Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=srobins;51127919]I promise I'm not having a go at you but the Butters avatar is just killing me lol[/QUOTE] Bruv, I've not changed it since I made the account and the only reason I have it is because it was one of the first pictures that appeared when I typed the size in for the avatar. Now someone please help a brother out

I mean, in terms of making conversation, asking questions is usually my go-to when I don't have anything particular to talk about. Ask what she's up to, you're reading? What are you reading? Do you read a lot? Who are some of your favorite writers? Oh, why? People love to talk about themselves and I love to listen, so if you're at a loss just ask them stuff. People will typically appreciate a chance to talk about themselves and have somebody be interested in what they have to say. [editline]29th September 2016[/editline] Of course you have to actually be sincere because even the dullest people will be able to tell if you're just trying to placate them and not really paying any mind to what they say.

[QUOTE=srobins;51127934]I mean, in terms of making conversation, asking questions is usually my go-to when I don't have anything particular to talk about. Ask what she's up to, you're reading? What are you reading? Do you read a lot? Who are some of your favorite writers? Oh, why? People love to talk about themselves and I love to listen, so if you're at a loss just ask them stuff. People will typically appreciate a chance to talk about themselves and have somebody be interested in what they have to say. Like the girls I'm speaking too read books, I'm 18yr junkie fuck the only hobby they know is burning a crack pipe [editline]29th September 2016[/editline] Of course you have to actually be sincere because even the dullest people will be able to tell if you're just trying to placate them and not really paying any mind to what they say.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=srobins;51125291]I wouldn't say it's "wrong", but you really ought to just get over it. It's not really good for you.[/QUOTE] I know you mean well, but you really think i havent tried everything yet? Its been hell and i wish i could "just get over it" because yes, its not good for me, or anyone really

Sorry, wasn't trying to be a dick. I guess I don't know what to tell you.

[QUOTE=srobins;51128601]Sorry, wasn't trying to be a dick. I guess I don't know what to tell you.[/QUOTE] Damn, i sounded like a douche back there. Im sorry dude, guess i got a little triggered

So I've been looking for a particular shampoo, body wash, or lotion or something for a while now. Not sure what exactly it is but it has an amazing particular smell that I'd really want for myself. The only time I smell it is once in a while on a girl in passing. There's this girl that sits in front of me in class and she has that particular smell I'm looking for because when she walks by I can smell it. What's the best way to ask what she uses without me sounding like I'm creepy and/or hitting on her?

I once watched my best friend Joe go up to a girl who was wearing shorts and tell her he recognized her from one of her classes because of her legs. I was laughing my ass off about 20 feet away from them but she was surprisingly okay with it and they had a nice conversation before parting ways. Just own it, acknowledge it sounds weird, and don't treat it like a big deal.

[QUOTE=Ignhelper;51125969]What do you guys think about trying to ask people out on dates when they are clients/workmates/colleagues/customers? I know its generally frowned upon, and could possibly fuck up someone's career. But will you still recommend? Asking cause I might do it, but with my boss around, its difficult.[/QUOTE] As long as you aren't using your position of power (if you are in one) then go ahead. I used to abide by the "you don't shit where you eat" rule but breaking it has turned out great for me most of the time and the times that it haven't I still don't regret. I don't think you should let fear of how things will be between you in the future keep you from trying if you really want to ask this person out.

[QUOTE=maeZtro;51136876]As long as you aren't using your position of power (if you are in one) then go ahead. I used to abide by the "you don't shit where you eat" rule but breaking it has turned out great for me most of the time and the times that it haven't I still don't regret. I don't think you should let fear of how things will be between you in the future keep you from trying if you really want to ask this person out.[/QUOTE] Well I work with a photo company, and my boss, the photographer, has to work with the clients. I am just afraid of fucking it up for my career and his clients

[QUOTE=Blazyd;51136176]So I've been looking for a particular shampoo, body wash, or lotion or something for a while now. Not sure what exactly it is but it has an amazing particular smell that I'd really want for myself. The only time I smell it is once in a while on a girl in passing. There's this girl that sits in front of me in class and she has that particular smell I'm looking for because when she walks by I can smell it. What's the best way to ask what she uses without me sounding like I'm creepy and/or hitting on her?[/QUOTE] Do you care about this girl? If not just ask and don't worry about being creepy since it doesn't matter. When that class ends you don't ever have to see her again. Maybe wait till near the end of the semester. Excuse me but I couldn't help but catch a whiff of a product you must be using when you walked by. If you don't mind me asking: what is it? It smells wonderful.

