Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

So I've been spending a lot of time with a co-worker lately and she's pretty cool, good looking and "my type". Tempted to ask her out on a proper date (we've been hanging out a lot) - but she's "seeing" some guy She's very open about how it's not serious and how it's just sex with this guy but still feels like an obstacle I'm still gonna ask anyway because I don't like sitting on these things and would rather get rejected now than later Thanks for reading my blog post. PS Girl in question fell asleep on my arm while holding my hand at a party the other night, that was cute

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;50958086]When you're getting out of a good relationship it's common to look for a "replacement" with the same good qualities your ex had, but every relationship is going to be different. [/QUOTE] This clicked really hard. At this moment I went into another relationship deeply after a really really long time of insanely good relationship. And I am so confused because this girl is a fuckton better than my ex in almost every single way. The problem is that I am a bit anxious over the fact that I have simply "substituted" my feelings from one girl onto another and that my feelings for her (love, even) is not sincere. It's driving me insane. I have never felt so good in a long time, but I am so devastated over the fact that I may cause current gf emotional pain. Has anyone undergone anything similar?

I've been having such a drama overload in the past few days that I've just reached this kind of drama-vana where I am so absolutely beyond all of it that I am no longer capable of stressing about it. Anyone keeping up with my last few posts... This girl who told me "My relationship is falling apart because I told him about us"... Well I found myself worrying about her this morning because she seemed to be in bad shape yesterday and I'm only human, I can't help feeling bad for the important people in my life. So I texted her to try and touch base and see if there's anything she wanted to talk about. She sends back "It happened around Halloween once, we were blackout drunk, that's all." Just coaching me on how to lie to her boyfriend should he ever ask me about my history with her. She followed it immediately with "Don't respond to this." I interpret this "don't respond" in a couple of ways. One is "don't respond" as in "fuck off, i want nothing to do with you" and the other possibility is "don't respond" as in "my boyfriend could be checking my phone." Or maybe it's both! I highly doubt that the guy will try to contact me or anything. But if he does, I'm inclined to just tell him the truth about everything. I have absolutely no obligation to lie for her sake, to help her perpetuate this relationship that is apparently held together by lies. I think I have more of an obligation to tell the truth for a relative stranger than I do to tell lies for someone I'm not exactly on friendly terms with. And it's not like I have to lie and cover MY OWN ass, I'm fully secure in the knowledge that I've done nothing wrong. But obviously I'm not going to seek this guy out to tell him shit or sabotage their relationship in any way, because like I said, I'm pretty much beyond any emotional investment at this point. I am too fed up to bother putting forth the energy to harbor any ill will. I imagine that if ANYBODY is jeopardizing their relationship, it's not me, the guy who had sex with her before they were dating. More than likely it's her, telling him lies. Because really, what reasonable person would be mad at their partner for having other partners before them? That doesn't strike me as the kind of thing somebody gets mad about. I think it's way more likely that she talked about me in the past, but insisted that we NEVER had sex. I think now she's just getting caught in her own lies. Also gotta find it funny how she was always fully honest and up-front with me, the guy who was always "just friends" with her, but with her boyfriend she feels the need to formulate this whole narrative and perpetuate all these lies to stay with him. Shit has just been so nutty lately. I almost WANT something else to happen, just to see how deep the rabbit hole can go, but at the same time I'm enjoying my position here on the sidelines, about as detached as I can be at this point.

So I've lived with the woman from my dorm that I slept with for about a week now and we are pretty good friends. Turns out she isn't crazy after all, or so I hope because she has my spare key now :v: [editline]30th August 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Loofiloo;50971648]Text[/QUOTE] Yeah just leave it alone and be yourself. If she wants to talk to you she will talk to you and even if she doesn't she's acting like an idiot and will realize it at some point if she's a friend worth having.

So in one week time i got hit on two times, first was a girl on my new job who started to chitchat with me after knowing her for like 30 minutes, she kept insisting we would go to some Oktoberfest together and after explaining i was already in a relationship she started to add me on instagram, snapchat and facebook and got angry when i did not accepted those invites. Second time was at a party where i was sitting on the lap of some other girl that i vaguely know and she started to pinch my ass and kinda attempted to grab my junk all the while my girlfriend was sitting about two chairs next to me, i got off to get a beer and once i got back she was making signs that i should sit back and i kinda took off to a other room, basically sexual harassment i believe..

