and she's only trying to get back at her ex? I would feel kinda used but at least I will be in the clear.

well, I need to at least rant, if anyone has any insights feel free to chime in. So I'll try to keep this post as not rambly as possible. It started back in March - I met the girl who would end up becoming my best friend online. I was in a weird depressive funk because of this girl who I was going to get coffee with [I]as friends[/I] ended up ghosting me on that. Felt like shit, and ended up downloading a bunch of random chatting apps and shit. And on one of them, I saw this girl I thought was pretty cute, and ended up messaging her. I ended up getting her number later the same week and there hasn't been a day that's gone by where we haven't texted. Morning, afternoon, night, you name it. we text a lot. her profile said she wasn't looking for a boyfriend, and during one of our earlier conversations she ended up saying the same thing so I went about respecting those boundaries. So she ended up becoming my best friend. I've never felt more comfortable around before, and able to talk about literally anything. Like, it's weird for me to have found someone that I click with so well like that, it's all kinda new for me. However, we haven't been able to hang out in person a lot. For most of the summer she was working two jobs, as was I, and we live an hour apart so scheduling shit was a bit difficult. But we hung out a few times when schedules permitted and it was even better than when we text. Really natural conversation about whatever, it never feels awkward or anything. and when school starts back up she'll be a lot closer to me and we'll actually be able to hang out more. However, recently I've realized I've got a huge crush on her. like, i get a bit jealous when she's telling me about other guys she meets up with and fucks (granted thats only been like 2 guys) - like don't get me wrong she's perfectly within her bounds to do so, it's not like she and i are in a relationship, but because i like her it still hurts. but, i don't let it show. for example, this past weekend. she had finished one of her jobs and didn't work the other this weekend, so she was going to be hanging with this one guy all weekend (there was going to be a party at his place). we'll call him loverboy. Now, when loverboy first started talking to her he was all like "i just want to make you happy and spoil you", shit like that. I ended up asking her if she liked him, to which she said that he's basically just a sugardaddy to her and that she sorta likes him but not really because like for starters they dont have any actual conversations. Anyway, so she heads off to Loverboy's place, its at the Navy Base, so around 1 1/2 from her place and about 30 minutes from mine (neither of us are against the distance for hanging out, it really just has been schedules all summer). So they hang out for a bit, they fuck, and he just sorta isn't the same person that started texting her. For example, for someone who said he just wants to spoil her and shit, he didn't feed her at all - even after making himself food multiple times, and after she even said "im actually kinda hungry". then after a bit he just kicks her out, saying that his friend broke down 2+ hours away in cape cod so he had to go and help his friend, and she couldn't stay there because there could be a random inspection at any time - even though he still had like moonshine out and a bunch of people were still coming over (she ended up telling me the next day she's not sure if he actually went to cape cod)??? She thought she was going to have to sleep in her car, so I offer her to crash at my place - but she declines. But for a reason we both feel kinda stupid for when we realized this - I assumed she knew where I lived, and she assumed I lived farther north than I do. so she ended up basically driving all the way home and crashing at a friend's place there. He didn't cancel for Sunday, so she ended up heading all the way back. Only to get kicked out again. So she ended up visiting me at work, at the museum I work at. Gave her a tour and spent like the last hour of my shift in the air conditioning shooting the shit with her. She still hadn't really eaten anything (his attempt at getting her food sunday morning was mcdonald's fries), so after my shift we went to a nice place nearby (i offered to pay for her meal cuz of the shitty weekend, but she didn't want me to). It was when we were sitting there eating and talking I realized how lucky I am to have her as my best friend, and it's a huge part of my hesitation with wanting to tell her how I feel (and I know if/when I do that has to be in person). I mean geeze, there were times I felt like I couldn't get a word in - it's nice knowing someone likes talking to me that much. I don't see being her friend as second place or anything and I really love being her friend. I guess my fear is losing that if I tell her my feelings, but telling her and getting an answer of if she likes me that way or not is the only way I'll be able to move on from them.

i need some advice i dated a girl online for 4 months. she was extremely controlling and went through periods of liking me and despising me. she actually admitted to cheating on me when i left her. when i found that out, i stopped talking to her for a while. but we started talking again and stayed friends for a while, then i stopped talking to her altogether because i met someone new and she couldn't keep her feelings about me away. last night my friend told me that she still loves me and that if i was willing she'd come to see me for a week to see if things work out, and if they do, then to move here. i accepted and i'm not sure whether to regret that decision or not. i had just begun to start living my life without thinking about her at all.