[QUOTE=Ignhelper;51137613]Well I work with a photo company, and my boss, the photographer, has to work with the clients. I am just afraid of fucking it up for my career and his clients[/QUOTE] You'll get fired for hitting on clients, don't do it.

I keep adding almost everything I send to people to my story and this chick I dig usually doesn't check it but she did this time so now the "boo" I sent at midnight is meaningless because I also put it on my story [editline]1st October 2016[/editline] she might've also seen my joke I intentionally didn't send her because I was unsure if it was her type of humor [editline]1st October 2016[/editline] I should stop using snapchat stories [editline]1st October 2016[/editline] I get the feeling its just making people realize the things I send them aren't personal and letting people I didn't send them to know I skipped them

Over the last year, I've come to the realization that my core "circle of friends" are basically only acquaintances. I have very limited common interests with these people, and never have any real solid laughs or memorable moments with them. They're decent enough people, but I feel very much like the odd man out within the group. I can be out-going and some what charismatic when I want to, but only in front of certain audiences it seems. The future looks like a lot of "me" time, which is fine, I've always been happy doing my own thing. As I've moved through life, in last few years I've realized this is just part of growing older. People will constantly come and go in your life, as you age and it's nothing special. I'm not really asking for advice or anything specific here. Just wanted to vent this to you guys, and see if other people are going through similar experiences.

[QUOTE=4yourmalice;51151902]Over the last year, I've come to the realization that my core "circle of friends" are basically only acquaintances. I have very limited common interests with these people, and never have any real solid laughs or memorable moments with them. They're decent enough people, but I feel very much like the odd man out within the group. I can be out-going and some what charismatic when I want to, but only in front of certain audiences it seems. The future looks like a lot of "me" time, which is fine, I've always been happy doing my own thing. As I've moved through life, in last few years I've realized this is just part of growing older. People will constantly come and go in your life, as you age and it's nothing special. I'm not really asking for advice or anything specific here. Just wanted to vent this to you guys, and see if other people are going through similar experiences.[/QUOTE] Its hard to make really close friends as your time to do so lessens once you're busy in college and the like; exactly like you said, friendships in general become less special as you have to do a lot of coming and going. I interact with my peers fairly regularly but good friends are few and far in between. That said, it's always good to to keep looking for people you really click with. Don't just settle for a group of whoevers because its comfortable unless you're content with that. If you're unhappy about it, act on it.

As college starts to come to an end, you'll probably notice that you see more and more of the same people. Makes sense because your majors courses get more and more specific and selective. You'll get to know these people more than people you met your first year in college probably. That's how it was for me.

For this I'm not gonna reveal any of their names. This is less about me but more about a new friend. I didn't want to post under "STGYM" because his attitude is nothing but. I met this guy during the new college semester and he starts flirting/trying to flirt with a female friend of mine who I hang out with after class. She told him she's not interested and she already has a long-distance BF who she tells me she frequently chats with. The new friend tells me when we're alone that "Guys like her BF are more than likely to cheat. She deserves better like me." This is getting me pissed. Not only did he win my folks over when he met them on that same day, he had me convinced, but now he starts getting this weird side to him that I thought would only exist in drama films or creepy web stories. The next day my female friend tells me that he brought up her status on campus. Now I don't want to drop all contact with him because of this bizarre attitude of his (his FB is also full of these 'men who play games are pussies who never get laid' memes when he's just a pot calling the kettle black), but he really needs to get it in his head that my friend has a BF already and that he's making it worse for himself by being so loud and obnoxious. My female friend can handle herself, but she's sort of paranoid at times at that should things hit the fan fast she'd go a bit...off-the-rails. What can I do to defuse a situation like this? Would it be better just to tell him "She's got a boyfriend man! I think you should try and stop this."

I need some advice. You see, I live 2 hours away from my Uni, and I take around 1 hour to get readu to go simce I wake up. And Uni starts at 8:30 every day. That means I have to wake up at 5:30 every day, the problem is that I get home at around 9:00-10:00, and I always have stuff to do so I end up going to bed at 12:00. So, I'm getting 5-6 hours of sleep per night, and even though last semester it was like that too, I'm starting to REALLY feel the weight of it on me. And practically on all aspects of my life, too, including social and academical life, and I really don't know how to handle this. At all.

I'd drop your first class, tbh if you're able to. That sounds exhausting. Otherwise try to look into housing either on campus or other apartments nearby if that's an option. Not sure how college works for you but those look like your only options if you're allowed to.