[QUOTE=SuperLoz;50967778]So I've been spending a lot of time with a co-worker lately and she's pretty cool, good looking and "my type". Tempted to ask her out on a proper date (we've been hanging out a lot) - but she's "seeing" some guy She's very open about how it's not serious and how it's just sex with this guy but still feels like an obstacle I'm still gonna ask anyway because I don't like sitting on these things and would rather get rejected now than later Thanks for reading my blog post. PS Girl in question fell asleep on my arm while holding my hand at a party the other night, that was cute[/QUOTE] Update: She said no - but that's what I expected and anything that helps me get over anxiety in asking is a plus If I remember correctly, it went like this (paraphrasing) Me: So are you and [whatshisface] exclusive? Her: No.. like.. I dunno.. We haven't really said anything like that Me: So if I asked you out on a date..? Her: No.. I mean I would see other people but I wouldn't like date anyone if ya know what I mean Me: Yeah, sure (I did not know what she meant)

I'm starting to think she thought you were just asking her a hypotetical question and not actually asking her out for real. I would try again if I were you. At least that's what I got from the conversation you posted :v

Maybe she thinks exclusive means a controlled relationship? Sounds odd. Unless she's saying she'd screw around but not try to form a new relatonship

She's pretty much saying that she and the guy are having relations and while she wouldn't mind screwing around with someone else, because they're not an "exclusive" couple, she probably also doesn't want to date anyone else in case their relationship DOES turn into something exclusive. I mean either way it's a no.

[QUOTE=TheBloodyNine;50961672]I don't want to ruin what we have. She's like, my best friend and I don't think I've ever not enjoyed time spent with her. The only 'problem' I ever had with her is how worried I was hearing about the shit she was getting into, but she admitted it'd a problem and that she's been trying to get away from it. Ugh. Maybe I should just keep my mouth shut. This is all so confusing.[/QUOTE] Decided to shut the fuck up about it. No reason to ruin what we have just because I'm lonely. I'd rather have a good friend than a relationship that'd probably end eventually anyway.

What dating site, if any, do you guys recommend? I remember there being some talk about, I think OKCupid once upon a time in this thread, but I can't remember. I was thinking about making a Tinder account but figured I'd see if you guys had any suggestions first. I really need to meet outside people, all I know are co-workers and I just feel the strong need to meet someone new. It feels impossible for me though and a dating site is all I can think of at this point.

Tinder and Bumble work. If you go for Tinder I can give you some good tips for it. Used to use Plenty of Fish and that was alright.

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[B]Pictures:[/B] Have a clear picture of your face, zoomed out a bit so they know you're not fat, don't make it a selfie unless it's with someone else. You don't want to look weird just taking pics of yourself. No mirror shots. Try and get a picture with a dog as your main pic. Have two or three pictures of you doing or showing something interesting. For me its paintballing, painting and wearing my uniform. Don't be overweight. You don't have to look amazing but just don't be too out of shape. Have another picture of you and a group of friends. Try and not make it all girls or like you're fawning over girls. Just something so she knows you're not some weird loner, or at least so she thinks you're not some weird loner. Make sure your pics are well lit and complement you. Blurry nighttime selfies or whatever are an immediate turn-off. [B]Bio:[/B] Have it start with a joke, middle be something interesting and end with a joke. Say what you do, mention an interesting story, and list your cooler hobbies in the center. Even if you rarely do them. 99% of guys say some generic shit about loving sports or movies or music. Say something interesting, even if you embellish it. Like if you love collecting figurines, say treasure hunting. Worst comes to worst you'll make it sound so interesting to the point it's funny. Don't be too self-complementary. It's a dating profile, not a resume. Make good jokes. Even if you're not funny. Women love to laugh, and if they even chuckle at your bio it adds like, thirty points right there. Having a joke at the start gets her to read through the whole thing and having one at the end helps leave a positive impression, making the middle portion funny, if not one big joke, keeps her interest and makes you look even better. [B]Chatting:[/B] Open with something interesting. Generally, it's up from the vibe you got from her profile whether you'll go flirty or joking or somewhere in between. I'll give two examples: One girl had six different pictures in six different places but somehow had the exact same pose and smile in all of them, as if she was photoshopped. So I said, "Wow, you've perfected that smile." Flirty and nice, and showed I looked at her pics. Another girl said in the beginning of her profile that "You've been visited by the skeletal tinder user of updoot doom, swipe right and good fortunes will be upon you, swipe left and only match with fat people forever!!!" (she was hot okay) and I opened up with "I have a policy of not dating anyone with danker memes than me" and we proceeded to send stupid pics to each other. It showed I read her bio and I started on something that she clearly knows about. Probably not the best examples, but generally it varies from girl to girl. Normally saying something funny is the best way in since that's interesting. Notice in neither of my examples I just said "hi" or "how are you" or "ur pretty". The average girl on Tinder is going to match with over a hundred guys in a week if she uses it consistently. I get the most matches of anyone I know and I might get that in a month of dedicated use if I'm lucky. 99% of those guys are just going to flood her inbox with boring shit like "hi" so you need to say something to stand out. Also, notice in both situations I mention something about romance. First one I flirted by complimenting her, the second one I implied I wanted to date her, in both when I continued the conversation I kept things vaguely romantic. Don't go overboard because if you just keep implying you like her face and want to do her then you're going to come off as one of Tinder's many creeps, but keep it in the back of her head that you're not here for friendship. Secure her number ASAP as well. Tinder is easy to ignore and if you don't get a phone number she'll probably drift off. Either you'll get lost in her many matches, she'll get bored of you or God knows what else. When you're a contact in her phone then you've stepped in through the door. It's a lot harder to just ignore a text message and takes more to delete a contact, and most importantly, if you're in her contacts, [I]you're no longer just some random dick on Tinder.[/I] Being in her contacts implies a level of intimacy and you'll get a lot more leeway. Also spell correctly and have good grammar. And only use as many emojis as she does.