She sounds like she's not even worth the time of day, let alone changing your entire life for her. Get away from her. Not gonna end well for you.

you guys are the best, thanks. [QUOTE=bdd458;50894430]well, I need to at least rant, if anyone has any insights feel free to chime in.[/QUOTE] i was in a similar situation with a classmate. i ended up finally telling her the night before graduation and she didn't seem to care all that much. she didn't talk to me at all for the rest of the night, and the next day she made it seem like we were going to continue to be friends. at some point she must've decided i wasn't worth the trouble and just stopped responding to anything i sent her. all women are different though. i think you could just tell her.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50873861]So I'm back And, as of the past few days, I'm on good terms with two people I was previously not on good terms with: 1) A girl from a LONG time ago some of you may remember who, after going out and making out for about two weeks, suddenly blocked me on all forms of social media after I stressed out about her and seemed kind of clingy. Brought me into a really bad place. Now I hang out with her and her friends and we have both forgiven eachother. 2) A really close friend, but there may have been some romatic feelings between us at one point or another. A few weeks ago we cuddled together in her bed and slept with each other overnight (not sex) and she got really mad at me a few days later. I apologized to her and she told me she didn't mean a lot of the stuff she said, she was just confused. We are really good friends now and plan on going to the beach together before I go off to school. We're both at the point where it's like it didn't even happen, which is awesome. Problem is I'm still sort of attracted to both of them (not as much as when I first met them, but it is still there). I'm not crushing really hard on either of them, but there's a part of me that's just waiting for a moment to make a move when we hang out one-on-one. And I know this is really scummy to feel like this about two girls at once (in the event that anything happens, I'll stick with the one that it happened with), but I can't seem to help it. I really do value both of these friendships and I have really awesome times with both of them but, I just feel kind of immasculated, I guess. I don't know the word for it. I've been actively searching for a relationship and have been [I]extremely[/I] sexually frustrated for the past year or two, so I guess it's just hormones. Either way I'm not actively pursuing either of them romantically until I know for sure one of them reciprocates the feeling. I'm not getting any signals that they like me like that, or that they don't. So I don't know. I'm probably just a desperate piece of shit lmao[/QUOTE] So tonight I watched a movie with girl #1 and we laid in bed and we were pretty touchy and flirty. Got TONS of signals. So as she is driving me back to my place, she's realizing the obvious look of "should I kiss her sometime tonight omg" and asks me what's ul. I ask her to stop. She stops in a parking lot and I just put my arm over her, and try to lean and kiss her. Instant rejection :v: We are both cool now though. I just said I thought we had a good night together / sort of date thing and I wanted to take the chance. Probably not gonna come in contact with her as much anymore but at least I took the chance. [editline]18th August 2016[/editline] Basically I misread a lot of her actions tonight as signals and made a move that didn't work out. Whoops.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50905676]So tonight I watched a movie with girl #1 and we laid in bed and we were pretty touchy and flirty. So as she is driving me back to my place, she's realizing the obvious look of "should I kiss her sometime tonight omg" and asks me what's ul. I ask her to stop. She stops in a parking lot and I just put my arm over her, and try to lean and kiss her. Instant rejection :v: We are both cool now though. I just said I thought we had a good night together / sort of date thing and I wanted to take the chance. Probably not gonna come in contact with her as much anymore but at least I took the chance. [editline]18th August 2016[/editline] Basically I misread a lot of her actions tonight as signals and made a move that didn't work out. Whoops.[/QUOTE] don't be too hard on yourself about it (though you don't seem to be so that's good) I think in this day and age sometimes when stuff like that happens it can be hard to tell if there's something there or not - people aren't wizards or mind-readers - so long as once it is clear you respect that you're doing well for example the other night one of my work friends walked me home because I was drunk as fuck and proceeded to hang on my couch with me til like 1:30am and I still to this day cannot figure out if she wanted me to make a move lol

[QUOTE=killerteacup;50905714]don't be too hard on yourself about it (though you don't seem to be so that's good) I think in this day and age sometimes when stuff like that happens it can be hard to tell if there's something there or not - people aren't wizards or mind-readers - so long as once it is clear you respect that you're doing well for example the other night one of my work friends walked me home because I was drunk as fuck and proceeded to hang on my couch with me til like 1:30am and I still to this day cannot figure out if she wanted me to make a move lol[/QUOTE] Thanks, yeah, I just really thought I should have made a move. I guess it's better than not making a move and being unclear. She actually just texted me asking if I wanted to take her to this abandoned dam I told her about and explore it so I'm glad we're good. Anyways, what do you guys think? In a situation like the one I was in, is it better to hold off and not risk anything, and then being unsure of anything, or to take a risk knowing that you might fail, but at least knowing it'll clear stuff up?

