Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

Well, that was a dick move. Just hope he doesn't figure out and go about your daily business. If he does figure out and they hate you, you kinda deserve it. Going behind someone's back is some fucked up shit. If you were concerned for his health, you should have taken it up with him directly, not gone and told authority or whatever. Skipping links in the chain like that is extremely disrespectful.

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;48650881]I do all the time thats why it bugs me that she never tells me :/ [editline]10th September 2015[/editline] And im smoking half a pack a day because i cant calm myself down[/QUOTE] Just make sure the other girl knows it's plutonic. Any relationship you start while already in one will just make both fail. And of course her conversations will sound more interesting for now. You've only just started talking to her so there is a lot of material. It always stagnates later in a relationship.

I feel like i can't involve myselfin any form of relationship. Lets just say i had some social problems growing up, and i learned to cope by growing control over my own emotions. If i ever had feelings for someone, i would simply crush it within myself, and longer have that feeling. But now as i grow up, I realize how much damage this has done to me. I dont feel much of anything, its creepy and disturbing. I can only feel helpless that i cannot comfort someone who is upset or angry. I tossed out the idea of having a relationship because I feel like it wouldn't be fair to the other person, to be eith someone who can terminate all feelings for them in an instant. Its ironic really, that by controlling my emotions, i lost control on what matters to me. But I can't stop. I am trying and relearning how to be genuinely happy or sad or angry, but every time I look into a mirror, I just see a frown molded into my face. Edit: I think to be more precise, I have difficulties expressing what i feel to others and to myself

Just told my best friend tonight I was falling for her. She told me she isn't in a good spot right now and doesn't want any commitment but there is a chance in the future. I don't know how I feel :(

[QUOTE=Wablur;48652886]Just told my best friend tonight I was falling for her. She told me she isn't in a good spot right now and doesn't want any commitment but there is a chance in the future. I don't know how I feel :([/QUOTE] Probably shouldn't hold out hope.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;48652312]Well, that was a dick move. Just hope he doesn't figure out and go about your daily business. If he does figure out and they hate you, you kinda deserve it. Going behind someone's back is some fucked up shit. If you were concerned for his health, you should have taken it up with him directly, not gone and told authority or whatever. Skipping links in the chain like that is extremely disrespectful.[/QUOTE] Disrespectful sure, but when you know it's just a waste of time, why bother anyway? Say, regarding someone who's drunk.

[QUOTE=Wablur;48652886]Just told my best friend tonight I was falling for her. She told me she isn't in a good spot right now and doesn't want any commitment but there is a chance in the future. I don't know how I feel :([/QUOTE] To be honest, you blew it. Confessing feelings like that is an action with very high risk and very low chances of success. It's generally a terrible idea. Now the cat is out of the bag and things will be awkward. Your chances of success are slim to none now.

[QUOTE=Wablur;48652886]Just told my best friend tonight I was falling for her. She told me she isn't in a good spot right now and doesn't want any commitment but there is a chance in the future. I don't know how I feel :([/QUOTE] -snip- So, most likely if a relationship dosen't form with her, you and her might end up becoming closer friends. Who knows. *wow I cannot type today, I had to re-write that maybe 5 times*

ok so this girl on okc stopped messaging me for a week bc she was in hospital but messages me yesterday, we chat non stop and literally go on a late night coffee date after i finished work and honestly it was one of the best decisions i made and i feel happy bc it feels my life is slowly going back on track again

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48653455]-snip- So, most likely if a relationship dosen't form with her, you and her might end up becoming closer friends. Who knows. *wow I cannot type today, I had to re-write that maybe 5 times*[/QUOTE] From the way she rejected it it sounds more like it will be more awkward of a friendship not closer.

[QUOTE=da space core;48652732]I feel like i can't involve myselfin any form of relationship. Lets just say i had some social problems growing up, and i learned to cope by growing control over my own emotions. If i ever had feelings for someone, i would simply crush it within myself, and longer have that feeling. But now as i grow up, I realize how much damage this has done to me. I dont feel much of anything, its creepy and disturbing. I can only feel helpless that i cannot comfort someone who is upset or angry. I tossed out the idea of having a relationship because I feel like it wouldn't be fair to the other person, to be eith someone who can terminate all feelings for them in an instant. Its ironic really, that by controlling my emotions, i lost control on what matters to me. But I can't stop. I am trying and relearning how to be genuinely happy or sad or angry, but every time I look into a mirror, I just see a frown molded into my face. Edit: I think to be more precise, I have difficulties expressing what i feel to others and to myself[/QUOTE] I think you may have depression. Get some help. We're not exactly experts in pulling yourself up but professional help gets you back on track pretty easy.