[QUOTE=riku2211;50976588]I really need to meet outside people, all I know are co-workers and I just feel the strong need to meet someone new. It feels impossible for me though and a dating site is all I can think of at this point.[/QUOTE] Take classes for something or pick up a new activity. I have a few friends who have met a ton of people because of krav maga. Personally, I have made quite a few friends at my rock climbing gym. There's also the added benefit of getting in shape. I used OKC for a while earlier this year and it put me off online dating. Many of the people I found interesting online were not nearly as interesting to me in person, and it's easy to discredit someone you'd otherwise get along with in real life because of something about their online persona. It's worth trying anyway, but talking to people in real life just feels a lot more organic.

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I don't know how this is happening but it seems like I'm just systematically alienating everyone in my life. Sorry if my ongoing saga bothers anyone but I'm posting here because of shit that ties into today. Another friend of mine called me a few hours ago to ask me about all the shit I've been going through. She was riding her bike at the time, but she couldn't keep up riding and talking at the same time, so she had to cut me off mid-story and said "I'll call you back in two seconds ok?" Well, about two or three hours went by. I figured she forgot so I texted "That's a pretty long two seconds" and got no response. So I finished the movie I was watching then got on my computer, and I see that she's on Skype. So I message again, "2 seconds right?" and she tells me I get 2 sentences to completely summarize everything that's happened. I say "well where did I leave off?" and all she says in response is "that's 1 sentence." I waited a good two minutes for her to ACTUALLY respond to my question, but she didn't. And it struck me as really rude and disrespectful. So I just say "whatever, forget it." She calls me grumpy (STILL not making any actual attempt to talk to me) and I say "Well I figure if you weren't going to call me back then you don't really care." She started telling me off saying that she got "distracted" and went to run errands for an hour and was sleepy when she got home, so it's really unfair for me to assume she doesn't care, that my acting like this stresses her out, and I'd better not speak to her again until I learn to improve my mood and reevaluate. I really don't think that was an unfair assumption for me to make. I figure if you REALLY want to talk about something, you don't get distracted with mundane things for hours, then finally tell the person they only get two sentences, and refuse to have an actual dialogue with them. I don't think it's crazy for me to think she's acting like someone who doesn't give a shit.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;50976962]Take classes for something or pick up a new activity. I have a few friends who have met a ton of people because of krav maga. Personally, I have made quite a few friends at my rock climbing gym. There's also the added benefit of getting in shape. I used OKC for a while earlier this year and it put me off online dating. Many of the people I found interesting online were not nearly as interesting to me in person, and it's easy to discredit someone you'd otherwise get along with in real life because of something about their online persona. It's worth trying anyway, but talking to people in real life just feels a lot more organic.[/QUOTE] This is a really good idea, thanks for that. I had wanted to try something a few months ago but never got the chance, now that my life has slowed down a bit I think I could make it happen. I might still try out Tinder just to see what happens but I do want to do something like a class, maybe some sort of martial art. Thanks guys, I appreciate the input!