I had a friend that drove two hours to campus. I honestly don't know how he could do it.

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;51154447]I need some advice. You see, I live 2 hours away from my Uni, and I take around 1 hour to get readu to go simce I wake up. And Uni starts at 8:30 every day. That means I have to wake up at 5:30 every day, the problem is that I get home at around 9:00-10:00, and I always have stuff to do so I end up going to bed at 12:00. So, I'm getting 5-6 hours of sleep per night, and even though last semester it was like that too, I'm starting to REALLY feel the weight of it on me. And practically on all aspects of my life, too, including social and academical life, and I really don't know how to handle this. At all.[/QUOTE] I'm gonna assume you are the one driving yourself to school? Because if not, that 4 hour travel time could easily help you catch up on some needed rest. Maybe try laying all your tasks out in some sort of schedule/routine. That way you can approach them in a more efficient manner and possibly gain 30+ mins of sleep a night. In the morning, you could try sleeping in longer, in 5 minute increments and see how little time you actually need to get ready.

I was thinking of getting tindr, but I live with my parents so I wouldn't get fucked by dorm fees so I wouldn't know how that would work out. [editline]5th October 2016[/editline] I didn't know if I should post here or gf thread just cause the other seemed more of people talking of their relationships

Thanks guys. In my uni, you can choose to not go to any class where you don't get evaluated during th class itself, so I could do that and use the afternoon to catch up myself (except for friday, that one is mandatory). No, I don't drive, I use public transportation, wich isn't very good either because I have bad scoliosis and it hurts a lot (I'm only 18 ;-;). And sadly, housing is not an option, because despite all the inconveniencies of living so far away from civiilizarion, my parents day I have enough acommodations and will never be ok with me living on the city. If I don't go to the first class, I'll sleep 6:30-7:30 hours wich honestly sounds like the best thing ever, but I'll lose time to do stuff during the day, I hope it helps, I don't know if my lack of motivation or bad mood are linked to that. I hope so. Does any of you have had a similar scheudle that can give advice based on experience?

a girl i dated at the start of 2015 texted me wanted to go on a date. its a shame ive been in a relationship for the past 7 months because that girl was fine. its also a shame she fucked me around so much because even if i was single i would not be considering going on a date with her ever again.

anybody got any tips on casual relationships. What rules should be set? Should you avoid going on "conventional" dates if you don't want any of the attachment type stuff? If the other person says they're ok with casual but seems to want something more is it for the best to call it off for their sake?

[QUOTE=mdeceiver79;51155700]anybody got any tips on casual relationships. What rules should be set? Should you avoid going on "conventional" dates if you don't want any of the attachment type stuff? If the other person says they're ok with casual but seems to want something more is it for the best to call it off for their sake?[/QUOTE] There aren't any rules, just make sure your expectations match. Just because it's not a "serious" relationship doesn't mean you can't talk. If you think her expectations are starting to not match yours, talk about it.

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;51155638]its also a shame she fucked me around so much because even if i was single i would not be considering going on a date with her ever again.[/QUOTE] nah jk if i was single i would jump on this opportunity like i did last time and end up a wreck again. i really wonder why shes decided to talk to me again, it's been nearly 2 years.

So I'm really just a lurker on this thread but I wanted to post because yesterday morning my oldest dog died - of old age, but it happened really out of the blue. I was really lucky that my boyfriend was with me when I found out and he's been absolutely wonderful comforting and looking after me the past few days. Anyway I'm really just posting because I have the mad urge to tell people to give their dogs and pets extra cuddles and love today. It would make me feel better, and since I don't want to do a really morbid facebook post or harass strangers/dog-walkers on the street I thought I'd ask you lovely strangers on the internet. Pets are the best friends and they all deserve some extra love. Thanks guys.

[QUOTE=metallics;51155740]There aren't any rules, just make sure your expectations match. Just because it's not a "serious" relationship doesn't mean you can't talk. If you think her expectations are starting to not match yours, talk about it.[/QUOTE] To add to this - give some thought to exactly what you define "casual" as. How often would you want to see them? How often would you want to communicate? What exactly is too much/the barrier you define as "wanting something more"? You need to be sure of what you want and, especially in a casual dating scenario, what your boundaries are in order to communicate this to another person.

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;51155771]nah jk if i was single i would jump on this opportunity like i did last time and end up a wreck again. i really wonder why shes decided to talk to me again, it's been nearly 2 years.[/QUOTE] don't do it you know for sure that it's going to end badly