I'm dating a very nice girl next Saturday, we've been teasing each over for weeks over text and it all really clicks together. One concern though is that she has really poor self-confidence, and is uncomfortable with marks of affections like hugging, kissing, etc... With her friends at least. She told me half-an-hour ago over text that she wanted to hug me so we think it really depends on context but she's not really sure about that since she never had a boyfriend before. Speaking of which, it makes her kind of nervous that it's the first time she'll do anything love-related really. She's been in a girl-only school since she's 6 so I suspect that has something to do with it. I told her I'm exactly in the same situation as she is (which is true) so I won't notice any "mistake" on her part in the first place, and that we'll just go with the flow. She's really excited but very anxious at the same time. Anything I could do to placate her that I haven't already?

[QUOTE=_Axel;48653879]She's been in a girl-only school since she's 6 so I suspect that has something to do with it. I told her I'm exactly in the same situation as she is (which is true)[/QUOTE] you were in a girls only school as well? nice how did you get away with it

well i feel really good again, my girl was working an overnight shift and i stayed up texting her all night.

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;48653907]you were in a girls only school as well? nice how did you get away with it[/QUOTE] I'm the main character of an anime. No seriously, I meant that I never had a girlfriend before.

[QUOTE=HandsomeFrog;48652270]fucking lost. I'm basically crazy for this redheaded chick, I like her pic's on instagram. she likes my stuff back once or twice in awhile. She go's to my church. She has a twin brother. I caught her twin brother dipping chewing tobacco at the church. So I told someone, I felt like I needed too ya know? Like for his health and shit..I knew their parents wouldn't approve of him doing that. So now, I'm not sure what to do next. I'm just lost. Her brother and I were supposed to see a movie sometime but if he figures out what I did, I may never see her again[/QUOTE] Yea because getting in trouble with parents really stops someone from doing something. Would of been better if you had just talked to him yourself man, all the times I got caught with drugs by my parents back in the day didn't stop me from doing them it just made me more careful to not get caught.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48653859]We're not exactly experts in pulling yourself up but professional help gets you back on track [b]pretty easy.[/b][/QUOTE] If your problems were so simple that you can say therapy is easy, and imply that it doesn't take a lot of effort to overcome mental disorders like depression, then I envy you.

So that girl I mentioned a few weeks back that kissed me and backed out all of a sudden? We have a date tomorrow that I'm really excited for. Turns out she was just confused about her feelings for me, and we ended up spending a weekend at the lake with our friends and she started getting really flirty again, which made me wonder if she really only saw me as a friend. So I went over to her place the following Monday and she just told me that she was really just indecisive and confused about the whole situation [sp]and likely still hesitant to start a relationship, seeing as the last guy she was with a year ago pushed her boundaries way too far repeatedly[/sp] and after spending more time with me realized that she is, in fact, really attracted to me. I've seen her almost every day since then and we're texting a lot, this looks like it's going to work out finally and I'm very happy. I've spent the better part of 6 months trying to better myself after being rejected by her the first time, and now that circumstances are better and my body/habits are much healthier I'm glad that things finally turned around and we can be together. I'm just sort of paranoid that I'm going to fuck it up and it's going to fall apart again. But I know that feeling is silly and that I should just do the best I can and I enjoy it for what it is.