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50981999]It sounds like she was trying to be cute and/or funny with the 2 sentences thing, she probably expected you to also reply with something silly[/QUOTE] I think it's likely, but I was not in a joking mood since 1) I waited hours for her to call and she never did, and 2) It's not a subject I want to joke about, and she should know this. Like, if it was a joke, it came across disrespectful because the subject is something serious to me. And if it wasn't a joke, it came across disrespectful because it suggests she just has no desire to talk to me. Either way, she just told me off and signed off in a huff, and once again I find myself questioning if I should bother to keep trying to talk to someone who WAS really important in my life.

you guys got tips or advice on how to break it off with my best friend? i never thought id say this lol i know it wont be clean, but id rather something get done rather than nothing ive had bad vibes from him starting last year and im finally seeing how manipulative and fake he really is. now after a few months it has became really bad and more obvious than ever. The disrespect towards me, how different he acts around other people compared to just me, the small lies and the manipulative emotional tactics he uses. Ive seen him pull it off on many people and they never see through it. he keeps fucking with freshman girls and never stops. he keeps fucking with this one girl that used to like him. he didnt like her back, but had the idea to message her and make her like him again, only for my friend to say fucked up shit again, then she hates him, blocks him from FB, and repeat. like 3 times now. we were going to hang out with someone weve not talked to in a while. his way of fitting in is ignoring me the whole time and treating me like the third wheel. whenever id try to get a word out id get a insult back or no response and get ignored. ive been there for him many times only to be treated with plain disrespect and shit. nigga says hes there for me but feels like he never is and guilt trips me for small little things hes done for me in the past. small things. unfortunately im in a tough position right now. im fresh out of high school and looking for work and he keeps wanting to hangout with me. ive started to dread it every time but still say yes hoping for something to change. definition of fucking insanity. i want to tell all of this to him but i dont have the guts to do it yet. me writing this here will help me remember what to say as well wow, rereading this really makes me realize how bad he really is lmao which is why im asking for advice here, then ill drop all of this onto him when i get the good chance, aka having a job/stable income for a year and maybe try to get into a community college afterwards. i feel much better getting this off my chest Edit: theres much more about him than listed here but i havent bothered elaborating that much

Hang out with him and tell him to his face what's wrong. If he doesn't immediately apologize and try and make ammends or w/e then leave.

[QUOTE=sourcegamer101;50982620]you guys got tips or advice on how to break it off with my best friend? i never thought id say this lol i know it wont be clean, but id rather something get done rather than nothing ive had bad vibes from him starting last year and im finally seeing how manipulative and fake he really is. now after a few months it has became really bad and more obvious than ever. The disrespect towards me, how different he acts around other people compared to just me, the small lies and the manipulative emotional tactics he uses. Ive seen him pull it off on many people and they never see through it. he keeps fucking with freshman girls and never stops. he keeps fucking with this one girl that used to like him. he didnt like her back, but had the idea to message her and make her like him again, only for my friend to say fucked up shit again, then she hates him, blocks him from FB, and repeat. like 3 times now. we were going to hang out with someone weve not talked to in a while. his way of fitting in is ignoring me the whole time and treating me like the third wheel. whenever id try to get a word out id get a insult back or no response and get ignored. ive been there for him many times only to be treated with plain disrespect and shit. nigga says hes there for me but feels like he never is and guilt trips me for small little things hes done for me in the past. small things. unfortunately im in a tough position right now. im fresh out of high school and looking for work and he keeps wanting to hangout with me. ive started to dread it every time but still say yes hoping for something to change. definition of fucking insanity. i want to tell all of this to him but i dont have the guts to do it yet. me writing this here will help me remember what to say as well wow, rereading this really makes me realize how bad he really is lmao which is why im asking for advice here, then ill drop all of this onto him when i get the good chance, aka having a job/stable income for a year and maybe try to get into a community college afterwards. i feel much better getting this off my chest Edit: theres much more about him than listed here but i havent bothered elaborating that much[/QUOTE] Give him an ultimatum and tell him the truth. I did this to my best friend when he I got tired of him constantly lying and making stories up and he changed -- still great friends, although we go to different schools now. I've also ran into the same situation with a girl and I just stopped talking to her; biggest mistake of my life. Fell into a sort of depressed, self-doubting state where I blamed myself for everything. Loose ends are awful and you should always try to find a resolution.