[QUOTE=skullorz;50900858]i need some advice i dated a girl online for 4 months. she was extremely controlling and went through periods of liking me and despising me. she actually admitted to cheating on me when i left her. when i found that out, i stopped talking to her for a while. but we started talking again and stayed friends for a while, then i stopped talking to her altogether because i met someone new and she couldn't keep her feelings about me away. last night my friend told me that she still loves me and that if i was willing she'd come to see me for a week to see if things work out, and if they do, then to move here. i accepted and i'm not sure whether to regret that decision or not. i had just begun to start living my life without thinking about her at all.[/QUOTE] Run away holy shit I just let this same thing happen and the hambeast wasted months and made money off our backs, kicked in a wall and disappeared Absolutely do not do this shit [editline]18th August 2016[/editline] Infact what's her first name [editline]18th August 2016[/editline] Ok I just noticed the cheating stuff you REALLY do not do this

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50905780]Thanks, yeah, I just really thought I should have made a move. I guess it's better than not making a move and being unclear. She actually just texted me asking if I wanted to take her to this abandoned dam I told her about and explore it so I'm glad we're good. Anyways, what do you guys think? In a situation like the one I was in, is it better to hold off and not risk anything, and then being unsure of anything, or to take a risk knowing that you might fail, but at least knowing it'll clear stuff up?[/QUOTE] personally i think what you did was the best route. you weren't overly pushy or offended afterwards and since you both seem to be cool now there's always a chance another time. i feel like it's almost always better to take a little chance if it helps you to not sit and kick yourself over what could have happened endlessly after the fact.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50905780] Anyways, what do you guys think?[/QUOTE] I would've taken the risk too, because: A. I don't wanna keep playing mind games with a crush until it reaches the point that I have thrown all of my chances. B. Failing doesn't really matter to me. It sucks of course, but if she wasn't into me anyway there was nothing to lose at the first place. Of course it would be awkward, but I personally do not try staying friends afterwards because of the sheer difficulty of dealing with my feelings for her. I've done it once and I still have feelings for a girl who will never like me more than just friends.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50910875]My great uncle, aged 81, tried to call me at 2:34, I didn't answer. Police say they found him dead at 2:40. I'm not sure how to feel.[/QUOTE] You didn't think about that possibility when you didn't answer him. You didn't know. You did nothing wrong.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50910875]My great uncle, aged 81, tried to call me at 2:34, I didn't answer. Police say they found him dead at 2:40. He was extremely overweight, bad diabetic with an awful diet. Police said it looked like he was trying to give himself an insulin shot, or he fell. I'm not sure how to feel. Kinda afraid to let anyone know, I feel guilty, even though there isn't anything I could've done.[/QUOTE] I had a phone conversation with a job companion 30 minutes before he and two of his friends died in a car crash. Was supposed to hang on the bar with them. After that I've never stopped having thoughts about all my relatives whenever I speak with them on the phone or real life "Will this be my last words with them?". You never know that shit'll happen, and it hurts to never stop thinking about it.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50910875]My great uncle, aged 81, tried to call me at 2:34, I didn't answer. Police say they found him dead at 2:40. He was extremely overweight, bad diabetic with an awful diet. Police said it looked like he was trying to give himself an insulin shot, or he fell. I'm not sure how to feel. Kinda afraid to let anyone know, I feel guilty, even though there isn't anything I could've done.[/QUOTE] Oh jesus that's really sad to hear I'm so sorry

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Oh jeez... I haven't talked to my friend in nearly a year because he wants to be left alone but I was on Reddit and replied to a guy then noticed his username is an alias my friend uses It has to be him His old Reddit I knew about stops having posts around the time this one was made, and they both post near exclusively in marvel film threads [editline]22nd August 2016[/editline] I loved this friend like a brother he's pretty cool and I could really use a friend right now but he's gonna think I'm stalking him