Hey guys, first time posting in one of these threads. Can't really sleep, it's driving me nuts. Sorry for the absurdly long wall of text! I really don't know where to start, a brief intro to my life perhaps? I'm 21, not very shy, have had lots of ups and downs in insecurities throughout my entire life. Have had some weirdly traumatic love.. lessons.. that really shaped me into what I am. I've been in three long-time relationships, one of which was also a long-distance relationship. My first girlfriend and I were very very inexperienced and the whole thing isn't really worth mentioning, other than that I was kind of a dick to her near the end, which I regret, since she was never mean to me or anything. Having someone at that time of my life really meant a lot for my self-esteem though, which I value a lot. Keep in mind this was about 8 years ago, I was really happy when we first kissed. Like top of the line impossible-to-stop grin the entire day. My theater club found out almost immediately.. Recently found out she's pregnant! Life's weird. I met a few people after her, one of which really affected my perception about how people change. She was adorable, clever, loved games. We met at my best friend's birthday party. She hooked up with another guy which bummed me out since we spent some hours talking the previous night. Fast forward to present time, she's one of the sluttiest girls I've seen, literally going out every night, having the time of her life, fucking guys like there's no tomorrow. She's not relevant anymore. The Internet has had such an impact on me it's not even funny. I've been here for far too long. I've seen so much gore, weird fetishes, etc. it numbed me completely. And I've caught weird kinks of my own, the biggest of which is that I like girls who are relatively younger than me. This gets me to where I was back in 2011. I was 17, met a girl in the beginning of summer who was into very very weird stuff for her age. She was 13. I lost my virginity to her. We experimented a lot in what seemed like a really short month. After that she just cut all strings and we parted ways without thinking much about eachother. This was when I was part of this local summer activities group for kids (We take them to the beach, municipal pool, visit tourist sites, the zoo, etc). Weirdly enough I was put with the oldest lot, 13~14 year olds. Heh. Out of all of the kids there, two girls stuck out. When the summer thing ended, I had both her numbers' and one of them hugged me, kissed my cheek and told me she really liked that month. Let's call her cookie. You see, cookie started out as a really really good friend. She was the first person I felt a really strong emotional bond, and she was a beautiful mess. She had a boyfriend at the time, who I proceeded to make go away by very strong persuasion. [sp]Was at a party, very very drunk and decided to call the guy and tell him all sorts of manipulative threats. After a few days he left and cookie told me "someone" had talked him into giving up on her.[/sp] Cookie was someone special, but like all things good, she went away because I fucked up. I told her what I felt and it shattered every bit of chance I had with her. Enter her best friend at the time, the other girl from that summer group. We hit off really fast, kind of a rebound thing I guess. But alas, it turned into my second and longest relationship. This was all when I started college too. A bit of a sidenote here: My birthday and the number 127 have had a huge impact on my life, from representing key points in big changes, to the people I meet, and all the coincidences that seem to find me within this number. [sp]Hence my website 127.wtf[/sp] Come my birthday, I invite her and at night we made out, everything looked like it was going nicely. Thing is, I still had feelings for cookie. The next few months were very bumpy. A rollercoaster of emotions, of learning and teaching. Did I mention she was 14? Eventually we grew into eachother and things started looking bright more often than not. But cookie was still there. She was always there, and we were becoming fast friends again. Flirt, lovely texts, but I couldn't ever cheat. It wasn't in me. I couldn't even get myself to get as emotionally invested as cookie was. This went on for a while, I was already sexually active at the time, but I never expected what came this summer. Cookie, my girlfriend and I were hitting a point of tension which I can only describe as GOOD. They both told me and eachother everything, it made for some weird conversations. The day came. We were at the beach for a few hours, playing Uno, just casually having fun and suddenly things took a sharp turn into sex themes. Games and positions we'd wish we try, all sorts of very interesting subjects. You can see where this is heading by now. We went to my place to watch a movie, when we got there they both went to my bathroom to take a bath. I assumed it was a girl thing. But then they asked me to join them. And oh my god I did. We took a bath together and did it all afterwards, still in the bathroom. It was glorious. Definitely the peak of my life. I would end it here and die happy. That's the story of how 18 year old me got the most magnificent boost of self-esteem by having a threesome with two [sp]underaged[/sp] teens. Yay, what a piece of shit I am. Sadly this was 3-ish years ago, and I'm still alive. Things went south very quickly. My girlfriend knew I had feelings for cookie but we still had hope for us. So I started talking less and less with cookie, their friendship shattered, lots of emotional breakdowns. One year. [sp]Keep in mind I'm omitting a LOT of fine details for the sake of not writing a book[/sp] Amazing college friends throw me small party at my place, just 6 of us and a couple of vodka bottles. They made me drink a shot of milk and vodka. Eugh. A new chapter begins. At the end of the night we decide to go to chatroullete for shits and giggles. It's really fun when you're a group and you find another group. Specially if you don't speak the same language. And then we find her. Daniella. Red-headed perfection from the other side of the world. Thousands of miles away, with her friend on chatroullete. We spend a good part of an hour talking, enjoying a brief introduction to eachother's cultural differences, our friends eventually fall asleep but we keep talking. I was a bit drunk, and my Spanish gets "better" the drunker I am. I can't really describe what she was or what she meant, but she was my entire life from that point on. My soul-mate. My other half. She filled and expanded the little hole I didn't know I had with happiness and joy and the feeling that we were meant. I broke it off with my girlfriend because we weren't in love and because I had fallen completely for someone else. We were romantic to the fullest extent of the word. Both helpless to eachother. I had never been in love. Not like this. We spent ~750 hours on skype. Talking. Staring. Falling for one another more than anything I could have ever imagined, let alone read about. We talked so much, some 300 thousand messages on facebook, half a million on whatsapp, some 3 to 4 thousand snapchats. I recall spending literally hours looking at her with joy. Just staring. And then crying. We cried so much. We needed to be together but she was from Costa Rica and I'm from Portugal. Divided by an ocean, flaws started to appear, trust is hard in long-distance relationships. It brought the [URL="http://i.imgur.com/1yeD0Uh.jpg"]best[/URL] in us and sometimes the worst. It taught me so much and I really hope I served to teach her too. We learned through each other about God, about life and the important little things. Our timezone differences (6-7 hours) meant the time we had was mainly at night. Prompting me to fuck up my sleeping schedules so much I barely attended my second and third years of college. Someone once told me that you end up regretting the things you didn't do rather than the ones you did. And so I do. She went to spain for a week, spent a day in Portugal, just short of 700km from my then location. We could have met. Maybe things would have been different. I regret it so much, but like all things past, it forged me into who I am and that's how I try to live with everything negative. We had our ups and downs. We suffered a lot but it was one of the rides of my life and I loved every bit of it. Eventually, after a long year and a half and long battles, she said "It's time for us to grow apart". And so we did. This was last february. I haven't been with anyone else since. And well off to the point. Three weeks ago I started talking with a girl I danced with some 3 years ago and had on facebook. I just went fuck it and said "Hey". She's very very lovely and I'm already feeling off about it. I've been striving to fill the massive gaping hole Daniella left in me. And it feels wrong. I see happiness in Mia but at the same time I see confusion and I see the young person she is. She's 7 years younger than me, and that just kills me. I'm starting to fall for her, but I'm so unsure because of her age. She's the closest I've been emotionally to someone this entire year but I'm terribly afraid of her maturity. Tonight she said she wasn't fine at all, said she was sorry two times and that she wasn't in the proper mood. She's the shot at happiness I've been much needing these past few months, and I definitely don't want us to hit it off wrong. Thank you SO MUCH for listening if you've come this far. It means so so much to me to open up like this, and nothing would make me happier than your thoughts on my life <3