I need a little advice. I'm on a Eurotrip with 2 of my mates. We've currently been in Amsterdam 2 days and are shipping off tomorrow morning. One friend has to go back home tomorrow though so he won't come the rest of the way with us, leaving just me and my other friend. Thing is, the friend that is staying with me is super awkward, pretty timid and soft. I hate to say it, but he's kind of become annoying to me and the other. Whenever we talk, he always brings up video games and other non related shit and is generally just super socially awkward. When we were discussing food, he just cut in and asked which Overwatch cinematic I want next. When we came back from the Red Light District, our [B]female[/B] roommates asked how it was and he said "you know, I was actually bored." Hell, when we were in the Omaha Beach Graveyard in Normandy, he started talking about Binding of Isaac. Wtf? So I'm going to be alone for the rest of the weeks we remain in Europe with this dude. We always want to try new things and get out there, but he never wants to take part, to live a little. He even stayed in our hostel tonight, sitting on the floor making Peanut butter sandwiches. He's become so awkward to be around, what should I do? We've tried for so long to get him out of his shell and just live a little, buy he remains so sheltered. Should I just let the awkwardness continue and suck it up? I'm not saying I want to make him be someone he's not, but I don't want to have to feel awkward talking to him all the time. This whole trip was his idea even, so I dont understand why he's not willing to enjoy it to the full extent. He's just kinda killing the mood. Any advice for dealing with this?

Have you tried getting him a little drunk? Usually alchohal lightens the mood

You know that if you really don't like him you can stop being his alleged "friend" , right? Either find common ground with him or do your things while he does his and then bye-bye

I've known and hung out with the guy since high school. It's tough to explain, I don't necessarily not like the him it's just that he's difficult to hang or party with since he's so timid and seemingly easily frightened or offended by things. Thoa in turn can affect the atmosphere some times. Believe me we've tried getting him drunk before, but he absolutely refuses to have more than one beer.

