Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

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[QUOTE=autodesknoob;51018690]i've been kicking myself in the nuts recently. My ex and her bf are posting photos of them all the fucking places, its nuts. Although i blocked her from facebook, sometimes her name appears on instagram commenting to friends and such, and its too damn temping so i go into it and bam, another thing to think about 3-4 days. I seriously need some advice on self control.[/QUOTE] Stay positive. You'll be fine. I'd say you should focus on yourself for now and surround yourself with positive energy. Hang out with people who bring positive energy into your life.

[QUOTE=A14;51021307]Stay positive. You'll be fine. I'd say you should focus on yourself for now and surround yourself with positive energy. Hang out with people who bring positive energy into your life.[/QUOTE] been there, cant do it too much now since my exams are in and i´ve been just crying the last month without any reading. Although, i must say, that its incredible how much im learning every single day after the break up. I always saw myself as a very intelligent guy, but turns out i didnt know anything about emotions. Just now, 9 months after it, im grasping some conclusions that do look like truth, and to be honest, when i was in the relationship, i never gave it any kind of thought this deep. Sometimes i think i over analyze my exes problems so i dont have to look at mine, and one of the reasons im so mad at her and havent forgiven her its because i havent done that to myself. Im still blaming me a lot for everything, but the difference is i havent look deep into my mistakes as much as i have been looking into hers, and now that shes not part of my life that doesnt seem too useful, or helpful, since the only person thats sticking with my unconditionally is myself.

Is don't breathe a good date movie? I heard it's scary and has a [sp]rape[/sp] scene. I don't want this girl to think that I'm a creep for taking her to a movie with scene like that

[QUOTE=Svinnik;51021736]Is don't breathe a good date movie? I heard it's scary and has a [sp]rape[/sp] scene. I don't want this girl to think that I'm a creep for taking her to a movie with scene like that[/QUOTE] Really depends on what both of you like. Does she like creepy movies? If not, suggest something else.

I have this horrible problem of liking someone but the fear of losing a good friend if I ask that person out and get rejected. There's a girl I currently like at my work and I don't know if she has a boyfriend or not. Normally I would just ask her out but I got that fear holding me back. Plus the uncertainty of her having a boyfriend or not

Life is a fucking trip, I've been through some low points but overall I just love it so much. I just love living and experiencing different things and learning and bettering myself and meeting new people. Just remember guys, it could always be better, it could always be worse, but life will never, ever be anything but exactly what it is. Make the best of it. Be grateful, y'all, keep truckin'.

[QUOTE=Wealth + Taste;51023190]Life is a fucking trip, I've been through some low points but overall I just love it so much. I just love living and experiencing different things and learning and bettering myself and meeting new people. Just remember guys, it could always be better, it could always be worse, but life will never, ever be anything but exactly what it is. Make the best of it. Be grateful, y'all, keep truckin'.[/QUOTE] i'm just in it for the salted peanuts

I've had two guys and one girl hit on me over the past few days. This semester isn't off to a bad start.

since i am the kind of dude that tries never to start anything or disagree with people and try to be liked by everyone, i can flow into many social circles easily, from the popular ppl to the outcasts. always a nice new group of people, but all of the assholes stay the same. the problem with being so flowy is i dont have a lot of long term friends, maybe like 4 or 5 at most. theres just no chance cause everyone either moves away or is focused doing they own thing

[QUOTE=sourcegamer101;51025708]since i am the kind of dude that tries never to start anything or disagree with people and try to be liked by everyone, i can flow into many social circles easily, from the popular ppl to the outcasts. always a nice new group of people, but all of the assholes stay the same. the problem with being so flowy is i dont have a lot of long term friends, maybe like 4 or 5 at most. theres just no chance cause everyone either moves away or is focused doing they own thing[/QUOTE] 4 or 5 long term friends is about what most people have though. sometimes even less. I have about 5

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;51024968]I've had two guys and one girl hit on me over the past few days. This semester isn't off to a bad start.[/QUOTE] it's pretty fun dating girls im just saying ...try it [editline]10th September 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Svinnik;51021736]Is don't breathe a good date movie? I heard it's scary and has a [sp]rape[/sp] scene. I don't want this girl to think that I'm a creep for taking her to a movie with scene like that[/QUOTE] Dog there's a scene where the blind guy jerks off onto a plate, sucks it into a turkey vaster, and almost shoves it into a girl And they show like all of it go see literally any other movie

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;51029408] Dog there's a scene where the blind guy jerks off onto a plate, sucks it into a turkey vaster, and almost shoves it into a girl And they show like all of it go see literally any other movie[/QUOTE] wtf

there's a slow motion shot of a pube falling out of the end of the baster, too it's weirdly cinematic

so, being single and not giving a shit literally makes you hot stuff really, been asked out by 5 girls this year that makes it 7 counting all my life Met a girl the other day. Friend of friends. Talked to me by facebook and told her its kidna weird for me to get to know a person so much by social media, so, she asked me out. And, well, it was fucking great. Dont know what the future holds but i dont care, at least yesterday felt stuff i didnt know i would feel again. Its been 9 months since my last kiss with my ex, and yesterday, well, felt amazing. I hope i dont give away myself as fast or easy as the last time, but we will see, im stronger now, i now have myself.