[QUOTE=ZpankR;48657112]:incredible:[/QUOTE] Holy shit, how long did it take you to write that? Cool flag by the way.

[QUOTE=Godzillan;48657195]Holy shit, how long did it take you to write that? Cool flag by the way.[/QUOTE] Thank you! About two hours, give or take

I'm happy for you behemoth, fuck the haters.

[QUOTE=ZpankR;48657112] And well off to the point. Three weeks ago I started talking with a girl I danced with some 3 years ago and had on facebook. I just went fuck it and said "Hey". She's very very lovely and I'm already feeling off about it. I've been striving to fill the massive gaping hole Daniella left in me. And it feels wrong. I see happiness in Mia but at the same time I see confusion and I see the young person she is. She's 7 years younger than me, and that just kills me. I'm starting to fall for her, but I'm so unsure because of her age. She's the closest I've been emotionally to someone this entire year but I'm terribly afraid of her maturity. Tonight she said she wasn't fine at all, said she was sorry two times and that she wasn't in the proper mood. She's the shot at happiness I've been much needing these past few months, and I definitely don't want us to hit it off wrong. Thank you SO MUCH for listening if you've come this far. It means so so much to me to open up like this, and nothing would make me happier than your thoughts on my life <3[/QUOTE] 21 - 7 = 14 aaa[I]aaaaaaaa[U]aaaaaaaaaaaaaa[/U][/I]

congrats you're literally a pedophile dude

fun fact romanian age of consent is 15 so you are literally trying to rape a minor

[QUOTE=LordCrypto;48657360]21 - 7 = 14 aaa[I]aaaaaaaa[U]aaaaaaaaaaaaaa[/U][/I][/QUOTE] [QUOTE=PollytheParrot;48657366]congrats you're literally a pedophile dude[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=LordCrypto;48657370]fun fact romanian age of consent is 15 so you are literally trying to rape a minor[/QUOTE] Not that it makes it any better, but I'm from Portugal. Flagdog is wrong. I'm sorry if I'm in any way offending for being who I am. It was really hard for me to pour out some of what I said and some of it might sound overly defensive.. I'm a broken person and bashing me for opening up really hurts. I'm going to bed

I'm kinda expecting a response along the likes of 'Age is just a number!'. Well done for taking the courage to speak out and open up. But it doesn't change the fact that you had sex with 14 year olds at the age of 21. I wouldn't go around talking about hurt feelings, those young girls might regret what they did at such a young age.

[QUOTE=ZpankR;48657479]Not that it makes it any better, but I'm from Portugal. Flagdog is wrong. I'm sorry if I'm in any way offending for being who I am. It was really hard for me to pour out some of what I said and some of it might sound overly defensive.. I'm a broken person and bashing me for opening up really hurts. I'm going to bed[/QUOTE] you opened up sure, but its pretty much "not okay" to do the stuff you do

[QUOTE=ZpankR;48657479]Not that it makes it any better, but I'm from Portugal. Flagdog is wrong. I'm sorry if I'm in any way offending for being who I am. It was really hard for me to pour out some of what I said and some of it might sound overly defensive.. I'm a broken person and bashing me for opening up really hurts. I'm going to bed[/QUOTE] Being who you are is fine, just considerably less fine when you're breaking laws, that is a part of who you are that probably can go.

Don't have sex with minors regardless of your feelings ! ! ! ! it's bad!