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so! i havent posted about this in like never, so i would really really like if someone could please throw me a bone. My girlfriend broke up with me 9 months ago. In march she tried getting back to me but i said no since i didn't want to go back to the old "i dont know if i love you" dance she made 4 times in the year and a half of relationship we had. I dated a girl a month later but i knew i was trying to just replace my feelings and this girl was really different, so i truth it up and told her i was still in love with my old girlfriend. She was ok with it and said we could still be friends. After that my ex got really, really happy and suddenly i started to feel like crap. We were uni mates so i still had to see her almost 3 days a week at classes. So i started trying to talk, getting back. She refused me a couple times and i started going into some deep shit. In july i saw in her facebook page that she now had this boyfriend who was this guy she knew before me from the music career she studied for like a semester. I went to fucking hell and at a party that she and the girl i dated a couple times were, my exes "friends" started to scream out of joy about her new relationship, and i was just one meter away from that. I went nuts, out of beer and sadness, and started talking to her, she was nice at the begging but then she just spilled it out "i dont love you. Relationships end. go to a shrink, i cant do anything for you, get lost" or some stuff i dont really know. So, at the middle of this party, i started crying, heavily. I started remembering all the times i traveled at night from my city to hers just to console her at her depression attacks, all the times i had to fix her shit, all the time she promised me eternal love, all the times she felt lost and i had to do everything just to make her feel better and not fucking kill herself. And there i was, lost, rejected, 21 year old drunk me who swore would never drink, and just wanting to fucking die. Luckily, lots of friends comforted me and at the end i made it out from that place. Fast forward a month and a half. Lots of crazy shit, realizations, life changing experiences happen to me. Met lots of people and seeing backwards, im almost entirely a different guy. Learned a fuckton about how the relationship went and why it ended. started to realize everything, like going to the matrix every day of singleness i went throw, all the pain, making me stronger. I already went through my dads death and, believe it or not, getting over the girl who was my first girlfriend, the girl who we went to every class together, the girl who i lived with this past year, the girl who was the first i made love or even kissed has been a fucking surgery to get over, even harder than my fathers death. Started to realize stuff i didnt even look behind. She went from a 3 year old relationship to me in one month. Started thinking about the old boyfriend of hers, who was almost like me in lots of senses. Started to realize she went from out relationship to her new one in almost a month too, since i knew they were dating just in july but they started seeing each other at march-April. So i knew what was going on, and suddenly felt better, powerful, i remembered the time she was still talking to her ex because we had some fights that week, and she said she didnt knew if she liked him or not. I realized we were just with each other the whole year and a half we were together, and that she only talked to me about all her problems, even talked about her ex with me, because she didnt had anyone else. Started realizing when shit started to get hard at uni for me, she felt left and started talking to her new boyfriend. Realized she made me feel ill for everything i tried hard to accomplish. Realized all the life this past year i recovered up, all the friends i left behind that now i met again, realized how much of a person i invested in her and how much i was now the person she had to be for me when we were together. Realized all the pain and endurance i had to take. Realized all the beating i had to take, realized all the girls this past year that tried dating me and i said no. Realized that in my search, i was trying looking for a new girlfriend...when the answer i was looking for was me, and loving myself, and fixing myself, which i was doing with every bit of sadness i had to went through all this year. All this knowledge, that i gained from pain, made this year great. i still cry myself every night to sleep, and uni hast been that good, but still. This is the second time all my dreams and hopes go to the fucking toilet, but there i am. I won a short film contest, won $5000 bucks, bought myself a computer and a camera and now with my old camera, i been working on a photography portfolio. I even made a documentary last semester which was applauded by the critics at the showing. I was a class assistant for the first video workshop and all the students loved me. Gained lots of friends, experience, lots of teacher now ask me for jobs and it feels great. Now, uni students have this facebook page where, anonymously, they post confessions and stuff like that, and there she was, i just knew it was her. The text goes roughly like this: "Cheers up for my ex. To be honest, this is a warm hello, because fuck if he hast suffer like hell and it seems like now hes getting over it. I hope you understand, after all this talking, that we were just harming each other, and even that i loved you soo much and we tried so much, it was all lost. I hope you find a girl that makes you very happy, and fixes you like i tried. You will be always in my heart. Ps: it makes me happy to see you laughing at the unis plate, after all the tears, and that we dont even see each other anymore" I knew it was her since thats almost exactly what she told a friend of ours, which is now more friend of mine, curiously. And after that, i didnt really know how to feel, i mean, its from the heart and seems sincere, its just that i looked at myself and said "you do really want another girl, after all that trying? after you know that you tried 19 years of winning every girls heart you loved, and nothing worked, and it just went smooth when you stopped trying? all the love you had that year and a half and you just hid your problems with happiness, you solved nothing" and i was right, i didnt solve anything, all my problems came back when i was alone again, and this whole year i had to get over those to survive. Theres a lot of work to do but i knew another girl, for now, wasnt gonna solve anything, and somehow my whole life i thought happiness was finding "the" girl. So my question is this: i dont wanna shut my heart but i dont want to confuse things, just like i did when i dated a girl 4 months into the break up. Im still inlove with my ex, and it makes me rage that shes with another guy, but i cant force myself to do something i know it would be bad for the girl i would date and for me, i would be lying to myself. So im having these guidelines to keep going and not die while trying: -No contact with my ex of any sort (this has been easier this semester since we dont have classes together) -No jumping into another relationship or anything really (im not in the mood of even kissing or fooling around to be honest, i wasnt even able to fuck until i was in a good mood and inlove with my ex) -Focus on my career and goals -Fix myself not entirely but to the point where im happy with the person im becoming. What do you guys think? should i keep going with these or am i being to hard on myself? sometimes i think i do these to be on a moral horse and convince myself im better than my ex just to feel better about me being kicked out of the relationship.

It sounds like you've got things figured out. There's no need to jump into a relationship when you don't even want one. It's not something that needs to be forced - eventually you'll fall for someone and know it's the right time to try again. You don't need a relationship to be happy and it's good to take some time to learn how to be alone with yourself. You can be alone without being lonely, and in the way of relationships, you can be lonely without being alone.

so I went out to celebrate a couple of friend's birthdays last night. I managed to pick up a cold so I wasn't feeling great (still not too hot now), but I went anyway since one of my friends is only visiting and I haven't seen some of the people in a while. we went for a meal and it was the first time our group had been together since school about 6 years ago. a couple of my other friends (who also had their birthdays around now, one of which I went to college with) put on a small gig in a local hall which was pretty good, I did some shit flirting that seemed to make the girl laugh (that's what I do best). my ex's sister was also there with her new boyfriend (who I went to college with a few years ago) and she actively avoided me. really obviously as well :v: she went out of the room for a bit and the girl I was badly flirting with happened to be standing by where she was sitting before. she came back in and went to the other side of the room, and when I went to the back of the hall, she went back to her own seat. I don't get it v:v:v