[QUOTE=autodesknoob;51030007]so, [B]being single and not giving a shit literally makes you hot stuff [/B] really, been asked out by 5 girls this year that makes it 7 counting all my life Met a girl the other day. Friend of friends. Talked to me by facebook and told her its kidna weird for me to get to know a person so much by social media, so, she asked me out. And, well, it was fucking great. Dont know what the future holds but i dont care, at least yesterday felt stuff i didnt know i would feel again. Its been 9 months since my last kiss with my ex, and yesterday, well, felt amazing. I hope i dont give away myself as fast or easy as the last time, but we will see, im stronger now, i now have myself.[/QUOTE] Can confirm, and I'm not such hot stuff

Take that bitch to see War Dogs or something [editline]10th September 2016[/editline] It's fun, non-violent and informative/interesting about real events it's literally rated R purely off of language, there was no nudity or gore

[QUOTE=VenomousBeetle;51030555]Take that bitch to see War Dogs or something [editline]10th September 2016[/editline] It's fun, non-violent and informative/interesting about real events it's literally rated R purely off of language, there was no nudity or gore[/QUOTE] it can be WAY worse oh boy my cousin took his ex (with which he now has a child) to watch BLUE VALENTINE 2 row of seats each one apart, at the same theater, mad at each other a [sp]rape[/sp] scene is nothing, really

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;51029408]it's pretty fun dating girls im just saying ...try it[/QUOTE] I'm not [i]opposed[/i] to it (and apparently I now have a wise lesbian mentor because of this fact), I just would need to first get over my love of "lumbersexual" looking guys.

Girl had not texted me back = GG

[QUOTE=autodesknoob;51030007]so, being single and not giving a shit literally makes you hot stuff.[/QUOTE] Y'know I hear this a lot but I don't know if I fully understand the connotations behind it. When you say not giving a shit do you mean about dating/being single? That's what I assume anyway.

[QUOTE=UntouchedShadow;51040841]Y'know I hear this a lot but I don't know if I fully understand the connotations behind it. When you say not giving a shit do you mean about dating/being single? That's what I assume anyway.[/QUOTE] theres a certain "attitude" that, overall, makes you desirable, and thats not being "needy". Now, thats impossible for me. The ONLY way i achieved that was by being dumped by my girlfriend. I was in a state of "i dont care about you other girls, i have one that i love" so i was HONESTLY not interested in the ones who talked to me. Then, later, the feeling transformed itself in a honest "i really dont care/want" and that attitude, somehow, can be read and sensed, so unconsciously (i guess) you seem more of a guy that needs to be "achieved" instead of a guy who girls can pick, say a few things and done, you are interested/inlove. Losing everything, like losing love, really puts you in a position where you dont care about being a little fake to impress people, you just act honestly and, somehow, that releases your inner self, more confident and honest, so people see you for who you are. Guess its a combination of: honesty, confidence, not being interested + a damaged cool look you get from heart ache. There, you are every movie protagonist.

I'm going through a similar thing right now. Fell way too hard for a girl a couple of months ago and she left me when school started last week. All my life, I've catered my responses to particular people depending on how I view them (a girl that's "out of my league" for example) but ever since my break-up, I honestly couldn't give a shit how people perceive me or what I say. People respect when you're capable of honesty with confidence, regardless of the outcome of it. Personally, I've decided to build on my friendships instead of chasing a new relationship. I am very aware of some of my insecurities and how heavily they affect my dating life, so I think it's time for me to pack up that part of myself for the time being while I figure myself out a bit more.

Feeling some heartbreak at the end of my vacation. I'll be fine, but it was my mistake in the first place that I let my fears get to me. Gonna let myself deal with my emotions for a day or two now that I'm home and hopefully be able to move on after that.

[QUOTE=blerb;51042669]I'm going through a similar thing right now. Fell way too hard for a girl a couple of months ago and she left me when school started last week. All my life, I've catered my responses to particular people depending on how I view them (a girl that's "out of my league" for example) but ever since my break-up, I honestly couldn't give a shit how people perceive me or what I say. People respect when you're capable of honesty with confidence, regardless of the outcome of it. Personally, I've decided to build on my friendships instead of chasing a new relationship. I am very aware of some of my insecurities and how heavily they affect my dating life, so I think it's time for me to pack up that part of myself for the time being while I figure myself out a bit more.[/QUOTE] thats great. In a sick sort of way of doing, being dumped or being single again is an opportunity to reinvent/find yourself all over again. If one lesson i learnt from the past 9 months i was crying and wanting to kill myself over it, is that friends are there fro you, and those are the real commitments you dont want anyone, specially your gf, to take you away from. If by some reason, you having a life with friendships and activities makes your gf think you dont need her so you dont love her, let her go away as she wants. Thats no love, thats emotional need. And, jumping into another relationship may take you away from your thought process, or confuse it, or get in the way of it, so if you are having trouble with your emotions, feelings, your place right now, dont take the shortcut and shut them up with love, but embrace them. Feel like shit, go to the lowest possible point, and then you are free to climb up when you are sorted out. [editline]13th September 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Pascall;51042971]Feeling some heartbreak at the end of my vacation. I'll be fine, but it was my mistake in the first place that [b]I let my fears get to me. [/b] Gonna let myself deal with my emotions for a day or two now that I'm home and hopefully be able to move on after that.[/QUOTE] this is a real fear of mine. With the girl i met and made out the other day, we have been in constant chatting and we will see each other tomorrow. Im afraid, im excited, i dont want to get my expectations high, or get expectations at all. I probably wont end up having her as my gf but the mere situation were im thinking this things makes me nervous about overthinking. Shit was great, honest and simple. I just wanna enjoy it, and not be afraid if it just ends.

a girl had been messaging me lately (conversations going for a 48 hours) and she is pretty much interested in me (not necessarily romatically) but she won't even grant me 10 minutes with her face to face. she keeps saying she's not in the mood I feel like just dropping everything, but if any of you have any insight on a similar issue, please advise, I'm not one to take pride in turning people away

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51045615]a girl had been messaging me lately (conversations going for a 48 hours) and she is pretty much interested in me (not necessarily romatically) but she won't even grant me 10 minutes with her face to face. she keeps saying she's not in the mood I feel like just dropping everything, but if any of you have any insight on a similar issue, please advise, I'm not one to take pride in turning people away[/QUOTE] This can be frustrating as fuck, but look at it this way, unless you're investing time in her that you could better spend on someone else, do you really need to drop everything? Clearly she isnt that interested so sod building it up to meeting face to face or anything but presumably no harm in having someone to chat to?

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51045615]a girl had been messaging me lately (conversations going for a 48 hours) and she is pretty much interested in me (not necessarily romatically) but she won't even grant me 10 minutes with her face to face. she keeps saying she's not in the mood I feel like just dropping everything, but if any of you have any insight on a similar issue, please advise, I'm not one to take pride in turning people away[/QUOTE] Well you obviously know more than we do, but it seems like for whatever reason, you're both looking for different things. If she keeps shutting you down about meeting face to face then that's not going to change with you asking more. I would just cool it, keep talking to her if that's what you're interested in, but let her be the one to suggest doing something in person. If you don't think she's going to and you definitely want something more than just texting, just drop it like you said you were considering.

[QUOTE=Menien Goneld;51046068]Well you obviously know more than we do, but it seems like for whatever reason, you're both looking for different things. If she keeps shutting you down about meeting face to face then that's not going to change with you asking more. I would just cool it, keep talking to her if that's what you're interested in, but let her be the one to suggest doing something in person. If you don't think she's going to and you definitely want something more than just texting, just drop it like you said you were considering.[/QUOTE] texting only goes so far and I like doing things together like listening to music and stuff and the last thing I want is to be someone's last thought. I know it's unfair on them 'cause they have their lives but I can't accept being the last thing in someone's mind I'd rather have someone who doesnt have a problem with hanging out with me, who encourages it. definitely not being grant an evening like it's a huge deal to them for the longest time I havent been able to make friends but I'm optimistic for the future, the past few months have proved that I have no trouble doing it, just gotta find the right people, so I should just let this go [editline]13th September 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=metallics;51045932]This can be frustrating as fuck, but look at it this way, unless you're investing time in her that you could better spend on someone else, do you really need to drop everything? Clearly she isnt that interested so sod building it up to meeting face to face or anything but presumably no harm in having someone to chat to?[/QUOTE] well I don't really know, she sent a couple messages that said that, quote (as close as I can translate it), she appreciates me despite not having declared anything to each other. Now I know this might be farfetching but I would never use the word declaration in that contest, it's too out of place I suppose I'll just think nothing of it, no use getting worked up over it

So I've been hosting a shiton of travelers at my place, anf I noti ed a load of people are really calling each other couples, not to sound awkward (cause to tell hosts that you are simply friends is bullshit obviously, and fuckfriends probably is too awkward) It seems like we are going through a time where people simply don't have energy for relationships, and fuck friends give you that feeling of love without putting as much effort as relationships